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Due in Dec 2007. Enough already, bring on the babies!

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suey2 · 16/10/2007 17:30

hellloooooo?

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mimicakey · 31/10/2007 16:46

heeehee! Skid - will report back, it's really not that expensive so I'm hoping it's not just flattering photography!

Cazzybabs - I'll be doing the old 'there's no one in' tonight! Not keen on Halloween (but I don't have any kids yet).

cazzybabs · 31/10/2007 16:49

How many of us grown wowen will be hiding upstairs tonight!

mimicakey · 31/10/2007 16:51

I know, it's probably silly but just easier!! And I never have sweets to give them anyway.

skidaddle · 31/10/2007 16:54

I wanted to get organic raisins instead of sweets but DH said they would throw a brick through our window

mimicakey · 31/10/2007 16:56

Have to agree with your DH skid, no need to rile them up!

Just saw your name thread, is your DH a footie fan? If so, you might be able to sway him with Rafa as a shortening for Rafael!

Neuro · 31/10/2007 16:57

What test did you have Buzzybee?? Or can anyone else tell me?

mimicakey · 31/10/2007 17:03

I haven't read back but I think it said Buzzy's baby won't have downs. Not sure exactly what the test involved.

Anyone else think Heather Mills should shut her flipping trap?!

skidaddle · 31/10/2007 17:03

mimi - He is a Man Utd fan so would rather die than call his son after the Liverpool manager! He also suggested Roy (as in Keane) and Zinadine (as Zidane)! Ridiculous man that he is (although talks sense re organic raisins!!)

neuro - it was looking like buzzy's baby had downs syndrome but test has come back negative. Baby does have problems with heart and bowel though but as yet she doesn't know how serious. She's having more tests soon and fingers crossed the problems will be easily treated

skidaddle · 31/10/2007 17:04

why what has Heather Mills said?

mimicakey · 31/10/2007 17:06

She's moaning on again about the meeja ruining her life. But doing it on TV obviously.

Ooh, Zinedine, not sure I could do that to a child!!

mimicakey · 31/10/2007 17:10

Right, I'm off home and therefore on holiday, hooray! Have good weekends everyone!

Neuro · 31/10/2007 17:29

As ok. I daren't say anything in case i incur the wrath of someone from another message board!

buzzy if you read this - sending you some hugs. I think i read a week ago that you were feeling a bit sorry about being on your own - well commiserations, i do know how you feel sista! i've had anemia and bad back recently and the worst thing was feeling so tired and not having a chap to do the shopping and take the load off.

Still...i reckokn you're a tough (not so old) bird and you'll end up with a lovely baby and you'll be able to cope wiith everything. I still think it's better being on your own than having a crap bloke around.

xx

Neuro · 31/10/2007 17:30

Mills was on This Morning. I agree with what she says about the media, but tough shit! She's used them for her own end, esp back in her 'modelling days'.

Happy Hols Mimicakey!

loucee · 31/10/2007 18:18

have a great holiday mimicakey

Another benefit fan here, DH usually gets me something from the range for Christmas but in my hormonal madness with DD gave 3 products away to my sister! No idea why!

buzzybee · 31/10/2007 22:38

Neuro (and everyone else!) thanks so much for your messages. Absolutely agree with you on the crap man front. Have had no regrets about not "trying to make it work" with father of this baby but sometimes its very hard to know who to turn to talk about some of this stuff.

I had an amniocentesis, where they draw off some amniotic fluid and test it for chromosamal abnormalities. For Downs Syndrome, the test results come back fairly quickly but for other rarer but potentially much more serious syndromes (edwards, pataus) the results take longer to come through.

The heart defect and bowel blockage are of course potentially very serious and although the scan next Monday may show things a little more clearly its likely we won't get a good idea how serious until after the baby is born.

Having read threads written by purplelostprincess (thanks Bouncing for pointing me in her direction) I realise that I should be somewhat grateful that these problems have been picked up ante-natally. Her baby almost died simply because they didn't pick a serious problem until 3 days after she was born. This was at least she has the best possible chance of being treated appropriately.

Neuro · 31/10/2007 22:41

hey Buzzy!
So does this mean your baby might have a condition but might not?

buzzybee · 31/10/2007 22:44

MM and bambino - hope your tummyb recovers soon. I think that all that area becomes rather sensitive during PG - not surprising when you consider how squashed they must get! My view is that what might normally cause you to have a little gas seems to feel loads more painful as it tries to negotiate its way around the bump!
However have also read that bowel "contractions" can trigger real contractions close to the end of PG (hence why curries often suggested) so does pay to be a little aware.

