Anybody else pregnant with twins – or more?

[nh101andhertwinbeans]

My twins are due in May and it would be nice to have other multiple-mums-to-be to chat to!

Hi Tallulahbelle. I am going to co sleep my two when they arrive. I have a cot bed which will be going in my room for the first few months for them to share. We have a 3 bedroom house and I have 2 DS's already. They have actually just gone into the largest romm together tonight for the first time. Hopefully in a few years we shall be able to extend the house and add another bedroom. I am also using my old pram for the first few weeks for them to share until they get too big for it. I am going by the theory that as thye have spent 9 months side by side they will be more settled by keeping them together when they come out!!

Tallulah, I'm in same situation at PN, they've got a cot-bed to share/we have 3 beds and 2 ds's sharing already. I was thinking about a travel cot with bassinet or a co-sleeper cot (I think the arms rest ones look great) if we need one in our bedroom, I'd prefer for them to sleep together. Quite common by all accounts, I'm going to ask the hospital if they can share a cot when they finally arrive.

Sounds reasonable. Just wondered if I was being swayed by trying to save space & money rather than what was best for the babies. I guess they really don't move about & I would be swaddling initially then sleeping bags. Were you thinking side by side or top to toe?

Most the books I have read do advise puttin g them together, there is the GF one which my friend has told me about which advises against letting them co sleep but she seems to be the only one. I shall be sleepping mine side by side to start off with.

I'm going to sleep them side by side too. Partly space and partly what they are used to/ advice in books. If they start disturbing each other, or one is more unsettled etc., I have borrowed a spare moses basket so they could be separate too. Go with the flow...

accessorize, how are you coping with these last few days? What's 'the next step'? Will you wait for them to come naturally/ have another sweep, or schedule a c-section? They're obviosuly quite happy/ comfy (even if you're not!) and doing well in there anyway, or they would have come out.

Mine slept together very happily. Remember they'll have spent about 9 months squashed up against each other so sharing a bed isn't going to be a bad thing, plus I found that they slept better with another body beside them.

Hello!

No matter how awful/painful/tiresome/scary things are now ... it is all worth it!!!

Merry I have some lovely tiny-baby clothes if you want to have a look through - totally didnt think about it when you came round.

The 'tiny baby' clothes we took to hospital were MASSIVE on them! The doctor was laughing at me. Little hats all akimbo on their scrunched up newborn faces.

pbh if you have them at 36 weeks then chances are good they will either need no time in SCBU or maybe just a few days, they should be cooked by then.

gbb snap on dts positions - mine didnt move at all - too posh to be pushed I reckon

Hope things happen for AQ very soon. GBB - did enjoy yoga last week very much, the best so far I thought. Was slightly dreading it following her comments the week before. I'm all for the mind/body connection, but feel it's utterly unhelpful to place the blame for TTTS in the mother's lap as a result of her stress. Sheer ignorance. Had my babies already developed TTTS I'd have been really upset. Having said that will continue to go as she is very sweet, just a little naive..
Interesting to hear about the cot sleeping ideas, I must get serious about all this stuff. Our flat is on the market (couldn't be a worse time) so I feel a bit in limbo as to preparing for it all. Anyone know of any particularly narrow baby car seats? Having ditched our ancient peugeot 205 after it finally died last year and replaced it with a second hand Saab saloon, we didn't think ahead to 3 kids! Our DS1 is in a maxi-cosi isofix 9months - 4years number, which seems to take up a lot of room and spill over to the middle seat. We've a maxi cosi baby seat he had when little which again as far as I remember is quite wide, so I'm wondering if anyone knows of a narrower baby one that might fit between the two? Can't afford to replace the car or the car seats, though obviously the latter would be cheaper to do, so would be grateful for any advice. Was also wondering when anyone told their toddler about the impending chaos of 2 new siblings into their lives and any handy hints re that? Thanks in advance..

Pazza, the tiny stuff sounds great. But what about your next set of twins . I got some from ebay (5), just white ones. Gosh, if tiny is huge, what's newborn gonna be like?!! Thanks for words of encouragement about it all being worth it, I know that in the back of my head, but the sleep deprivation is doing my head in! I'm sure babies must wake up less than I am at the moment!!

Hi Nellstar, not sure about the car seat thing. We opted for the new car as our middle seat was very narrow. Maybe take a trip somewhere that sells a huge range (with car) and experiment a bit. We told our ds very early on that mummy was having a baby and then he was at the scan which said there were 3 babies. Plus getting him to count 3 babies kind of helped us get to grips with it. When that was revised to 2 babies it didn't seem to bother him whatsoever, but he was only 2 and a half then. Now he is totally into the idea of 2 babies, just seems natural to him, he probably thinks everyone has 2!

My Mum bought him 'twin' dolls, a boy and a girl and he adores them. Last night dh put him to bed, and when I went to check he was 'co-sleeping' with both his babies, one each side of him. I asked dh if he'd given him the 'babies' to sleep with and he said, "No". Ds must've got out of bed, found them and put them into bed with him. The three of them were all snuggled up - it was too adorable! Still, the real babies are going to be a lot more of a challenge in terms of mummy's time/ attention and probably general moodiness.

