Due June 2005, Thread 3

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Time for new thread. I'll add a link on the old one.

Ooh forgot to say...Bubaloo I'm there with you as I'm also gonna have to have the gestational diabetes blood test (my mum has late onset type 2 and now my dad's just been diagnosed this week with type 2 as well). I didn't know about the retesting afew hours later though - and as I'm petrified of needles I wouldn't want to be the nurse who has to deal with me in Feb

Hi All

it is absolutely pissing down here, why isn't it snow instead????

I have a manic day today, baking and doing loads of Christmas stuff, will hardly have time to sit here and chat

Welshie, my dd is almost 19 months and she is a cutie but we all think that about our babies don't we?? She has curly hair and huge brown eyes, very sweet natured with other children, and can never understand it when she gets toys grabbed from her or smacked in the face by another child! She loves singing and dancing especially, like her mother. I wish I could bring her to the meet, but don't really want to be bothered in central London!

I have to go and get my day started, I'm behind already!!!!!

Aaaah Lipstick yours sounds like such a sweetie and yours teabelly sounds like a such a little character - mine is doing the commands thing too 'Mummy don't sing!', 'Mummy don't talk I'm talking' etc

The command things are fine (although I have to try real hard not to PMSL) but it's the things they come out with too...ds has had a cold the last week or so, hence lots of bogies...so in a shop on tuesday he proudly tells the lasy behind us that 'mummy picks bogies' not I may say clarifying by saying actually mummy was picking them (with a tissue I might add) from around his crusty nose to enable him to breathe better!!

Love the kids with attitude! It's scary how young they start.

Lipstickmum, your DD sounds like a little angel.

I failed miserably in my attempt to wind people up at the Christmas party - once people realised I wasn't drinking they shut up instantly! Have now told everyone at work that I'm pregnant, so it's properly official. Have you all told everyone? I presume you haven't told that many people then Welshmum?

Right, we're off out to do some chores and visit some friends to trash their house instead of our own . Have fun at your party Teabelly, and good luck with your baking Lippy. What are you cooking? Hope you all have a lovely (wet) Friday.

I know what you mean teabelly, we're having to be SO careful now about what gets said round the house as it will get repeated with no frills by dd at inapropriate moments. Mind you her 'efelant' comment was entirely of her own making - we definitely shouldn't have laughed quite so loudly at it though

morning all

Well no tablets and still no sickness so am hoping that have turned the corner

Storied am DD (2.25) hmmmm, well yesterday we put the christmas decorations up and she announced that she loved 'shiney sparkly fluff' (tinsel) and after puting the crib out she kept removing baby Jesus saying ahhh baby jesus go to sleep. Generally all evening she just giggled and laughed and didn't know where to put herself and was beaming

bless!

Hi,

Not visited for a couple for days. Hope everyone's well. MrsW, Welshie, Mirage and JohahB - I want to send you (((MASSIVE hugs))) too and ultra best wishes.

Your babies sound delicious ladies! I'm still terrified of kids though....

I do miss Christmas work do's - they tended to resonate for several months afterwards - illegal snogging, table dancing, slimy propositions, scandalous gossip, puking in toilets....what fun!!!

Speaking of chocolate (well, you were yesterday); after munching my way through a WHOLE box of Lindor (the best choc in the world next to Lindt extra creamy!) in the space of 2 days last week, then moaning cos I felt sick, dp had banned me from choccy, unfortunately, my Gran sent my 2 boxes of Thorntons this morning! Oops.

PinkArjuna - I've read all your posts and I'm glad you're becoming more settled. Well done for finding a 2 bedroomed flat. Don't worry about it not being a big house with partner and stuff. I lived on my own with no support for many years, lived as a stranger in different cities, had to put myself through uni etc. It's a journey, that's for sure, but no matter how hard and depressing it can get, it can be very inspiring. With a bit of imagination you can make your environment really lovely and you don't need much money to do it either. You sound like you've got it sorted actually - a flat, car, internet, college, probably a mobile - I had none of those things, I lived in bedsits and squalid shared houses. I'm sure you'll soon make some decent mates too. There is no way I could have even considered having a baby. I just wanted to give you my support x

Am I being silly? Honest answers please!

As I think you all know - I am a teacher and love my job. I told the headteacher I was pregnant ages ago, and the rest of the staff shortly afterwards. Everyone was really pleased for me.

A few weeks later, my friend and colleague announced her pregnancy and again, everyone was over the moon - me included of course! Her baby is due about a three weeks after mine - she is about 12 weeks now I think.

