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Due June 2005, Thread 4

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Scraggyaggy · 01/01/2005 09:14

Happy New Year everyone!

Following Katzguk's suggestion I've started up the new thread - hope no-one minds.

Well, I did absolutely nothing for New Year. I have the cold from hell so I was in bed by 9pm. I was very disappointed as we were supposed to be going to a party but I decided not to go as I wouldn't have enjoyed myself and then I'd have made dp miserable too. So, I celebrated by having a lemsip topup at 12 o'clock! (One for the books!) Hope you all had a nice time.

Have been reading your threads about what to buy and what not to buy. I started buying after Christmas as I want to start really enjoying this pregnancy now. Dp is incredibly worried that something will go wrong and we are tempting fate but I don't want to be walking on egg shells for the next 5 months .... yup 5 months already!!! Scary stuff!

Anyway, we have bought a Graco travel system as I have spent hours in the shops clipping and unclipping and puttin them up and down and I found Graco to be lightweight and really simple to use. Then I trawled the internet on boxing day and found that Toys'r'Us was doing some good deals.

Cot is going to be an Ikea special. They are so cheap, I just don't think you can argue and we are big fans of Ikea. However, if anyone has any experiences of this then let me know. We aren't bothering with the moses basket.

I've got a 2-way baby carrier from e-bay, which is still new apparently, although I haven't received it yet so I'll hold bck on judgement.

And then the mumsnet wanted and for sale boards are fantastic. I've got a bottle warmer and a travel cot through mumsnet. I'd reommend that anyone here use them.

There are three things which I need help with though:

  • steriliser; microwave or electric??? Any opinions?
  • breast pump; is there one which is comfortable and easy to use? I don't want to spend a fortune and then not be able to use it.
  • baby monitor; I definitely want one. Am planning on sitting in the garden over the summer, and baby might not want to be moved. Should I get a normal one? A digital one? Has anyone used an under mattress sensor type one? Need big help with this one.

Have bought myself some books on motherhood and new babies too. Am such a planner, I need to be having a good read now so I can put all the theory to practice in 5 months time!

Hope you are all well and not being sick any more! x

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Mirage · 20/01/2005 08:42

Oh no-only just caught up on this.

Poor sweetheart & family-I know how much they were all looking forward so much to this baby.I will be thinking of her today.

How do I contribute to some flowers for her?

Aprilmeadow,thank you for letting us know-you sound a very good friend to have.

MINNIE1 · 20/01/2005 08:49

Sweetheart,
I am lost for words but wanted you to know that were all here for you.. Sending my love to you and your family ((((((((hugs)))))))))))
minnie1xxxxxx

katzguk · 20/01/2005 09:13

morning everyone,

I think the general consensus is to go with flowers number 3.

I am waiting for a reply from aprilmeadow for an address to send them to, she's going to deliver them to sweetheart for us.

On the card i was just going to put

'thinking of you and your family all our love 'the due in June mums'

anyother suggestions gratefully recieved.

I'm quite happy to pay for the flowers but if people do want to contribute then i was thinking what if we do something positive as well. Oxfam have a scheme where you can train a midwife in a thrid world country.midwife

anyoen who wants to contribute can CAT me and i will happily coordinate it.

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Scraggyaggy · 20/01/2005 09:19

Katz, the Oxfam donation is a brilliant idea!! I think Sweetheart would really appreciate that gesture. I think I would.

For the card, should we put "June MN thread" or sthg similar? I just thought if we put "due in June...." then it might be a bit painful? Or maybe I'm just being silly? Or can we just put all of our usernames? I know there's about 25 of us, but we might be able to?

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runtus · 20/01/2005 09:21

Katz - sorry to butt in on this thread but I wanted to know how you think s/heart would take a little note from me? I'm off to Aus tomorrow and I don't want to upset her any more than she already is.......

if you think it would be ok, I'll send her a text as I already have her number. I'll wait for you to let me know one way or another.

katzguk · 20/01/2005 09:26

runtus - i honestly don't know, the best person to ask would be aprilmeadow she's her friend in RL and was advising us last night.

Tessiebear · 20/01/2005 09:34

OMG! I thought i was logging on to a releived message from Sweetheart saying everything is fine. I AM ABSOLUTELY GUTTED .... dont know what to say ... flowers are a lovely, lovely idea. I have been chatting to Sweetheart since the TTC board and know how long she tried for this much wanted baby and how excited she has been about her pregnancy .... cant find the words. We are all here for you SHXXXXX Love to you and your familyXX

teabelly · 20/01/2005 09:37

Katz yes the midwife idea sounds really good...will cat you.

