Waddling Zombies and Dancing Babies - Due Feb 2008

[Pk616]

Hiya ladies,
Thought I'd start the new thread, hope you like the title! Best I could come up with I'm afraid!

Let's just hope the house doesn't go on fire in the night manamana.....

Starting to get organised with presents but quite scary as effectively only two weeks to go. DP turns 30 on new year's eve so I've got to make sure I get something decent and not a last minute rush. Poor thing's not going to have the wildest party I don't think We're going to be up in Aviemore staying with friends so at least not like being out in the big city but staying out to midnight even will be a bit of a marathon! (New Years is also our "getting together" anniversary )Added to that my mum turns 60 in Feb so REALLY need to get organised on that one now!

Had our first antenatal class yesterday and was great - there was only us and another couple there so basically two hours of sitting down chatting to a midwife.

Mini - I'm in awe! Just imagine you went to full term.....

Mini - how do you walk etc? Is it uncomfortable?

Yay, my moses basket (borrowed from MIL's Neighbour) has arrived!!! Now the bairn doesn't have to sleep in a drawer!

Just thought I'd share that with you

Bloody hell Countto10. My DH is a bit similar, in that does NOTHING unless I specifically instruct him, and even then he has to be asked four or five times. I went to a party with DS on Sunday evening and specifically said to DH that he didn't have to come and could spend a couple of hours relaxing at home and could then take over for the last hour of the day with DS when I got home so I could rest, and would he mind just hoovering upstairs as I struggle to get the hoover up there (it takes 5 mins).

So I get home to find he has done nothing while I have been out. Not noticed things like the washing machine or dishwasher need emptying, not done the hoovering, not moved from the computer... So after crawling round in a ball pit after DS for two hours I end up doing the hoovering myself . He didn't see what the problem was.

Anyway, having got that off my chest...

Ladle so glad you are still here and not in hospital giving birth. I know I know that I should NOT be moaning about my DH when you and mini have so much more to worry about but I can't help myself .

Mini - although from the sounds of it, with the contractions and everything, you might have the little ones fairly soon, I thought I would mention that my friend had a show and didn't give birth for over a month!!! You might be lucky! Fingers and toes crossed for you. And you have a fabulous bump, it is huge, but it is also great, I love baby bumps .

So I went for my scan yesterday, all good, Nemo is now 4lb 1oz and Dory is 3lb 6oz. Nemo is dead on average for a single baby of this gestation and Dory a bit below. Both are now HEAD DOWN so my chances for attempting a vaginal birth are good at present .

However... it was confirmed at consultant appt today that I have a prolapse. I first suspected when we were on hols two months ago, then wasn't sure. I asked my midwife about it and she said it sounded like one, but to speak to the consultant. So he had a look . Not pretty. He said it is not that unusual esp with the weight of twins and the fact that I have been crap at pelvic floor exercises this time round and will not cause a problem for a natural birth and could in fact make it slightly easier, although prolapse will of course be more severe afterwards (cannot imagine what it will look like!).

Bessie - I would be livid. It is very unfair of them to force you to work in the far away office anyway, I think they are "supposed" to accommodate any reasonable request, but the fact that they agreed it and have now changed their minds is outrageous. Must be honest, I gave up work on 12 Jan when I was due with DS on 20 Feb, I could not have faced carrying on longer, but I didn't really plan to go back so having more time with him afterwards was not really an issue. I can't imagine still commuting at that late stage, but I know many ladies do, but three hours is way too much.

God I am going to post this now as it is so long as I will read the rest later and post as DS is screaming in bed, I think he has fallen out.

Mana - sorry thats just wierd! But hey if it works!

Still haven't done cards but i have bought some stamps!

Aw PK, i have a thing for moses baskets, never had one with dds 1 and 2 ( had family crib thing which is about a zillion years old, said i didn't have room for it this time). Bought one for this LO but everyone said it was pink (it wasn't... it was white with a kind of pale brown stripe and a bear on it) but in the end i took it back and got a blue and lemon one, sods law he'll turn out to be a girl now! It's so exciting when you get things like that

Mana - sorry thats just wierd! But hey if it works!

