Due April 2008 - Spring Lambs and April Fools II

[Carey87]

New thread!!!

PFJ - can't believe i missed the beginning of this excitment - I have been doing my nesting (is it cheating to clean everything with baby wipes?) - do keep us posted

Ellie & Scorpio - can I join the evil-stepmother-gang? I was lucky that DSS went home yesterday lunchtime - altho DH does admit it is much more stressful with DSS around - problem is DSS is 12 and answering back and smirking when being told off (not understanding how irate a pregnant woman can become within a split second - and the imminent risk of being bludgeoned to death and buried under the patio told being grounded).

M2b2br & jennie - I will also be in here late in april (and probably early May) - by which point everyone will be able to dispense sage advice to us!

I'm in mean mood too. I have to watch something boring with DSD now so have to go

First time on MN all weekend and SO much to catch up on!

Knitter - many congrats
Scorpio - so sorry to hear about your nan. As everyone else has said, don't rush things, take your time to get over it and feel free to vent on here
PFJ - how exciting! Hope you're feeling OK and keep us posted

And everyone else - hello

ooh i didn't know you were a stepmum too...joing the club!

Dss has no manners, has started very attractively mimicking everything (especially when Jamie is upset), calling people names and shouts all the fucking time.He is 6 and its obvious he has no parenting whatsoever. I tidy up kids room every day, curtains in tiebacks, beds etc. He messed them up really quickly after and would not tidy them until i shouted at him. He always has to be the 'different' one - by taking food in the car hidden in his pockets, swinging off the bunk beds, etc etc.

DH moans when he is here and wants to take him home and goes on about seeing him all the time when he's not. Him being here does my nut in. . . can't imagine it when Millie here too.

Couldn't even have sex this morning becuase he kept walking in our room.

Wow PFJ! I've been in bed all afternoon trying to catch up on some sleep and missed all the action! I hope everything's still going well. How are you feeling?

-is in between contractions-

Scorpio glad dss is at least responding when you shout at him. Every time he does something correct or right remember hug him thank you, and say really positive things. Maybe if you start chipping away at the negative reinforcement he has obviously been getting elsewhere things might start to change.

contractions varying from 8 mins apart to 15 mins and sometimes 24 mins. very frustrating. Havent stopped yet though.
sat on the loo for 10 mins and seemed to dribble a bit on and off. Not sure if that was my waters or pee. back pains are now all over my back not just at the bottom, and period pains are creeping up to the top of my bump.

Is the pain bearable?

PFJ - i do, say thanks, good boy etc. just me having A MOAN

Put a pad on - if it is waters it will trickle all the time. Wee will smell on the pad, waters won't.

They don't soud regular...you could be in pre-labour.

sorry scorpio... didnt mean to sound condescending.. can imagine how hard must be!!! sorries xxx
will put pad on now. only have maternity ones though. this could be fun harhar.

Scorpio - just interested, why should PFJ not have a bath yet? Is it so she doesn't reduce the effect?

It is not advised before 4-5cms to get in the water, it can slow or even stop a labour

Maternity pad will be fine

Really? I wonder if that's what happened to my friend. She was in and out of the bath for about 3 days before she eventually had her baby.

or if desperate i would wait until a definite regular timing iyswim?

You ok pfj? you can have paracetemol.

back to 20mins apart each time by the looks of the timer vs gave us.
am going to obey urge to eat small horse now, dp is cooking some food. am also getting really tired. will eat and lie down on sofa me thinks.

good idea to eat esp if body says so, though if it is labour dont worry if you are sick or poo lots, tis normal. Have some sugary stuff too. Try to keep active though.

lol im sitting here tickling Millie's feet - she just keeps sticking them out more and more

It's been so quiet here all weekend, I go off for an hour or two and so much has happened!

PFJ: How are you doing now? I was told to call if I have 2 contractions every 10 mins lasting more than 40 secs but if your MW said to call if you have 1 contraction every 10 mins go for it. They can tell you a lot over the phone apparently. Anywa, for now it is probably a good idea to have sometyhing to eat. Oooh this is so exciting!

Well done to you step Mom's looking after your DH's kids. Sounds like a tough job.

hot water bottle also great

sitting on the ball too and squatting too apparently if you can manage that

PFJ, it does sound like pre-labour - I had a very similar story with dd. How very exciting! Good idea to eat and rest. My waters didn't break, they were eventually broken by a midwife in hospital. I thought that waters gushed out rather than trickled? But I am certainly no expert! Is now the time to start the tens machine - if you are using one?

Keeping active is a good idea PFJ - but if you're tired, get some rest too. It could be a while before you're ready to go in to hospital.

If the pain's bearable, I'd be tempted to save the tens for a bit yet.

PFJ it would be great if you went to sleep tonight and slept through the most of it!

And I agree with Molly - this step parent business sounds hard! Tell me Scorpio - does your DH find it hard step parenting your DS? Just asking as I am wondering if it is different for men and woman? I grew up with a step dad, and was always aware that he was not my real father even though he did so much more for me than my real father. Although even though he bought me up and was in my life as a father for 20 years, as soon as he and my mum split, I never heard from him again, even though I tried to keep in touch...

M2B - no, i don't think he does, he parents everyone the same iyswim? He has been living with me since Reilly was 11 months so very used to him now. He does the same for Reilly as the others.