IVF Graduates due Late 2021/Early 2022

[BambiOnIce80]

Hi ladies 👋 I'm tentatively setting up a thread for those of us who have made the scary leap from infertility to a BFP and still need a hand hold from others who get it 🤝

I'm only 4+4 and already worrying that the BFP is too good to be true (I've had a previous MMC at 10+5, so that bitter experience doesn't help). Would love the company of other warrior ladies to go through the ups and downs of this emotional roller coaster for as long as it lasts 🎢

@Bella1984 and @PT8998, tagging you ladies on the hope that you'll join me 💗

@BambiOnIce80 omg you poor thing 20 months! That is so long.

Oh yes my mum has lived and breathed every second of my ivf journey, she lives 5 min drive away. I couldn't hide it from her I see her most days as she is in my 'bubble' and she just comes to the garden or we meet on the beach/ our fave place for outdoor brunch who have been running through the pandemic and kept us somewhat sane. We have even sat there in the dead of winter with hats, scarves and gloves on stubbornly drinking our coffees (decaf for me obvs!) Do your parents know yet or are you waiting until your USS?

Anyone else missing proper coffee?! I have a nespresso machine and we've had to be on decaf only pods for the longest time now 😩 I think hopefully after give birth to a healthy baby and have finished breastfeeding I will be having red hot baths while drinking wine, G & T and a real coffee haha xx

Oooh @Em916, how weird would it be if we end up being practically neighbours?! 😆😁😆😁 I intend on hitting the restaurants hard once they start opening up again on Monday, particularly as we may not be child free by the end of the year 🔮🤞🔮🤞 Let me know if you need the midwife booking line number when you get here - it's central for Edinburgh so I can hook you up 📞👍

We practically have a celebrity on our thread then @Bella1984! 🤩😃🤩😃 When you said you were a celtic red head I already started picturing you as the character from 'Brave'! 😁 I'd love to have nice hair 😏

I bet your mum's thrilled to bits then 🥰 My folks know we have frosties (I told them what had been going on when I had the MMC), but they don't ask and I don't tell 🤷🏻‍♀️ We'll see how the next few weeks pan out before I work out if/when I'm telling them 🔮

I'm a weido 'super-taster' who can't stand bitter things, so no danger of missing coffee here ☕🚫 I've been drinking decaf green tea for years, but I am worried that I drink too much of it 🤔 If all is well at the viability scan I'll ask if there's a thing as too much decaf green tea?! 🍵

Enjoy your lovely, sunny day off ☀ Did you get the contact details for the midwives in the end?xx

Haha not quite a celebrity but I've some pretty cool stories and secret pics from being on set.

My last part was a viking lady in the Northman, due out in 2022. I was at a huge banquet with Ethan Hawk, Nicole Kidmam and a top less Alexander Skaarsgaard 😍 it was amazing. Started as a hobby and became a great wee earner for me. Being on GoT for so many days got me around 7k, a big help for our wedding at the time!

I swear my long red hair gets me all my parts! Ha I love Brave, that's more my older sis she has amazing red curls. Mine is fairly straight but nice and thick. I rarely go out without a wee lady commenting on my hair 🤣 makes up for all the years of being called a ginger and much worse (fanta pubes is a favourite here 😂)

Our fave brunch place is now closed FFs because some morons with not better to do reported them to the police so we have nowhere to have outdoor brunch now 😫 we got takeaway and sat on the beach instead, a tad windy but nice.

Are you in work today?

Sad news for that lovely lady sangria something on the other thread. At least she has a wee frozen one 🤞 did see a BFP though, the lady who has OHHS

Xx

Ps yes doc sent me link with self referral which is how it works here now, probs due to covid.

Will get a letter with my scan soon, they said between 11 and 13 weeks here?

Had my flu jab this morning and got my 'fit note' recommending working from home for the next while from my GP

Good job as my clinic flat our refused. Wild.

