Due May 2020 (7)

[sao81]

Continued from thread 6!

@sao81 i don't know what to say- sorry about the tough situation . i think the unknown will freak you out but they will make a space for you to have an elective operation so don't worry about that. i decided to go for an elective C section at 41+3. the midwife was very pissed off cos i wouldn't accept an induction. i simply said if i have to wait until 42 weeks and my baby is stillborn or any complications i will categorically sue you and the hospital ( put that in an email so it's in writing) . to be fair they didn't say you won't have an elective section- they just said they will give baby a chance to turn and scan you again so please try to relax about that. all the ladies with breech babies and have a date for c section can go into labour and will be in same position as you - having semi elective section so please try to calm yourself x my c section is booked but i can also go into labour unexpectedly and it turns into semi elective or emergency too ... that's just childbirth for everyone 😘😘😘 have a gin - really no harm if u need this one xxx hugs

@sao81 I’m sorry to hear baby has flipped. It’s so hard to think how you expected a birth to go might now not happen. I just thought I’d share that I had an ECV last Monday and I also have an anterior placenta. It worried me but consultant assured me it was fine and I am also rhesus negative and had to had an extra anti D shot but all was fine and they managed to flip her. I am hoping she is still head down. I have to go in tomorrow for a presentation scan, I’ll be 37+5!

I worried about all those same things when I found out she was footling breech, and my first baby was nearly 4wks early so was so scared of going into labour. Try not to worry and trust you are in good hands. They will find you a section slot if they have to I’m sure.

It’s all very strange to me because my first daughter was born at 36+3 after my waters broke all of a sudden and labour started an hour or so later so no time at home or anything.

All excited and anxious about how this one will pan out and how much longer she will keep me waiting! Surely I won’t go over 🙈

on a separate note- my MIL is bugging me. so over video calls she keeps saying - why r u in pain? or if i say i'm unable to do things she keeps implying i'm lazy or something! she only ever had the one child ( was 10 years younger than i am now) she had her mum and friends etc - my mum lives abroad and keeps saying at least you have your MIL to support you 🤪 and i can't tell her that my MIL is useless... today on a video call - my husband was joking with her saying can you make us some nice food and bring for when baby comes - she said oh and what do i get in return?! i jokingly said: we are giving you a second grandchild. she replied: well that's a big inconvenience - we were perfectly satisfied with the one ( she wasn't laughing)! 😞 what a nasty thing to say!?
she made it perfectly clear now that she won't be helping us for more than a week! even when my husband said: that means i might have to stop working to look after us -she was like : yeah it will be tough for u 😳

what a bitchy thing to say to your only child! she's retired and healthy - goes walking and trekking in mountains, drives etc so not a vulnerable person in any way 🥵😒 if it wasn't for this lockdown i would have told her to fuck off and just get a live in nanny 🙄

@november90 yeahh I get what you mean with movements! My stomach felt so tight at the top today and it felt almost scratchy down below when he would move if you get me? Yeah so on Wednesday I'll have another scan and speak to someone more senior. I'd rather have a planned section than an emergency, but if they have no space then god knows what will happen 🙈 I'm 36+5 now so will be 37+1 on Wednesday
@facevalue I think its just because I had 13th as my cut off point so we made arrangements with partners work, childcare etc, mentally prepared myself that I was going in to have him in 10 days time and now I don't know when thatd be. They said what would probably happen is I'd be on a list so if anyone planned delivered early I'd get their slot, will hopefully know more and things be clearer on Wednesday 🤞
@bumpingalong84 did it hurt when they turned baby? I've been looking into it and the chance of them moving again, as well as it only being 50/50 makes me think is it worth it? But then if it means I can have normal birth as opposed to section, I just don't know what to do 🙈 I hope your scan goes well tomorrow! Whats the plan for if she is?

@facevalue she sounds like hard work! I think with my current mood I'd of flipped on her! How insensitive to make out like your struggles are nothing because she was ok?

I've not posted in a while. It's great to see babies are been born now.
Huge congratulations to everyone who's had their babies...

