August 2008 - the 2nd thread (what an interesting thread title!)

[CaptainCaveman]

so, scan went well and we are only having the one (phew!). Saw the heart beat and tiny bean is just 2cm crown to rump!!
8w 4d, gives me a revised due date of aug 16th. Yay, am so happy!!

the pains are the same, still there unfortunately, will call midwife if they get much worse, otherwise just gonna hang in there till scan tomorrow . fingers and toes crossed xxxx

Well done with your essay Caveman, I was always rubbish for not meeting wordcounts - combination of a very concise style and a shallow, lazy brain! My BA dissertation was only supposed to be 6000 words and I didn't even manage that!

Sarahnh - are the pains bad enough to make you feel unsafe driving? If so, would visit walk-in clinic ASAP (shocking pun unintended).

I was sick this afternoon for the first time in a week or so - I was livid! My delicious mocha milkshake was not so delicious 2nd time round. Got new stairs and landing carpet fitted today, had been dreading it, convinced I'd chosen badly but it looks ok. Just hope I don't puke or break my waters on it or something LOL.

Good luck you guys - am signing off now. Started bleeding on Monday and had a scan this morning: apparently everything stopped around week 6 but only now is the actual m/c starting. I was pleasantly surprised by how helpful and sympathetic the staff in the hospital were after things I've heard from other people: they really did make things as easy as possible for me.

Hope everything goes well for the rest of you, I'm away to crack open a nice bottle of red and have a bit of a think about this whole mum thing.

cheers

pinguin x

to Pinguin and your DP, be kind to yourselves.

hi Ladies
I popped up late last year but haven't been active on the thread since. Wondering if anyone has any tips or hints on staying calm in early pregnancy in the face of adversity. My dh was diagnosed with stomach cancer on Friday and I'm totally distraught. The outlook is positive, we think at this stage, but I'm beside myself and worrying about coping with the next 7 months of pg whilst caring for a husband undergoing intense chemo and major ops. Not a normal post, I know, but you are all full of so much great advice I'm hoping you have some good stuff up your sleeves.

Scan is in a couple of weeks and I spoke to the team of midwives at the hospital who were very reassuring, but I'm still desperately worried about keeping this little one safe. help!

Sorry Pinguin

{{{hugs}}}}Pinguin so sorry but tip my glass (of water) to you as you sound very good given the circumstances. I conceived two weeks after my MC...I wish you the same luck if you want it.

Feeling like crap myself as I too had a child crawl into my bed at 2am...only after I'd woken at 12:30pm needing to vomit. Controlled the puke with crackers and gatoraid but then couldn't go back to sleep. I laid there putting names together...Does anything go with Roxy? My body aches from lack of proper sleep. Have had same horrible notion as Sarahnh that something's not quite right. But I feel so bad things must be normal, right? Emotions are all over the place. PLUS I had to drive to a local construction supply store for closet doors so the carpenters could finish today. The shop foreman was an ASS. Our conversation went like Abbott and Costello's "Who's on First". I finally said, "I'm very pregnant and about to puke!" I've worked construction on and off for 20 years and this guy either didn't know what the $%* he was talking about or intentionally was being a $&%. Phoned DH from the parking lot and told him he would have to deal with it on Saturday. Thus...a delay in my project..... Oh but my day get's better as I come home only to find my cat, which I've put up in the guest room so she's out of the carpenter's way, has tinkled on the floor. GEEZZZZ! All I want to do is tell everyone to go away so I can go back to BED!!!!! {{{B R E A T H}}}

Captain, Grand Job finishing your paper. I'd be unable to type 100 words on a subject today....unless it's complaining about my day .

Welcome newbies/lurkers.

Hi to newbies and so sorry to those we've lost.

CC - well done, 14months of nothing but treating yourself to a glowing pregnancy!!

Huge sympathies to all of those up with the little dears during the night, my girls are tag teaming me and that coupled with my insomnia is not making me very pleasant on early shift!! DD2 currently running a temp and has the most excessive salivation that I hae ever seen - soaking through plastic backed nappies and I've had to change twice withing minutes after she has cuddled in - very strange.

