Due July 08- The "Oh my goodness we're really actually properly pregnant" thread

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Thread title reflects the fact that every day that passes it dawns on me a bit more

I don't have sex for 6 weeks - it would be longer, but DH starts feeling rejected!

kaz - what a horror story hope you are feeling better now. Wish one of us lived closer to you and could have helped you out. You rest up today and take it easy.

libralady - I can't remember the last time I had sex either, poor DP but by the time I go to bed I'm shattered and last night I went to turn off the light and he said "don't worry I'll do it save you the hassle" if I can't turn over to get the light off I don't think he would even suggest it TBH. It's hard sometimes because I feel like it and miss the closeness but my body can't do it. We do have loads of kisses and cuddles though. I keep telling him it's sex that made me like this lol.

Miserable day today don't know what to do, could go to soft play but I think everyone will have that idea and DD2 is only 2 and tends to get a bit pushed out the way by the bigger ones so gets a bit upset. Think we will just have a quiet one at home, get some paints out or something.

Kaz how awful, is the pain going now? Every time I'm admitted to hopital with hyperemesis I am astounded at how disorganised the nhs can be!

On the sex thing, after ds I was absolutely gagging for it! Think all the pushing had brought certain important parts of my anatomy closer to the surface down there! So the seam on my jeans was a very good friend indeed until we resumed relations after about 3 weeks. Very gently though. My nether regions are a different shape now but not a different size.

The one thing I did find quite difficult was making the mental transition from mummy to sex kitten- my brain wasn't into "switching off" from my mother mode very quickly, meant that a quickie whilst ds was napping wasn't often possible as it took me ages to get into the right frame of mind! And DH is also very much a boob man so I think it was a bit weird for him, although he didn't mind the breastmilk thing too much (didn't spray him with it anyway!) A pretty bra did a lot to encourage him

As to the food thing, am still hankering after the banoffee pie mentioned on another thread on Tuesday, will have to get the ingredients today I think and make one as I even dreamt about it last night

Have a good day all xxx

Hi ladies,

first baby for me so no sex stories! Completely off it at the mo so by the time LO arrives im sure DH will be foaming at the bit for it!

Just rang the midwife as my boss just called to say the little girl i sent home yesterday from nursery does have Slapped cheek as i thought. Thankfully the midwife says as im 27 weeks now it should be fine as its usually in the first 20 that can cause the damage/worry. One less thing to worry about.

Currently laying in bed with my laptop, enjoying the start of my day off. However must get up soon and tidy up abit as my mum is coming up to visit for a long weekend for a bit of mother/daughter bonding/shopping session.

Sorry to hear about trips to hosiptal and illnesses. Hope everyone has a better day today.

thanks ladies - its good to get some clear and honest answers - helps to be prepared!

sex drive during pregnancy is weird because for me having sex seems like the only fun thing to do at the moment. but must admit its more weekends than "school" nights. i feel quite lucky though as i am still feeling healthy, aside from some headaches and as its going to be our first baby - we still have lots of time on our hands.
i called in sick yesterday 'cos i had a pounding headache. and then my mum bollocked me about bunking off unless its absolutely necessary. she was the same when i wanted to bunk off school saying "get dressed, have a cup of tea and see how you feel" when i had fever and the shakes (she's a nurse so you can't fake the funk with her).
i know what she means though - i am the first woman to be pregnant in my predominantly male advertising bureau and i don't want them to think that pregnancy is a pain in the ass and automatically means sickness.

but then my dp came home and told me that he saw a patient in the clinic yesterday (he's a junior doctor) who wanted to be signed off for a month for constipation! and she is 11 weeks pregnant. and she poos at least twice a day! i mean, constipation is uncomfortable if you have it (and pooing twice a day means you don't) but should you be signed off for a month for that???? (I know he shouldn't really talk about his patients and neither should I )

kaz - what a nightmare! hope you are feeling better - the uk healthcare system sounds patchy at best - terrifying at worst.

Kaz sorry to hear about experience with the NHS, not being able to inform anyone must have been horrible I can't believe they were being so obstructive (you should have said the NHS phone bills are paid by your taxes!) hope you get better treatment from them when you go into labour.

TJuice I have the EXACT same worries/thoughts as you.

Like Pigley this is my first, so no post sex stories from me either, and after reading the stiching and placenta stories on here I might keep my legs crossed and never let it out anyway.

I haven't felt any decrease in libido the problem I am having at the mo is my DH comes to bed about2 hours after me, by which time I am either sound asleep or in that dozy stage of knowing he is coming to bed but not really being awake. I am also not feeling particularly great about my body (love the bump, hate the rest) so when I think he might be making a move on me I don't want to respond incase he just wants a cuddle and then I will feel all rejected but then he is saying he doesn't want to come on to strong as he is aware I am tired and he wants to be sensitive . I have told him if he wants sex he should just ask, I will either say yay or nay. It's not very romantic but at least we may get some nookie without any misunderstandings! The great thing is at least we can talk about it, he is being so bloody amazing with this pregnancy thing and it's so adorable to see him reading/singing to the bump (sorry don't mean to get gushy).