It has been made very clear to me that I should not tell the children whom I have taught for well over a year already (and therefore have an excellent relationship with them and their parents!)about my pregnancy until well after Christmas. I am already finding it hard to disguise my pregnancy as I am naturally slim and therefore most of my work clothes are reasonably fitted as this style suits my frame! I have had some odd glances - but no parent has actually asked yet!

Anyway....my friend and colleague who is pregnant is leaving at Christmas as she is moving up north. She decided to show the children in her class her scan picture yesterday - and as she is leaving the parents made a surprise presentation in her class yesterday with the head. The head announced that Mrs. so and so is going to have her hands full because she is expecting a baby and there was a big cheer! I heard all this cos I am in an ajoining classroom. I felt a bit sad because I am not allowed to say anything because I am not leaving, therefore there will be a greater effect on the kids.

Today a special assembly was held in honour of my friend, and a big announcement was made in front of the whole school. Again there were cheers and congratulations. I am honestly over the moon for my friend - and in no way do I feel she has "stolen my thunder", but I feel that my pregnancy is just going to be a big inconvenience, and the parents will not be happy for me cos there kid's education will be disrupted cos I will be leaving before July. (Made worse cos I teach a year group who take SATS at around the time I would leave - I am going to try my hardest to see them out though)

I think I would have found it easier to take had her baby been due before mine - therefore an earlier announcent - but it isn't - it is due after mine.

I am not going to lose sleep over this - I am not that bothered - I just felt a little sad and maybe a little - but I am not usually like that!

What do you think? - Oh god, this post is very me me me - sorry!

I think I can understand how you feel. If you generally have a good relationship with the parents I'm sure they'll be delighted for you - Guaranteed a lot of them were worried about the impact of their pregnancies on their jobs. Personally, I probably would be a little jealous of your colleague - my scan pics would be metaphorically burning a hole in my pocket!! But you're going to get loads of attention for months, plus a leaving do of your very own when the time comes!

There's going to be so much time for everyone to get used to the idea, I bet you'll find most parents will love giving you advice. You can't possibly be the first teacher to get preggers at your school - and how many teachers (or any women) are lucky/organised enough to plan babies to coincide with the school year?? I'm sure your school is more than geared up for situations like this and will reassure everyone concerned.

Plus, you might be a litte hormonal so worrying a bit too much - I'm worrying about the most obscure things imaginable!!

hello everyone!!

its been a long time since i've posted. sorry.

had my dating scan today all is well im now 12 weeks and baby is due 3rd july, 3rd time they have changed my dates but this should be the final time now.

good luck everyone.

Megi
Can understand how frustrated you were about the events at work, but as Charleypops said you will get your moment. To make you feel less worried about the impact on the kids, I also teach in a primary school of 14 classes plus nursery and I am the 5th member of teaching staff to announce her pregnancy!! Luckily we have a very understanding head, who is praying the we can hold OFSTED off for another year!!

Katzguk, hope the sickness stays away!

Megi, I can understand your feelings, I'd definitely be if I was in your situation. But you will get lots of lovely attention as your pregnancy becomes more obvious - people are generally extra specially nice to ladies with big bumps. Not to mention an official leaving do when you go on maternity leave, so you will definitely get your moment.

Pandagirl, so pleased everything went well with your scan, great news.

I am feeling sooooooooooo fat today - I just can't stop eating. In fact I'd better go and scoff, am running out of eating time as I'll be off to bed soon.

evening all,
glad everyones doing fine
told my boss today about"our news" and it went really well-not as scary as i thought.i mentioned that i would probably like to come back maybe 2 or 3 days a week(instead of full-time)after the baby is born and there doesnt seem to be a problem with that
mrs w-im actually in essex(near romford)although it would be great to be in the u.s.a
i think gestational diabetes isnt that unusual as ive seen loads of pregancy programmes on discovery health and a few of the women have had the condition throughout their pregancies so hopefully it might not be too bad!
teabelly-i also hate needles aswell as hospitals and doctors-infact im dreading the birth already-ha ha!!
maybe they are testing me as dh's mum had diabetes quite badly as they did ask at my booking appointment if anyone on EITHER side had it,especially as theyre testing you as both your parents have it.
megi-i can understand how you feel as i would also feel a little left out but i agree with charleypops as im sure the time will come soon when you will be made a fuss of at work and you'll probably get so much attention it'll annoy you-best of luck

thanks, still feeeling okay so fingers crossed!

Thanks everyone! - I think I just need to put it in perspective - and you lot have helped me to do that!

Hi everyone,
Hope the weekends are going well?

