Due June 2005, Thread 4

[Scraggyaggy]

Happy New Year everyone!

Following Katzguk's suggestion I've started up the new thread - hope no-one minds.

Well, I did absolutely nothing for New Year. I have the cold from hell so I was in bed by 9pm. I was very disappointed as we were supposed to be going to a party but I decided not to go as I wouldn't have enjoyed myself and then I'd have made dp miserable too. So, I celebrated by having a lemsip topup at 12 o'clock! (One for the books!) Hope you all had a nice time.

Have been reading your threads about what to buy and what not to buy. I started buying after Christmas as I want to start really enjoying this pregnancy now. Dp is incredibly worried that something will go wrong and we are tempting fate but I don't want to be walking on egg shells for the next 5 months .... yup 5 months already!!! Scary stuff!

Anyway, we have bought a Graco travel system as I have spent hours in the shops clipping and unclipping and puttin them up and down and I found Graco to be lightweight and really simple to use. Then I trawled the internet on boxing day and found that Toys'r'Us was doing some good deals.

Cot is going to be an Ikea special. They are so cheap, I just don't think you can argue and we are big fans of Ikea. However, if anyone has any experiences of this then let me know. We aren't bothering with the moses basket.

I've got a 2-way baby carrier from e-bay, which is still new apparently, although I haven't received it yet so I'll hold bck on judgement.

And then the mumsnet wanted and for sale boards are fantastic. I've got a bottle warmer and a travel cot through mumsnet. I'd reommend that anyone here use them.

There are three things which I need help with though:

• steriliser; microwave or electric??? Any opinions?
• breast pump; is there one which is comfortable and easy to use? I don't want to spend a fortune and then not be able to use it.
• baby monitor; I definitely want one. Am planning on sitting in the garden over the summer, and baby might not want to be moved. Should I get a normal one? A digital one? Has anyone used an under mattress sensor type one? Need big help with this one.

Have bought myself some books on motherhood and new babies too. Am such a planner, I need to be having a good read now so I can put all the theory to practice in 5 months time!

Hope you are all well and not being sick any more! x

Aprilmeadow thanks for passing on our thoughts I'm sure you'll tell sweetheart that when she feels up to it we'll all be hear waiting to talk to her - but obviously not to feel any pressure at all. After all talking to us lot might be the last thing she wants - given the situation.

I logged on in the middle of the night when I couldn't sleep, expecting to see a 'everything's fine' message after the scan ... needless to say I really couldn't sleep after I read the news And now she has to wait another day? That's barbaric.

Katz, I've sent you a CAT.

thanks guys when i get all your CAT i will send out my address so those who do want to contribute can. Once i've heard back from you then i will sort out the midwife thing and again send the stuff via aprilmeadow.

I am about to sort out some flowers to be sent to aprilmeadow who said she will take them to sweetheart for us. i agree card to be from June MN thread.

flowers sent, roses and lilies, beautiful.

Should get to aprilmeadow tomorrow 21st.

Not had any CAT's yet but will sort that out when i get them.

Thanks so much for sorting all this out Katzguk.

Thanks ever so much Katz - have sent you a cat too

Oh no! I am so sorry! I posted my message at the same time that April posted hers, and itlooks like I didn't acknowledge the awful news. I would love to contribute too Kat, so I will CAT u. Feel so sad now.
xxx

Don't fret Megi, I saw you had posted very soon after April's post, but just assumed you hadn't seen it.

Hi Katz,

I CAT'd you this morning. Please let us know if you don't get it and I'll try again.

Thank you for doing this.

Oh gosh she has to wait another day. Thats terrible why do they do things like that. As if it isn't sad enough anyway. I was sweating all night and having nightmares. I just can't believe what she must be going through now

Thanks Katz - How do I donate something towards the flowers? I don't think I can do the midwife thing I sweated all night about Sweetheart then found out I am going to be loosing £200 on my monthly income so I am worried about how I am going to eat. Gosh I am so selfish saying that when it could be so much worse I kept my hands on the baby all night last night - we are very lucky ladies fingers crossed and prayers.

aprilmeadow - thanks for keeping us updated

I would like to make a contribution to the flowers too Katz - i will CAT u.
I still cant beleive that this is happening to SH. The last time we chatted it was about finding out the sex of our babies - the sex of my baby seems so trivial and unimportant now - i feel just so lucky to have my baby in there.
How awful having to wait until tommorow - cant imagine how SH is getting through the day

I agree, Tessiebear. I think I'll skip sharing news of my scan for now. It seems so trivial to announce liitle things like the sex when other have to give birth to baby who has already passed away. :-(

How are we contributing to the flowers. Can I give my share on Saturday at lunch?

have had confirmation from marks and spencer that the flowers will get there tomorrow.

