Due in December 07 - that's next month!!

[buzzybee]

Thought I'd start a new thread

Thank you for all supportive comments about DH's current state of mind. I am hoping that it is just nerves about coping with a newborn/lack of sleep etc again. DD1 had horrendous colic for the first 3 months and basically had me up for around 6 hours from about midnight every night....suffice to say I was exhausted and as a first-timer kept assuming it was something I was doing wrong..which caused arguments with DH....am hoping this time round I will be more prepared, and therefore the whole situation will appear calmer (even if I am not really!!).

mememummy - I am also fed up with comments about whether I am expecting twins, or, when people ask me how far gone I am then look shocked as if they thought I should be due tomorrow! Bloody rude!

mixedmama - I had the same problem with a prescription last week - am clearly heavily pregnant (see comment above!) but because I havent got one of those prescription exemption cards the pharmacist insisted on charging me. I called the Doc and they are sorting this out for me - but god knows how long it will take to arrive!

I just refused to pay. she insisted i have a card and i was just like i have never received one.

Cant remember who posted the comment about finding a website that sold car seat head huggers - can you tell me where you found them please? Have just got maxi cosi out of the loft in preparation, and cannot find the head hugger that goes with it - and from a (very brief) search on the internet I cant find a stockist for a replacement!

Oh God what a nightmare MM - so you would be moving in with BIL (and his family?)? That is not what you need with a newborn baby when you are feeling vulnerable and emotional. Is there any way you could change your DH's mind? Or you BIL's? Does your DH really want to move in with his brother or is he just worrying about money? Big sympathies - hope you manage to work something out

amani - thanks for asking. Still feeling rubbish but am hoping ABs will start kicking in today. We have my brother, his (obsessively clean) wife and their three young children descending on us tonight - all to fit into our little 2 bed house, eek, so hoping that might take my mind off it!!
How are you feeling today (on your last sick day )?

tabimum - OMG that sounds horrendous - I'm SURE it will be easier this time round - you'd be very unlucky to get two with colic - and even if you did at least you'd kow it wasn't your fault this time

Xmas shopping at 33+2 is bloody hard work - had to keep stopping for sit down then realised no way could I carry any more and ad to give up....did get a few things though ...but house a tip and only hour till school run...but cannot get off my big fat arse

hi all

just checking in with you lot - 37+4 here (due 26th Nov) but feel I may just go over, even if i have been having pains the last few days, they havent really come to much!

Anyone on Dec thread dropped yet?!

JARM - yes someone had their baby 12 weeks early (can't remember the name, sorry)!!

macdoodle - Just walking is exhausting enough, let alone walking AND carrying - get yourself straight home, out your feet up andhave some chocolate before it's time for the school run

Thx Skid... BIL doesnt have a family which is why it is infuriating. It is DH flat first and foremost IMO.

Had a nice lunch with friend where I slagged him off loads so feel much better and going to stop moaning now.

Ok... so has anybody at all seen Kerioke or does any one have contact details. Do we think the consultant gave in?

Hope so sounded like she was struggling hope they are both ok does anyone have off MN contact with her...assume they would have let us know??
Hope no news is good news though ...

Had a little search for anything she may have posted but she hasnt been around since she was here the other day. Agree, no news is good news... I think she must have got them to agree is busy cuddling her new baby.

Finished hosp bag hurrah, with mini shampoos so cute! cheap pjs and granny pants from Matalan, also picked up heat pads and puppy pads so completely done except make up and water and snacks.

Tabimum, feel for you - he does need something chucking him though.

MM - you're having a rubbish time, moving now at this late stage? and rowing with a chemist about whether your pg? are these people stupid? I'd refuse to pay as well.

Not really had any probs with comments during the pg, I suppose people know better than to piss me off, However I don't think I'm all that big, and can hide it with my coat (perhaps because I'm not a skinny minnie) It should be legal to headbutt insensitive people whilst preggers .

After MW appt today seems LO has shifted around ready to engage, so CS sounds unlikely at the mo,

Not sure what I'm gonna do for the next couple of weeks as done mostly everything this week (am paranoid will wake up incapacitated one day) So done Xmas/baby shopping now, trying to space out jobs now so will leave wrapping gifts and writing xmas card envelopes til next week.

Think choc and lazy TV will help, though I've been lent 24 on DVD to start on (all series)

defo mm- i hope she is blissfully bonding with her LO in hospital right now

I hoped kerioke would have posted by now too, hope she's ok, what an ordeal for her.

