***** DUE IN JUNE 08 ****** OMG I can't believe I just got BFP

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I got BFP this morning six months to the day after my MC, only 12DPO but so happy. Please pray this one holds on!!!! I am due on June 1 according to OV calendars so have the pleasure of starting this thread.

Anyone else out there or am I the only mental person who tests this early?

Hello. Can I join please ? Only found out last night. Am 5 weeks, due 21 Jun 2008. Dh and I are so excitd we want to shout it from the rooftops, but obviously it is too early yet, and of course it is so early, there are no guarantees.
I am a diabetic, on a pump, at Kings, London. Called them first thing this morning, but they havn't got back to me yet.

How am I ever going to keep this a secret for the next 7 weeks ?

How are you all doing ?

I'm so sorry I am not getting on here at all at the moment as I feel to ill. MS kicked in good style at about 6weeks and I feel like I have been totally poisoned.
My day starts feeling terribly sick I drag myself out of bed and try to dress and feed my 2 year old - usually at some point during this process I cry.
I then let ds play in the lounge in front of ceebeebees whilst I lie on the couch feeling drained and sick - if I move it just gets worse. Half way through the morning I get lo a biscuit and a drink and then at lunchtime struggle to the kitchen to try and make him some food and I eat what I can too.
Early afternoon a family member will take ds off my hands and I crawl back into bed where I stay till dh come home from work. I stay up for a few hours then back to bed by 9pm feeling sick as a dog still.
I'm not actually vomiting very often but definately not functioning well - am I the only one feeling this terrible?

Hello and welcome to all the newbies

Sorry about all the morming sickness. Supperwoman, it sounds as though you are having a horrible time of it. I could easily sleep all day but with all 3 children at home instead of the usual 1 (it's half term) there's no chance. I'm queasy - generally in the evenings and at night - but not actually vomitting.

I couldn't fasten my jeans this morning, and I am bursting out of my bras so will need to buy some Big Bras and Stretchy Pants . I gather the belly is bloat, not baby at this stage - how attractive!

Reassuringly, I have my usual early pregnancy symptom of hair loss. It's really revolting but quite reassuring as evidence that my hormones are up to something. Honestly, when you look at what early pregnancy turns you into it's a wonder how we managed to persuade someone to impregnate us at all

supperwoman, I am sitting at work and feel really ill. I had no morning sickness at all with ds and I have felt terrible all yesterday and today. I feel so ill.
You have my sympathy.

Thank you for the welcome Rolf.
I am so excited, I want to shout and Shout and shout* it from the rooftops.
I feel enormous and am busting 'out and over' of my work trousers. I feel so uncomfortable. But if you read the websites, they say there is no physical change and no one should be able to tell that you are pregnant. So how come I feel like this ?

What is a PFB please? I am afraid I do not know what that is.

Oblomov - PFB - Precious First Born. BFP - Big Fat Positive.

Looney - I have caught your worries! We have had decorators in this past week and the place smells like a glue sniffer's bin. Lots and lots of oil-based eggshell paint. Now obviously I am not sniffing it but I can't help but smell it, IWSWIM. I am staying out of the relevant rooms whilst the paint is wet, but the smell lingers for a good week or so. It's too cold to have the windows open all the time. I've got all anxious about it now.

Just popping in for a quick wave.

I've cracked open the maternity clothes. Aaaah - let that belly out.

Hope Lou is OK - I guess she must have trouble getting online.

Thanks for the welcome yesterday. 1st Dr appointment this morning, feeling a bit down although I have no need and not sure how I can wait 7 weeks for a scan!
Stupidly(?!) I'd love a bit of MS just so I feel like I'm not imagining this - when does it normally start?

• Oblomov, I'm due on the 21st June too
• Rolf, thanks for sharing about your hair loss, I have that too and didn't know it was related to pregnancy
• Libralady, I've had insomnia since first suspecting I was up the duff last Wed! any tips of how to relax please let me know, just can't take my mind off it

Looney - so pleased you're feeling better

Dylansluckymum - that must be great to see the heartbeat - you can relax a little now then??

