Due May 05 part 3

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just spent the day tramping around oxford street - exhausting - but I did get given a seat on the tube on two occasions by sticking my tummy out so that was a result. ended up buying lots of baby clothes and maternity clothes but no equipment. anyone got any car seat tips? are the ones that fit into pushchairs any use or is it best to have both (car seat and pushchair separately)? am such a beginner ...

Hello girls. Last time we got a Graco travel system which we will reuse for this baby. My only complaint really is that the pram bit didn't last us for very long because it was too bulky. We switched to a Maclaren buggy when ds could sit up which took up far less boot space! We did find a travel cot very useful both for travelling (ds has only just outgrown it at 2 and 3 months) and for use as a playpen when I needed a shower etc... The Moses basket was a waste of money because ds loathed it and only slept in it for about 2 months! What else... the breast pump was really handy - for my sake, not the baby's! We also splashed out on a lovely, padded, rocking chair from John Lewis which was great for night-time feeds.

I was shocked to find this morning that my non- maternity but bigger size jeans that were loose last week were too small this week! My bump has expanded overnight. I feel at least 6 months pregnant too.

We had a nice, quiet Christmas at the in-laws and we are going to go there for New Year's too. Although they are fairly local, we can stay the night and they will look after ds

Hi Fisil. I live in Croydon? Not sure if you know it? Yes this is my first baby. I am so looking forward to having it and becoming a Mum! I have my 20 week scan next Friday and can't wait to see if its a boy or girl. I have had to resist temeptation and not buy all the lovely girl dresses I have seen in the sales! I don't know why I am convinced its a girl!
I have bought a Mama's and Papa's buggy. Piggagio I think is the name? It comes with the car seat and loads of other things as well. Its quite compact and easy to push, especially for a non car driver like myself!!

Hello all!

car seats: we got the Mama's & Papas pushchair & car seat. We only put the carseat in the pushchair once (and that was cos it was the first time we'd used the pushchair & couldn't work out the belt system! But they were both good ones and will be reused! We didn't bother buying the carry cot bit, and I can't really see when we would have used it.

moses basket: only got one cos ds was overdue during the January sales (real gap in the market overdue women - they'd buy anything!). He never really took to it, we only used it for two weeks. I reckon on about £10 per sleep it cost us!

yes, pump and bottle feeding stuff was VITAL. I didn't take the decision to use either under controlled, calm conditions. I was desperate both times, and would not have been able to cope with decision making, walking round a shop, or even sitting in a car at the time! (ditto dummy, actually, it was a joke Xmas present and I'm glad we had it!)

SamC, we're in SW20, so not too far away. This is my second, ds is 2 very soon.

OMG, I've just realised that this was my due day two years ago! Wow, what memories ....

Happy New Year everybody! We did (just) manage to stay up until midnight to see the new year in. We went to my mum's house, and I was the only one that didn't fall asleep at some stage before 12! (we were watching a DVD)

Fisil, just for info, the Kiddicare shop seemed to sell lots more than the website. If you think you might want to buy anything, I suggest you check their internet prices 1st - some items seemed to be cheaper in store, and some more expensive - very confusing!

DH finally felt baby move this week. It's great to be able to share something to do with the baby together - he didn't share in my morning sickness!!! Only a few days left until my scan (thurs 6th) - I'm so excited! Good Luck to any of you with scans coming up soon!

Rachel x

Happy New Year one and all.

Happy new year everyone!

Happy New Year!
I even got a glass of champagne
Tomorrow, the decorations are coming down though...

Just wanted to wish everyone here awarabest with their pregnancies. Have decided to try to wean myself off the computer for a while!!!

Fisil, you must live in Raynes Park then? I moved from there last August

My maternity PJs turned up today. I would recommend getting a couple of pairs to the first timers on here. I think that the winter stock is just about disappearing though...I managed to get some red tartan ones. I've never understood why most manufacturers think that practically transparent, white PJs are the thing to have - especially after the birth. Messy

happy new year everyone!
thanks for the tips very excited because the baby has been wriggling. I only felt it properly for the first time on xmas eve but the last couple of days it's been really active.

I had my first check-up today - feel like I've reached the serious point! I didn't manage to see my own GP when I was so down just before Xmas, but I did see her today, and she'd read all the notes and we talked through everything again. It feels so good that they are all so supportive and have said that if it all gets too much I can be signed off. Hopefully knowing that is enough to keep me going! Why is it all so hard hard hard?