Ambi - someone once told me that if you assault someone or somemthing whilst pregnant you can get off the charge or at least it will become a lesser charge because of hormones etc.... of course sounds like complete trash but wouldnt it be good if it was true.

Ambi - where did you get your heat pads from?

MM - oh no you really dont need that stress right now. Hope your weekend isnt stressful

hi to everyone else!

MM - hope that's true about assault! I shouted 'f*ing t**t' at a car this morning because he didn't indicate and so nearly ran me over - slight overreaction perhaps and would love to blame my pg hormones!!

Haven't heard from claraq in a while - think we're getting into that period now when if someone doesn't log on for a couple of days we all think they're in labour!

Afternoon ladies,

Skid - getting used to this life of tv, junk food etc and generally being lazy - don't know how I am going to cope when I get back to work on Monday.

Lol at your naughty langague - yes it really hacks me off when people drive like they own the road.

Well done on being organised Ambi and don't over do it mcdoodles

Thanks everyone for all the links/info. I think it's the fact it was suddenly dropped on me that was the biggest thing-although as DH is it should maybe have occurred to me. Am sure this is one of the conversations you are meant to have before you decide to have children!

Anyway, last night dh said something along the lines of it being a clear cut decision and so much more hygenic etc but I then showed him the NHS Direct info and he agreed that there were differing opinions over here. TBH even if we do have a boy and get it done I very much doubt we'll be able to have it done within 8 days-we're not exactly in a multicultural part of the country where it will be easy to find someone to perform it!

Tabimum Sorry to hear about your dh's attitude-hopefully it's just a last minute panic type thing.

MM hope you, dh and bil manage to sort something out about the flats soon-I defo wouldn't leave all my furniture for tenants to use though! Your BIL sounds a bit of a pain tbh. Oh and my midwife didnt give me a card but gave me the form that was prestamped with the surgery's info and I then had to send off for the card. Currently ave a valid tax credits one too but didnt even have to apply for that one.

mixedmama am on your behalf at the chemist! What difference does it make to them where the money comes from anyway? I think I would have lost the plot!

buzzy I know exactly what you mean re mat leave... I am so fed up with this conversation:

• so when do you finish up?
• end of the month
• and when's your due date?
• 12th Dec The reply is then either a disapproving look, or a flat out "are you sure about that" or similar.

Aaaargh I am SKINT!! give me some money and I will leave right NOW!!

OK rant over!!

Hospital bag is my job for this weekend! We got told at our AN classes that you would need much less than the books etc suggest, for example the hospital will provide stuff to clean/bath the baby, and also nappies unless you want to use disposables. So it might be a slightly smaller suitcase than I first imagined! Primark have button front nighties for £4 at the mo - not the nicest of fabric (don't go too near any open flames!) but they will do for probably getting chucked out again afterwards!

So do we think kerioke already has her wee baby?

I think so at least I hope so as she was so fed up the other day and hopefully the LO is healthly and they are just bonding.

Hi Skiddale, I'm due in 4 weeks but I'm convinvced I'm gonna be early!!! I guess I'll just have to wait and see. xxxxx

MM - sounds like your DH has been persuaded by the BIL and there may be nothing you can do? Money is a complete SH*T sometimes isn't it? Tis why I plan to basically work up til the day before LO comes if I possibly can then go back at least 20 hours per week as soon as my annual leave plus SMP period expires (4 weeks A/L + 14 weeks SMP here).

BUT at least these are all my decisions and no one is forcing me to move house or live with in-laws!

I could also choose to move house (either sell here or rent it out) and move to a cheaper place but I just couldn't bring myself to do that! This house is perfect for me and DD and LO.

I do get disapproving looks when I say I plan to go back quickly (more looks!!) but then I say that when DD was born (in London) I went back after the same period of time (18 weeks) full time and this time I'm hoping I can get by on a part-time income for a few months - and most people back off a bit.

Last time ex-H was working of course but his income was always less than mine (about half in fact) and consequently my salary was very important just to pay the basics. Actually looking back he never even offered to try and make his income stretch - but I never asked either!!

Caz10 - I am like that. Although at the mo, I am writing reports, and doing some 1:1 with the weaker children, but everyone is like shoul dbe here...well (a) I need money and (b) it beats being at home with the builder for company! I finish on the 30th Nov (due date by scan or I reakon 3rd Dec by LMP).