Feb 2008 - The Final Thread - Get a Blardy Move on Jaysthird, princessllama and tyaca!!!!!!

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Wonder how many posts we will get before we can start the post natal one.

Come on girls, keep getting jiggy and eating those curries.

Hi all.

I slept from 7 till 10.30 last night and again from 3 am till 6.30 this morning so finally feel able to log onto the computer.

Tyaca - am so sorry you feel so bad. I know the feeling. Am also b/f my little girl (Katie) and the only reason i am able to do so is that i stayed in hospital for 3 days after my c-section. (Birth on Thursday, home on Sunday). I asked to stay in an extra day cos I wanted help with b/f at every feed and also cos DH was knackered: I had been admitted at 39 weeks the previous Friday for an induction due to raised blood pressure. Induction failed (2 sweeps, 2 pessaries) - was only 2 cm by 4 pm Wednesday so had a c-section. I love my painkillers. Mum has been here every day to help.

Tyaca - do you have anyone who can come in for a few hours to help you? I don't mean a visitor, I mean a woman who has baby-experience and who can take care of you, which will also give DH a break and can also make him feel that he is being looked after too.

B/F is painful and I am angry that the Govt wants us to breastfeed but boots us out of hospital so quickly after birth and sends us home when we need help at every single feed to get the baby in the right position and latched on.

tyaca. I live in north london and have two year old ds who is still bf. I can come over to see you and bring you grapes and experience! Jay congrats on cooper. Photos please!

Good God, Jaysthird, what an enormous baby. You've knocked me off the top spot for heaviest newborn .

CONGRATULATIONS on the birth. x

Congratulations Jay! Wow, that's a big 'un... were your other two big babies, or did Cooper benefit from extra baking time [nosey emoticon]

Good luck, Princess - fingers and toes crossed for you

Hello everyone,

Sorry I've been missing in action for a couple of weeks. I have been thinking about all of you even though I haven't kept up. I'm starting to get back to normal now after a bit of a tricky time (feeding agony, nipple thrush/baby oral thrush, mastitis, infected stitches so can't sit down comfortably/walk more than a few steps etc.etc.). I'm still pumped full of painkillers, antibiotics, medicines & creams but feel as though I'm starting to turn a corner at last. My baby girl will be 3 wks old this sunday, and in some ways, the time has flown by. DS is coping really well with having a sister. DH is back at work now, so I'm flying solo with my 2 babes, and it's not as bad as I thought. Not easy, but not awful either. I'm trying to be kind to myself and not expect too much - CBeebies rules!

I plan to catch up with all the posts about new arrivals and anyone still waiting in the next couple of days. Best wishes to you all!

Oh... and I will post my birth story one day too!

Congrats Jay - so glad to hear of Cooper's safe arrival. Hope you are doing okay and resting!

Lovemymum - couldn't agree more on your point about breastfeeding. Everyone needs a little help, and how are you supposed to get it if you are booted out of hospital at first opportunity. I was lucky to have a concerned midwife who helped me straight after the birth, and then access to classes due to being in longer for a c section - really helped.

poblets - sounds like you've really been through the mill - wishing you very speedy healing. i recommend calendula tincture for the stitches - get well soonx

Congratulations jaysthird - what a big boy - well done. Glad all went smoothly for you.

Lovemymum and Poblets great to hear from you twoxxx

i think more women have problems with bf than people think. It wasn't the easiest thing i've ever done and you have to work hard at it, i feel very envious when you hear about women who don't get and pain at all. Ds2 will be 8 weeks tomorrow and i can't believe im still feeding him, i love the way he looks at me while he's pulling my nipple all over the place

Jay well done love and what a big boy, we await your birthstory take care xxx

And Princess where are you? in the delivery suite perhaps????

How is everyone else? i'm ver jealous of the big sleeps some are getting

Ihad my 6 week check yesterday and the light bleeding that i've been getting for the last 2 weeks turns out to be an infection due to the placenta breaking up a bit and it staying inside me for all this time, i was warned to be aware of bloodloss at the time but it's still not nice to be on anti-biotics

way to go jay!!! what a whopper!

go princess!

lolo - your bravado gave me courage and i did the deed last night! big kids were out, baby asleep and - oops - i too was paranoid about making another baby - was v careful!! can't believe you chickened out!!

