The babies are here! September 2020

[LatteLover12]

Hi all 👋🏻

Here's a new thread so we can keep chatting through the sleepless nights and the many outfits they've already grown out of... 😄

@ShiningStarz it's so hard isn't it? I think it's the idea that if you start, be prepared that you could have a baby 9 months later!! It took 8 months, had a mmc, another 8 months and then of course pregnancy, so was a pretty long journey for us. You just never know what round 2 will be like!

@Lilice I have kept my daughter's clothes but I can't bear to get rid of them yet anyway! My dh would love another but he said we can't afford it . We're only early 30s but I'd ideally want 2 under 2/3 max. I had quite a nightmare emcs, so it's not a good idea to get pregnant quickly regardless.

@MooseWL fair enough!! The 4 month sleep regression is currently one of my contraceptives; it's funny how during the night when you've been awake every hour you think you can't do it again!!

@chanel05 I know what you mean it took me almost 2 years to get pregnant so it's hard to know when to start trying as don't want too big a gap but also I definitely need a bit of a break and like you say it could be totally different this time. Also with bf who knows when periods will come back.
So with you on the sleep regression I'm like what if we have another and I've still not figured out how to get this one out of my bed 😂

@MooseWL @Chanel05 my in laws cautionary tale is that it took them over a year to get pregnant with my husband so they thought it would be the same again and fell pregnant immediately. Two under 18 months doesn’t sound like it was a picnic! There’s just no knowing how long it will take is there!

We always said we wanted 3, the day W was born we said never again and now we’re saying we’ll have another one and see how that goes before we decide about a third. Consultant genuinely laughed when she came to see me in recovery to say we needed a chat about future kids and I told her we were done- “you say that now, give it a few months” ha!

Yeah I hadn't even considered another one when I'd had my first. I stopped BF at 9 months. Got carried away one night on the wine and thought I'd be ok as my periods hadn't returned. Anyway I ended up with two in 19 months 😬😬😬 baby stage was fine. Two toddlers was horrendous!!!!

We then decided to have a bigger gap when girls were both at school so I could focus on baby. Now I have two kids being home schooled and a baby and work because DH isn't. So even with the best laid plains it can go tits up 🤣🤣🤣

@Lilice ah four would be awesome!!! If I didn't have such a bad recovery from my section this time I'd be tempted. DH is done though and I need to respect it. Deep down I'm thrilled with my three and I always said I wouldn't have any after 35 (no idea why, it's not old!!!) so I'm done.

I'm so pleased, well not the best word, that you all feel so down about it all too. It feels like we've done so long and we still don't know when we can get out. I'm dreaming of summer BBQs with friends and family outside though. DH wants to get a fire pit 🙄

Going to be cold this week at night so get baby and you wrapped up warm!

@ChipsAreLife my DH wants a firepit as well! Not sure why, but he’s very keen. Definitely with you dreaming of summer bbqs with friends and family. Completely fed up of all this, especially with how cold it is out. Just want to be able to go to a friends house to drink tea and gossip. Hopefully it won’t go on too much longer!

@ShiningStarz yeah I'm 39 in June. I've been thinking about it and have thought the same about him being on his own when we are gone and my mum is piling on the pressure about having a second but my other half isn't keen. He didn't want kids and is living having him but doesn't seem convinced that we need another one.

@Roxy8203 it's so hard! Childcare costs would be crazy for 2 years ! I'm also worried it would be so hectic that our relationship would suffer. A bigger age gap would be better! I think I'm going to wait until July and then decide. 🤔 x

I'm not too worried about the child care costs as my job is shifts abs I could opt for evenings so they would be with my partner while I worked. Also my parents are retiring so would be able to help.
I'm not sure I want to be pregnant again, I didn't have any problems during pregnancy but it's not something I miss

I'm a bit broody for a second. I'll be 40 this year so also would need to get my skates on and a bit unsure if I could manage 2 small children. My job normally involves a lot of travel (thankfully on ice right now because of COVID) but I will need to travel again which will involve me being away overnight if not for a few days a couple of times a month. Not sure it would be fair to leave DH with 2 under 2 in those circumstances.

@kersh33 I'm similar to you, my job (non covid world) had me away long days, 6am-7pm. I used to love the travelling and long days. The overnights used to be very frequent, thankfully only maybe once a month recent times. 2 under 2 would be hectic!!
@Roxy8203 I miss my bump but not the problems I had in pregnancy- gestational diabetes and the racing heart 😢 mmmmm 🤔

This is an interesting conversation guys. I admit DH and I were never really fussed about having kids until my nieces came along and then that softened us up and we decided one would be nice. Some days i’m still completely in the one and done camp and then other days I do think maybe one more.... I know i’d want at least a 3yr age gap though so I guess I have the luxury of time to decide (perhaps by the time Dd is 3 i’ll have rose tinted glasses about the baby stage which might make the decision easier haha)

Hi all. Sorry I haven't updated much. Newborn life was a whirlwind. I have been reading and its been so great hearing everyone else's experiences. Made me feel less isolated as a ftm in a pandemic!
So over lockdown life too. Obviously know its for the best health wise but it breaks my heart family and friends haven't been involved in the new baby glow times. He'll he a walking, talking person by the time he meets people at this rate!
In lots of ways I'm not sure if I want another. I hated being pregnant for instance. But I kind of do so I can have a normal baby experience in a few years once the pandemic has settled!

