Due July 08- The "Oh my goodness we're really actually properly pregnant" thread

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Thread title reflects the fact that every day that passes it dawns on me a bit more

Mornung All!
Am a bit like twinkle have been AWOL for a bit, again just so busy at home and at work I only get time to read our ever growing thread and not to add to it!
Loving the name for the new thread seems to sum us up nicely huh?
Oh yeah don't think I ever posted it but I had my scan and its a little girl on the way so that makes it
15 girls
13 boys
11 suprise

Morning all,

Firstly I eventually got round to reading the Sunday Times last night and as usual the first thing I read was Dad Rules by Andrew Clover which was quite funny this week and thought I would share:
www.timesonline.co.uk/tol/life_and_style/men/article3671946.ece

I also like my monday morning read of Zoe Williams anti-natal column for the Guardian!

Twinkle1, sounds like mayhem in your house but I am sure you wouldn't want it any other way

Pigley nice bump, i am never posting a photo of mine as it's mostly fat. The baby is going to have ice-cream withdrawal symptoms in the first few days!

Mummywannabe/saidno , it is odd how the bump becomes public property whilst you fade into the background, and how no-one can ever agree on whether it is too small or too big. As long as the measurements are correct I am ignoring them.

JudgeJudyAndExecutioner - FOUR . Good luck. Love the name you have chosen, I wanted Harry as well but DH veto'd it

Also. Hamsters are evil. Satan in fur.

i know this isnt related to baby talk in a way but can bad stress be harmful to your baby
im considering leaving my husband now even though baby due in july i just cant take no more lies
i did the most stupid thing and played a practiacal joke on him thats backfired badly on me,i guess i always knew the truth but to find out was a different matter
i cant eat im sick all the time im just an emotional wrech 10 years of my life a disabled child together i cant see a ny light at the end of the tunnel
i have no family no freinds just want to go somewhere i cant be hurt emotinally no more but theres no where to go.
im worried about the baby im trying hard to be strong for him
dont know y im posting on here nothings going to help me now

There has been research done which seems to prove a link between high stress and preterm birth or low birthweight in full-term babies and therefore the most important person to think about right now is YOU because if you are ok then the baby should be ok.

I think you need someone to talk to who is in a better place than us (we are chockful of hormones as well) to advise you (of course we are always here to listen) the Samaritans provide confidential, non-judgemetal emotional support and their telephone number is 08457 909090. Please please please phone them and talk to someone.

I think Libra is right disneystar; you need to talk everything through with someone rational. We all know pregnant women are not the most rational creatures. Your situation sounds complex to say the least.

Sending you a hug xx

I've got a letter today saying I might be anaemic and have low platelets. They need more of my blood .

Had the low platelets before so not worried about that, but don't want to have to mess about with iron supplements etc.

Disneystar - not sure what to say to help. Hugs to you. x

disneystar - sorry to hear what you are going through, we are all here for you in our small way, take care of yourself x

Oh Disneystar, send you big hugs, we're always here to vent to if you need us xxx

On another note, DS last day today on his antibiotics for the tonsilitus, so thought we were over the worse of it, oh how wrong we are!!! He's woken up today with conjustivitus and a 'severe' ear infection! It's a good job I fancy my doctor, I get to see him once a week at the moment! So Twinkle I kind of know how you feel, although I'm not carrying twins, and I haven't got 2 little ones at home, so I feel for you!

And I had to go to the doctor yesterday for my blood results, I am on the low side of 'normal' for my Iron (normal levels are 11.6 - 16, mine are at 11.8) So he's given me some iron tablets, but my Folic Acid levels are low, which is why I've been feeling so shitty! At least I can get it sorted now!

oh disneystar! you poor thing! you really need to sit down with someone impartial and get it all off your chest. Even if they can't give you all the answers you will feel better when you have talked it all through with someone. Sending you big hugs and lots of love x x x x x

Hi All,

I too have been mega busy - sore bum form sitting all day TRYING to write final essay (boredemoticon) I put DD (18 months) in her big bed the last 2 nights and have had the joy of being awoken at 5am so am very tired too. Did any of your LO's go through seperation anxiety at 18 months - she has always been fine but the last 3 Wednesdays at nursery has been crying and clingy. I thought she was a bit old for it now but must be wrong?

DISNEYSTAR - I just wanted to say it might be an idea to go see your GP and maybe ask his/her opinion? You have been through a lot in life in general and what with your DH's heart probs and worry about the baby and all those children it could be you are suffering from depression maybe? Also you definitley won't be thinking rationally just now anyway so your GP might be able to direct you to counselling or medication?
There is light at the end of the tunnel - sometimes it can be very hard to see it though and you need a little help. All your children love you very much and even if life seems overwhelming just now remember that to them you are still their perfect Mum I know exactly what you mean about friends and not knowing anyone - I am in the same position here but fortunately I have a very supportive family - all be it over the phone. Have you got that support network?
Please, please if you need to let off steam or anything use here and I really, really hope things improve for you - big hugs.xx

Are any of you starting to worry about there not being any room at the inn in July? Seems like it is a very popular month for birthing! That bloody epidural giver better be around when I need them!!!