Congratulations Jay!!! what a big boy, and a fab name!! looking forward to the birth story soon, my friend!
Princess how are you, chum?? Big congrats on being the last!! or are you in labour / hospital? been a bit quiet today!! anyway, happy friday, all. dh took dsd and dd1 out for lunch / afternoon to let me feed Alex quietly and have a nice sleep, but no one told dd2 ans she whinged until 2 mins before they all arrived home again! I could have cried (and very nearly did!) but hey, won't last for ever! love to all, lolo xx

hi, big congratulations jaysthird, really hoping the induction went smoothly. i can't believe how big he was!
leesmum bad luck with the infection. i hope they gave you antibiotics that are ok with bf. check it out and don't forget they make you feel a bit lousy, had them last time round for same time and given 2 lots, 1 lot of which you shouldn't bf whilst taking and no one told me til afterwards-won't go into disaster story.
hi lovemymum and poblet great to hear from you again
and yes, still pg. day 15. had another sweep, an acupuncture session and foetal heart monitoring. dr has said he wants to induce on monday and will be getting jumpy if not. have decided to go with it because i trust his judgement, and hey, there's always the weekend. feel like am going to strangle mil for irritating txt messages, especially as we have told her we will def. tell her as soon as the baby arrives. really don't want her to get wind of the induction plan otherwise i'll probably end up with her in the delivery room.
starting to wonder whether was v stupid just to buy 1 bottle of infacol-all your postings are bringing back memories of having a bottle in every room.
feel really pleased for jaysthird and the rest of you but do feel a bit of a weepy failure for still not producing.

Princess you are NOT a failure and you will have produced within a couple of days at most.

NOT A FAILURE. You hear me??? You are doing so well. You are cooking your little one properly, unlike me who undercooked mine .

Good morning Egg, so your lot suffer with hiccups too

Princess don't feel too down, why don't you treat yourself to something nice this weekend while you have the chance! (more choccies?) The doctor put me on Co-Amoxiclav and said that if this one didn't suit me the only other one i could have would mean pumping and dumping my milk for a week and giving james formula which i do not want to do, but up to now things seem ok (fingers crossed)

How is everyone else today, did you all get a decent nights sleep

Jay i can't believe how big your lo was, i bet that stung

Tyaca and how are you getting on? how's the feeding going?

Hi all. Hector just had one feed last night so I had a good sleep. Although dh is completely grumpy and still complains of sleeplessness - wonder if he is having more trouble adjusting to the newborn than me? How are your partners reacting to having a baby?

Omy, respect for doing the deed ;-)

Hope the antibiotics do the trick leesmum and you're not feeling ill with it.

Rooting for you Princess!!!

I keep looking at DS2 and wondering how Jay managed to get something his size out .

Yep leesmum I have had three hiccupping monkeys now. DS1 was bad too. All of them did it inside as well as out.

Hope these drugs work for you, must be galling to have to do formula for a week if you have actually managed to sort of bf and it is all going well.

DS2 screaming. All feeds are out of synch today. He went 8 hours in night which was great, but he is all over the place today. DD is crying too . DS1 is being very lovely today though and DH is here so all is ok.

Princess- YOU ARE NOT A FAILURE- I bet you are weepy- your hormones wil be doing that- you most definatley will have your beautiful baby in the next couple of days! your tummy is obviously too comfy!!!!

I agree you should treat yourself - if you have the engergy-

Sending lots of hugs to you xxxx

MITFORD- Men just cant seem to adjust-My hubby moans abput being tired all the time and out DD has sleft at least 7hour streches for the last 4 nights!!!

if i am honest he looks worse than me and has done since delivery!!! i keep telling him he had such a terrible time sitting in a chair passing me water for all of 40 mins!!!!

I do feel like the novelty has worn off a little with DH- feeling pretty much a one man band at the mo- i dont know if it is coz i just get on with things and i am managing bith DC and the house so well!![bludh] or if he cant be arsed!!!

sarah, I wonder if it's because women have to take on the responsibility for babies as they depend on us entirely, whereas men can take it or leave it. So they're not as committed naturally.

Plus, my dh has to work whilst I am off on maternity leave, which feels like a privelige. There might be an element of jealousy too as my time is taken up with the baby.

I'll give him a kick up the bum if he carries on, but I'm trying to be sympathetic for now as its obvious he's struggling a bit.

Congrats Jay - wow, I'm very impressed with the weight!!!

Hang in there princess...you're doing great!

I'm also v jealous of these long stretches during the night - we're still on three hourly feeds although I guess a lot of that is down to Daniel still getting over the antibiotics and upset. How do you do it???

Hope you start to feel better Tyaca and poblets...it's a tough time and very easy not to look after yourself.