Queenofbleach - where are you? I've got B+B guest in next week too but thankfully the only thing I have to cook is a boiled egg with Austrian breakfasts - saying that though I may have to get dh to do it, not very good if you have to slap the plates on the table and run for the loo is it?

Oblomov and Hey baby - congratulations and welcome

Kif - I'm jealous, I keep looking longingly at the maternity jeans online, I can't wear my jeans now and have resorted to 2 pairs of stretchy trousers, which aren't exactly flattering and my 2 biggest bras, the others look terrible. I thought some of my fat day trousers would still be OK but no. I'm definitely beginning to get a harder stomach at the bottom - just above the knicker line, then above that is the jelly belly from the boys!! I'm painting a delightful picture of myself!!

got to go, think I need a nap, sickness bearable today(so far)

Deb

Heybaby, we are due on the same day - that's nice, isn't it - although I bet neither of us give birth on that actual day.
Sorry I knew what a PFB was - I like to think I don't fall into that category - becasue I am too grounded
Big fat positive - aaahhh, now I had one of those last night, when dh and I looked and it said 'pregnant' and the 'not' word was missing - is that what you mean

It's cool to be at the same stage as someone else, Oblomov! but I really doubt the exact DD too
Has anyone had experience of parents wanting to come and visit from abroad after the baby is born? when is a good time/when's too soon? mine want to book their tickets already and I'm only 5 weeks!

Factor in that you may go up to a couple of weeks after your due date, and you may be feeling rough for a while afterwards. I had FAR too many visitors in the first couple of weeks with ds - all people I wanted to see, but because they were there, I couldn't sleep whenever I got the opportunity to, and it put my recovery back quite a lot I think. My mum came to stay (not from overseas, but from the other side of the country) when he was 4 weeks old and that was good - we were more relaxed and less tired, and she looked after me a bit. I am now a big advocate of banning ALL visitors for the first couple of weeks, then no-one can get offended if it's a blanket rule! If it were me, I'd say no sooner than 6 weeks after the due date, but of course it depends on the relationship you have with them.

Thanks systemsaddict, good advice. Love my mum dearly but want to get our own routine sorted first before she comes to stay. Will seriously think about the NO to all visitors for 2 weeks, my sister is the only other family I have here and I know friends would understand perhaps better than rellies

Right, not long been back from an afternoon at the local country park - lovely to get out (used to getting out more with mindees but as not been working, had been moping about).

I've just updated the list as there were a few newbies that weren't on. I've re-done the list again so all in the same format (how sad am I!! ). The ones who haven't given an EDD are at the bottom. Apologies if anyone has been missed. Those of you who are new, you may want to put details of what children you have already or if this is your first?

Hope this is correct!

estt - EDD 27th May (1 ds 19 months)
systemsaddict - EDD 28th May tbc (1 ds 13 months)
lazylou - EDD 31st May (1 DD 3.9/ MC September 04)
goingfor3 - EDD 31st May (2 dds, 3 and 6, mc july)
flosspot - EDD 1st June (1st baby, mc June 07)
laughinglil - EDD 1st June (3YO twins)
nh101 - EDD 1st June (it's twins!, no other DCs, MC Mar 07)
Trix11 - EDD 1st June (DS and DD)
Tizzwizz - EDD 5th June (MC June)
emotionalwreck - EDD 5th June
Kif - EDD early June (DC3)
supperwoman - EDD 6th June (DC2)
Lucy0608 - EDD 6th June (1st Baby)
Josey - EDD 9th June (DC3)
Calebsmum - EDD 9th June (DC2)
TwilightSurfer - EDD 9th June (DC2)
dylansluckymum - EDD 9th June (1DS 18 mos)
Pepperpots - EDD 10th June (DC2)
Debinaustria - EDD 11th June (DC3)
sybilvimes - EDD 16th June (2 dc)
ChinaSurprise - EDD 16th June
Josie57 - EDD 18th June (ds1 13 months, mc sep 07)
LittleMy34 - EDD 18th June (DS1 18mos)
babyalfie - EDD 20th June (got 3 DC - 16, 14 & 7)
HeyBaby07 - EDD 21st June
Oblomov - EDD 21st June
Upsidedowncake - EDD 22nd June (1DS 23m, ep Aug 07)
august26bride - 22nd June (First Baby)
Looneytune - EDD 23rd June tbc (DS 4.7yrs)
QueenofBleach - EDD 26th June
Gemzooks - EDD???
Libralady - EDD???

