Due July 08- The "Oh my goodness we're really actually properly pregnant" thread

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Thread title reflects the fact that every day that passes it dawns on me a bit more

SK - sorry to hear you are feeling so low. Have you had depression in the past?

I suffered my first postnatal depression after ds1 - it was terrible and really went undiagnosed for a long time. Since then I have had depression again and again....not always to do with pg. After last baby was prescribed Sertraline (been on many but as I was bf this was considered safest) - anyway was still taking although much reduced dose when fell pg this time. My doc is great and I know now that my depression is completely chemical and linked to hormones. I was down to taking just 25mg every second day. After discussions with doc and midwife it has been decided that from now on the dose will be gradually increased...hopefully to prevent the BIG thump of depression as the hormone levels change after the birth.

I am no an advocate of drugs in pg but I have taken lots of advice and I know that to be a good mum I have to be well and not a bubbling mess....

Anyway...sorry for babbling - just wanted you to know that feeling low in pg could be depression and it's not always postnally that it kicks in...speak to doc and midwife xxGood luck

Oh and I have suffered from recurring deep breast thrush in the first couple of weeks after each baby...it takes 1 month for meds to work so this time I'm getting meds in advance I suppose there's an advantage to being on 6th pg that I can honestly say "this always happens to me"

Sorry for huge post xx

hi all and good health vibes to everyone with aches and pains.
i am still feeling okayish but lazy as hell. i went to the cinema last night with some friends and then to a cafe afterwards - first evening out on a "school" night in donkeys so i am all tired today. should go to the gym but would rather sit in front of my laptop and eat double-stuffed oreo cookies and reece's pieces (had a trip to the american food shop!. in terms of ailments, i noticed that i am getting indigestion - but that could be due to the "oil of life" (flax and evening primrose) that I am putting in my morning yoghurt. i feel all "repeatey" if you know what i mean. also, its weird how digestion slows down soooo much - without going into tmi, things are definitely not as regular as they used to be!

i bought an american "hotslings" on ebay after a friend recommended it. pretty cheap too but then, with delivery it was £30 and its basically reinforced cotton jersey . . . still, it comes with a cheesy dvd on how to carry the baby, so like a twat, i practiced with this giant teddy bear a few times!
we also bought a second hand bill amberg papoose on ebay which will probably rate amongst the first-timer silly purchases. it looks like some kind of weird fetish item - all black leather and sheepskin!

i feel bad about my nursery situation - we are so behind but i wasn't stressing that much because she will sleep in the cot in the bedroom for the first six months anyway. isn't that the recommended time according to child safety/anti-sids guidelines???

anyway, the "nursery" is soooo small - its a broom cupboard. did all you nursery painters do it yourself or get partner/someone else to paint due to fumes?

TJuice - 6 months is what's recommended - we lasted 3 nights!! The nursery is right next to our room though so could still hear every little grunt! She was so noisy though and I couldn't sleep for worrying and checking on her, so a little bit of distance helped me, she doesn't seem to have suffered for it. Visited a friend at the weekend, her LO is 2 next month and still sleeps in their room in a cot despite having his nursery, the Dad is knackered and i'm sure it's because he doesn't sleep very well with LO in the room (plus LO is still waking up once a night - joy!)

also - painted nursery myself (is also tiny room) and just painted DD new bedroom. Had instructions from DH not to go up any step ladders, but couldn't leave it unfinished - he didn't believe me when i said i'd jumped!

Libralady- I was quite looking forward to bowling but the plans have changed and we are now apparently going Greyhound racing instead. They prob remebered that i usually win whenever we go and it kinda annoys the guys!

re work and maternity leave-
I really dont understand my work! One day im not allowed to lift a finger and given the easy jobs but the next its back to normal, rushed off my feet! Ive not been 100% happy in my job for ages but knew we were planning to start trying for a family very soon so just stuck at it till we did and went on maternity leave.
My boss has tryed very hard to try and convince me that i should take the "standard" 4 weeks before but as i cant wait to leave im going to take 6 weeks maternity leave. I also have 2 weeks annual leave to take before that so my last day will be Mid May. Cant wait! Have a few days off next week so only have 28 more days at work left! - another one not counting!! Im not bothered about time after as i dont plan to go back to work after baby. DH says he'd prefer me to be a stay at home mummy- Well if he insists!