I understand why you've held off telling your parents after a MC, I would be the same. Will hopefully be able to give them the lovely news in a few weeks time. Less than 2 weeks for us to go now until 6th May 🙏 xx

Anyway the sun is no longer shining here so am gona get on the sofa and watch Greys Anatomy! My all time favourite show 😍

That is some serious bucks that your hair has earnt you then @Bella1984! 🤑 Kevin Spacey knocked my wine over at the bar in the Old Vic once, but that's about it for me 😂 I bet you've got some amazeballs stories 😎

That sucks that your lunch place is shut now - is there any sign of NI coming out of lockdown? We're starting to ease things a bit on Monday and I'm soooooo looking forward to being able to go to restaurants again 🍴

That's me finished work for the week and I am very much looking forward to having a lay in tomorrow 😴 Well, at least I can go back to bed after my 6am wake up call to take progynova and do my pessary 🙄

What's everyone up to this weekend? Anything exciting albeit socially distanced!?

Ladies! Been such a busy week!

So much to catch up on! I will reply when I get the chance over the weekend. Tonight, I am exhausted and very grateful for the weekend.

Did another test this evening, still very much getting lines. OTD isn't quite here yet, still have until Thursday to go! So still being very cautious.

Hope you're all keeping well?!

Haha cool Kevin Spacey story! Was that in Ed? Recent accusation aside I think he's an amazing actor

Yeah my hair has gotten me a few quid for sure! I've some hilarious stories tbf, it's such a great escape from reality and my physio work, I love it. Hoping maybe some BBC drama will want a pregnant lady for a good part 😂

This app really annoys me, it doesn't let me scroll up and see what you have written. And it won't let me add the @bit either 🙈

If I use the non app from my email it frequently doesn't post what I write and I have to start again, anyone else had these issues?!

If you want to check out my insta you will see my beautiful dog and some of my extras pics in costume on there

I'm not too worried about remaining anonymous, especially with you 3 lovely ladies 😘

@rockitlikearedhead84

So beer gardens open next Friday here and shops 2 weeks after, what?! Hairdressers and beauty salons opened today, go figure. Makes zero sense to me. Like how can you get your hair cut up close and personal for hours but you can't sit outside a safe distance from people to eat a meal / have a drink?!

My brunch place was the one thing I could enjoy on my days off and it was so safe and spaced out. ☹ bloody people with nout better to do than complain 😤

Not risking a hair cut/ facial until at least 2nd trimester and covid has calmed down 🙏 for no spike in cases when stuff opens up here. I'm worried having seen pics from Soho and Manchester last week 😱

Last point, did all of you have an ultrasound guided ET? Mine was this time round but 1st private cycle it wasn't and I can't actually believe how they can not do it guided? What are your experiences of this?

Once I am safely through my first trimester I will be composing a fairly detailed formal complaint to the clinic. . . Won't bore you with it but am less than impressed with their care on numerous aspects 😔

Thank goodness we got our BFP this cycle! Xx

You sound super busy, hope you have a few days off now and can relax?

I thought you had already had your OTD? When is it? Great you are still getting positive tests.

I haven't tested for ages now but from all my symptoms I know I am!

But I did order 2 of the clear blue digital how many weeks test online today as I would love to see it say 5-6 weeks, hopefully arriving tomorrow 🤞

Enjoy your evenings ladies xx

I thought you must be busy @PT8998 😉 Very glad to hear the lines are coming along nicely 👌🏻Have a lovely chillax tonight 🛋️📺😊

OMFG you are an absolute stunner @Bella1984! 😍 I am feeling massively inadequate now! 😂 Kevin Spacey was down at the theater he used to be director of down in London several years ago. I also had Meg Ryan smile at me when I was skipping around being a total tourist in Martha's vineyard, but that's all I've got 😏

I tend to use the link from my email as well or log in via the Web and I can add the @ 's without issue. I do lose posts all the time though! I've learnt to just copy what I've written as I go so that I don't lose it and throw my phone at the wall!

Urgh, the easing of things makes bugger all sense to me 🙄 I'm just waiting for the first cases of the Indian variant to start popping up in Britain and send us all scurrying back into lockdown again 🤦🏻‍♀️

Yep, all three of my transfers were ultra sound guided. I must admit I thought that was standard 🤔

Right, I'm signing off because I have a zoom catch up with my friends to sit and drink Heineken zero through! Smoke and mirrors and all that 🍺😉

@Bella1984 I requested to follow you! Hope you don't mind! I love that you have been in so many things! Makes life interesting, eh?! Off all weekend now, thank goodness! Last night, I was knackered! I was asleep by just after 2000 I think!? It was possibly a cross combo of the progesterone and a later night the night before due to the excitement of the positive test the night before haha! No, my OTD is Thursday! Seems so far away! I had no patience and tested super early! My plan is to test until OTD and then stop. So I have two more FRER's, a CB and a CB digital. I am saving the digital for OTD. I have a lot of cheap tests, so I have them for the urge, the others will be for every other day!