Deb - we are in Dorset by the sea so fab, have been really busy despite the crap weather over summer so looking forward to a rest. Next year will be interesting though as already have people booked in for June. Oh well will muddle on through.

Have been looking at maternity clothes as well but a bit bummed as have just spent alot for me on new clothes. Didn't think it would take one try for a baby, damm those ovulation charts

heybaby i think it really depends on if you want help or not. i'm from canada but have no other family here and none of my friends have kids (and frankly i was sh*ing myself i was so nervous, even though i've been around babies my whole life) and my mum came to stay from around my due date. i went 5 days over so she was there to keep my company when i was bored to death desperate for him to come out and dp was at work.

also, she did all the cooking and cleaning and laundry and that allowed me and ds to get into a routine without any interruptions. she was a godsend and although i was ready for her to go home when ds was 3 weeks old i wouldn't have it any other way. she's coming again this time and will not only help around the house but will be able to help with ds1 so i'm not totally exhausted!

but it does definitely depend on your relationship with your mum and what kind of role she'd take - if you'd have to take care of them in any way then i'd definitely say wait, and if you have your sister here maybe that'd be a better help anyway. hope that helps!

oh one other thing - if you don't have the kind of relationship with your dad that you can have your boob out to breastfeed i'd definitely have him wait a while. when you're learning how to breastfeed and doing it on demand in the first while it's incredibly difficult to try to cover up or have to go to another room every time the baby wants to eat!

Thanks dylansluckymum, appreciate all the advice - i know i shouldn't even be thinking that far ahead at the moment but guess it's good to start figuring it out.

For the list, I have no other children

Right, time to go home, have a soak in the bath and read some more 'what to expect....'

estt - EDD 27th May (1 ds 19 months)
systemsaddict - EDD 28th May tbc (1 ds 13 months)
lazylou - EDD 31st May (1 DD 3.9/ MC September 04)
goingfor3 - EDD 31st May (2 dds, 3 and 6, mc july)
flosspot - EDD 1st June (1st baby, mc June 07)
laughinglil - EDD 1st June (3YO twins)
nh101 - EDD 1st June (it's twins!, no other DCs, MC Mar 07)
Trix11 - EDD 1st June (DS and DD)
Tizzwizz - EDD 5th June (MC June)
emotionalwreck - EDD 5th June
Kif - EDD early June (DC3)
supperwoman - EDD 6th June (DC2)
Lucy0608 - EDD 6th June (1st Baby)
Josey - EDD 9th June (DC3)
Calebsmum - EDD 9th June (DC2)
TwilightSurfer - EDD 9th June (DC2)
dylansluckymum - EDD 9th June (1DS 18 mos)
Pepperpots - EDD 10th June (DC2)
Debinaustria - EDD 11th June (DC3)
sybilvimes - EDD 16th June (2 dc)
ChinaSurprise - EDD 16th June
Josie57 - EDD 18th June (ds1 13 months, mc sep 07)
LittleMy34 - EDD 18th June (DS1 18mos)
babyalfie - EDD 20th June (got 3 DC - 16, 14 & 7)
HeyBaby07 - EDD 21st June (First Baby)
Oblomov - EDD 21st June
Upsidedowncake - EDD 22nd June (1DS 23m, ep Aug 07)
august26bride - 22nd June (First Baby)
Looneytune - EDD 23rd June tbc (DS 4.7yrs)
QueenofBleach - EDD 26th June
Gemzooks - EDD???
Libralady - EDD???

