April 08- just the stragglers left LOL [wink]

[Peachy]

update from scampmum

19 hrs to 3cm

poor mite

all send labour vibes please....

PFJ - so sorry to hear about Jack - it's been such a horribly stressful time for you - you are coping brilliantly hon

(((((big hug)))))

scary about the MRSA - in view of what's happened to you and Jack, DH and I have agreed that he will only come to the hospital once the birth is imminent and that he will leave shortly afterwards - DH is now immune-suppressed after his treatment so hospitals are actually one of the most dangerous places for him to be.

let us know how Jack is getting on. hope you getting some rest

VS - sorry about the kittens - did you manage to remove before any of the children saw them/found out?

moomin -- could be worth your asking about being discharged directly from the delivery suite. That's what happened to me (never went to a postnatal bed) and as a result was only in the (nice, clean) delivery room and only in contact with two midwives. It sounds as though that would be a good option for your DH too (especially as he doesn't even need to touch the midwives).

Here is a picture of Jack

here

xxx

Oh my god - he is gorgeous!!!!!

pass him over here for a cuddle - quick!!

PAL - thanks for advice - am hoping situation will help my case for a very speedy discharge - we have packets of disinfectant wipes in my hospital bag too so I won't be allowing DH to touch anything without cleaning it first!

PFJ, big hugs for you and your family, hope Jack is on the mend now.

VS - that is so sad, hopoe the little survivor is ok

Oh and one more thing. Since Jack developed MRSA apart from the marks his temp has been up and down, with hours, and initially 24hours in between spikes.
So if your baby has a mild temp of 38 or more more than once definately get LO checked out.

I was so lucky that Jack was in the childrens ward when his second spike happened.

A simple blood test was all it took to check him for this bloody superbug.

I am worrying now that even though I am super clean at home (you remember how much I cleaned before he was born lol) that whats the chances of him picking it up again after he gets home?!!

I have to chat to the hospital and the HV's about this and get some reassurances.

Did he fit at all PFJ?
DD used to have febrile fits with temperature when she was about one and that wa scary enough, I have no idea what I'd have done if it was a baby. He is gorgeous btw.

Ella saw the dead kittens I think, DP called me to say the cat had had them and I came running downstairs and tied to massage them to life (they are born without their hearts working so you have to massage them, cats do it with their tongue) but they were both cold so I was pretty sure they had been dead for a while and Dd was at the kitchen door, she's pretty strong with that sort of stuff though and I changed the subject by getting her to name the live one instead.

Jack is gorgeous!

VS- call a local animal rescue place, my sister used to have a bedroom converted intoa kitten nursery so she could raise 9and bottle feed) kittens like yours- but they need help fast or they dehydrate 9always ahd something she did, bats ina pouch round her neck etc etc etc)- normally i'd have offered to take him off you for a few weeks, but have to find a new lost cause with bas's cat allergy.

PFJ- so sorry for what's happening to Jack, poor mite! Wishing youa ll strength

Oh my word - you really have been through it all haven't you PFJ. I am so sorry for you and Jack and thank the lord that the doctors found out what was wrong with him and he is now being treated. BTW - he is a seriously cute baby!

VS - poor litle kittens - I am also a cat lover and think there is nothing sweeter then kittens! (Well besides our babies!) It sounds like if momma cat doesn't find her maternal instinct you will be taking over... another baby for you then! What have you named the remaining one?

Oh and to all the new mommies out there - CONGRATULATIONS!!!

I am 40 weeks tomorrow if you can believe but have felt no stirrings whatsoever so have resigned myself to the fact that Roo will be late and I will probably have the gestation period of an elephant!

She's feeding it!Yay!Seems she has realised what she is meant todo.
As it's a ginger one we are calling marmaduke and DD is 'having' him (more like I am an DD gets to say it's hers )

Marmaduke is a great name for a cat! Glad he's getting some grub now!

VS that is great news!!! I do love my cats, glad to hear mummy cat is doing her thing!

When I was pregnant with DS, DH's grandmother was convinced that we were going to name him Marmaduke Harold (I have no idea why...)

PFJ, you poor, poor thing. Massive hugs and hoping it is all over soon. On the positive side, the rest of parenthood will feel like an absolute breeze compared to the first few weeks of sheer hell that you've had! And your story definitely helps me feel much less sorry for myself about my sore nipple .