Becks74, first of all congrats on your pg and am so sorry it has coincided with such a difficult time in your life. I am dealing with my mum who is on her 5th cancer in 5yrs (genetic problems not just complete misfortune) All I can say is that hopefully now they've diagnosed what is wrong with your dh they can get the treatment started asap and it will be a huge success. Watching you get more and more pregnant will only make him more and more determined to succeed with his treatment and give him something to get stronger. Do you have a local Maggies Centre? They are wonderful support for patients/families and an unending source of information and comfort - anyone can go, it doesn't need to be for anything more than a relaxation session or cup of tea. You'll have to take care of yourself and your dh in the near future so its important to get the right support to do it. oprah session over for now

TS - carry on with the ranting, after day I've had being dragged in and out of office & human resources its cheered me up to know there are others in the world trying to infuriate those other than just me!! lol

Scan tomorrow pm so hopefully nothing more will have come of this bleeding and we'll get a more definate date for this bub!

x

If it's ok with you dizzy I'd rather not be pg for 14 months

Hugs Pinguin, you sound very sensible given the circumstances.

beck what a huge mixture of emotions! pg or cancer are enough to cope with on their own, let alone at the same time.
What advice did the hospital give you last week? BACUP are a fab cancer help associaton, as are macmillan. And how's your dh taking the news?

One thing is to make sure all staff treating your dh know you are pg - there are some chemicals in chemo that CAN cause problems for the fetus. But if the staff know you are pg they will know what to advise you.

What are we like Sarah and TS - the pains I got yesterday and today was enough to convince me that something was very wrong. Well, nothing we can do except take good care of ourselves, ease off the paranoia and wait for scans. Easier said than done, I've only got to wait until tomorrow morning but I'm still bobbing myself!!

Hello again everyone. I've not been around as my MS went from bad to underweight-(don't hate me!)-worse. Just started to feel a bit better this week, and so began catching up with everyone's happy and sad news, when today I got the sort of scare some of you have already had and others fear - bright red bleeding. As I've had a MC I was straight off to the GP who was very helpful, getting me an emergency scan within an hour. Thrilled to say there is a happy ending - at 9wks Bean is completely alright .

Pinguin if it is any consellation (sp blankout) I'm 37 and got PG again extremely quickly after my MC - on the note of DHs being very impressed with their 'Swimmers', mine duly announced himself in possession of "Uber Lead"...
x

So glad everything is ok Bea, how scary, but how good is your gp!!
hope you are feeling better too?
I;m slowly becoming pie-shaped from all the eating I'm doing

evening ladies, just thought I'd let you know I'm back in the land of the living - just. After a week in hospital on a drip and defying all anti-sickness meds they have finally found something that is just about keeping the sickness at bay - I am on a hugely restricted diet, no chance of any weight gain as all fat is out! The dr told me that I have hypermesis gravidum that will more than likely last til the end! Joy! May have to cancel trip to France if that is the case as I love French food too much. I have also had a really hard evening writing an email to a close friend who I haven't seen for ages as she lives in NZ but has sent an email today to tell me that she had a stillborn baby girl on Sunday, her dad died 18mths ago, one month after her niece who made it to three weeks, so sad.
Hope all of you are well and that people are getting through their sickness and icky feelings and are getting to that revitalised stage. At the moment I just feel drained and dizzy but keeping my fingers crossed.

Much love

ps. had a scan whilst in and all fine with the baby, due date confirmed as 14 Aug

bonjourno people

just had a whole day without being sick! Heavenly. Made the crucial error of making chocolate rice crispie cakes - scoffed the whole damn lot. And a big bag of mini eggs. Damn easter chocolates.

oh giggle girl how do they know it will last to the end? My HG took my keitones (sp) to +4 and was very serious from weeks 6-11 but has since worn right away - keep your chin up girl. It could not be for much longer (most sites say it peaks from 9-13 weeks)
thinking of you and all the other pukers XXX

ps got my scan on friday - finally! I'll be 2 days off 14weeks!

Hi Joan, thanks for your support - my ketones were also at +4 consistently despite drip as well. The dr said that what I had wasn't morning sickness (not sure how they can tell and it could end betweek 20 and 21 weeks but if it doesn't will last the 40!) as long as these tablets control it i'll just eat jacket potato and beans for another 30 weeks!

pinguin

beck74,i can't imagine what you must be feeling, but you will find a lot of support on here. do you have any dc's or is this your first?

first and foremost, make sure you get enough sleep and keep up a good diet. you have to take care of yourself to be the strong one for the three of you. my heart really goes out to you. {{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}

Giggle I do hope your sickness ends as that type diet sounds icky on the long term.

