The babies are here! September 2020

[LatteLover12]

Hi all 👋🏻

Here's a new thread so we can keep chatting through the sleepless nights and the many outfits they've already grown out of... 😄

Thanks@Sara7455 that's reassuring. Will see how she does on the next weigh in.

In other news we have finally (!) set up the high chair. We bought the maxi cosi minla and so far are super happy with it. DDtook to it like a dream and it's super easy use and fold. Love the fact you can put the tray on the back for storage.

@kersh33 we also have the minla... how does the table attach to back of chair? This is a new revelation!!

@kersh33 I just watched the tutorial video lol that's brilliant !! Haha

@ShiningStarz it's really handy isn't it! DD doesn't eat at the same time as us and we are doing purées so we don't use the tablet at all at the moment so it's super useful to be able to stow it away. 😊

@kersh33 do you find even at the highest height your little one can't see the contents of bowl? It's almost like there needs to be a booster seat under her?!

Happy Mother’s Day to those on here 💙

Hi ladies, hope everyone is well. Happy Easter!

We're doing well with solids here & even though he's only 6.5 months he's already in 12m clothes 🤣

He's still up several times a night to bf but I'm going to try offering water in a bottle to see if I can stop the habit. I'm sure it's more comfort than hunger.

I hope you're all enjoying the sunshine. I'm excited to start baby groups from next week - FINALLY!!

@lattelover12 still multiple wakes here too I just feed back to sleep as I know he'd blow a fuse if I offered water and I'm too tired to deal with that 😂
Can't wait for baby classes either what ones are you doing? We're going to be starting swimming and baby sensory will be so nice to have some organised activities so I don't have to think about what we can do all day!

@LatteLover12 my little girl is formula bottle fed and is 7 months today!! She wakes at 11pm ish and again at 3am!! Then she's wide awake until about 4 so we just bring her into our bed to let her babble and then fall asleep!!!

Ah thanks for the reassurance @MooseWL and @ShiningStarz I really needed it this morning!

I'm getting more and more resentful of DP & it's not healthy. He's decided he needs a lie in this morning so I'm already out (in the snow!) with the pram for nap time. Baby has been up since 6am. I'm just exhausted & I don't feel I get any help from my partner.

I could cry this morning & I think if hotels were open I'd be booking one!

Sorry, rant over. I can't say anything to DP because he just goes in a massive sulk 😔

@LatteLover12 that sounds really tough. It's very easy to get into competitive tiredness mode with your partner. It's especially tough if you end up doing all the entertaining of the baby when you're super tired.

Is there any way you can negotiate in advance some time where he looks after baby and you get to have a rest? I find that it's easier to agree the day before what the rules are - so for example I'll get up when she wakes up first in the morning to feed her. If she goes back to sleep, we all sleep otherwise he gets up with her and I go back to bed. It works better for us than arguing in the day who should get up and who's the most tired!

Even with that I must admit to a touch of resentment when I am yet again looking after the baby trying to keep her quiet while he has his daily nap!

I know most people on this group are on Facebook groups but I decided not to.

I just wanted to say I hope everyone is doing well? Can't believe my little princess is 8 months old !! She's a joy to be around and I absolutely love being her mummy. Still a few months to go before I return to work!!

You should come join in. It’s complete private, no oddballs allowed lol.
Glad to hear you are doing well! It’s amazing how fast time is going, mines 9 months next week and he’s a giggling bundle lol.
I’m back at work next month. Cannot wait for normality! Wondering how the change of routine will effect him though!
How you found weaning? I can’t find anything Rafe won’t eat 🙈

Hello!!! I was just thinking I should check in and you beat me to it @ShiningStarz ☺️ how are you?

Eight months grace whizzed by haven't they? It's lovely at this age as they start to become really good fun! My little one is very giggly, he laughs all day it's so lovely! He's almost crawling so that's a game changer but the girls were at 6 months so I've had two months extra 😬

Would you believe I'm still pumping. Just twice a day now but I'm holding out till I've had my vaccine (36 so soon 🤞) as I read baby gets antibodies through milk. Then I'm hanging my pump up!

@Lorna198 ha ha! The same here! He's a big boy and loves it. He prefers feeding himself so trying to constantly find things he can manage with his four little teeth! How about your little one?

Hope you're all well and finally we can start enjoying things again! We've been doing swimming and it's a huge hit!

@Lorna198 aww lovely to hear from you. Snap here with the weaning!! She's not feeding herself yet but loves being spoon fed!!! Omg back at work!! Iv 3 months to go, I took the year.

Aww @ChipsAreLife that's fab!' Amazing you are still pumping!! Go u!! We are doing great, went swimming for the first time last weekend, it's lovely things are slowly opening up!! How are you? I'm sure your hands are busy xx

Wonder is any else pregnant again!! Thinking about tryin come July :)

@shiningstarz @chipsarelife 🙋🏻‍♀️

@shiningstarz I can't even imagine being pregnant again already! I feel like no 1 is still too much hard work! I think I'll change my mind when I go back to work maybe! 🤞🏻 For you!

@chipsarelife I've got a giggly one as well he is such a happy baby! Well done for still pumping! I'm still breastfeeding and have had one vaccine already so happy he'll be getting antibodies!