My confidence has taken a pretty huge knock after everything that's gone on...my CPN is thinking of upping my anti depressants for a little while until I can relax a bit more, but I don't really want to go down that route. My DH, too, always seems to be tired even though I'm doing all the night feeds. He tries hard, bless him, but seems to think that it should be easier than it is - we have a newborn baby for goodness sake!!!

Hope you're ok Jo. The strep thing could happen to anyone - I'm sure you're doing a great job as a mum - don't let it get your confidence down!! I think my ds is around the same age as yours ( weeks on Mon) and we're on 3 or 3 1/2 hourly feeds in the night too. I'm sure Daniel is making up for lost time too after feeling poorly!!

I've been feeding pretty much constantly since 7.30 this morning . Thought he'd gone for a sleep just now but just been informed he's woken up again. DH working but luckily mum and dad were through to help out with the older 2 whilst lo has been feeding. Hoping it's just a growth spurt and not a new habit!! He's had a little cold for the last few days so could just be he's feeling better and hungrier I guess.1

Hope everyone is wellxx

We're still doing the 3 hourly feeds (the other night was a fluke!) although sometimes it varies by about half an hour
Princess-you're not a failure, please don't think of yourself that way!

Had a fun walk to see the lambs yesterday which ended up with DD1 falling flat in a deep puddle then sobbing the whole way home. I then managed to break the bedside cot by leaning on it but none of it is bothering me now the infacol has started working. DD2 is a new, happy, baby. She weighs 11oz3 now, a gain of nearly 2lbs.
Looking at the size of her I am in awe of Jay pushing one that size out!

hi all!!!

Am going to write up my birth announcment in a minute over on the 'appropriate' thread, but wanted to thank you all for your kind words and congratulations!

Wanted also to say to PL, i know EXACTLY how you feel. When i text you to say i was on my to the hospital, i was actually crying then. I felt so let down by my inability to have a spontaneous labor, it also felt like i was 'giving in' - but I got there and my MW was so nice though, she really talked me through a lot of things and took her time when doing everything. I had a pretty hard time from the consultant that was on, from questioning me as to why i wasn't having a section, to - did i know what could ultimately happen should my baby suffer a bad shoulder dystocia...i mean all that and i am already over emotional from having to be induced.....! ANYWAY the point is, listen to what they say, ask ANY question, no matter what it is, don't be afraid of making a decision on your own, if need be you CAN always change your mind, be open minded, things dont always go to plan...but most of all, TRY and enjoy the experience, this labor wont ever happen again, so try and stay positive. xxx

Right then, off to do my write up, will catch up with everyone soon xxxx

jays - congrats congrats congrats. worth the wait . and well done on growing such a whopper! sounds like you were making things far too comfortable. look forward to the write up.... and pics?

oh, princess, i wont repeat what everyone's saying about you not being a failure - hopefully, you'll be feeling ok(ish) again by the time you check in again, so won't need to hear it.

poblets - that sounds awful. i have been moaning away about so many things, your list makes mine sound trivial ...

well, dd had not stopped crying hysterically for 6 hours now. it is breaking me down piece by piece. 6 hours is an exaggeration, on maybe three occassions she calmed down and started snoozing, we then made the mistake of - trying to move her even slightly (mainly out of arms), and all hell broke loose. Food's going straight through her and she seems so distressed. dh finding it v difficult - we been arguing in general, which we never never do, but tonight so awful. we had loads of visitors today, and i think that;s what's set dd off. she barely slept, overstimulated and now cant calm herself down.

and whats more i can smell manky cheese wherever i am and i think it may be me. #

sorry, i am a moan-arama at the moment, all ok really, just writing it down helps.

big love to all - and congrats again to jaysthird

finally! am having contractions every 8 minutes . probably won't be grinning soon. dh has instructed me not to wake him unless i really have to . mum is upstairs asleep as well ready to look after lo in the morning and i'm having a bowl of cereal. will keep you all posted via jay, seems like we've got ages yet and we still can't agree on names. am determined to get my way this time, although have v little idea if it's a girl.
tyaca, remember dh and i having mahoosive rows in first 3 months with lo-usually conducted over the screaming from the moses basket at 3am. dh is normally the most placid man out. remember that sleep deprivation is used as a method of torture and it does weird things to your brain. also try to keep looking at the light at the end of the tunnel, i don't think i've ever laughed as much as i have the past 16 months since we had lo-def. an overall improvement in quality of life.
jay thank you for your kind words-really helpful..

and the rest of you too, thank you for being so supportive-has made the last week much more bearable.