@BambiOnIce80 thank you! Yes, work has just been manic. Just always so much to do with my job! I could work 24 hours a day and still not have enough hours in the day! Chilled so far this evening. I could probably do with an early night, no clue what will be in the plans for the weekend. Possibly head to beach maybe? I have mentioned it, but it gets pretty busy down here (Devon) so I am expecting it to be relatively busy and not so stress relieving!

I, too, have found it hard to keep up with the posts on my phone. There is no user friendly way to do it! That's why I am so crap at replying, I usually have to wait to get the laptop out and then do it all in one go from there. I can't deal with the phone and scrolling. It hurts my head... and when I am tired it's really frustrating haha!

Oops hit send too soon (so tired, digressed and forgot to finish my reply to you @BambiOnIce80)...

Have a lovely evening catching up with friends. I love the forethought of 0% booze! Haha!

Regarding transfers; yep mine was USS guided... I was able to watch it on the screen. I can't imagine them not doing it via USS as they need to go in a very specific place and how would they know if they can't see?!

Haha I actually hate this app it's shite 🤣

Oh hello I just accepted your request and had a wee nosey. Didn't realise you were in Devon, I love it there

One of my best mates from my Masters degree is from Exeter she was physio for the rugby team. I visited her a few times and her hen do was in Bath, another beaut city

My big sis is currently at Damon Albarn (lead singer of Blur, Gorillaz etc) cooking for him & the band. He lives in Devon!

Your dogs are so cute, I love a bulldog. Mines a wee Heinz 57 mix who looks like a fox haha

Flip your OTD is still far away poor thing. How many days post 6dt are you now than? Sorry can't keep track!

Planning on doing one test tomorrow for how many weeks and one the week after that's it.

Praying for good 7 week USS for us all. A lady on the other post said she got an audio of the heartbeat and pictures too, so exciting/ nerve wracking! 🙏

xx

Hi ladies

It is 4.53am and I've been awake most of the night, again

I think the insomnia has really caught up with me now. I am also finding the stress of everything with ivf, work, covisd and a few other issues

We are currently having an absolute nightmare with our next door neighbours - we live in a lovely quiet area where everyone owns their house & chats away we even have a garden / street party planned after covid . . . But our neighbours are renting - mum & 19 Yr old son. From China. Long story short he's running an illegal mechanics from the property. Drilling etc all day every day, people coming and going at all hours, no masks, running a barber shop in back garden & much more! We have tried to resolve informally with no progress. Reported noise xomolaint to council, sent them a letter and made no difference. Blew up last sat when I asked him again to please stop the noise. My husband was away at his mums. Son rang the mum who was at work and said I was bullying him?! Never Rose my voice, swore or said anything personal . . .

The mum came to my driveway I was in front garden cutting shrubs. Screaming at me, so aggressive and v frightening. Tried to remove myself from the situation, she followed me down side of house along hedge (we are detached thankfully but their house is close enough) at this point I asked her to please stop screaming as I was pregnant. She screamed in my face she didn't care if I was pregnant! It was a terribly upsetting experience. I did everything I could to remove myself from drama and stay calm. Husband came straight home but was an hour away.

Husband and I spoke with woman next day and thought had resolved it, she apologised repeatedly and promised it would stop. It did, for 3 days. On Wednesday this week he was in garden spraying car parts with face mask on, fumes into our garden so I couldn't stay outside. Husband spoke to him again, he went inside. Same thing Thursday. His mum ia always out at work so he doesn't care.

Sat down at 8.30pm tonight to put a movie on and he appeared with another car to fix and sell. Started revving engine so loudly. Husband went out to chat, he kicked off, again.

Now we can expect his mum to come round screaming at us tomorrow. My husband has his covid vaccine at 8.30am so I'm going to have to go with him in the car for fear of being on my own or get my father to come round and sit with me (a retired lawyer and scary man when he wants to be!!)