Okay this is me being poor pitiful whiny pregnant lady. I feel ugly. Not just any kind of ugly but homeless, bag-lady ugly. DH took us out to dinner. After being seated I realized I was still in my sweats from the morning. I glance up to see this cute girl with a beautiful wool sweater, scarf and hat. She was all bubbley and smiley. I just wanted to crawl under the table and die. I didn't even look at myself in the mirror before I walked out the door. Lord knows my brows probably need to be MOWED. I just feel like my mojo has gone bye-bye. All I do is sleep, nibble, puke, or complain about one of those three. WHAT HAS THIS PREGNANCY DONE TO ME?!? I'm a vibrant woman....at least I was. Where's those makeover folks when you need them.

Night!

Oops I almost forgot what I really needed to post. This lower belly area (between the hip bones) funny feeling (maybe even a little twitchy pain-like)...is everyone feeling that? Also I've had some funky pelvic floor spasms the past couple of days...mostly in the evening or after I've gone to sleep (so early in the morning). Anybody had that sensation? The belly stuff I can rationalize but the pelvic floor stuff is bizarre. I remember feeling something similar about 24 weeks with DD. I imagined she was jumping up and down on the exit . The current resident isn't big enough to jump up and down yet.

LOL, was going to post about speedy hairgrowth myself! I simply can't pluck my own eyebrows when I'm pg for some reason, maybe it hurts more? Maybe the baby won't letme hurt myself? Soon as I feel a bit better (fingers crossed) I will be off to the salon. And my face is still spotty but with that kind of rundown blotchy dryness between the spots, yeugh. And I don't like the new layers in my hair, makes the top all mushroomy unless I straighten it every day. Thinking I will get the bottom long bits cut off next time and just have one shorter mop, would be quicker to straighten too. And my tummy is hilariously big, but still not baby. I have a photo of me at 30wks with my DD and if I stand right it's the same size now!
Rant over.

Good morning,

Really sorry to hear of those who are leaving us

Becks - I have no words of wisdom i'm afraid, can't imagine what you're going through but everyone on here always seems to have such good advice and at least we are all ears when you need to talk, thinking of you and hoping that you and DH get through the next few months as stress free as is possible in such circumstances. {{{hug}}}

Twilight - Oh don't you just loathe those moments! Bet you didn't really look that bad though, just felt it maybe - I feel like that too at times, but that is PG for you with two toddlers to look after (one, two, three of them am sure is just all the same), felt so rough yesterday that I took DC upstairs with me while i showered and washed my hair and put something decent on, that fit! Where are the days of sitting at mirror straightening long shiny locks (as opposed to 24/7 ponytail and applying this and that and smelling gorgeous, a makeover sounds great btw, put my name down.

CC - bet your relieved it's almost all done now, hurray!

JW - LOL at chocolate binge - can't stand much chocolate at the moment which is a very good thing indeed for me!!

GG - sorry to hear of your friend's sad news and hope you are feeling a little better.

Hi to anyone i may have missed and hope you are all good and scans all well today.

DS has just thrown my clean washing pile from table to floor obviously my cue to go and give him attention now!!!! talksoon x

Have been contemplating my beergut some more and as I watched it undulating gently, the thought occurred... what if it's twins and that's why it goes so high already. (Couldn't possibly be just fat ) Will try and get some pics up for your entertainment.

really sorry for your loss pinguin, keep safexxx

Waiting for this afternoon to get scan done, pains still really bad and have a horrible sinking feeling but hey it its not over til the fat lady sings so all my fingers and toes are crossed!xxxx

hahahahahaha, thanks you guys, you really make me smile with talk of wobbly undulating bits.

i was looking at my rapidly expanding girth this morning, thinking "perhaps it isn't just fat..." until I looked again and saw the 2 rolls lying on top of the other one.

Really excited about the scan in 1hr but really nervous too.

Good luck for this afternoon Sarah, will be thinking of you and praying too. ((((sarah))))

Morning ladies.

Just popping in to say sorry to those that have had to leave. Hope you can get the support you need.

Becks74 - Really agree with what everybody has said especially Dizzydixies, she puts things so well. Just try to remember to look after yourself and baby and that will give your DP extra reason to fight.

Sorry to everybody else who is still feeling rubbish. Hopefully soon we'll get to that 'glowing' stage where we also get some energy back.

Good luck to those having scans today, especially to sarahn, fingers crossed everything is ok and you'll be on here later telling us all how silly you feel for worrying over nothing