Despite all the difficulties, even my DH and I have had the chat about TTC#2 or not. He is an only child and now feeling the pressure of responsibility caring for his parents lying solely with him. They both have restrictive health conditions, one manageable but not curable. DH recently signed POAs for them so we had some difficult conversations around end of life last summer too. It has made my DH really think about having another baby because he doesn't want DD to feel as pressured as he currently does. He also loves the relationship I have with my siblings and says he wants that for DD, albeit with a single sibling. So we said we'd wait until closer to DD 1st birthday to start trying again. I don't want to leave it much longer than that as drawing ever closer to 40.

I miss my pregnancy bump. I don't miss the associated carpal tunnel though!

@neuromama you're so right about having the experience of a baby not in a pandemic. It would be nice...

So I can't remember who it was ages ago before we had our babies who was reading the June babies thread @lattelover12 maybe? WELL... I got sucked in again, and looks like there is no hope in sight for better sleep 😂 lots of talk of sleep training. I shouldn't have looked hahaa

Haha, it was me!! I'm too scared to look these days 🤣

DP is firmly on the sofa these days whilst we ride out the 4 month sleep regression.

Good job I'm a fully paid up member of team no sleep!

Ahh yes lol I remember when we were chatting about the June thread 🤣 oh well now im going to have to take a look, won't i?
I totally understand, having a baby during a pandemic is NOT fun and far from normal. There's load of things i was looking forward to doing again just one more time, thats maybe why I'm tempted to have one more but only if/when things return to normal. I started ttc for my second when my first started walking, got pregnant straight away and they are exactly 24 months and 3 days apart. Took a bit longer to get pregnant with number 3 though. I miss my bump but definitely not the swelling, the weight gain and the insomnia 😫

@lattelover12 we're somehow all managing in a double. I snuck out for a wee the other night and when I got back the baby was laid out starfished taking up like half the bed though haha. I'm just accepting the no sleep. He's way too nosey in the day so just feeds all night to catch up!

@lilice it's all weaning and sleep chat and lots of non sleepers at like 7/8 months 😂

Gahhh need a rant. MIL has just turned up (in our bubble 🥴) after not visiting for almost a week because of heavy snow. I'd just started feeding dd and she insisted on taking her off me to continue the bottle. She bounced her, tickled her, made silly noises during the whole poxy bottle and surprise surprise, dd only drank 3 out of her usual 6 oz because she thought it was play time. I am currently having a bit of a steaming moment!! I am not feeling particularly patient at the moment.

Hi, I got the 'what mummy makes' weaning book, someone on here recommend it, I'm sorry I can't remember who. One of my questions was how do I know how much milk etc when they start 'eating' so here's a snip Tom the book which helps: hope it helps someone. X

@ShiningStarz

Hi, I got the 'what mummy makes' weaning book, someone on here recommend it, I'm sorry I can't remember who. One of my questions was how do I know how much milk etc when they start 'eating' so here's a snip Tom the book which helps: hope it helps someone. X

Thanks @ShiningStarz - that's really helpful. 😊

@shiningstarz It's reduced on amazon atm so I've just bought it 😁

My boy would need about 10 more milk feeds adding to that plan 😂

Thank you @ShiningStarz when are you going to start weaning?

@Chanel05 I know the feeling, my MIL would also annoy sometimes when I'd leave her with my baby. Once she looked after my son who was 6 weeks old at the time, we were visiting and went to see my DH's brother (they're all in NI). When we came back early evening, I realised he hadn't napped all day 😖 and was in a fould mood, poor baby. I think they just get carried away, but not in a mean way as they don't realise.

Ahhhh im having such a hard time with naps at the moment. Eva has been having longer naps for the past 2 months, and since Monday she's been back to cat napping. I thought we were going to transition to 3 or even 2 naps as she was napping so well. Now we're back to 4 naps every day. It's so frustrating! If she carries on after half term, I won't be able to homeschool anymore. Is anyone having the same issue??

Awwww @Chanel05 I wouldn't worry too much. Grandparents have such a special bond with their grandchildren. It's like the elders forget about sense cause they just love seeing the little
ones smiles! My mum sometimes lets my little girl jump up and down after a feed lol and well one day she vomited her whole feed back up! My mum knew now to let that happen but bless she was just so excited to be around the baby. Don't be too hard on them, grandkids are their reason for living and carrying on xx

No probs @kersh33
Ha ha ha @MooseWL I was thinking the same!! Our little girl is just over 5 months and between 8-8 she will feed every 2/2.5hrs! She's just awake to play for 40 mins maybe and then a sleep and then play a bit and then feed.... on repeat!! Maybe wakes once in night for feed.

@Lilice Iv signed up to nct baby first aid course on 27th Feb... I plan to start 6th March, she will be just a few days away from 6 months then. How about you?

Wev just packed away the downstairs sleep
Basket !! Camera arrived and so far she sleeps upstairs now and we watch her on camera!! So strange that me and dp can actually talk and be doing different things while baby is asleep upstairs... sad too though that it's packed away!!!! Bassinet is next to go in the attic. Transitioning her to big girl pram seat, just orders the foot muff 💰 💰!!!!!

@ShiningStarz im starting next week when she turns 5 months old. I've got a baby cook to steam and mix purees. Im going to start with a teaspoon of carrot purée for a couple of days at lunch, then introduce a new veg every couple of days. Do that for a week or so and increase the quantities gradually and then add meat and cards. Im starting with lunch, then snack at 4pm with a fruit purée, and later on ill add dinner. It's exciting but that's when their poo starts to stink more, especially after introducing the meat. @kersh33 have you introduced the meat yet?