So basically I'm telling you that due to all this my mental health and mood due to bipolar and off my meds is awful. I felt at breaking point last night and am having to ring MH crisis team first thing. I am desperate to stay off medications esp during first trimester but I am so worried about a manic episode and then the subsequent depression which will always follow for me. I am now also not sure if I can even cope with working from home and am having to consider going off on sick. My concern is in the past 12 months I was off for 5 weeks with 3 herniated Lx discs, 6 weeks with severe depression linked to working on covid wards and 1 week for gallbladder surgery in Jan. I am leaving my trust to start a B7 in another trust within the next few months but this will still be on my record yes?

I am leaving the other ivf threads on here as I just don't have the energy. I wanted to share this with you 3 as you have been so supportive and understanding the past few weeks.

I would ask that no one else can join this group if that is at all possible? Perhaps ladies from the other threads can make a new one for those of them on similar timeliness? If not I will ask them to delete this message when you have read it tomorrow. I don't want anyone else knowing all of this. I will also probably leave this group if it gets too big like the other ones, I find it too stressful!

You guys have my Instagram name so feel free to private message me on their instead. . .

I might be quiet for a few days now. Sorry for tmi. Wanted to get it off my chest on the hope I might actually get some sleep! Not looking for sympathy BTW, just telling you where I am at.

Thanks ladies and speak soon 💙

Oh @Bella1984 it sounds like you're having a horrible time 😟 I thought our neighbours were bad (physio and radiography students who seemingly give zero f🤬ks about covid restrictions and constantly have a stream of their buddies coming round, even though they're patient facing!! 🤯 But I digress...), but this sounds awful 😣 Sounds to me like it's time to get the council involved. You've tried the pleasant and informal route, but it's clearly not working. It must be hard being 19 in this weird covid world, but he can't carry on doing things like that. Somethings got to give. I hope you manage to get some support from the MH team this morning. Sending you much love and here if you want to chat (you might need to PM me if it's via insta though - I've no clue how to use it and don't want to accidentally send a public message! 😳 My account is the one with knob all content and I'm holding a black cat 😉).

I hear you @PT8998 on the never enough hours in a day when you work in the NHS! It's exhausting, but at least it's satisfying 😊 Have a lovely time at the beach today 🏖 I think we're going to walk down to our nearest shore tomorrow and get some churros 😋

How are things with you @Em916? I bet you're busy if you're moving within the next month!

I had a bit of a nightmare this morning - my 6am alarm didn't go off so I woke up in a complete panic at 7.50am and gulped down my progynova and legged it to the bathroom to do my pessary 😰 I know the progynova isn't time critical, but I was more concerned about the utrogestan 😣 Half an hour of googling seems to have calmed me down 😪 The general consensus is that it's fine as long as you don't miss 24 hours worth... I don't know what happens in that situation and I don't want to find out! I think my Alexa Show is being stripped of its alarm clock responsibilities from now on though I'm just about managing to not smash it to smithereens in retribution! ⏰ 🚫

Thanks @BambiOnIce80 ❤ insomnia still going strong here 😓

The neighbours have been terrible since we moved in, but escalated since lockdowns as the son hasn't been at school. He runs a barbers shop in the garden, has 2 online businesses, the constant buying, fixing & selling cars & apparently a house he rents out to people FFS.

Also because I've been WFH so have to listen to and watch him breaking covid rules 24/7. Friday night was the straw that broke the camels back. Whole weekend has been a write off because of it, same as last weekend.

So I'd already rang the council & they'd gotten a letter RE noise complaint and fixing vehicles on residential street, they've ignored it! Had a visit from police RE covid rules, got a warning and ignored that too 😡

So I rang their agent yday morning and she was appalled! She rang the landlord and seemingly they've already had a written warning about fixing cars at the house! On the last inspection there were car parts in the living room omg. So the landlord is arranging an urgent visit and will either give a final warning / eviction notice (unfortunately 12 wks) . . . The agent called round yday afternoon with a Tropic gift set for me as she was so upset. It is a lovely lavender sleep spray, temple balm and hand cream. So thoughtful 🥰 so she restored my faith in humanity! She has also told them never to knock on our door again - we have bee scared to open it how sad is that. So I am feeling much more positive I might get some much needed once! Not fun when can't even nap in the day coz neighbour is constantly drilling and having people round to the driveway all day. We even recently spent £1500 on new triple glazed windows to help sound proof our house! Ridiculous.