Am getting some pains down there when walking, which apparently can be the start of SPD so I am crossing fingers madly that it isn't, so far I have been very lucky with this pregnancy and am hoping that was going to continue for another 14 weeks.

Have tomorrow off and my Mum is coming to help me get the garden in shape, apparently after a week of sunshine it's going to rain tomorrow rollseyes.

God I do talk sometimes, I better go do some work!

Hope everyone is as well as possible!

Thanks everyone just needed to rant last night. I feel better this morning having slept really well still feel uncomfortable esp sitting so won't be on here long but everything is so much easier to cope with when you know what something is and have actually slept. Hoping the pain will subside after a few days week at a max as the fibroid that is the problem gets smaller an dies. Knowing it is not life threatening or causing a problem to little one who is very obviously extremely happy an very active LOL. Spoken to GP and community Midwife who were both lovely (hospital had not even informed midwife I had either been admitted let alone discharged) and I pick up pain meds from doc this afternoon (thankfully I have a few that strength already). Don't have a lot of faith in the ward I was on no way I want to go back there not even very happy about going there to see the consultant team but suppose some things have to be done.

Libra1975 Part of the problem about the phone call is I am (or was) a nurse I have had patients in a similar position as I was, I found out because I spoke to them and asked and sorted it out for them. Spoke to best friend who is still a nurse (who was one of the people I really wanted to get hold of because I knew she could calm me down, the other was my community midwife who I knew could do the same) and she said her reaction was the same as mine and she would have gone out of her way to try and contact someone and has done (she works on an acute admission unit so there are times when people are admitted in this situation).

Anyway winge over I hopefully will never have to go there again because I simply do not trust them. Once I move up to Boston Sue will be there plus I know another girl who works on that ward and I also trust Em

That's enough on line for now need to lie down again. Hope to be able to catch up with other people later my posts today have been rather me me me. Hope everyone else is doing ok.

Kaz - So sorry to hear of your horrible nightmare, hope you feel OK now though! Sending big hugs!

I can't remember too much about delivering the Placenta As far as I'm aware I thought it was pretty easy after heaving out a baby! Sweetkitty is right, it's just a big blob of jelly! So really pliable.. I was actually quite shocked how big it was. I didn't need an injection or anything, I think the midwife asked me to cough a couple of times, but I think I had it easy. Hope for the same again!

As for sex, I didn't have any stiches either (I had a relativly (sp?) easy birth) so I thing we got down to it about 3-4 weeks after, was nice not to attempt the Krypton Factor (our pet name for trying to find a comfortable position for both of us considering the huge bump that was is the way!!)

Ds has come down with tinsilitus (sp?) and hasn't eaten for 5 days, bless him, he's feeling very sorry for himself, but on the up side we do keep having lovely cuddles!!!

Sorry Tonsilitus

pigleychez - hope you are enjoying your day off

TJuice - sometimes if you need a day off you need a day off, I agree though it seems like some people do take the p* when pregnant.

kaz - you rant away you poor thing, can't believe they just left you upset and in pain

Jodie - hope your DS feels better soon it's not nice when they are ill.

Right off to find out what else I can eat.

Kaz - how awful, really hope you are feeling better.
Re sex and nether regions - took us ages!! But then I did push for 3 hours, so things were...different...and took a while to normalise. I would say quite different shape now, bit lopsided (!) but I was stitched a bit. TBH the enormous haemorrhoids were a major factor..
I found delivering the placenta oddly pleasant - after the probs getting dd out (she just would not come!!) it felt like this big hot jelly sliding out (sorry TMI).
On the food note, after the banana split description the other night (was it you TJuice??) I was inspired and can now thoroughly recommend chopped banana with Green and Blacks vanilla caramel nut ice cream as an alternative. Yummy!!
I found a picture of me at 35 weeks pg with dd1, and I look the same as now, 26 weeks...yikes!!

oooh - that sounds good. may have to do that tonight. think my blitz of homecooking is winding down - having doctored-up frozen pizza tonight. can't be arsed to stand up and stir a risotto.

tjuice noooooo I need you for my food porn! Please don't stop!