estt - EDD 27th May (1 ds 19 months)
systemsaddict - EDD 28th May tbc (1 ds 13 months)
lazylou - EDD 31st May (1 DD 3.9/ MC September 04)
goingfor3 - EDD 31st May (2 dds, 3 and 6, mc july)
flosspot - EDD 31st May (1st baby, mc June 07)
laughinglil - EDD 1st June (3YO twins)
nh101 - EDD 1st June (it's twins!, no other DCs, MC Mar 07)
Trix11 - EDD 1st June (DS and DD)
Tizzwizz - EDD 5th June (MC June)
emotionalwreck - EDD 5th June
Kif - EDD early June (DC3)
supperwoman - EDD 6th June (DC2)
Lucy0608 - EDD 6th June (1st Baby)
Josey - EDD 9th June (DC3)
Calebsmum - EDD 9th June (DC2)
TwilightSurfer - EDD 9th June (DC2)
dylansluckymum - EDD 9th June (1DS 18 mos)
Pepperpots - EDD 10th June (DC2)
Debinaustria - EDD 11th June (DC3)
sybilvimes - EDD 16th June (2 dc)
ChinaSurprise - EDD 16th June
Josie57 - EDD 18th June (ds1 13 months, mc sep 07)
LittleMy34 - EDD 18th June (DS1 18mos)
babyalfie - EDD 20th June (got 3 DC - 16, 14 & 7)
HeyBaby07 - EDD 21st June (First Baby)
Oblomov - EDD 21st June
Upsidedowncake - EDD 22nd June (1DS 23m, ep Aug 07)
august26bride - 22nd June (First Baby)
Looneytune - EDD 23rd June tbc (DS 4.7yrs)
QueenofBleach - EDD 26th June
Gemzooks - EDD???
Libralady - EDD???

Sorry- changed my dates...again. Wish they'd make up their pigging minds!!!

heybaby my mother lives overseas and has just informed me she plans to come back to the UK for a month when I am due. That's more worrying than childbirth, not least because DH's parents will take all sorts of offense, since they don't get that my mum has to pack a years' visits into one trip, and they can swan down the motorway anytime time that they like. Not that they ever do...my dad is off on a posting just before I am due, so god willing I won't have to act as referee between three sets of parents...

estt - EDD 27th May (1 ds 19 months)
systemsaddict - EDD 28th May tbc (1 ds 13 months)
lazylou - EDD 31st May (1 DD 3.9/ MC September 04)
goingfor3 - EDD 31st May (2 dds, 3 and 6, mc july)
flosspot - EDD 31st May (1st baby, mc June 07)
laughinglil - EDD 1st June (3YO twins)
nh101 - EDD 1st June (it's twins!, no other DCs, MC Mar 07)
Trix11 - EDD 1st June (DS and DD)
Tizzwizz - EDD 5th June (MC June)
emotionalwreck - EDD 5th June
Kif - EDD early June (DC3)
supperwoman - EDD 6th June (DC2)
Lucy0608 - EDD 6th June (1st Baby)
Josey - EDD 9th June (DC3)
Calebsmum - EDD 9th June (DC2)
TwilightSurfer - EDD 9th June (DC2)
dylansluckymum - EDD 9th June (1DS 18 mos)
Pepperpots - EDD 10th June (DC2)
Debinaustria - EDD 11th June (2 ds's 7 and 5)
sybilvimes - EDD 16th June (2 dc)
ChinaSurprise - EDD 16th June
Josie57 - EDD 18th June (ds1 13 months, mc sep 07)
LittleMy34 - EDD 18th June (DS1 18mos)
babyalfie - EDD 20th June (got 3 DC - 16, 14 & 7)
HeyBaby07 - EDD 21st June (First Baby)
Oblomov - EDD 21st June
Upsidedowncake - EDD 22nd June (1DS 23m, ep Aug 07)
august26bride - 22nd June (First Baby)
Looneytune - EDD 23rd June tbc (DS 4.7yrs)
QueenofBleach - EDD 26th June
Gemzooks - EDD???
Libralady - EDD???

