The babies are here! September 2020

[LatteLover12]

Hi all 👋🏻

Here's a new thread so we can keep chatting through the sleepless nights and the many outfits they've already grown out of... 😄

@MooseWL yes it's a stretchy sling and I tied it tighter last time.... Too tight.... her disposable nappy leaked front and back and my boobs leaked too. We were both soaked as was the sling 🙈

This morning (5am) DD was doing her typical farting/crying/wide awake trying to get our attention, so I got her up and went to change he nappy and as soon as I opened it up she did an explosive wee which went all over me 😂😂😂

@margo34 totally been there 🙈
@OrDis didn't know girls could do that too! It's a nightmare with boys he can wee so far 🤣

@MooseWL me neither! It was like she waited till just the right moment after i’d removed the nappy and then projectile peed 🤣

@OrDis I'm getting quite skilled at catching the live wees and poos now! In the day time it's like she saves them up until she's on the changing table 😂

(*catching in a nappy) 😂😂

@Margo34 yup!! I can predict the time of day for a poo now 😂😂. Today we were unfortunately out for lunch resulting in a complete poonami up the front, back and legs which meant a meltdown whilst out and necessitated an afternoon bath when we got home 😂😂

@Margo34 @OrDis I'm lol'ing reading these!!!! Haha our little wakes herself up farting or pooping!!! It's too funny!! I agree if they weren't so cute I'd have checked myself into a mental asylum by now!!!
Well I was feeling useless too so i decided to go to Tesco and do a shop, all fine until I got to the till!! The stuff wasn't scanning at self serve till and she started screaming like hyperventilating crying!! We don't use a dummy so I had to abandon my shop and leave! My Alcohol gel was in car and I didn't want to lift her up and handle her without cleaning my hands. Absolute nightmare! I'm now back on sofa watching Christmas movies!! I'm lucky that I do see my parents few days a week to break things up. I agree that you are still growing your baby, just in a different way so don't give yourself a hard time. Hugs x

Hope everyone is doing ok. Think most of you are on the Facebook groups now. Our little girl is 3 months today! The time is flying!!

@ShiningStarz it’s amazing how time is going fast! It’s good though because they start to become their own little characters. I think I’m gonna have a very cheeky little boy on my hands. Does nothing but smile and wave his hands when I don’t want him to haha

Awww @Lorna198 too cute! I love it when our little girl wakes in the morning and opens her eyes, as soon as she sees us she has this huge big smile!! Lovely start to the day. I hope everyone is enjoying the fun times.

I can't remember who it was that was having the little one with a heart problem, I hope your baby is doing well xx

Aww I agree it’s so lovely to be woken to a big smile (even if it is at 5am). DD is fascinated by everything at the moment. It’s lush!!! I miss the tiny newborn snuggles, but she is definately much more entertaining now (and cries much less which is great lol)

Last night J did a giant poo at 2am and I had to get up to change him and I was trying not to make eye contact so he knew it was night time but he just kept grinning 😂🙄
It's so nice being able to put him on the playmat for 10 mins or under his mobile. He's really good at holding his head up too on his stomach. I keep looking at him and thinking wheres my newborn!
@shiningstarz you survived the first trimester, well done 😊
I'm seeing a lactation consultant tomorrow cos I'm still concerned about his constant feeding, I thought it would have got easier by now but it's still so hard!

Morning smiles are the best! Cant wait to hear some giggles.

How did your appointment go @MooseWL?

@lilice it was reassuring. She assessed a feed and said he seemed to be doing well, but encouraged me to call my hv tomorrow and ask for him to be weighed as she agreed 6 weeks between weigh ins when we had such difficulties with weight gain is leaving it too long. More to reassure me than anything. He's still feeding hourly in the day apart from his 2 longer naps which she said is at the higher end of "normal", so will reassess after he's weighed.

Hey @MooseWL I can't believe we have reached 3 months! I barely remember her in the early days!
Well our girl still feeds every 2 hours and twice overnight, only manages 120ml at a time.
She's drooling now, anyone else?? Also pooping every few hours! Maybe a little thin but not overly watery. Anyone else?!
She's in good form otherwise and had second set vaccinations last week.
Wondering if drooling are signs of teething that's on the way?? Started dummy if she's really unsettled after waking in night / in car. She doesn't take to well to it tho n spits it out!!

I had a period just 2 weeks ago.. very heavy and lasted 4 days. 2 weeks after it ended I started spotting .. still an, unsure y. Anyone else?

My baby girl's crying has reached unbearable levels my DH is at breaking point. I'm struggling to cope with him as well as her but can't give up on her as quickly and easily as DH does. I need a break but he won't take her without me being within 5 metres and I'm not sure I trust him not to get frustrated at her either. I'm exhausted. I took baby to meet new mum friends outside in a local pub garden at the weekend (adhering to all local restrictions) and she was crying throughout and nothing would console her whilst the other babies in the group were pictures of perfect contentedness. I didn't get to eat my lunch there or finish even half my drink because of her crying. I ended up leaving early so stressed by it all and the crying carried on at home too. For seemingly no reason. Baby's voice went hoarse from all the continual crying which then upset me more. DH took the opportunity to go out and get drunk for 7 hours himself and so he wasn't even safe to hold baby when he got home. I need a break. No family nearby and I'm ashamed to admit I'm struggling so much right now. I'm drowning and feel like I'm failing where I wasn't 2-3 weeks ago. The crying has definitely been noticeably worse in the last 2-3 weeks. I think she has reflux, feeds have been getting longer last couple of weeks so inevitable that reflux is worse too I think. I don't know what to do and I've no one to help or vent to. She's EBF and 10weeks now. I thought 6 weeks was supposed to be peak crying! Tell me this is normal or not. Sorry to rant here, I literally have nowhere.