Still haven't done cards but i have bought some stamps!

Aw PK, i have a thing for moses baskets, never had one with dds 1 and 2 ( had family crib thing which is about a zillion years old, said i didn't have room for it this time). Bought one for this LO but everyone said it was pink (it wasn't... it was white with a kind of pale brown stripe and a bear on it) but in the end i took it back and got a blue and lemon one, sods law he'll turn out to be a girl now! It's so exciting when you get things like that

oops!

EGG - you poor thing! Has he no idea how hard it is carrying one baby let alone two?! I'd have gone mad and thrown things !

Morning everyone

Hope you are all feeling ok

Lucy my iron levels were 8.9 which meant i wasn't far off having an iron injection i must admit the tablets are working though, i am not as tired as i was. As long as you take them with lots of water so you don't get constipated you'll be ok. Glad to hear your Dd is better.

Egg your twins are brilliant weights, im sure your prolapse will get sorted after they're born. It can't be very nice though.

Bessie have you sorted anything out at work yet? I can't believe the way you're being treated how long have you got till you finish?

Ladle are you chilling out at home with your legs firmly crossed?lol

Mini how are you doing? i'm presuming you're all organised in case of an early arrival, 32 weeks is nearly here, and my you are big, im struggling with some things now i dont know how you are managing. Take care hun xx

Beansprout have you been on all fours? It really does help but you can't do it for too long, it gets a bit uncomfortable. And dont let Dp catch you he might get saucy (or wouldn't you mind!!)

Personally ladies if i never do it again it wouldn't bother me oohh maybe i'll change my mind after baby arrives, Do any of you think it's really mean of me to tell Dp to "sort yourself out if you want, you have two hands" lol lol im such a cow

hi leesmum- Glad its not just me!!!

DH thinks a big wet stubbly kiss is romantic- and gonna do the trick!!!!!! err no!!!!!!

i think its time for single beds or seperate rooms!!!!lol

I was celebrating yesterday as we finally have a lovely new double bed in the spare room, all ready for me to move into so I don't have to share with DH when he has had a beer, or a curry. Woohooooooo!

Is it us or are our DH/Dp's just not GETTING IT??? My DH is just continually whinging how tired he is all the time but manages to snore like a freight train all night no probs! I, on the other hand, am peeing, fidgeting, listening to him and generally getting frustrated! I was the one who put the Ikea unit and the cot together, bought the pram with my Mum in a packed Argos and am still at work/going to appointments/seeing friends/shopping at lunchtime etc etc. Oh and I'm 7 months pregnant in case he hadn't noticed!!!!!

Of course this does all pale into insignificance against you lovely people trying to juggle small children as well, not to mention mini and ladle (thinking of you!) but still...grrr, grrr, grrr!

Oh, and leesmum - perfectly reasonable to expect him to sort himself out IMO - bout time they did something on their own....sorry, very ratty today as you can probably tell!!!!

Still no resolution of the work problem for me (they also now want me to spend a day on a boat in the middle of january ) but I have to admit that my dp is pretty much perfect, which takes away home stress. He cooks me dinner, clears up and generally runs around after me, so I feel v lucky atm.

I could lend him out for household chores if it would help..?

I'm intrigued Bessie - what's your job?

Ah, Gill, that would be telling. It's a 'nonymous board, innit.

Suffice to say it's not a very pg-friendly one at the moment.

A boat??? Brain is too mushed to think of witty ideas of what you must be but SURELY being on a boat is not good. When I had my chat with HR (which was actually after i'd been signed off but ho hum...) they gave me a letter confirming policy etc and also a pregnancy risk assessment form which I am pretty sure is a legal requirement. I think being on a boat is much more of a risk than any i could have come up with. Risk of falling (due to being unbalanced - have they actually NOTICED you're pregnant), increased chance of nausea, lack of medical facilities close at hand... and what size of boat is it - i have visions of you trying to squeeze into a tiny cabin loo but I'm guessing unless you are a consultant to fishermen/narrowboat drivers this is unlikely. Your employers are obviously MORONS - but, I know its hard when you want to be treated as normal and not feel like you are underperforming just cos you're pregnant I was particularly upset by comments in later meetings like 'its just your hormones' and 'well you won't be here any way'...[seethe]. AM having a rubbish day today after quite a constructive one yesterday, feeling really lethargic, still in my pjs and bit fed up that haven't tackled any of the million things i have on my to do list... humph, off to get dressed before dh and ds get home - dh is on high alert for depression symptoms which is lovely but means he tend to overreact to just normal fed up levels of being pregnant/housebound...