Still waiting for AQ news. Every time she's not around I assume it is happening, and then it isn't. Must be so annoying for the poor girl. SO no assumptions this time!

Sorry mel, I forgot to ask how you are. Have been thinking of you. I hope all is well with you...let us know.

Still here, induction set for my due date which is october 1st after I turned down one this week. Mars please reassure me I am doing the right thing hanging on for a 'natural' birth at 40 weeks!!!! Just couldn't face hormone drip again, enough machines attached to me as it is I feel.

Nell, don't know about narrow seats although we have the maxi-cosi priori and it is fairly wide. If you check the products thread, they have lots about which 3 seats will go across which car or you could start your own.

Mel, hope all is alright and no more bleeding.

Wow, AQ, you are amazing...what self control! It's always best for the babies to stay in longer, I think. If they are not doing well in there they will bring themselves out. My friend was induced at 37 weeks and one of her twins has some mild issues. I'm sure she blames herself as she's always saying, "I wish I'd hung on longer." I'm still not sure I'll manage to despite her encouragement on it, but we will cross that bridge if/ when we come to it.

OK, I don't need to think ANYTHING until next week, and if it happens earlier then so be it...were your other babies on time/ late? Ds was 40+4.

AQ - think you are right to hang on. Another week seems like an eternity at moment but I imagine when you look back it's nothing onto the other 39 weeks you've gone already (my DD was 41+1 & arrived all by herself on her induction day, good girl). Although don't know if its different for twins, placenta issues etc but would imagine they'll come when ready & the closer to due date the better.

AQ - think you are right to hang on. Another week seems like an eternity at moment but I imagine when you look back it's nothing onto the other 39 weeks you've gone already (my DD was 41+1 & arrived all by herself on her induction day, good girl). Although don't know if its different for twins, placenta issues etc but would imagine they'll come when ready & the closer to due date the better.

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Well done AQ. Of course you're doing the right thing. If you and the babies are healthy there is no need to rush things. I would imagine that the babies will come before then (talk to them my lovely and tell them that 30th September is when you want them to make their appearance). Sorry I can't be there to hold your hand (because I would!)

hi all,
i went into hospital again on saturday with more bleeding and some pain. i have been given some antibiotics and told to rest. i have felt better today but every little pain in am worrying. i have a big scan tomorrow so i am hoping they will be able to see if its one of the placentas detaching. i am doing partial bed rest at the moment (well sitting with my feet up on the sofa). i even got OH to cut the grass and do a supermarket shop yesterday!! the twins have just reached viability so i am praying they will stay in for a few more weeks.
i am so glad that i have everything bought so i dont have that to worry about as well.

AQ you are so brave, i hope they decide to make an appearance unassisted soon. you must be sooo excited!!!! i cant wait to see the photos

Oh Mel - that sounds scary. Good luck with the scan tomorrow. I'm having scan tomorrow too & hoping they can explain to me how to tell with the movements if it's one twin or the other or both. Can't figure out how to tell if both moving about as should be. Have you taken time off work to rest? Hopefully everything will be fine. Be thinking of you.

Oh mel, really sorry to hear all that, you take it easy now and actually rest! Hope the scan goes well and news is good, I'm sure you'll be able to keep them in for a few more weeks.

Thanks all for positive messages, yes I figure in the long run if I hang on a week it might mean no section and I really don't want that, nor does dp. I would always feel like your friend, I think Merry - if only I'd waited...I delivered ds1 at 42 weeks exactly and ds2 at 37+3. Just anxious that labour will be harder now they're so much bigger although dr didn't seem to think it a problem. I'm really scared about it all when I allow myself to be tbh so best keep busy then.

We're finally getting our galaxy tomorrow after dp rang up to cancel the order as they'd been so slack! And I decided today absolutely that I can no longer drive after saying that last week. There's no way I can drive an MPV if I can't manage our estate very well (drove myself to hospital today). So relying on friends and family to pick up the boys from school and nursery for the rest of the week.

Meant to say, Tallulah, I've never been able to tell which twin is moving all this time!

mel, hope all goes well with scan. It's reassuring they can have a look and let you know what's happening and if all is ok.

AQ, I had to adjust the seat again today, I am virtually driving lying down. Feel like Formula one driver!! Driving the Previa is easier than our Mazda actually as steering is better and it has a bleepy thing when you reverse so no need to twist around. You may find it's lighter, but then again, I guess you don't want to risk scratching it whereas you can feel a bit more carefree with old car .

Tallulah, I can sometimes tell which twin as they are lying across me, one right down the bottom and one round belly button so the movement are usually in very different places, but the lower one (girl) doesn't move a lot. Can get worried and then she will heave round and sit on my bladder!

tallulah careful what you wish for love, Anais was breech and didnt move much, I started to worry about it and she promptly started tapdancing on my bladder at regular intervals

merry how cuuuute is your little boy!! How big is your bump now?

ooh tallulah how cute is your DD???!! i love that she has the mohawk in all the pictures!