Tjuice- We had just decided to paint the Spare room when i found out i was pregnantas it desperately needed doing and had choosen neutral colours anyway with the thought of it becoming the nursery in the near future anyway. Painting was a joint effort for me and DH. I did the bottom bits and he did the top. I was only about 7 weeks pregnant at the time.

sweetkitty- Sorry your not feeling the greatest

sorry i really do know how to babble!!

Beepbeep
Can't believe your friend still has a 2 year old in their room - that can't be healthy! I was getting a little concerned about reading that baby had to be in our room for six months, so glad to hear someone of experience having booted baby out earlier - I mean that in the nicest possible sense.
I think I will just want him in with me for a while to make sure he is ok with all the problems he's had so far!
As for nurseries, well our baby doesn't have one at the moment, we are in the process of moving and one room is a study as I WFH and another room is my partner's (is DP code - not sure what that means) childs from a previous relationship. So our baby together will be roomless for a while, which he doesn't seem to think is a problem as the baby won't know! Would be nice to decorate a room though.

Well I have never painted a nursery before a baby has been born.

With DD1 we were in a tiny flat in London and knew it was going on the market as soon as she was born so no point really in doing up the spare room. We ended up between houses for 3 months whilst moving up here so she finally got her own room at 15 months and I must admit I went mad with the pink.

DD2 - was in with us for 12 months so didn't paint her room until just before she moved out, it's pink and lilac but is lovely and will be DD3's room when she moves out which will be about 12 months as well. DD2 fed up to 5 times in the night until 12 months so there was no way I was getting up out my warm bed. Think she helped herself after a few months.

All this poor one is getting is a few spare drawers for her clothes in DD1's room.

Have done too much today so as I sat down for a rest at 4pm I hve seized up and am in agony now about to go make dinner so will see if it helps any. DP not in until late so got the dinner/bath/beds to do on my own!

Hi all,
TJuice, loving the giant teddy in a sling vision! Does that mean that all us first-timers need to start practicing putting the teddy in the myriad of stuff that is 'essential' for a baby? Might get a bit wet in the baby bath .

In terms of maternity leave, I have requested to leave 4 weeks before the baby is due and it seems AGES away (mid June). At the moment, it is getting harder to sit comfortably for ten minutes let alone a whole day! Is anyone else forgetting that they have a bump and keep smacking it against the desk when pulling your chair in?

Hope all of those that aren't feeling too good at the moment start feeling better soon.

hehe.... Ive had DH wearing the baby sling. Just to see how it works but think he'd have something to say if i added a teddy!

Friends did buy a giant teddy for baby that currently sits in the nursery in the carseat!

I've painted the nursery myself a couple of weeks ago. I couldn't leave it for DH if I wanted it done before the baby hits puberty!

Both my DS were in my room for 4 -5 mths, when they became too big for the crib and needed the cot. I think it's best to do the nursery before, because you still need a nice place to keep their stuff!

With DS1 we practised the sling with an ALF toy. Remember him? A very ugly baby substitute!

Isaidno- I remember ALF!! and yes pretty ugly looking thing!

Tjuice - we didn't have ours in the room after the first few days. I just couldn't sleepas listened to every breath then worried when I couldn't hear any! I put the baby in the spare room just across the hall, and could hear perfectly well. This time the nursery will be just across the landing again. Obviously sometimes the baby was in the bed with us when he/she wouldn't stop crying.

Kitty, I have patches of feeling really low too. I had pnd after DS, but was so naive that I didn't realise it until I had DD and found out that crying several times a day for the first few months isn't normal!

I think I have been feeling a bit low recently as I have been a bit lonely here in France and have had too much time to dwell on things. DH is being lovely most of the time. Much more understanding than the first time, when he really didn't get how hard being pregnant is. Thought it was just a bit of extra weight to carry around. But I hate being pregnant. The only thing I enjoy is feeling the kicks. Everything else is the pits. It takes so b*** long!

14 weeks to go.... What, indeed, will we feel like at 36 weeks?!