Despite the interesting times we're in, it's something positive. I hope you're all keeping safe and well as can be.

36wks now, so not too long to go, though it feels like yonks away. Is everyone on maternity leave now?

...you also survived ( that's an achievement - women die in childbirth in Africa all the time)..

@facevalue women die in childbirth ALL over the world not just in one continent, Africa.

@lady7978 okay !!! and no ( not EVERYWHERE) it's the worst in africa sadly so it's meant to say she did well / survived a huge hurdle and we r lucky giving birth in the UK with the medical help and advances. please don't start an unnecessary dialogue about anything silly now - i'm not in the mood x be kind to the other readers

@sao81 to be fair to her- maybe i'm being overly sensitive and reading too much into her comments. this situation and the lack of social contact makes everyone twitchy and grumpy ... she's not my mum - my mum's style is very soft and overly caring so i guess i'm likely to interpret her comments as harsh 😩😫

@facevalue
Women die everywhere during childbirth including my two local hospitals here in England.
Yes, it is worse in certain countries in Africa which make up 2/3rd of the world's death from the website you got your graph from in comparison to Europe and the West in general, just as it's quite high in America compared to majority of countries in Europe... My point is if roughly 2/3rd comes from countries in Africa, the remaining 1/3rd is spread everywhere else including as I've earlier said, my local hopsital in England.

Oh yes, we should be kind to other readers and not make superfluous comments and not expect to be called out on them on an open forum xx

@lady7978 i think your IQ is way above mine. i absolutely have no idea what your comment was meant to achieve - considering i wasn't even talking to you! i still don't see what comment you think you called out on?! but obviously you won't be able to explain this more than you tried already ... it's a tough time so i know people like you will feel the need to type comments that make no sense to people like me 😂

@facevalue Okay! Have a lovely night

@mrsf1204 congratulations!! What a gorgeous baby 😍 hope the transfusion really helps so you can get home, you are doing amazing. I can only imagine how difficult it must be to be separated from your partner and toddler but I hope it's not too much longer for you X

@sao81 oh no!!!! I can't believe how many babies are turning last minute, fingers crossed you can get some answers at your next appointment but maybe they will turn again on their own.

@facevalue sorry you are having issues with your MIL, no advice I'm afraid about managing her comments actively but just try to focus on you and your baby and try not to get too stressed about it, let her (batshit) comments wash over you!

Just got home from the antenatal ward at the hospital, the baby has been mega quiet the last few days so wanted to get it checked out. They are happy with the observations apart from he was still being lazy and hardly moved at all! They offered an induction, and to think about it over night and also call again tomorrow if he is still not moving. I did have a stretch and sweep though! And the monitor was picking up tightenings and I was 1-2cm dilated so hoping that gets things moving a bit. No idea whether to accept the induction (it would be the balloon) or wait for things to happen naturally 🤷🏼‍♀️ hopefully I can get some sleep next..

@lu1u oh babe.. that's stressful but glad you got checked. how many weeks are you now? i hate it when they give u these choices- when u r worried u kind of wish they just say do this or that. did they offer to keep you in and be monitored longer- then if needed induce you? i guess you can get yourself ready for a baby x might all happen naturally fingers crossed ( i know i just want this baby out now safely and be done with it) goodluck and keep us posted xxxx hugs

I am awake as I have a constant ache in my belly. Was at the top, but now I am laying up in bed, he's lower. When I stand it completely goes. I did do some hoovering this morning am wondering if I have pulled the muscles too much.

@Lu1u oh bless you, sorry you had to go through all of that! Do you have a follow up app or anything or just see how it goes? Sorry if I missed that from your comment, I'm currently wide awake but also half asleep 🙈 how would you feel about an induction? If you're already part displayed things could be progressing on their own!