Neuro · 31/10/2007 22:44

I just had a friend round who after 4 and a half years and failed IVF has given up the baby thing. We were just discussing how although she probably cannot ever have a child naturally, she does have a brilliant husband who she met when she was 16. And they have a great relationship (which of course has been earned and worked at), whereas I have resigned myself to probably never having that kind of relationship.I don't doubt i won't have boyfriends, but i am set in my ways, and just don't think i will ever have what she has.
that's life isn't it?
not sure why i've written all this!

buzzybee · 31/10/2007 22:47

Neuro - you're up late! I'm at work...
Baby definitely does not have Downs Syndrome but faint possibility could have one of those other conditions.

Consultant seemed pretty sure she could detect heart defect and bowel blockage on the ultra-sound scan but that is a rather inexact science - hence why I will no doubt be having weekly scans for the next 7 weeks to see if they can get a better idea.

Neuro · 31/10/2007 22:52

Ah ok.
Well sending you lots of positive vibes Buzzy.
It's only nearly 11pm here. I'm signed off sick which has instigated my maternity leave startin early. it's rather nice! in the absence of a man, having the energy and time just to look after myself and keep up with shopping and stuff is actually qutie a blessing. i'm actually going to be able to go swimming and attempt pregnancy yoga. just didnn't have time for anything.
i think my baby has it's head just under my ribs and it's beginning to be very uncomfortable.
So is your little baby doing all the usual stuff, but just with the potential complications you are now aware of?
I understand you had some amniotic fluid drained off?
How is your job? And who do you have around to support you?

buzzybee · 31/10/2007 22:52

I've come to the view that unless you meet someone by the time you're about 30, chances are you probably won't have that ideal marriage.
Probably self-delusional (as in I'm in denial that it can't be that there's something wrong with me!!) but my reasoning is that the older you get the less willing you are to make the compromises necessary to develop a really strong bond. Also there are far fewer genuinely nice chaps out there!!
I'm hanging onto the hope that I'll meet someone in my 50s and develop a great companionship - not the romantic ideal I know but I think it would be fine.

Neuro · 31/10/2007 22:52

(i've started staying up a bit later as frankly i just can't get to sleep if i go early plus no more early morning alarm)

Neuro · 31/10/2007 22:56

Agreed re: relationships.
I'd really love to fall in love and get married and have a house with roses in the garden. But I haven't lived with anyone for um 4 years now and i really love my own space and whenver i've had bfs stay over i've always been quite pleased when they've gone home in the morning! I've gone a bit blokey i think. Some weird reverse psychology. And they always want to hang around!
I suppose if i'd been in love with any of them then i'd have felt diffrerently.\
My flat is on the market at the mo. I really hope to sell it as i could never live here with a man, i'd have to start somehwere new.

buzzybee · 31/10/2007 23:00

Yeah, apart from the high amniotic fluid (which they drained off about 1 pint last Monday and will probably do the same again next Monday), the pregnancy has been pretty normal - in as much as its felt pretty similar to last time, albeit that I feel older and more creaky/cranky!

In fact, looking back I now wish I hadn't had the nuchal fold scan done as it just sent me down a (as it turns out) false path of worry and multiple scans and the bl**dy hospital consultant insisting at every turn that there was something wrong. I probably would have ended up having the scan now because of the high fluid but wouldn't have spent the last 20 weeks agonising over whether I should have the amnio done, was there a problem with the kidneys, how likely was it that she has Downs Syndrome etc etc.

But of course whenever I tried to tell anyone that I felt like things were fine and that I trusted my own instincts they looked at me like I was a sad delusional person in denial. Of course, they may yet be right...but I am feeling much more optimistic now than I was after the consultation on Monday.

buzzybee · 31/10/2007 23:07

That's the other thing too - practical stuff! by the time you're in your 30s chances are you're pretty settled, probably own a house/flat and have accumulated lots of nice things that you'd have to rationalise if you moved in with someone!
In my case, last year I bought my "dream" home (or as close to it as I'm likely to get) and there's no way I want to move out!! Of course, as you say if it was true love..blah blah

On the support front, I'm fairly lucky in that I live now in my home town (after years living in Geneva and London in my mid 20s / early 30s) so have a reasonable collection of friends old and new and my Mum. But its still hard to know who to talk to about this sort of stuff - they all have their own lives and (mostly) families.

My job is with a big 4 Chartered Accounting firm and I'm well paid and given a lot of autonomy which is all great - except that it can also be fairly high stress at times. Last week I was still on the computer at 11.30pm one night (and not on MN!) But feel now more than ever that I need to conserve my (fully paid) 14 weeks ML until after baby is born.

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