Moan over

I used one of DD1's dollies for the sling for DD2, I have a Baby Bjorn and a Corrie which is a sling pouch type sling, DD2 hated it though so am torn between a Kari-me and a Close baby carrier this time.

I agree it's nice to have a room ready for the baby and great fun especially with the first. I missed out on that with DD1.

Better go DD2 has pooed again argh!

taff taff - how can you forget you have a bump?! It's so uncomfy I think about it constantly! LOL at teddy in the bath. DO we need to try and breast feed it too?

EEC - no idea how I manage to forget that I have a bump because it's definitely there. My new pg discovery is the joys of your boobs touching your stomach..nice. Long gone are the days of no bra! Perhaps I can put my old 'small' ones on the teddy

Hehehe. Nice to have a laugh. Thank goodness for mn!

Oh dear oh dear! This baby brain thing has alot to answer for!

Suddenly realised that i have left the oven on AGAIN!
At least this time i realised and didnt leave it on all night like last time-DH got up the other morning thinking it rather warm!

sweetkitty
I really think i will drop this one sooner rather than later!! the pain is ALOT worse when you have been sitting for a long time. turned funny today and let a big ouch out DD1 said ok mommy and mad it all better At least it's not just my fella that is gone all hours, DP seems to be working all hours god gives! .. It's hard to be doing bath/fed and bed all by yourself so i understand where and what you are feeling now. All i can say is hang in there and tommorw will be a brighter day.

Re: boobs touching belly, mine are near my knees!!

We had DD1 in our room for a few nights and moved her out as we were waking one another up all the time. With DD2 i slept in the spare room with her as DD1 was only 11 months so we had a baby each until DD2 slept throught the nights.. This time Dp will be doing the spare room thing!

Wow this little girl is going mad tonight I think she has turned or moved as it's uncomfy to slouch over now and she is kicking me like mad under my ribs on the right hand side.

minnie - don't want to shatter your hopes but I thought the same with DD2, used to tell everyone on the antenatal thread that I would be early and hopefully I would get to New Year, I was one of the last ones off the thread on the 26th January. After having one at 37+5 without so much as a twinge, I had so much pressure and BHs with DD2 yet she stayed in to 41+5 and I was in a lot of pain by then as well. How far along did you get with your other two?

On the ditzy pregnant brain side of things have posted this already somewhere but will give you a laugh, yesterday took DD1 to nursery then forgot DD2's shoes as she was being a madam and wanted wellies on so had to drive home and get her shoes for toddlers SO I parked the car outside the front of the house and tried to open the front door with the remote locking car key and stood there thinking why isn't the door beeping oh and last night I let DD1 into our bed as DP was away and she woke me at 3am to tell me she had peed the bed as I had forgot to put a pull up on her double

Have just finished a whole pack of Aero bubbles someone gave the DDs for Easter.

Just to make people jealous - I have only got 6 more days at work!! It's school holidays for the next two weeks, then I go back for 2 weeks of 3 days. But to make it up to the head teacher who was a bit miffed at me going so early, I am going back for the odd 'important meeting' during May and prob early June.
I am so ready to go - I will miss aspects of it, but it's a long commute and a very intense tiring job and I'm in pain and constantly getting ill! So roll on 1st May...
I've had the same 'wake up' experience sweetkitty - but definitely not in pregnancy! Absolutely noooo sex drive - about the first thing DH said when the test was positive was ' ah well no more sex for a good year or so then...' Oh poor man!!

huge sex drive and wanting it all the time = boy

no sex drive = girl

old wives tale #6785

for me totally true though

I disagree SK. My sex drive dwindles last time and I had a boy and this time it's been virtually non-existant again and yep, it's been predicted its another boy.
Might have something to do with the fact that I am so bloody tired with work, looking after a 3 year old and the back problems.
Oh well, better get fressed for work.
Can't look forward to the weekend as I'm working then as well. At least DH is back home tonight so he can take of the childcare duties.

I have more of a sex drive this time (with a girl) than with the 2 DS.
Having said that it is a small urge rather than none at all!

OMG...anyone else start having a panic attack when you got the notice that MN was temporarily out of service? I had to go to Tescos and buy a giant cookie to calm myself down!