Just wanted to send disney loads of hugs - go talk to the doc honey!! thinking of you xxxxxx

rumpel i just cant talk to anyone anymore he came home for 1 hour before going away again for days on end with his job
i cant stand him near me i just need to be alone
thanks for listening though but to be honest im going ofline for a while i need some space now no one can help me anyway and to be honest i just plain havnt got any more energy left inside
buu hopefully i will be back on soon,and back to normal,just he is my whole life and the children im just so lost now and such a fool or rather he was my life,maybe men are the fools,he had it all and threw it away and for what senseless stupid woman who meant nothin apparantly he still wants me hes sorry he wont hurt me again
but my life is shattered i havnt eat in 2 days just keep being sick i know i need to be strong i just cant be right now
once again i have loved being on here i just need some time out now if there was big hole in the ground id sit in there and never come out need to escape this pain.
i will be back soon x

disney - just sending you some virtual hugs and strength, you are not alone you have all your online friends here for you, we won't be going anywhere soon (we are too bloody big anyway) so pop in anytime. I hope you find some peace and strength, take care of you and your precious little bundle x

disneystar

Please dont do anything rash at this stage
whatever you did thaat backfired may have just caught him off guard

pregnancy is a very difficult time for relationships - maybe you could contact RELATE they could whisk you in for a couple of emergency sessions

I am always ready to help you could CAT me - i have a few children and they do not have special needs but i know how hard it can be

Please do not feel alone- there ARE people out here who care

x I hate to hear you sounding so bleak....

I have another question of a personal nature - does anyone else feel like their nether region is falling down especially when going to the loo, I sometimes feel like I want to hold everything in. I remember feeling like this a few weeks before DD2 was born but not this early, is this a common thing in 3+ pregnancies. I am scared stiff about bearing down during the birth when you feel like your insides are coming out anyway that I will damage myself.

Between that, the mega vaginal discharge oh and the constant pelvic pain my nether regions are a no go area something DP and I aren't especially pleased about, I miss the closeness of sex

Bloody hell all I do is moan

DISNEY- I really hope you go and get the help that you need. I complained to my mf about depression and she gave me a barrage of options. There is so much help out there and no one will judge you, they just want to help.

SK- I think you'd better see the GP about that. I do feel a bit low in the saddle so to speak but not really to the extremes that you have described. Can I suggest going to Neal's Yard Remedies and doing a session with your partner. They teach your partner how to ease some of the pain you might be having in your back. She has you lean over those big exercise balls. It might give you some of the closeness and intimacy that you might be missing. The oils are nice and inexpensive. Might be nice for when the babies are asleep.

Hi all.

Disneystar - i think the advice to see G.P is spot on. Please give it some thought.

Had 28 week check, apparently i have a low platelet level?? Have read up on it (know you shouldn't do this!) Anyone else had the same?

I've just been told I have low platelets. I had this in both my other pgs as well. It is just something they keep an eye on because very very low levels might mean blood doesn't clot very well. You can't do anything particular to raise your levels. Usually the treatment is nothing - just extra blood tests to keep an eye on it.

SK - My pelvic floor is feeling the strain. Sometimes when I poo I think I'm going to prolapse!! I felt like this last time too, but more so. Perhaps your baby likes to snuggle low down, so it feels worse. I have never been the greatest at pelvic floor exercises; must do better this time or I will smell of pee every time I laugh, cough or sneeze.

Re - discharge. Yes there is more and more. If I remember correctly this gets worse until you start convincing yourself your waters must be leaking and labour is imminent.

Thank isaidno - what i thought really. Oh well - just out of interest do you know what yours were - mine was 136 so not far of 150 which i believe is normal? not my normal midwif so will chat to mine next time i see her.

Re: discharge my god have vast amounts of the stuff . Not nice is it!

isaidno - I think it's a multiple pregnancy thing once you get over 3 your body starts to feel the strain. I remember apart from the pevlic thing and heartburn I had no other symptoms with DD1. Didn't have a twinge, a BH, nothing until my waters went. Thats the exact feeling I have like I'm having a prolapse when I poo

mcchesers - I am always trying to rope DP into giving me a massage even said he should be rubbing lotion into my feet tonight he said "go away woman the Celtic game is on!" my feet are disgusting though. Oh and I have a flaky head despite my posh face masks. I tell you fallin apart I am, whats that about daughters stealing their mothers looks??

Never heard of the low platelet thing before, this pregnancy malarky sure throws up some strange things.

i keep rubbing bio oil into my face it gets soo dry

i feel very ugly and ungainly atm

bad tempered today too - irrational too

all i want to is eat....

chocolate.... lots of it......and then cry about horrific weight gain

god it must biorhythms, chakras or something 'cos i am feeling shite today too. achey from my exercise this week, argued with my parents, clients and projects at work are just tedious and don't know whether i had a growth spurt or am just particularly bloated but my faithful maternity jeans all look crap and i feel heffalumpish.

anyway, tomorrow is a new day, better moods and health for all. i am getting my bikini and eyebrows done, which always does wonders for confidence. its the small things that count.

disney - i wish i could do something. just know you have our cyber support whenever you need it.

re platelets - don't know my actual numerical level at the mo - but mine have never got dangerously low. Equally they have never been higher than about 150 which is the bottom end of ok. In the past the doc has said I might just be one of those people for whom a low level is normal.