@lattelover12 also I totally missed your post back in April my phone is hit and miss whether I get a notification when there's a new post. How are you feeling about your partner now? Resentment is something I'm struggling with. I feel like his life has barely changed whereas I've sacrificed everything and no longer can go to any of the things I used to do. I hope when he's eating more and down to 2 naps I'll be able to leave him for longer (atm he'll only feed to sleep and we're doing blw so he's still hit and miss to how much he swallows!)
I'm hoping when I go back to work and Jacob gets used to being looked after by others it'll be easier too.

I still feel pretty much the same to be honest @MooseWL

He's still on the sofa getting a full nights sleep every night and still telling me how tired he is every day and that's on top of having a go at me if I ask him not to fall asleep downstairs in the middle of the day 🙄

We had a big chat over the course of a couple of days and although he seemed to listen nothing has changed.

I feel the same as you. My life has imploded and his hasn't changed a bit. I asked him if he genuinely hadn't considered that having a baby would mean less sleep for both of us and he just shrugged and said 'that's what maternity leave is for'.

The problem is I go back to work next week (😭) and nothing has changed.

I stuck to what I said in a previous post though. I've booked myself into a local hotel for a night at the end of the month & he'll have to deal with doing a night on his own.

@ChipsAreLife we are still very much purées. Still nothing on the teeth front 🙄😂 he’s only just mastered rolling too so hoping he has a spurt on doing more stuff lol.

@ShiningStarz yeah I was gonna take the year but with furlough I finished last March so I’m well ready to go back. I’m only part time so it’s not too bad. I’ve been to see the nursery today and it seemed great so hopefully it’ll help him being with other babies too! I am starting to consider trying . I’d quite like to be done and dusted before 40 so we have until the end of next year to get pregnant again. Might tell hubby at Christmas and make his present lots of sex 🙈😂

@LatteLover12im glad you’ve stuck to your guns with the hotel! I hope it gives you the rest you need!

Hahahah @Lorna198 snap!! I'm 40 next April so I really need to get a move on lol
No teeth here yet either!!! Rolling over a little and sitting up now so well.
Good on you @LatteLover12 hopefully he'll
Man up sometime soon!!!!

Hi all!! Gosh I haven’t been on this thread in so long! I hope everyone is well.

Has anyone got the link for the Facebook page?

We’re all doing really well here! Baby E was 8 months a few days ago. She’s so lovely. Really enjoying it this time around. I’m back at work in two months and absolutely dreading it already. She’s very nearly crawling but mostly rolls and drags herself around the floor. Need to start thinking about baby proofing the house soon.

For those struggling with resentment and partners I really feel for you. I have an older DD who is 6 and she was a very high needs baby. Never slept, constant crying. I remember watching my OH leaving for work or sleeping through the rough nights and wanting to murder him lol! I’m very lucky (and relieved) that this time around we seem to have a much calmer, easier baby who sleeps well. There were definitely days first time around where I was on my knees with it all and I desperately needed my OH to do his fair share and give me a break.

And no more babies for us unfortunately we always said we wanted two. I do feel a bit sad about it though! I miss those newborn cuddles already.

@ChipsAreLife that’s amazing you’re still pumping!! Very impressive! I gave it up when I started weaning at 6 months, he’s absolutely loving his food though so not having loads of formula these days at least!

We’ve got sitting up and some rolling - he hates tummy time so not sure we’ll get crawling but he’s started trying to bum shuffle and he’ll stand up and try walking if you hold his hands. Think we’ll be in trouble when he’s on the move - little wild child!

Classic example of his shitfuckery tonight...

Baby went to bed in his cot at 7ish. Started stirring at 9.30. DP went up to settle him & after 5 minutes gave up and brought him downstairs.

15 minutes later DP disappeared. Turns out he's gone and got into bed without saying anything so now me and baby will be on the sofa all night. How can he think this is okay? I thought he was a good guy 😔 I feel like such a fool.

I've been up to speak to him (I hadn't been brushed my teeth). He doesn't think he's done anything wrong. I'm so tired.

Oh @LatteLover12 I'm so sorry. This isn't on at all. Surely he knows that's it wrong and he's just playing dumb? Could you maybe try help him settling the baby for a times? Show him what you do so he knows? My DH was useless with our first so I did the bulk and it really made me resent him. In fairness she was a terrible sleeper but even more reason for help! Just keep telling him he needs to help, it's his child too. Babies don't sleep well, it's a myth they do and he needs to support you especially when you return to work.

@MooseWL ah that's lovely. Love the giggles! Ah great you've had one! I'm 36 so have just booked for next week. How did you feel after?

@ShiningStarz I fell pregnant when my first was around 9/10 months. It was a shock and really hard being pregnant with a little one and then having two under two. But now they're older it's amazing. They are best friends and with lockdown that was such a gift! I would go for it 🤩

@Lorna198 in some ways the purées are good as less mess but they do take time for you to feed! Hopefully the rolling turns to rocking and then crawling. Although it's a pain now as I can't leave him for ten seconds!

@Sara7455 how are you guys?! Yeah I've surprised myself with my commitment. To be honest if covid hadn't happened I wouldn't have done it! And yes to the trouble when they move, it's a game changer and you'll spend the next year on edge a bit 🤣🤣🤣