VS, that's sad, but great news about the live one.

Huge congrats to all the new mums out there - I get on here so rarely that there are loads of new ones every time now! I suppose it's also that we have so many more per page since the thread has slowed down so much (why on earth could that be?)

We are doing well, Eve now feeding less during the night. So interesting to hear their schedules - Evie also seems to have her biggest and deepest sleep between 9 and 11 am (the only time she will sleep away from me) and cluster feeds in the evening from 7ish till 11ish. The co-sleeping is working an absolute treat (THANK YOU VS!) although the midwife gave me grief about it. Not feeling too sleep-deprived at all though am missing DH (he smokes, sleeps heavily and IS heavy!) in bed.

NEM, know what you mean about surge of love for DD1! I have found the divided loyalty harder than I expected - the love has definitely doubled but in terms of time I'm quite painfully aware I can't give DD1 as much attention. She is being SO sweet, though, is getting much more gentle, will have her 'Eve drinking Mummy's booby' story on the sofa now instead of my lap , and this morning said that Baby Eve could sit in her special car that Daddy made her out of one of the flower boxes. Still nervous about how on earth am going to manage when DH goes back to work but he is currently out picking me up a Huggababy sling which I'm hoping will free up my hands a bit.

Night sweats started night before last - NICE.

PFJ, there is no way that Jack picked up MRSA at home! When I had ds3 and he was a premmie I stayed in hospital for 8 days after my CS to be near him in SCBU. (Was in a private wing of the hospital, btw, so not kicked out after 5 days!)
On the last day, my obs told me to "go home before you catch something!" and the paed sent ds3 home from SCBU after 15 days "before he catches something" It is very much something you catch in hospital, not something you get at home.

The mw complained about co-sleeping?
Is your hospital babyfriendly do you know?
Babyfriendly hospitals have started giving out leaflets in conjunction with FSIDS on how to co-sleep safely so I did it in hospital.
Tell you mw that unicef and FSIDs say it's fine as long as it's done properly.

Has anyone else (post partum) been really emotional recently? I'm day 12 today and last night I got so sad! We went to see DP's nan, who I've never met and is a bit crackers (long story, shes 88 so not quite all there and has been a bitch to her husband so he had to go into care) but she showed me a picture of her daughter as we left, she died about 8 years ago of cancer, but when we went to bed I realised that she had picked up the picture from next to the chair so had obviously been thinking about her daughter and it made me cry

Jack didnt have fits, when his temp spiked at 39 they got it under control really fast.

VS I love cats, so glad little kitten is getting food.

Chipmonkey thanks.. will bear that in mind. I am writing a bullet point list of thoughts for the hospital, one for the HV and one for the social services of things I need to say to their bosses. Not to complain but to insist they make sure this doesn't happen again ifswim.

Have had nice hot bath, and I am ready to make those calls now.

VS I have been really sad too.. I found the only way to fight it for me is to play upbeat songs in my head.. like the thunderbirds theme tune (yes you can laugh now), or something happy and lively. The moment I play something sad in my head I can not help being in floods of tears instantly

Hugs to all, hope you are all ok. Good luck and congrats to my lovely lovely mumsnet group!!!!

we went to the other end of the spectrum last time and DS was in a big cot in his own room after a week - he just made too many noises for us to get to sleep and kept waking himself with knocking his arms against the sides of the moses basket.

Agree itsmost likely picked up in hospital- my cousins son died of it after catching it post op aged 6 - poor little one, he was immuno compromised though, was waiting for a transplant. It is present in the population generally- but hospital is the big risk factor imo. Another reason I am glad I had my homebirth 9and part of the reason)

We co- sleep, always have done with them all. Bas has a grobag on top of the blanket, far easier for BF.

I'm bottle feeding Henry and he was doing really well until a few days ago when he has started wanting to be fed every 2 hours, both day and night. anyone had this aswell?? not sure if I'm oving to be overfeeding him

Never used formula so poss not the best person to advise, Sheds but is he drinking the same amount of formula at each feed as he did before? Or has it increased/decreased?

I'm not sure eitehr she4ds, I'd imagine if you feed on demand and never force him to have more than he wants then it's not overfeeding, same as with breastmilk, so if he wants to eat every two hours he must need it surely?