Runtus - if you have her number I would text her, it's such a difficult time but she'll be glad to know you were thinking of her...the worst part of loosing a child like this is when people don't contact you for fear of upsetting you - I know they mean well but it can make them and you feel awkward for a while, and what she'll need is to know there are people she can to talk about it if she wants to and when she's ready.

Tessiebear · 20/01/2005 09:43

Well Said Teabelly .... i feel in shock for her. What must that poor girl be going through

LipstickMum · 20/01/2005 09:43

Scraggy, I was thinking along similar lines about how to sign the card for the flowers. Calling us the 'due in June' thread could be too painful. I think your idea to call us the 'MN June thread' or something similar would be better.

Katz, I think the donation to the Oxfam train a midwife in a 3rd world country is a great idea too. I would love to and am able to contribute to the flowers and the donation, as I'm sure others are, perhaps we can think of a way to pay you back?

MrsWednesday · 20/01/2005 09:52

I agree with you about the card. I would also like to contribute to the flowers and the midwife (think that is a really nice idea). Will try and CAT you Katzguk.

I just can't believe it, it's such an awful thing to happen. Can't stop thinking about her, wish we could all give her a big RL hug.

welshmum · 20/01/2005 09:58

Oh my goodness, that's absolutely dreadful. I am just so so sad, I can't stop crying. Please let me know how I can contribute to anything and thankyou to those who have been organising things.
Sweetheart if there's anything, anything at all we can do please let us know.
xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

LipstickMum · 20/01/2005 09:59

It's too sad and hasn't really sunk in. Had bad dreams last night and woke up feeling very weird.

It's so awful that she has to go through labour too, I just can't imagine what that must feel like. It must be a very distressing situation for all involved.

teabelly · 20/01/2005 10:04

Katz - having trouble CAT-ing you...bloody stupid memory - can't remember my password, grrr...could you post details here, or if not poss email me at saint(dot)greavsie(at)ntlworld(dot)com, ta x

aprilmeadow · 20/01/2005 10:17

Morning Ladies - i have sent a text to Sweetheart to pass on on all your love.

Got absolutely no sleep last night worrying about her and her dh.

Katz did you get my address details??

I will keep you all posted on how SH is doing.
Love Aprilmeadow

runtus · 20/01/2005 10:19

Aprilmeadow - wanted to ask if you thought it would be ok for me to send her a text with my love.....I'm off for 3 weeks tomorrow and I don't want to say nothing, if you see what I mean?

Let me know what you think, I'll bow to your better judgement

aprilmeadow · 20/01/2005 10:25

Hi Runtus - i did send you a CAT - dunno if it worked though....

I think she would really appreciate a text - she did message me specifically asking for me to tell you - she didnt want you worrying whilst you are in Aus.

runtus · 20/01/2005 10:32

Thanks Aprilmeadow, god knows what is going on email wise here today, nothing through yet.....

I'll send her a message this afternoon. Take care of her while I'm away and I'll speak to you both when I get back.

xxx

aprilmeadow · 20/01/2005 10:35

Of course i will - i will give her a big hug from you when i see her.

Have a fab time in Aus - take care of yourself x

aprilmeadow · 20/01/2005 11:04

Just had a text from Sweetheart - the they have put the 'birth' off until tomorrow

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Scraggyaggy · 20/01/2005 11:19

Poor love. Do you live nearby April? If you see her in RL could you give her the biggest, longest, tightest hug from everyone here? There just isn't words to express our sadness.

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aprilmeadow · 20/01/2005 11:28

Sweetheart is my bestest friend - we met on the 1st day of senior school - she was my matron of honour, her dd was bridesmaid and dh was best man at my wedding in June. She only lives 5 mins up the road - i am hoping to speak to her over the weekend. I will give her a massive hug from you all and i know how touched she will be with the flowers that are being organised.

mrsflowerpot · 20/01/2005 11:46

Oh no, have just logged on to catch up after a few days away, what awful news. Can't imagine what Sweetheart and her dh are going through.

Katzguk, count me in for a donation, I will CAT you this morning with my contact details, just let me know what you are doing, and thank you for organising something from us.

LipstickMum · 20/01/2005 12:13

Oh dear, so now she has to wait another day ?

MrsWednesday · 20/01/2005 12:20

That was my thought too - I would imagine she would just want to get it over and done with now. The waiting around must be horrible for her.

So pleased she's got such a close friend nearby during all of this. Aprilmeadow, look after yourself too.x