Anyways, my family have persuaded me to take a few weeks off work all together which I have agreed is the best thing to do for me and the bambino right now! I just need to 'batten down the hatches' as they say here and essentially take care of me and stop worrying about everyone else!

Hoping my brain will start to chill out abit. I have been so worried about the stress lately that I did do a digital how many weeks test yday. Thankfully it said pregnant and 3+! Huge relief. Counting down until 6th May now, same day as you isn't it? 🙏

Churros sound epic! I did have delivery takeaway Thai food last night new wee place has opened near us and was yum.

A bit anxious about things opening her and relaxing of restrictions, but I'm just not going to go anywhere other than the beach & maybe some close friends gardens for the foreseeable. Sure what's the point of a beer garden when you can't have a bloody beer?! Or wine or G&T haha.

Awe you're not an insta officiado then?! Private messages are great I use it a lot for friends abroad who don't use WhatsApp. I'll send you a wee hello tomorrow on there!

For now I am going to finish my hit milk (yep I'm ancient now 🤣), put a good podcast/ book on to listen to and rub a shit load of lavender into my temples haha.

Pesssries sound terrible I am very lucky I got to stop then after BFP. 10 days or so was enough for me! Wouldn't worry about it being a bit late. I did mine an hour late one night too as fell asleep and missed my alarm but all was good so I'm sure you'll be fine. Positive thinking 😊

Chat soon ladies, hope you're all doing OK xx

@Bella1984 so sorry you have been having such a tough time with your neighbours and when you really don't need it. I can't believe how awful some people can be. But hopefully you get that resolved soon and sounds like the best thing to take some time off and get some sleep! Great news on the 3+ though on the test :) And that's lovely the estate agent was so nice to you, it does really help restore your faith in people!

@BambiOnIce80 We are doing the first van load on Friday just for the weekend. And between packing and trying to say my goodbyes to everyone here in parks and gardens it has been non stop but luckily has helped the time go faster. Ha ha feeling your rage about the alarm clock (You should have just smashed it!) I would be just the same but yeah can't imagine they can be too sensitive. Yes will be crazy if we end up being neighbours. I am moving to New Town, so excited to be so central! We were supposed to move properly on 8th May but we have delayed until 15th May so can stick around for the scan.

@PT8998 everything crossed for Thursday!! I am finding the progesterone makes me really tired. I have slept pretty terrible since the start of lockdown until I started taking them, I was hoping I would get the tiredness symptom (Just a shame I also have the bloating!).

Going to have a chilled out night tonight and watch line of duty with some M&S alcohol free wine : )

Oh and @BambiOnIce80 I love my coffee too. Nhs advise you can have up to 200mg of caffeine a day so you would be safe with 1 or even 2 depending on how strong the particular pod is. My machine uses beans so switched to 50/50 Caffeine and non-caffeine blend so can still have a few lattes each day.

Oh and @Bella1984 thanks for offering the midwife number, I have already called them but they said I had to wait until I dropped off the forms to register with the doctor in Edinburgh first unfortunately. I am going to try and sort that when I am there next weekend.

I'm so relieved you're feeling a bit better today @Bella1984 💖 Excellent shout to call the letting agent - that was going to be my next suggestion 👍 We're lucky that we have a really good relationship with the landlord of the property next door, so he's been really good at laying down the law with his tenants (we got an apology card and a box of milk tray from them even though we called the police on them! 🍫😬). Also excellent news that you got your 3+ weeks 😊 I'm still too terrified to go near them! 😄 My plan is still to just hope for the best (but expect the worst 🙄) and wait for our scan on the 6th. I've been needing to have afternoon naps for the last two afternoons (which is definitely not normal!) so I'm keeping everything crossed that things are going OK in there... no idea how I'm going to cope at work this week though if I'm needing 3pm naps! 😴😳

Oooh, we'll be in neighbouring neighbourhoods then @Em916! 😁 I'm in the Leith Walk area, so only a 15 minute walk to hit New Town! 😄 Not long at all to go until you get here then 😎 I went for a walk through New Town to Stockbridge today and I now have some fairly impressive sunburn, so I'd recommend bringing the SPF 50 with you to Scotland! ☀ 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁳󠁣󠁴󠁿 ☀ 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁳󠁣󠁴󠁿 And good luck with the alcohol free wine 🍀🍷 The only vaguely tolerable one I've found so far is the Sangre del toro dealcohilsed red (we got it from Majestic, I think 🤔), so will be good to know if the M&S one is worth a look 🙂

Morning ladies

Hope you all had a nice weekend?