Megi, sory about what happened with your friend and colleague. I can understand how you wanted to shout out "I'm pregnant toooooo!" I'm sure you would have had the same treatment if you had been leaving It will be great when you tell everyone, you'll get loads of good wishes and support and prezzies!!! If some of the parent's put a downer on it by moaning about their child's education being interrupted blah blah fucking blah just take a deep breath and have a reasonable, patient response at hand that makes them realise that you life does not revolve around their children You will be there till the end of the year anyway. I'm a teacher too, I know what it can be like!

See you all later, am going to spend the afternoon wrapping prezzie's and watching musicals on tv

Hello everyone.

Word of warning - am not in a good mood at all. I am sick to the back teeth of people telling me what I am going to feel and how I am going to be when the baby is born. It seems that the people who know you least are the ones that are most insistent upon giving you these pearls of flippin' wisdom. Wish they'd bogof and mind their own sodding business.

Megi - All these parents have HAD children. I'm sure that their clients, customers, patients etc all accepted their time off whenever they had to have it so they are just going to have to accept the fact of life that you need your time off too.

As to all the fuss that was made over your friend, I understand completely. One of the girls at work had an abortion in the summer and now she "finds" herself pregnant again (yes, abortion again too) and all we ever hear about is how ill she is, how she is suffering, poor her etc etc. I know that people suffer diferently but she won't help herself at all (I've been trying to get her to eat to reduce the sickeness etc) All I want to do is tell her to shut up! I'm sure she wouldn't be carrying on like that if she knew about my situation. I know that sounds terrible and I'm really sorry, but you just get so annoyed with some people, I suppose I shouldn't, but I think it would be different if she hadn't already had an abortion and wasn't planning on another one.

Sorry girls, it's cold and miserable here - must be taking it's toll.

Pink - Am so plaesed that you are feeling better. You sound really settled now. x

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Hi All,

Scraggyaggy - I know exactly what you mean. This is my first, but I'm getting people (esp my male customers, wierdly) putting the fear of * in me, telling me I have to book nursery places now and have I thought about school waiting lists, and what about church schools.. and on and on they go. Its very frustrating. I've enough to worry about without these extra snippets!

I love all you kids stories, they all sound lovely, but like you Charleypops, I'm terrified of little children. Is this anyone else's first time as well?

I heard some lovely news on Fri night - one of my closest friends is 11 wks pgt. I'm so excited about having a close friend on hand to share this with (and excited for her obviously). It goes without saying that I had to stop myself blubbering in the middle of a restaurant.....

I had a weird session on friday with respect to advice, i met a friend for dinner who 7months pg and so people from her aqua class and most of them were a few years older than me and asking me for advice which was very odd!!! i tend to only offer advice when asked but i have to agree that like you i hate being given unwanted advice. My mum gave me a great piece of advice though ' when people are giving you their words of wisdom, nod smile and agree and then do exactly what you want to do!!'

i have to say that we have already got this bumps name down for nursery, BUT its the one DD's at, they do school term contracts (so don't pay for 10 weeks that DH is off) and they only take 5 6-12month olds. The waiting list is over a year long!!!! this baby will hopefully start Jan 2006!!

Morning all,
Hope you're feeling better about your situation Megi - I think we are held ransom by hormones when we're pg. I certainly go through all sorts of extremes - sometimes in the space of 30 minutes!
Thanks for all your kindness last Thursday I feel like a cloud has lifted now - just so much better about everything.
DD was in her nativity play on Sunday morning - her and her 2 little friends were all dressed in white with stars on their heads. The little scamps upstaged everyone else by 'ballet dancing' through all the carols.

Morning all,

Hope you all had good weekends. Mum had ds so we were able to do the last bits of Christmas shopping, tidy the house and wrap all the pressies...besides actually cooking the dinner I'm 'there' for Christmas - and I'm godsmacked, I'm normally the one flying around like a lost fart in a thunderstorm on Christmas eve willing inspiration for pressies to come to me before staying up until midnight wrapping the darn things!!

Megi, I understand how you feel, things don't seem fair sometimes and esp when we have hormones to deal with too, but as others have said your 'kids' and their parents will I'm sure be over the moon for you, and you'll probably forget all about this once you're leaving do comes.

Scraggy - unwanted advice - know exactly where you're coming from only I wish mine had come from people I knew the least...unfortunately mine was coming (conflictingly obviously) from my mum and the mil!! As other's have said smile and then take heed of the bits that seem like a good idea to you and as for the rest of it...just do it your own way.

Bubbaloo, I'm glad I'm not the only needle scaredy cat, he he he. I think you're right you would probably be asked to have the tests because of your mil's situation.

Well rather dissapointingly no gossip from the christmas party - a potential fight but it was diffused - so not as good as last year...and then I remembered last year's gossip was all about my drunken antics - oh well there's always next year, he he he!

welshmum