Due April 2008 - new thread for October

[lemonaid]

Old thread here.

Sagitta- re the BF- the advice si generally to BF exclusively for the first 6 weeks as that is roughly the point at which feeding becomes established HOWEVER I didnt manage to, and ahd to introduce formula earlier with ds1 and ds2. DS1 was a complete wash out (turned out he is allergic to a constituent of breastmilk- casein), but with ds3 I managed to combine for the first four months. It is definitely preferable to pump and then use expressed bottles BUT frankly don't let BF make you miserable! Alsor ead everything you can at this point- when expecting ds3 I was sent on the Unicef BFI breastfeeding course and the knowledge I gained there amde BF not only far nicer, but I amnaged to feed ds3 until 16 months. there's lots of good info about these datys, i am sure one of the Bf counseloors on MN can point you towards some. I can even lend you my BFI file if that would help?

Oh and Picallili- as I mentioned to Sagitta, this time could be so different- DS1 BF was a complete no go, ds3 fed for 16 months! So go girl- you might find it all so different!

For those of you wanting to breastfeed or just unsure of whetehr to or not, I thikn tiktok is one of the MNers who is practically God on the subject, I'm sure if you asked her for help she'd be happy to tell you what she could.

I BF last time and found it easy, but was put off when I discovered that DD is allergic to eggs and dairy intolerant, and it made her ill. I had very bad, unhelpful advice from medical profession, and a bad experience all round, so was relieved when I ignored HV and GP and finally stopped at 7 months and DD immediately got better. Swore to myself I would not be bullied into BFing again if I felt it wasn't right.
Mostly because I am lazy, I will definitely do it again as I think its easier than formula, but I do want DD to get used to a bottle, and I want to stop when I want to stop, not when other people think I should.
Wow. What a rant. I dind't realise I felt so strongly! Must be all the coffee

Umm. I wrote 'DD' when I meant DC. I wonder if that means its going to be a girl...

oh, sagitta, thats horrid, I hope you manage to do better this time, and if not, then its fine.

Apparently on some threads formula milk is compared to cigarettes the way I see it is nature intended us to breastfeed, so it is the best way, but science has come up with a perfectly adequate way of feeding our babies without using our breasts, so people shouldnt feel pushed into it.

Having said that, I don't agree with views like Jordan's 'my puppies are for me and no-one else' ugh!
If she ahd said she needed peter to help out the feeding and found it easier with bottles then so be it, but I think there are some really shallow minded views/reasons towards breast feeding and it makes me !!

Oh, and as for calling s/he DD, I have called the baby 'he' numerous times, we shall but see

IT has been soooo long since I have been here and it looks like everyones had a very long debate on bf.

I have to say I found it was the hardest thing I have ever had to learn and at the time was quite traumatised by my in hospital treatment. BUT once I got through the first two months or so I absolutely loved it and DH was very pro bf and used to give DS milk from a doidy cup if needed. I have just stopped feeding DS and am hoping I will find it easier to start this time. I never produced a huge amount of milk, I could not express a full feed and never had any leakage but DS put on a huge amount of weight and is a chunky boy so I must have produced all he needed and nothing more.

As for calling DC2 he/she well when I was expecting DS I was convinved he was a girl and it took until he was 2 weeks old before I naturally called him 'he' not 'she'! Who knows with DC2!

ahh yes, BF... I totally agree it is a personal choice, but the way I see it is that they are there for a reason (breasts - that is), so why not use them for it.

I BF dd and plan to do the same this time around - but I was one of the lucky ones that it was never too much of a problem.

It certainly helped that my mum BF myself and my brother, so it has always been something that I was going to do IYSWIM.

Either way, as I have said, it is totally down to the individual.

I hope you find it easier too lorisparkle, I remember the first few days with DS, I thought I'd never be able to do it!
I had the most wonderful midwife see my light on at about 3:30am, she sat with me til gone 5 getting my latch right, and I loved it ever since, even when I had mastitis.
I stopped feeding DS when he was 8months cos by then he had 3 teeth and would not stop biting me no matter what I tried. Then he got poorly, at around 11months and I was so sad not to be able to put him to the breast to feed [sad
I'm hoping to go for longer this time [fingers x]

One lesser-publicised big plus for those who are irredeemably shallow like me is that bf poo is relatively innocuous and doesn't smell (or not particularly) whereas ff poo is completely different and does (although has nothing on waening poo. I think I am still traumatised by DS's first poo after trying sweet potato). And if bf you have a reasonable chance that your DC will only poo every few days rather than all the bloody time (didn't get lucky there myself as DS could poo for Britain, but I think we were in the minority).

Clearly so traumatised that I forgot how to spell weaning...

No lemonaid, you juste used Ye Olde Englishe Spelling!

Hi All, Sorry for diverting on the subject but I need some help. I've come down with a really bad cold and as a result I have got a migraine. I can't keep anything down - not even a glass of water and I don't know what to do - I'm worried that I'm depriving baby of everything it needs and to top that off i keep getting sharp twinges.

Now I can't stop crying cause I feel so bad and hopeless!

Don't worry at all about the baby not getting what he or she needs. We're designed to cope with all sorts of circumstances during pregnancy and a couple of days of not keeping anything down won't hurt the baby.

Look after yourself, though -- can your GP suggest anything that will help with the migraine?

Do you get migraines normally (i.e. when not pregnant)?

v1kk1m - sorry to hear you're not well. Try not to worry too much, like lemonaid said we're designed for this even when we're feeling dreadful.
Had McD's last night because couldn't get the idea out of my head after reading all your posts so am firmly blaming any weight gain this week on you ladies

V1KK1M, hope you feel better soon.

Interesting about the bf, my dh really wants me to do it because supposedly it reduces the risk of breast cancer, which my mum died from.

Elfsmummy, after the amnio, did you take it easy for a few days? I am having an amnio on 30th Oct and have booked the rest of the week off, but I'd like to go back in to work on the Friday (contractor so don't get paid if I don't work!).

I only got migraines before about twice a year. This is now my third bad one in5 weeks - just starting to find it difficult.

Work is manic at the mo so I also feel bad about being off sick even though I know it is the best thing to do.

Going to see the GP (again) at 11:30 so hopefully they will be able to suggest something!

I'll keep you all posted.

Soph - I would love a McD's right now!

All this talk about McD's is driving me mad.... am absolutley starving and could just chow down on a Bid Mac and fries

hope you feel better soon V1KK1M, and go on - treat yourself to McD's ... it may be a secret weapon against migrains

migraines obv

V1KK1M, headaches in pregnancy are very common, it's to do with the hormones, I suffer from them terribly, remember you can still take paracetamol.

As for not keeping anything down, dont fret, I'm sure peachy can back me up here, it isn't a problem for the baby, I couldn't eat or keep anything down for weeks as I had HG, am still very funny with what I eat an drink now. Try some pop, coke or lemonade or something, full fat and it will give you a bit of energy, for some reason it stays down better.

Hope you feel better soon.

Oh btw girls, thanks for the talk of maccyd's, we dont have one anywhere near us so I'm having battered sausage, chips and curry sauce for tea tonight

on a completely different subject, I have 2 very homely cats that until now have had my undivided attention (apart from DP). Am worried how they will react when we bring DC home? does anyone have any experience .......

Not sure...my ex-husbad got custody of our cats (sob) so no chance of finding out...

I have a cold. Am feeling very sorry for self too.