The babies are here! September 2020

[LatteLover12]

Hi all 👋🏻

Here's a new thread so we can keep chatting through the sleepless nights and the many outfits they've already grown out of... 😄

Similarly does anyone have the link for the Facebook group or what to search for to find it?

@LatteLover12 you poor thing, I really feel for you! My husband has a habit of only doing bedtime when it’s easy and handing over to me as soon as there’s resistance - I had a meeting scheduled during bedtime the other night though and he suddenly became very resourceful and managed just fine by himself. Hopefully it won’t come to you returning to work for him to step up but it does give them a little nudge.

@ChipsAreLife that’s exciting you’ve got your vaccine booked now, when I got mine last week I just felt tired the next day and my arm was really sore. Otherwise no side effects particularly. Husband had his the previous week and felt the same so I booked mine for a Friday night so he could be in charge of LO on the Saturday if needed!

Hi all! Where has time time gone?!

@LatteLover12 sorry you're having such a tough time of it? Could you maybe write all of your feelings down in a letter to him, so he really has to sit and take note.

I'm back at work in September so I'm going to enjoy the next few months whilst I can. We are at baby groups 4x per week which is great fun.

@ShiningStarz that's exciting! Why July?

I am soooo broody. My dh knows I want another child so badly. He thinks I'm an absolute lunatic for wanting a vbac too but I just feel if i elected for a section after my emergency then I'd miss out on having labour - the pain/agony but the whole thing of being in labour!I'm a mad woman I know! Anyway, it's all pie in the sky anyway because so far he won't agree to another baby .

@LatteLover12 typing whilst doing a feed sorry, ? in the wrong place.

@LatteLover12 I am so sorry to hear about the lack of support your DP is giving you and your child. I really hope things will change for you all. I don't know if I could stick a partner like that, hate to say it but some men are a waste of space!

@ChipsAreLife I know it would be sooo hard but I'm 40 next year so don't have time on my side. It would be lovely to have 2 close together, if we were lucky!!

@Chanel05 I just want to wait and it would be fab if I had early pregnancy while still on Mat leave but also can work a while when I go back :)

@LatteLover12 I was talking to my partner about your comments and he wandered how old your partner is?
Mine is mid 40's so he's in a different head space, he said he couldn't have done kids in his early 30's! Lol glad I didn't know him then 😂😂

@LatteLover12 I feel you on the partner front. Night time mine is the worst! At least it sounds like yours attempts to settle baby, even if unsuccessful. My OH won't even bother trying to settle her. But he's helpful in other ways like cooking although that annoys me - cooking is something he loves to do (me too though!) and he will shut himself in the kitchen under the pretense of cooking for his family when actually he just wants even more baby free time and I'm left holding the baby still, feeding the baby, bathing the baby, settling the baby and playing with the baby without a break. I have to physically plop her on his lap and prise his phone out of his hand sometimes too and then march myself off and shut the kitchen door telling him I'm cooking tonight!! At night, I settle baby in to bed about 730pm then every time she stirs until feed her around 1030pm. My DH merrily wafts up the stairs says a cheery 'oh you're here, night!' as if it is a surprise to see me feeding or settling the baby. No offer of him taking her and rocking or cuddling or helping her get to sleep, just takes himself to bed and that's that. To the extent that last night, when I'd fed her and she still wasn't settling after 30m and he was snoring away at midnight, I put her down in her cot kicked him awake and told him I would be sleeping on the sofa because apparently that is where you can't hear baby according to him. Needless to say, you can absolutely hear her, and her crying made him get up because he couldn't sleep through it. I did feel terrible though (for baby, not him) and returned to our room on her next wake up an hour later. We've been hit hard by the 8m sleep regression and I'm well and truly struggling with the frequency of wakeups, length of night wakefulness/cot parties, and the constant demand for more boob.

That all said, my DH and I came to an arrangement where he gets up first with her and now (reluctantly) gives her breakfast while I get an extra 45m in bed. That's pretty much the extent of my 'time off'. That'll all change when he has to start commuting again though, he's still WFH until Sept....

Is anyone on here not going back to work?

My job was a fixed term contract that ended just at mat leave started and I'm not having any success job hunting for a new role to start Sept (teacher). Whilst noone will ever say it, I wonder if it is because I'm out of work/on mat leave.

@Margo34 also teacher here - it was a bit hit and miss as I thought I'd be told I was back 5 days (I'd have resigned) but I've been offered 2. I started a childminding course a few weeks ago that I'm half way through and really enjoying it. I am going to set it up part-time and see how I go. No pressure on myself to love it or continue if I don't want to.

@ShiningStarz ahh that's true. It'd be nice to get the bulk of the mornings sickness out of the way on mat leave! We had a discussion last night and I think in a roundabout way we've agreed to ttc again this year. My miscarried baby and my daughter both took 8 months to conceive, so I don't want to put myself under any pressure or give myself the illusion that it'll be any quicker. I had fertility tests and we both have great fertility, I just was sooooo stressed and it's counterproductive isn't it? Plus, it can be harder to conceive after a c-section.

@Chanel05 I never knew it could be harder to conceive after a c section! Is that really true?! How exiting!! It's nice to have that chat, just to plant the seed 😊

@ShiningStarz how are you doing? Are you thinking of ttc/actively?

Happy New Year ladies!!
Can't believe my little girl is almost 16 months!!
I got a positive HPT this morning! Can't believe I'm back here again!!
How are you all getting on?

@Chanel05 sorry I never saw your previous message xo

@ShiningStarz congratulations! Another September baby for you?! I'm on cycle 4 of ttc 😬

@Chanel05 yes I know another sept baby! Must be something about the Christmas conception with us 😂 aww I hope something happens for you soon, lots and lots of luck xx how's your big one keeping? (Not so little anymore!!)

@ShiningStarz 😂 any tips?

All good here, mad how quick the time goes! How's your little one?

@Chanel05 lots of Prosecco 😂😂
She's great thanks! Can't believe almost 16 months! So much fun and a lovely stage 🥰

Hey! Another one back in the game! We got a BFP at the beginning of this week so think this LO will be due at the end of September, all being well. So close to DS's birthday, eeek! Lovely to see we're not alone in trying again around this time, congratulations @ShiningStarz and keeping everything crossed for you @Chanel05 .

Congrats @LooseyGoosey
I'm 6.5 weeks now, it's so different 2nd time around! I'm so busy juggling life that sometimes I forget i'm pregnant! Iv booked a private scan at 11 weeks.
Another sept baba for us too :)

I can't believe I'm on the sept 2022 thread!! 😱

@ShiningStarz yay! I'm on the august 2022 one. Can't believe how quick time has gone.

How are the pregnancies going? I'm on cycle 6 🙄.

@Chanel05 I hope it happens for you very soon.
I am 14 weeks now. It's hard work having a toddler when pregnant! The exhaustion is unreal. Hope everyone else is keeping well

How are things @Chanel05

@LooseyGoosey how's it going with your pregnancy? All good here, can't believe I'm approaching the 20 week scan.