Sorry I had to change the list , I had 3 already according to the list!!

Re parents visiting - when ds1 was born Mil wasn't too well so she came to the hospital and then waited a few weeks before coming to stay, my Mum couldn't wait and wanted to be there the night I came home from hospital but we said no - we wanted the 1st night by ourselves. So she arrived the following day and looked after me and Stefan, I would feed him about 10 ish , go to bed and leave him with her, Mum would try and get him to go as long as possible before waking me for the next feed. It was a godsend, then sh'e go to bed and leave me to it. She stopped for about 5 days or so.

2nd time around MIL came to stay 2 weeks before as we were also moving house (3 days before I was due)and it meant she was there for ds1. So a couple of days after I got home Mum arrived and Mil left to give us time together and Mum did the same bedtime routine.

This time of course we're abroad so who knows - I think Mil will come out in plenty of time beforehand for the boys and Mum will have to book flights but deciding when to book them will be tricky, she could be too early or too late??

Sorry I didn't mean to go on!!

Deb

Evening
Realise I didn't give info other than EDD. If all goes well (am so paranoid) will be my PFB.

Anyway, in less happy news I need to get something off my chest.

Am beginning to get really fed off with DH. Didn't get pg on purpose at all (was on the Pill for chrissakes) but he always knew that if I got pg I would keep it - God knows I told him often enough.
After freaking out and having a panic attack when I got a BFP (I wasn't shocked - MS and giant boobs were a total giveaway) he's now okayish, but still in denial really.
It's only been ten days since we tested positive, but he's really not being that great.
Every time I try to talk about it he goes all quiet and I end up feeling guilty for bringing it up.
It's not like we can't afford it (we can), or we haven't got a great relationship (we have) or we don't have the support we need (we do) or are "too" old/ young (I'm 32, he's 29).
I'm not suffering much physically, but I'm getting quite upset because he's being such a sht.
Any ideas?

Hello Ladies

Looney how you feeling? I had pinkish gunk with both of my horrors at different times im my pg it was only very slight I was checked out both times and still they have no Idea what it was.

Debs hows the sickness hope it starts to slow down a bit.

Heybaby my mum lived quite far away from me when I had DS and DD with DS she couldnt get to me for 3 weeks due to weather and it nearly killed her as I had such an awful birth, with DD she got in such a panic she came to stay with my Gran who lived a few miles away, when DH went to work she came to stay with me but as it happend she never actually spent the night with me as she had to take me to hospital in Labour, she then stayed with my gran and came over to do my ironing see to DS etc Could they stay else where and still be there when you need them?
Im dreading this time as we moved and my Mum is 20mins away but my MIL who was 2mins away is now 2hours she will camp in the garden if I dont let her stay she is the most awful woman

Chinasuprise I feel for you even when babies are planned men can be pains in the butt and take ages to addapt, you might have to just ignore him and let him come round in his own time good luck though.

Re parents visiting - I have TWO mothers-in-law so imagine the potential for disaster there! The last 2 times FiL and his wife have come to stay (they live overseas) and have been fantastic. If things all work out that's what I'd like again, but it will take some careful steering so as not to upset my other MiL (who is also lovely).

My father lives locally but his health isn't very good and of course he is a bloke, so he isn't much practical help, although it's lovely to have him around. My mother is dead . Would love to have her around but have to be satisfied with her keeping a close eye on my children from upstairs!