Due in December 07 - that's next month!!

[buzzybee]

Thought I'd start a new thread

I do like Macdoodle does and wee directly on the stick when she asks!
Sleeping bags for (older) babies are the best invention ever. I didn't use until she was in her cot tho - don't work as well for Moses Basket and anyway don't really need as they don't wriggle around (i.e. less likely to throw off covers). I ended up making some for DD as she grew out of the smaller sizes - she used them until she moved to a big bed at 21 months.

For those of you still working, are you getting sick of people asking you when you're going to stop? I seem to find myself having to endlessly justify why I'm planning to keep working as long as possible to maximise time off afterwards. Of course I'd like to stop earlier but it is a bit of a balancing act financially for me. I had an old school friend practically order me to stop working the other day - and this was a phone conversation, she hasn't seen me for weeks so had no basis to assume that that I'm unwell or exhausted or anything.

Actually have to say that recent good news has left me feeling more upbeat and energetic than I have in weeks. Its like the feeling you get when you finally feel well again after weeks of a nasty cold/flu.

I wouldn't mind tho if she decided to make an appearance at 38 weeks say

i wee directly on the stick to but if you go to the hosp tey hav lovely big cardbord cups with handles i think i stole about ten

Hi Buzzybee, I don't think you can win whatever you decide to do, I got criticised for finishing early...... if it's one thing I've learnt whist being pregnant it's that EVERYONE has an opinion and thinks you should listen to them!!!!!
So I guess you can only do what's right for you as at the end of the day it's you that's actually doing it!
I've had so many people give me horrified looks when I've said I'm hoping for a home birth and if one more person asks me if I'm having twins and then goes ha ha ha I think I may kill them!!! Sorry rant over!

i fed up of bein asked about twins to, and my lovely sister in law keeps tellin me im have a ten pound baby which is doin my tits in

Ahhhh it's so annoying isn't it? I can't believe that people seem to think they have the right to say whatever they think just cause you're pregnant. Can you imagine going up randomly to someone and saying God you're fat/have a big nose/bad skin/bad hair etc no of course you wouldn't but it's like you become public property when you're preggers!

tabimum what a nightmare! You DH is obviously feeling the emotional stress and wondering how he will cope supporting another mouth, but he should be able to keep that stuff to himself

clairey it really is none of your FIL's business. The whole hygeine thing has been recently thrown out- i don't know if you read the sunday times link here

skid I was told by rigby and peller to come in at 37 weeks. i presume that when the head engages and drops the rib measurement will also drop?

Morning all
Enjoying my sick leave at the moment - it's going to be so hard going back to work last week. Had crap night sleep last night due to the loud winds, awakweard baby movements and needing the loo. Ready for a morning nap now.

Tabimum - sorry to hear about you hubby's reaction. Is there an underlying reason for this?

Clairy - I would find it really hard to let a baby at 8 days old be circumcised. Think I would be in tears. Is there anyway of compromising at all?

Buzzy - I keep having people asking me when I go on mat leave and when they find out I have 4 weeks to go, they pass on more work to me saying 'Can you get this done before you leave?' I've started to be really vague about my leaving date - in the hope of discouraging them. Plus my maternity cover is still struggling and I really don't have the confidence to pass on the more challenging stuff onto her. I'm just hoping when I return back to work after 9 mths off I won't be unpicking all her work.

Memomummy - I get the oppposite, people keep saying I look really small which makes me a little paronoid. Last Sat, when I went to the opticians, two of the staff said 'Oh my gosh, you look really small for someone who is 8 mths) Felt like telling them where to go....

clairey - both my boys were circumcised for religious reasons and if bumpy is another boy, he will also be 'done'. They cry for only a couple of minutes which is obviously heartbreaking to hear but the healing process is amazingly quick. We were shown exactly what to do regarding nappy changes and cleaning.

Morning all,

clairey - here is a Guardian article about getting a baby boy circumcised - might be helpful to get a personal view on it?

tabimum - at your DH being so mean to you. If you have a cs you will need someone to help you 24 hours/day for 6 weeks as far as I understand it (people who have actually had a cs might correct me) - but you certainly cannot cope on your own with a toddler and a newborn. I assume his reaction is down to stress at work - is there anyway of relieving that which might make him see straight?

buzzy - I am actually asking myself why I am still working!! I am so exhausted and don't know why I don't stop now especially as I'm getting nothing done anyway - all I do is come on mn . If it wasn't for my lovely DH doing all th cooking and most of the cleaning and making me go and lie down the second I walk in the door I don't know what i'd do

still no news from kerioke...

mellymooks - i read your post on the due in december hoping for homebirth thread - are you still getting contractions or have they died down now?

Morning all....

