***** DUE IN JUNE 08 ****** OMG I can't believe I just got BFP

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I got BFP this morning six months to the day after my MC, only 12DPO but so happy. Please pray this one holds on!!!! I am due on June 1 according to OV calendars so have the pleasure of starting this thread.

Anyone else out there or am I the only mental person who tests this early?

Hey josey
I know you're right. Just so frustrsted because I'm really excited and want to be able to be happy about it, rather than feeling guilty for getting maternal.
He must have asked me three or four times, "So we're definitely having it?" and I know that if I changed my mind he'd be relieved. But I just CAN'T contemplate not - and I know I'd never be able to forgive him if I got pressured into doing the unthinkable.
I really want this baby, even if it was unplanned. I do think he will come round - and I think a lot of it is fear of the unknown and fear he won't love it (totally normal) but I'm just so fed up.
Hormones definitely aren't helping either.
Hohum.

Re: Parent's Visiting
With DD my F and his wife were living in the Virgin Islands for the first two or three months...so no help there. My M passed years ago so I was really hoping my MIL would step up. We called to let them know the baby would be arriving in a few hours. They drove 3 hours and found a place to stay as our guest room wasn't ready. She "said" she wanted to stay for at least a week help. THEN they went over and picked up granddaughter number 1 from exSIL's house......and that was that. My ILs ended up spending most of their TWO DAY visit with her then they went home without explaination. Visits have been few and far between from them. Actually my FIL visits twice (maybe even three times) as much as my MIL. I get the feeling she doesn't like to visit but she sends the most endearing messages...it's confusin. This time my F (retired) and his wife (an OB nurse) have planned their travels so they'll be available to care for DD when DC2 arrives, which is wonderful as they mutually adore each other. Otherwise we'll be on our own again. Fortunately, we have incredible neighbors and a wealth of friends. In some ways I feel we've hand selected our family and are very proud of the results.

The two week ban on general visitation sounds nice as last time we had people at all hours which made nursing a nightmare (i'm boob conscience).

Chinasuprise, It could be worse he could have asked if "you were keeping it"?!!
It sounds like he has to lay a plan in his head - I would either ignore him and carry on or sit him down tell him how it is, I have to remind my DH every now and again with a little petted lip and a small tear
Twighlight lol at boob conscience im like that brough back memories of my MIL going to leave my house one day when I was feeding she thought nothing of kissing DD goodbye while she was firmly latched on {{shudder}}

Hi everyone. Thanks for the kind words, I'm sorry I haven't been able to reply but I am at home now and things, although a bit strained, are getting better. It hasn't been mentioned since, but then we've had other things going on...

Following my visit to A&E, I have been to the EPU today and had a scan and little bean is alive and well, with a tiny little heartbeat to match. DD came with us and was sooooo excited to see 'Bean'. She kept telling everyone she is going to be a big sister .

I'm only here quickly to give you all and update, thank you for your support and kindness and to welcome all the newbies. Will catch up properly tomorrow x

Just when I was sorting my head out.....been to the toilet and deffo blood in mucus. Should I panic? I'm scared - dull ache, not pain, but feels like a period type thing. Anyone had this and been ok??? I can't believe it, I knew it just didn't feel right!!!

HOORAY LAZYLOU ! I've been hoping you'd pop in and say just that. What wonderful news.

BSL Don't panic. Brown/Old blood in mucus could be left over from implantation and your bowl movement finally dislodged it. Blood of any other color could mean ANYTHING. Take a deep breath and relax. No matter what it is there's nothing you can do at the present moment except try to stay calm. Hang in there.

BSL had to check back down the thread to be sure but aren't you scheduled to see your doctor in a few hours. That should give you comfort right there. Be strong and focus on the positive. Lazylou's story is a good one to focus on...look how it's turned out. You'll be fine.

BSL - How are things this morning? Any more bleeding?