@Raindancer411 how odd that the pain settles when you're up right! Do you feel it's bad enough to contact your midwife? I hope you're feeling better in the morning lovely ❤️

Just lying in bed shattered but can't sleep because my feet are KILLING me! I feel like I've walked miles! How strange is that? When I went to bed they were swollen because I was boiling but now they are just killing me! I actually think I'm going to need some paracetamol.... for my bloomin feet 🙈😂

@Lu1u sorry you have had a stressful evening. When I had my DS I believed my waters had gone so went to hospital as requested the next morning, they did a sweep (I was 2cm at that point) and I was having contractions within half and hour. I had him that night. With this one I've been told I'll be induced the day after my due date but been having contractions all night so not slept at all just been dozing between them. They are still not 3 in 10 mins so the hospital don't want to hear from me. It's my birthday today so going to be a funny way to spend it!
@november90 I'm with you on the swollen feet, didn't have it last time so a new unpleasant side effect, they too were aching when I went to bed last night and haven't got much better this morning. I hope the paracetamol makes them more comfy

@Kayjay2018 awww goodluck x hope it all goes well and happy birthday x

i have a midwife appointment - 38 weeks check up and i'm feeling anxious and tearful already. i'm going with my hubby and daughter in the car incase i can't cope with the drive or something happens so i'm not stuck - there's no parking around there but i'm hoping some1 will allow us to wait for a while considering the corona situation and being pregnant - 🤪 i'll wear a mask and gloves. my section is next week! but they still want me to come next monday for a blood test pre op assessment 😞 they can't just do it all today which is VERY annoying to have to go in again on monday for a tuesday operation! 🥵🥵🥵🥵 i hardly slept - my hubby in the spare room with my toddler who woke up at midnight for no reason and wanted daddy ( i'm redundant cos bloody started snoring the last 2 weeks so no one can sleep next to me!) 😫😫😫😫

@facevalue @november90 thanks ladies I didn't expect anyone to be up! I hope you both managed to get some sleep. 40 weeks today 😁 haha I am known for my indecisiveness, I have no idea what the best thing to do is! They said I can call or go back in tomorrow if I am worried, they are happy to have me for an induction or for more monitoring. With the induction as it's a balloon it would be put in and then I can go home again, and then if it falls out (meaning you are 4cm!) You go back in to labour ward and if it doesn't you go back in anyway for more checks. Yes I feel exactly the same, just want him to be here now rather than worrying but then also worried starting an induction when my body isn't ready might mean a terrible labour 🤦‍♀️

@kayjay2018 how are you doing this morning? Hope you also managed to get some rest and HAPPY BIRTHDAY! Hopefully you will be holding your baby soon ☺️ your contractions sound really promising!

@sao81 sorry to hear baby is being a monkey, we are in the same situation and I'm having the same doubts about the ECV as you are 🥴 the 50/50 success rate is making me think is it worth it but like you a natural birth is still preferable over a csec at the minute. My ECV is booked for wednesday I'll be 37+4 so I will let you know how it is. I'm suddenly packing and repacking the hospital bag cos I just have a funny feeling 🤣

His movements are all over the shop, I have no idea which way round he is. He actually feels like he's transverse at the moment but until Wednesday I will know nothing, so annoying 😩

@november90 Thanks for asking after me :) They did settle after I managed to rearrange my pillows so I could sleep comfortably sitting up. This morning I have had to go to the loo as felt my tummy was upset (but that does seem to happen since I have started the iron tablets!)

Feel ok this morning but as with my first I had backache all night and was on and off loo (every half hour I think it was), I am unsure how a normal labour may present. I was sure it was just the muscles objecting to me hoovering yesterday though. 38 week midwife appointment tomorrow

@Raindancer411 thinking of you! Remember you can call your midwife anytime if you think things are happening.

@sao81 sorry to hear your baby isn’t behaving. Sending good thoughts

@november90 I know I’ll miss this group. maybe we can set up a postnatal one.

Lulu wish you luck.

@facevalue my MiL is lovely but also driving me a bit mad - constantly asking about visiting but I don’t want her coming until it’s safe.

@Clairesoph good luck!!

Happy birthday Kay

Isn't it so scary now when you get a new ache/pain/feeling you are a bit like... is this it happening 😳😳