Yes I am SamCattie. Were you Apostle or Blay?

Are you feeling better now, Fisil? I admit that I've been feeling depressed lately too but it seems to come and go.

I saw the baby's hand/foot sticking out of my stomach today! Looking in the mirror, it was square!

I think you're right, logic, it just comes and goes. Some days I feel fine and able to cope (especially over Xmas when I was home with ds & dp) some days I just feel crap like I cannot cope with anything. I don't know what the answer is - I try to take it easy, lower my standards etc. like I should - but they aren't things that come easily to me! I think I should be padding around at home right now - not teaching several hours every day and leading a large department!

TBH, it doesn't make a difference being at home all that much. Dh still has to work and I spend the day with a 2 year old for conversation I don't know what the answer is either. I am hoping that when the baby is born, I can start taking the ADs that I should have had before I found out that I was pregnant! It is manifesting itself in odd ways too. This will sound appalling but I was devastated when I found out that it was a girl, for no logical reason that I can work out. I didn't know that I cared...

I understand, logic. I was overjoyed that I was having a boy - disproportionately so. It made me feel like a huge weight was lifted. I think it's something very clear for our poor overworked overwraught hormones to focus on! I wonder about ADs. Home might be better for me - I am in the fortunate position of having ds in nursery full time. But I worry that I would just spend the whole time worrying!

Could you arrange to work part-time? I know that it would be difficult being Head of Department. I suppose that you have things to consider like keeping your ds' nursery place open, etc..?
I don't find that I spend my time worrying really - too busy cleaning! Luckily, dh is working from home at the moment and today the in-laws have ds so I can make a start on preparing the nursery. I am coming to terms with the girl thing slowly too.

Hi ladies

A newbie here. Another SW Londoner (Richmond) due May 20th with my first. Had scan last week and found out we're expecting a boy. Thrilled and surprised - had convinced myself (for no real reason) that it was a girl.

Was ttc for 18 months before succeeding with this pg - during which time I had 1 ectopic pregnancy and 2 m/cs.

Feel HUGE - this morning marked the 1 stone gained mark, and have been in maternity clothes for a few weeks now. Luckily I have a friend who owns a mat clothes shop, so have been able to pick up a couple of lovely bits and pieces at a discount.

Lot of love and luck to all!

logic - we can alwasy swap Am convinced I'm having a boy (have a girl already) and I'm quite anxious about it. My daughter has been such a joy to bring up I can't imagine anything different.

And welcome vicstervic!

Hello Vicstervic and welcome to the May thread. Congratulations on the pregnancy

Isn't it weird how we have preferences for one gender or another? I think with me it's partly fear of the unknown too, Tinker. I'm sure it will all be fine in the end. There have been a few threads about this lately but I haven't posted on them because I feel guilty about having these feelings. I've been popping into the ttc thread to give myself a reality check. The general consensus seems to be that it matters far more before the baby is born than after which makes sense. I think it's hard to bond with something that you can't pick up and cuddle.

I have my 20 week scan tomorrow and I am looking forward to finding out if its a boy or girl. I feel so guilty as deep down I am wishing for a girl. I know you shouldn't care, but why do I have these feelings?
I feel pretty low at the mo. Looked at myself in the mirror yesterday and not happy with what I saw. I feel so fat and it's like its spread everywhere. I am looking forward to May but sometimes wish I could get it over and done with now. Working full time and trying to keep a house seems to be taking affect and I feel so tired all the time.

I know exactly what you mean, SamCattie. There are an awful lot of us that don't enjoy being pregnant and can't wait to get our bodies back. I got really frustrated last time when the weight wasn't coming off after giving birth but it's 9 months up and 9 months down I'm afraid. This time I intend to relax about it far more and accept the inevitable. It's worth it for the baby and you can always get back into shape afterwards. It just takes a little while.

I think the depression is partly winter's fault too. Being trapped in the house because of bad weather doesn't help but believe me, you do not want to be pregnant in the summer

I'm having the same kinds of feelings as some of you - my emotions are up and down a lot at the moment.

However, I just had my 20 week scan which cheered me up. Baby was fairly well-behaved, so the radiographer was able to get all the measurements she needed ? everything was just fine! We didn?t find out whether it?s a boy or girl, (didn't want to) but DH is still sure it?s a girl. I?m not convinced, but we?ll see? I think I'd really rather it was a girl, and I feel guilty for feeling like that, but I know that as long as it is healthy, I will be happy with either.

Take care everyone!
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