LL - I'm so pleased that things seem to be working out for you

Deb

Lazylou - so sorry, didn't mean to ignore you last night. I'm SOOO pleased things are better and you've seen bean and all is ok

TwilightSurfer - I know, it's just hard, I'm a worrier anyway. Yes, Dr's at 4.20 this afternoon.

debinaustria - morning. I've woken up with slight cramping down there and been to the toilet again and when I wipe it's a sort of pinkish colour.

Sounds good if it's only pink again this morning, let us know how you get on at the Drs.

Deb

I thought that but scrolled down and think this is how lilypink started?

Morning all,

Just updated my self on the list but depending on which cahrt I look at my little bean could be due between 30th June and 3rd July so who knows.

Looney how are you this morning? Let us know how you get on at your Doctors.
QoB where abouts in Dorset are you? I live near Poole so it's noce to 'know' someone local.

I've read on another post that if you are using OPKs (I was using a CB Digital Monitor)and you get two peak days for the LH surge, then there is a higher chance of hatching 2 eggs. Does anyone know? I'm getting a little worried now as twins run in my family, and I got my BFP 5 days before AF due so obviously had quite high HCG levels. Have also heard the older you get the more likely you are to have twins. (I'm 38).
Any info/advice gratefully received.
Morning Deb. How's the MS today?

estt - EDD 27th May (1 ds 19 months)
systemsaddict - EDD 28th May tbc (1 ds 13 months)
lazylou - EDD 31st May (1 DD 3.9/ MC September 04)
goingfor3 - EDD 31st May (2 dds, 3 and 6, mc july)
flosspot - EDD 31st May (1st baby, mc June 07)
laughinglil - EDD 1st June (3YO twins)
nh101 - EDD 1st June (it's twins!, no other DCs, MC Mar 07)
Trix11 - EDD 1st June (DS and DD)
Tizzwizz - EDD 5th June (MC June)
emotionalwreck - EDD 5th June
Kif - EDD early June (DC3)
supperwoman - EDD 6th June (DC2)
Lucy0608 - EDD 6th June (1st Baby)
Josey - EDD 9th June (DC3)
Calebsmum - EDD 9th June (DC2)
TwilightSurfer - EDD 9th June (DC2)
dylansluckymum - EDD 9th June (1DS 18 mos)
Pepperpots - EDD 10th June (DC2)
Debinaustria - EDD 11th June (2 ds's 7 and 5)
sybilvimes - EDD 16th June (2 dc)
ChinaSurprise - EDD 16th June
Josie57 - EDD 18th June (ds1 13 months, mc sep 07)
LittleMy34 - EDD 18th June (DS1 18mos)
babyalfie - EDD 20th June (got 3 DC - 16, 14 & 7)
HeyBaby07 - EDD 21st June (First Baby)
Oblomov - EDD 21st June
Upsidedowncake - EDD 22nd June (1DS 23m, ep Aug 07)
august26bride - 22nd June (First Baby)
Looneytune - EDD 23rd June tbc (DS 4.7yrs)
QueenofBleach - EDD 26th June
Gemzooks - EDD???
Libralady - EDD 30th June (tbc) (DS 3.6yrs)

Morning Libralady - you're the same age as me!

Ms has struck 3 times so far this morning, just trying to find the energy to go shopping. Getting dh to come too in case I feel sick in the car - it's a winding road to the next town and it's also snow covered too.

I don't know anything about the twins?? How would you feel?

Deb

Fingers crossed for you Looney

Libralady - just outside Lulworth Cove.

Sorry breakfast calling

Update:

Phoned Dr's at 8.30am to get MY Dr to call me
Called within few mins
Took very seriously and shocked me with blood test results (I only had it done yesterday morning) - 43 days pg so last period must have been implantation
Explained and she said to treat as another threatened MC - no sex, rest etc. and went to phone hospital
Phoned back few mins ago - booked in for scan at 9.30 on Fri, letter all ready for collection.