I also watched LoD with a wee glass of alcohol free wine. My husband found me a lovely Rose, not too sweet. Or I just add soda & it's yum. It has a hit air balloon on the label, can't remember the name!

So I am off today and actually slept for 7 hours last night with only one bathroom break 🙌 best sleep I've had in about a month . . .

Also a coffee addict and just haven't risked any caffeine, I've not had a proper cup since end of Feb 😱 the struggle is real! We have a nespresso machine so they do decaf pods which have saved me. Options are limited though, I've even written to nespresso asking them to up their game 🤣

The agents and landlord were amazing, agent was so angry on our behalf and gave the woman a real dressing down! Landlord called yday, we were at the beach but my dad was here painting our stairs (yay). My dad's a retired lawyer so was good for him to be here. The landlord was lovely and so apologetic. Feel like it is FINALLY sorted! Wish I'd rang them sooner but my husband convinced me to try & resolve informally, which we tried for months 😖 anyway hopefully all good now

Are you all in work today? I'm feeling you RE the 3pm naps @Bambi . . . I did that throughout ivf and the tww, but mainly as I can't sleep at night atm.

You're very strong not testing at all. I wasn't going to but with all the stressful past week I wanted to reassure my brain. Delighted it said 3+ weeks, good good the hcg is increasing yes? It's lovely our scans are the same day. Yours is 10.15 yes? Ours is 12. Do you live near your clinic? We are just 30 mins away which is great.

I had something else to tell you all and it's escaped my brain! Will message again later if I remember it. Happy Monday gang xx

Definitely a good sign that the hCG level is increasing @Bella1984 👍 I'm still too frightened to try 🙈 Yes, 10.15am next Thursday. Half of me doesn't want to know and half of me wants it over and done with 🔮 We're lucky that our clinic is only about a 15 minute drive away depending on traffic, so at least I can have a lay-in that day 😴

I hope everyone has a good Monday.x

@BambiOnIce80 you will be super close! And yeah I am factor 50 girl too, I get sunburnt so easily. Yeah good day thanks...for a Monday! I have been home based since last March and really enjoy working from home (It has made all of this stuff so much easier!). I have to force myself to leave the house some days but been pretty good last couple of months going for at least a lunchtime walk every day to get some exercise.

@Bella1984 the M&S ones I like (white and rose one) both have hot air balloons on them! Also found some alcohol free lemon beers that taste just like shandy and some really nice alcohol free rum to make daiquiris with. (I have been doing lots of research ha ha!).

I am now tempted to do a test tomorrow. Convinced myself not too last week but now thinking if it's bad news and it would tell me then I would rather know sooner...keep changing my mind though!

Also, anyone managed to get Covid vaccine sooner by telling GP you are pregnant? I haven't told my GP I am pregnant as I am moving but just wondered if it could help get the vaccine sooner. If not, I am 38 so hopefully my age range gets it soon. The latest research of getting covid while pregnant is really scary...

Hope everyone else had a good day?

Ooooh, I am very jealous of your working from home for a year @Em916 - it would allow for afternoon naps! 😴😉 I've been yo-yoing about doing a test tomorrow, but I'm back in the 'it might make my crazy worse' camp and am going to hold off. I've got a counselling session with the clinic's counsellor tomorrow (she doesn't know my result yet), so I hope she's bringing her counselling A-game with her because she's going to need it! 😂

I am very impressed with your faux-booze research 😃 I've promised myself I'll get myself a pretend gin if we successfully make it past the 12 week scan (otherwise it's going to be a litre bottle of Bloom - summer is coming and all that 🍓 🍸😉).

I've managed to get both of my pfiezer doses in already, but only because I'm NHS 💉 I believe women are being offered them by their midwives, although it's early days with having enough supplies of the pfiezer and moderna jabs. Hopefully supplies will be sorted by the time you get up to the Burgh and get a midwife 🤞🏻