Manamana - sorry to hear you're feeling fed up. You have just given me a v amusing mental picture of myself as a ferryman or fishing inspector. Heh.

Bessie - unless its a huge luxury cruise liner so you'd barely notice you're not on dry land, I'd steer well clear of boats in cold, wet, windy January! Maybe you should be 'sick' that day Seriously, your company are being completely unfair. I know its difficult if you want to go back there but you really do need to stand up for you & your baby right now.
Glad your DP is being a star though

Tyaca - I was on the top floor of St Thomas' before (not maternity) for a few days and it was great. Fantastic views and great staff. Although my stitches did split a week later - prob more to do with me diving into a swimming pool on holiday rather than the surgeon doing anything wrong though! The french hospital I landed up in wasn't nearly so good!!

Egg - hope things are ok. Sounds like your DP needs a good talking to, especially with you carrying twins too! Spare room sounds like a great option! Have you told him about Mini and Ladle? Maybe that will make him see you need to be able to take it a bit easier and he needs to pull his weight? Alternatively, could you get a bit of help around the house with cleaning/ds so you can have a bit of a rest?

Thank goodness its Friday! 2 days not in the office and no commuting - bliss! If only I'd done my christmas shopping...

well given your location I'm going to guess that you'll be messing about on the thames, so unless it's a rowing boat at least you'll be on the fastest form of transport in London to whisk you to the nearest hospital. Just remember not to scream when you fall overboard as you don't want to be swallowing any of the water.

heh. You're right; Thames water is grim. Judging by attitudes so far, work would probably tell me to find myself a quiet corner and try not to disrupt people if anything went wrong .

so jealous of big double bed to sleep in on your own if you want. i would love to have my own bed right now. especially with dh coming back from all these xmas parties sweaty and snoring.
bessie i will now think of you as the ferryman. i wouldn't mind borrowing your dh for chores, my dad is upstairs groaning as he chucks lo's toys into plastic bag. needless to say dh is in the bath!
must go and pee again. not sure if it's the baby or if have cystitis, major peeing afternoon and each time with lo on lap as she's been so clingy.

Glad it's the weekend. Spent all of yeaterday on a training day, just one meeting after another really. Was very tired and grumpy when i got home. Felt really ill at about 4 this morning - woke dh as had monster headache and felt really sick, bless him, he made me tea and cereal - probably thought it was best as i'd been a right moo when i got home and he didn't want a repeat performanace (not that i felt up to being horrible at all!). Have been helping dd2 with her homework this morning - i now know all about natural selection and it's many forms! We're off to get wallpaper and paint for her roonmin a mo, what i really want is to veg but hey, thats kids for you! Have a good saturday everyone

Hi Bessie. I'm just wondering if your employer is trying to get you to resign: going back on working in an office nearer home, boat trip in January. How co-operative will they be after LO is born? I feel a little bit concerned about your boss' attitude to you. It may be a good idea to join a union such as the GMB (based in Hendon, London NW4), as your immediate superior doesn't seem very supportive and I wonder if her attitude is representative of your company's attitude, in which case, HR may not support you.

Leesmum: I'm looking forward to being small enough to enjoy sex after birth (ok, a good few months after birth . At the moment, too much like hard work to get comfortable. DH finds my bum and boobs v attractive - lucky for me but not when i want to go to sleep!

Hello everyone, can I join this thread please, I'm due 20 Feb 08 but booked in for a c-section on 14 Feb, after a really horrible birth last time. I have a little girl whos 18 months. I would appreciate any advice about having a c-section. This baby is a bit of a surprise, well a lot actually as I only found out at 20 weeks! I had actually been to the GP 3 days before finding out, complaining about how ill I felt! He told me to take a paracetamol, mmmm.