I LOVE my Dr....she so understands! It helps just knowing that I'm being taken seriously. I explained that before any evidence, I had a bad 'feeling' and she took all that seriously too!!

Now I've just got to wait!

Looney SO glad you have a supportive dr., it makes all the difference! Fingers crossed all will be well on Friday.

Lazylou, good news that things have settled down, sounds like you still have a lot on your plate! And FANTASTIC that you have seen heartbeat.

Chinasurprise, it takes a lot of men a really long time to get their heads round even a planned pregnancy. Our ds1 was conceived after fertility treatment and dp still struggled to get used to the idea! Most are absolutely fine in the long run though and adore the babies, you might just have to give him some time. Is there anyone else you can turn to for support and to share the excitement with, while he is processing the news?

Yes, does make a BIG difference not being treated like rubbish!! She's fab that Dr! I have a very bad feeling about it but am trying my best to just get on with things as normal til Friday and see what happens. Thanks

josey/ systemsaddict

I have got friends I can talk to - one knows and I'm seeing my other bf to tell her tonight. But I don't want them to think badly of DH, as I'm sure this is just a phase, so I'm wary of telling them about his reaction.
I bought him this book yesterday and didn't give it to him for hours but eventually found the nerve and it seemed to help a bit. It's about the whole thing from men's point of view (and even has a chapter titled OHNOOHNOOHNOOHNO - haha - not) and he seemed quite pleased. He was in the middle of something and tried to hand it back to me but I thought "oh no you don't" and just said, "No, it's yours". About two hours later he thanked me for it (was so biting my tongue not to complain he hadn't thanked me before that!).
So, hopefully he'll have a look at it in his own time.
Am particularly stressed because my parents are coming up for dinner on Friday and they are v excited and I don't want to feel like I'm forcing it, iykwim.
Anyway, compared to others' woes this seems silly. I'm sure you're right and he will come around. The sad thing at the mo is he is so stressed and negative and scared, and actually I know he will be a brilliant father.
I will hang in there and try to stop whinging! Thanks for listening

BSL glad you have had a good response from your DR and you are getting you scan on Friday, you do as you are told and rest rest rest Im sure you will be ok.

Lazylou Glad to hear from you and baby bean is well, just take each day as it comes you know we are here {{hug}}

Debs you are really going through the mill with you sickness I dont envy you.

Not been too bad, feel the odd "oh god im going to spew" but been ok so far, I am totally incapable of waking up in the morning though, DH is at home till Friday so is just letting me sleep, then when I get up I take the dog out, the fresh air seems to help - Im dreading next week when the schools are back and DH is away

On an funny note, I was walking the dog this morning and 2 workmen ( well boys couldnt have been more than 19) whistled at me - if only they new I was an old married woman with 2 kids another one on the way and I was about to heave in a bush

Looney just thinking, if your results from yesterday show 43 days pg then your bean must still be growing???

josey - I'm must say I'm confused now, was just trying to work due date out and it makes no sense see this thread

The only thing I can think it either it's twins and therefore I'm not further gone but have more hormones (sure I've mentioned high possibility from family history?!) or that I WAS further gone and the hormone levels are now dropping??? I have no idea how all this works, wish I'd asked more questions this morning now but don't feel like I should ring and bother the Dr with questions that aren't going to change things!

Hi, haven't been on for ages. Update. Started to have light brown spotting, carried on for a few days, got darker, spoke to midwife and with it being w/end said if it got any worse to go to A&E. Went on Monday am and had tests and scan and we found a heartbeat but it was abit slow. Came home and new it would not be good news. Started to loose red blood and went back to hospital next day. Lost the baby whilst dr was examining me. I guess it just was not meant to be.
Good luck to everyone and hope all the pg's go well. xx

Gmakes3

So sorry babe ((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))) to you xxxx

Gmakes3 - so sorry! {{{{{hugs}}}}} x

Gmakes3 I'm so sorry ((((((hugs))))))I hope you've got someone looking after you.