@shiningstarz the first few weeks seem like a lifetime ago! I feel like it's still challenging but in different ways but I'm really enjoying seeing the development!
Have you started any birth control? I started the mini pill and have had a bit of spotting but apparently you can get really irregular bleeds or none at all with that. Not entirely sure as I was on the combined pill before.
@margo34 I'm sorry to hear it sounds like you're having a really tough time. Please don't apologise for ranting. Have a google of purple crying, the peak for that is usually around 2 months so maybe that's what she's going through. It's so frustrating when they cry and you don't know how to fix it! I've probably got a low crier and normally my boob can fix it but in the last week or so he's been having longer crying periods where he refuses my boob and it's horrible. Rocking him in tiger in the tree position works for us sometimes, seems to calm him, worth a try?
Im*@shiningstarz* the first few weeks seem like a lifetime ago! I feel like it's still challenging but in different ways but I'm really enjoying seeing the development!
Have you started any birth control? I started the mini pill and have had a bit of spotting but apparently you can get really irregular bleeds or none at all with that. Not entirely sure as I was on the combined pill before.
@margo34 I'm sorry to hear it sounds like you're having a really tough time. Please don't apologise for ranting. Have a google of purple crying, the peak for that is usually around 2 months so maybe that's what she's going through. It's so frustrating when they cry and you don't know how to fix it! I've probably got a low crier and normally my boob can fix it but in the last week or so he's been having longer crying periods where he refuses my boob and it's horrible. Rocking him in tiger in the tree position works for us sometimes, seems to calm him, worth a try?
I'm sorry your partner isn't being supportive, if you tried talking to him about how you're feeling would that help? It also might be worth talking to your GP, as there is support out there, they may be able to help you access it, and they may be able to help with the reflux?
You are definitely not failing, having a newborn is way harder than I can have imagined especially with the sleep deprivation and it must be so hard if she's really unsettled.
How's her daytime napping? Would your partner take her even in the next room whilst she naps so you can be there if you need to be? I know it's not ideal but even taking 20 minutes to do some yoga or have a sofa nap without the baby can be game changing and give you a bit of a break.

@shiningstarz @margo34 no idea what happened with that post, i thought it had disappeared so I pasted and now everything has appeared twice... I blame 4am 🙄

We are having a fussy few days here. Wonder weeks says she’s going through her third leap, and I also think she is having a growth spurt as I swear this morning her previously fine fitting vest was almost too tight to do up seemingly overnight!! Either that or i’ve shrunk it in the washing machine 😂

I’m sorry your struggling @Margo34. It’s so so hard sometimes isn't it, especially when your partner isn't being as supportive. My DH and I generally muddle through but neither of us really enjoys doing the early mornings so thats always a bit of a source of tension (DD loves to wake up at 5am). You sound very much like you need a break, is there anyone you can call on for a few hours so you can just have a bit of a rest? Have you spoken to your partner about how you are feeling? Perhaps you can agree to a couple of hours each week where he takes baby to give you a break and vice versa- maybe if it’s a sort of-predictable time each week (e.g. a Monday evening) then he’ll feel able to cope a bit better because he knows it’s coming/knows it’s time-limited etc?

I’d speak to the Gp about the reflux, they may be able to prescribe something to help. I’ve noticed DD vomits much more now that she takes more milk, sometimes it bothers her more than other times I think (mostly when she hasn't done a poo for a couple of days)

Aww @Margo34 that sounds tough. Eva used to have a very fussy time between 5 and 7 every evening. She also has reflux and now we've managed to control it, it makes such a big difference . Im combi feeding so it's a bit easier for me to try different things, but have you tried infant gaviscon or carobel? It's made a big difference for us. I give her the gaviscon just once a day, for her evening feed and use the carobel with breastmilk for all the other feeds during the day, and she has cow and gate anti reflux for her dreamfeed. Definitely talk to your gp about it, my first baby also had reflux and her constant crying drove me to pnd. I really sympathise and know what it's like to have no family nearby. Have you got a friend or a neighbour that could take her for a walk while you get some rest? Or maybe your DH after his work? Please remember this is just a phase and things will get better. The first 3 months are the hardest and it does get easier. Hang in there x
@MooseWL glad your appointment went well and you found it reassuring. It sounds like you're doing a great job.

Thanks @lilice 😊
@shiningstarz forgot to add Jacob has def started drooling more too I've started putting bibs on him to stop it going all over his clothes! Hope it's not teething already. He also still poos about 4 times a day. So much for bf babies pooing less after 6 weeks, he's still going through nappies like there's no tomorrow!

@OrDis I found exactly the same about sleepsuits this weekend I can't do up the 0-3 on the bottom anymore, he must have grown overnight! 3-6 are better lengthwise but are so wide on him! He's also in 6-9 month socks 🤣 yet a lot of his 0-3 outfits so jumpers etc are still looking giant!

Has anyone's babies lost their hair? J was born with quite a bit but lots has fallen out on top and round the back apart from at the bottom I keep finding it all over his pillow! He's rocking the monk look 🙊

@Margo34 I'm so sorry to hear you're struggling. It's so tough when they cry. We've been on the Gaviscon since she was 2 months and it has really helped with her silent reflux so I would definitely get in touch with your GP.

We also keep DD upright 30 minutes after each feed which also seems to help even though it's a real bind - but we've started putting her in the bouncy chair if she's awake which at least frees me up to do other things.

Hang in there - it will get better.