Well my banoffee pie is looking good- didn't take long either as I found out that carnation do condensed milk pre-caramelised so I didn't have to boil it for 2 hours like normal! But not sure whether it will work- will report back (with indegestion update too no doubt ). I'm sure you're all dying to find out !

purplejennyrose that ice cream sounds delicioso! I was thinking when i was pg with ds1 they monitored weight much more closely and at rem i weighed late 11 stone

i weigh 11 5 now and no one is blinking...

having said that not been to a midwife since 13 weeks!

purplejennyrose feeling a lot better today the wonders of Tramadol and codeine, god nights sleep in own bed and knowing what it is (red degeneration ie fibroid playing silly buggers)and that it will probably only last 5 days really helps.

sweetkitty I can't believe it either I worked as a nurse for nearly 20 years and would be horrified if I found one of my patients (or in latter years their Mums) in the state I was. Anyway with any luck I will never ever have to go on to that ward again at least one person is very serious about buying the house

Morning all we have been a quiet bunch maybe we are all asleep.

I haven't weighed myself for a while but reckon I have put on about a stone now (reckon about 1lb of that is baby rest is creme eggs). I'm off out for a friends 40th birthday tonight just a meal at the local posh Italian, may just have a sneaky glass of white wine too first in about 2 months. Reckon I will be home and asleep for 11 though.

DD1 felt DD3 kick for the first time yesterday, it seems so long for them until July though.

Morning,

What a shocking day, weather wise, it's absolutely P**g down here, at least it's doing our newly laid lawn wonders!

Just dropped off DS at MIL & FIL so I can get some work done and he's still poorly the little mite! he's OK in himself, just feels abit sorry for himself i think, well a day of being spoilt at granny and grandads isn't going to do him any harm, and maybe they can get him to eat!! (fingers crossed!)

Hope everone else is OK today, how are you feeling KAZ? Hows your Back Kitty? and how is everyone elses complaints?

I asked to stand on the scales at the doctors on Tuesday and horror of horrors had put on just over a stone my excuse is my fibroids add up to more than half the weight of a baby but I really did not want to put on that much have enough fat to use up without putting on more

On the good side I appear to be more or less pain free this morning although not done anything yet and it's still early. I tool one lot of painkillers this morning I was so shocked and expecting to be but not going to take any more unless it comes back. Then may try half a dose an see if that helps.

Rocky is extremely happy too and is really really active. Saw tummy move for the first time on Tues evening in Hossy when someone appeared to kick he midwife in CDS Going to have a lazy day today do some washing and things ready to go up north on Sunday Got someone else coming to see the house at 5pm again so want to do a little tidying up before they come too esp after the cat bought a dustpan with a long handle yesterday which should make sweeping it up a little easier.

Oh KAZ, don't make me feel bad, I've put on just under 2 stone!!!! Shocking! Althoug hI do have a big bump and my boobs have all of a sudden decided to rival Jordans (pre-op!) But I still feel a fat old bint! My bums massive! I keep thinking that I don't care, but I know I will once baby is born and alls left is a big wobbly bum and a big wobbly belly! Will just have to deal with it when the time come I guess!

and about you putting on a stone kaz - thats about normal, I don't have fibroids either.

I couldn't care less about the weight gain I gained about 2 stone last time and was back in size 10's the day after she was born (actually am still in size 10's just now with the bump hanging over them. With BFing and two DDs to run around after the weight will fall off again. I was a stone and a half lighter then when I had DD1 anyway, in my old job we used to have free food to taste jotted about, we worked with food, talked about food and sat and ate a lot of food, oh I miss it somedays when all I grab is a boring cheese sandwich.

Actually the past two nights after I have piggedout ate my dinner I have felt very uncomfortable bloated and sore. Think this one is pushing on my stomach as well.

Oh DD1 has decided the baby is now called Becky!

Jodie - as long as the baby is the size it should be we will worry about the weight about November

JODIE sorry don't mean to make anyone feel guilty it's just I was very over weight before getting pregnant and the aim (with my GP) was to put on as little as possible (ie as close to nill as I could) I already have a BMI greater than 49 I am all bump and boobs though and my boobs were nigger than Jordan's post of before I fell pregnant But then I am really restricted as to what I can physically do because of my back, various structural tummy problems which mean I getting lots of BH when ever I do try to get active along side my problems with crowds and noise. If I could get out an about and do more physically more I am sure I would not have put on as much Perhaps I am just expecting too much of my self.

Think I spoke too soon about the pain need to go lie down still better than before though just need to be sensible.

I know I shuldn't about the weight thing, I blame that bloody Beckham woman! (i know it's not her fault either!) Maybe I should just blame the press... Too much pressure? maybe between now and July I'll win the lottery. then I can hire a personal trainer, a nanny so I can practise yage every second of every day, a personal nutritionlist, a life coach a wet nusre, etc, gosh it sounds horrid!! Maybe we are better off living in the real world after all!!!!

question at what stage should the baby be in 'optimum position'? before getting worried?

crossed post KAz, I didn't mean to make you feel guilty, I was only joking!!!