Had a rough night as a very heated discussion with DH about moving back to our old flat for financial reasons. Altho loads of emnotional reasons that I dont really want to, resulted in me not sleeping and watching Mother India... possibly the most depressing film on the planet and falling asleep.

Call from doc this morning to say my blood test (at 28 weeks and am now 32) has shown I am anaemic so have to pick up a prescription for iron pills... explains alot as i have found this preg so difficult and tiring. Now have to figure out when i can get there to pick them up and fight with the woman in the chemist who tries to make me pay because my doc and MW havent given a little white card that says I am preggers. Ahhh

Sorry to start the day on a neg note ladies.

Clairey- my DS was circumcised at a year in hospital as he didnt have enough foreskin to make it safe to be done any other way. personally i am all for circumcision but have been brought up that way so it seems "normal" to me IYSWIM. This baby (boy) will probably be left until he is 3-5 unless he has similar issues to DS1. I know what you mean tho my husband shaved DS1 head at 7 days old and altho religious to a degree it is a debated point outside of South Asian countries and a few African Muslim countries and I hated it and cried my eyes out for hours. If you are not completely against circ can you see if change the timing. I have lots of friends who have done it within the first seven days and have been fine if that helps.

Hi skidaddle, had a couple of slight twinges this morning but nothing major so I'm guessing it's all just Braxton Hicks?!?
But having never been through this before who knows? I'm just going to potter about I think and not stray too far away, I had so many grand plans to go off and visit people before the arrival of our little one, think I was being a bit ambitious the thought of driving for more than about 20 mins is not appealing now, mainly because of the intense pressure on the bladder!!!

Morning all,

Poor you mixedmama - I can't believe it takes them that long to work out you're anaemic! Good luck with the chemist.

Tabimum - yikes. But at least DH is talking to you about it; I think I would probably want to know what he's feeling. And he'll probably come round once lo is born.

Suey - loving that you are still thinking about stuff (link between head engaging and ribs going down). I've become such a nodding donkey since getting pg it's good to be reminded to use my brain.

Haven't done my hospital bag yet, might start that this weekend. But I have started washing baby's things, OMG they are so cute!

Oh Tabimum... meant to say sorry DH is not being so dear right now, but my brain just got sidetracked.

MM ((hugs)) you poor thing - have you come to any decision about whether to move back to your old flat? Now seems like an awful time to do so... and I can't BELIEVE they have only just bothered to tell you now that your iron count is low - can you take time off work to go - don't they have to let you go if it's pg related?

mellymooks - I know, the reality of ML doesn't quite live up to the dream, does it? I suppose you wouldn't need ML if you were able to jet off visiting all the time! Hope the twinges setle down for a while longer - how many weeks are you now?

Skid - yes I could leave early but I am temping and get paidd by the hour.

Think the decision is out of my hands really as it makes a lot of financial sense altho Dh has just informed me that he wants to leave all of our new furniture except our bed and DS furniture which we only bought from April onwards.... so his poxy bro can rent this flat out (as he owns it). Just really peed off that BIL doesnt think that he should move out when he is more than able to do so and DS's room at the old place is not big enough for a cot and DS's bed. Just generally peed that he thinks it is ok to stay and infringe on our privacy cos "he wants to make money" - but he doesnt consider that we might need moeny too. Just inconsiderate... sorry rant over.

Your BIL does sound like a nightmare mm. How come your DH doesn't get annoyed with him?

so would you be moving in with your BIL then MM? Or does BIL own both flats? Sounds like a terrible idea if you can't fit both of your DSs in one room - that means your DS2 will be in your room permanently? I suppose if you need to do it financially then there is no choice - your BIL sounds mean though

MM - Agree with the rest - bit horrible making you move out when you have a LO on the way. By the way I nver show my maternity card when I go to collect my prescription, I just tick the relevant box on the back of my form to say I have got one.

How you feeling today skid? any better?

mixedmama i feel for you i moved house at 20weeks it made me so emtional and stressed couldnt imagine doin it now!

The original place is a council property which DH and BIL got together years ago due to overcrowding at ILs. I moved in we had DS and it all got a bit much a I wanted to move nearer to mum and dad etc. DH is lead tenant. We only moved a few months back and were planning to obviously give up the tenancy but now need to move back.

BIL owns (altho technically SIL) the flat we currently live in by ourselves.

DH wont insist in him leaving and I sort of feel like a guest visiting rather than looking at it as home.

The cow in the chemist basically told me I was lying when i was standing there with my hippo belly and maternity notes in hand.

Bloody hell- what further evidence does she need? Can't you go elsewhere and try to get your tablets?

Sounds complicated about the living arangements. Is there anyway you and hubby can sort somewhere out to live without having to rely on inlaws?

i'd recommend usin a diff chemist