Thanks to everyone who said they would contribute, i'm still waiting for the CAT's to come pouring in!! and from the response here i think i counted about 12 people saying count me in! don't worry about how much you send it is entirely up to you. i will not disclose it to anyone else i will just post to give a final amount.

I've just logged on as well after a couple of days, what terrible news. April, thanks for letting us know, please tell her my thoughts are with her as well. Poor Sweetheart and DH, you imagine that once you are past 14 weeks, you are safe and everything is going to be okay, then this happens and then having to wait even longer for the hospital visit on top of everything else.

My heart is breaking for what they must be going through.
Katzguk, I think the flowers are a wonderful idea. I'm going to try and CAT you so I can contribute as well. Thank you for sorting this out. I know there is no comparison, but when I lost my first at 8 weeks, my friends sent me a massive bunch of white flowers and I was so deeply touched by their kindness. I wasn't ready to speak to anyone, but the small gesture meant everything.

katz-ive also just CAT you as i'd like to contribute towards the flowers.
thanks for everything you've done sorting it out.
dont know what else to say

Thanks mumsnet! i have now got email addresses for:
Scraggy
Teabelly
Lipstick
MrsWeds
Welshmum
Mrsflowerpot
Tribot
Mirage
Charleypops
Megi
JonahB
Lua

Tomorrow from work i will email you all with my address to which you can send your donation. Gives mumsnet a chance to send anymore CAT's! i should have just posted my email address here but never mind got most of yours now!!

If the london meet is still going ahead then you could do a mini collection and send it in one lump.

Just realised i might have come across as really bossy about this, if so i'm sorry, just feeling so useless that i want to do something to let Sweetheart know tha we are there for her.

You haven't come across as bossy at all, someone has to organise sometimes. We all appreciate you doing it. xxx

No, you've not been bossy at all Katz. We all really appreciate you getting the flowers sent so quickly and organising everything.

katz-you havent been bossy at all.im sure we all appreciate all that you've done.
just realised that when i CAT you earlier i signed off using my "real name" so i hope you know its from me.xx

Katzguk, you haven't been bossy at all - it is very much appreciated.

I just hope tomorrow passes quickly for Sweetheart. We are all thinking of you luvvie.x

Katz you've definitely not been bossy - if you ask my dh that's my job - you've been a star. Like you Pink, I slept most of last night with my hands on my belly...prodding it to make bubba move, and then welling up . Lipstick I couldn't agree more with your sentements posted on the meetup thread...it is strange how important this thread and the people we've 'met' have become to all of us. Uwila I'm glad your scan seemed to go well...we need some good news at a time like this. Well I'm off to kiss my ds goodnight and hug him tight for a second night, I can't imagine how SH and her family are coping tonight but as with everyone else on here our thoughts are with them and their angel who fell asleep. x

Goodnight everyone. Try to get a good night's rest. x

OMG i have just read about sweetheart.
Sweetheart you are in my prayers today i have been through this with one of my friends and its such a trumatic thing to go through. Dont know how you are feeling but i can only try to understand. Be kind to yourself and give yourself time to greave. Your angel will always be with you to keep you strong.
((((HUGS)))))
LOL Tania

Katz, just to agree with everyone else, you've not been bossy at all. I think I speak for everyone to say we are all really grateful for you sorting this out. It makes me ashamed that I've spent much of the past 2 weeks (before reading SH's sad news) worrying about trivialities, such as pram brands and maternity trousers .
Sweetheart, if, by any remote chance, you read this, all our thoughts are with you and your family today.
Oh god, its just gone 7am and i'm crying already....