Due May 2020 (7)

[sao81]

Continued from thread 6!

The plug watch it driving me crazy 😂😂😂

I've just used the carpet shampoo machine to shampoo my carpet. Gonna get my Mrs Hinch squeegee carpet jack out now and then a walk later! I'll either have this baby soon or throw up 😂

i had shit night sleep - then had a shitty fight with husband- then i felt so much rage and upset that i went driving around since b4 11:00 and i just got back because i'm in pain 😞 i'm so miserable ... crying helped slightly .... i hate this lockdown and feeling that i'm stuck! how do women cope with partners they don't want to be with.

@november90 i know you probably don't think this but you are lucky your husband left b4 the lockdown - imagine how shitty it would now be trapped arguing etc ...

this situation makes me realise being alone isn't the worst thing in the world x

@november90 😂😂 hope it helps!

@facevalue are you ok now? Im sorry you are having a shitty day, have you managed to patch things up with your husband? I had a massive argument with my partner the other day, it started off about something really silly and petty and then completely blew up (I screamed at him whilst we were out for our walking which is so out of character but im not sorry about it at all 😳) We didn't talk for the rest of the day and then just pretended it didn't happen the next day 🙄

@facevalue oh bless you I hope you're ok! It's just so horrible when you fall out isn't it and with the lockdown you just can't really escape it! I hope you're looking after yourself, you have a lot on your plate.
But haha yes you're right, there's always silver linings!

@Lu1u nothing yet so I've also shampoo all my car seats and gonna hoover now 🙈 I might not be in labour but I am in full on nesting mode!!!! Anyone else?

@facevalue i hope things have settled abit for you today xx

@november90 I have scrubbed this house from top to bottom! It smells amazing! Now having a bath and pamper as a little treat and hoping it will help me sleep 🤞 been getting little twinges all day on and off but nothing major

Evening ladies.

@Clairesoph love the badedas! Got mine ready to go for after the birth. Loved it after my first and it really helped. Luckily having had a girl and kept all her stuff I’ve managed to have a good old sort out of her clothes before lockdown and bought a few new babygrows but have very little summer bits for this baby. Hoping by the time she comes and it big enough to wear proper stuff I’ll be able to shop in person. Wishful thinking maybe

@facevalue hope you are feeling better this evening. Horrible when you row but even worse when you are stuck 24/7 with them!!

I had such a bad nights sleep last night! I’ve had a bad hip that regularly wakes me 2-3hrly when I turn. But I settle quickly after, however last night it was hourly wake up just restless and feeling off! Hubby sent me back to bed this morning after I fell asleep on the sofa! Felt better as the day went on. I’m 38+3, feel done now.

@november90 @bumpingalong @sao81 @Lu1u and all thank you for being so supportive. i am just feeling so unloved and trapped ( hubby isn't a bad guy but i'm just so fed up)... i'm hard work at the best of times but i usually have my coping strategies and distractions ( i'm very independent and proud ) ... this lockdown and being heavily pregnant makes me feel vulnerable and needy. i don't want to need my husband - that's what is causing my distress! he's living with me! he's the dad! i have no family! money means nothing cos i can't just leave now and get childcare and cleaner or just get on a flight to escape to my family !

it's possible to do it but i don't want to hurt my baby or DD if i catch this fucking virus etc .... it's driving me crazy ... 😖😭 i wish i felt loved slightly then i wouldn't feel so shit.

i don't think my husband is with me because of love. it's just for our DD and he can't be arsed to start a new life! he says that's not true but i can't convince myself that he enjoys this! there's no intimacy and i don't think he necessary even likes my personality - he always tells me i'm unreasonable , i'm controlling , i don't give him a break bla bla bla so why does he want to stay with shitty me! i don't get it!

Ohh @facevalue that’s so so hard. How long have you been together? It’s so tough. When the years go by and you change you have to remember what attracted you to each other in the first place.

@Bumpingalong i don't even know how long we've been together -i stopped caring 🧐 maybe 6 years - not long ! was our wedding anniversary 2 days ago and didn't even get him a card!

i was attracted to his calmness and kindness ( sex was meh but not the worst i've ever had - thought it will get better with time) also was ready to settle so was looking for a reliable daddy type of guy which he is. i had some arsehole boyfriends ( amazing in bed) before and i had sworn never again! i did consider breaking it off purely for the sex part after 6 months- he wasn't an initiator and bit boring / not a giver in bed- i wasn't sure! then i felt guilty and that i was being shallow - he was perfect in every other aspect😒 people love him and still do ! that's the annoying thing - i will never dream of finding a better person but i'm not fulfilled so it keeps creeping up and makes me bitter towards him so feel unloved and critical of his general actions ( because of the underlying unhappiness not really anything wrong he's doing) ... he knows all this but he never says let's break up which pisses me off ... how can u stay with a person u know is unhappy with u???? my pregnancies are ivf cos sex was not even happening anymore cos i stopped initiating .. he says wants to improve but does nothing to actually improve - he wastes money on gifts and shit that is meaningless for me! the problem is physical so jewellery and flowers mean nothing to me. he says he wants small steps to feel closer but i'm not interested.

seems his idea of romance is so alien ( he does gifts, wines and dines ) and i just want verbal/physical affection and sex 🤨 to feel loved.

if he's not physically attracted to me then i'm not fussed if he just says that- i'll just have affairs or something not just lay in a cold bed every night feeling extremely lonely ! then feel like a bad person for not being happy with what i have!

i'm really not all that in terms of looks or physique either so it's not like he's married to a model! i'm sure he can find another woman- so many not bothered about sex !

I am laying in bed and have period like aches. Hoping it's just wind lol Due date is in 10 days but I don't feel ready yet...

Ohh @Raindancer411 I’m so jealous, I’m so ready haha, did it Progress to anything.

@facevalue that’s shit, like you say you end up just living with a friend if there is no passion and sex. It’s so so important. I’m guilty of being lazy in that department at times and my husband would tell me me often he can’t just be with me for the sake of kids we have to have a physical relationship and he’s completely right. I don’t know what the answer is for you. I have a friend who left a boyfriend of 5yrs for that reason, he just was not interested in her physically and we were all gutted as we loved him but it wasn’t about that, she needed more from the relationship and he couldn’t provide it with all the promises of changing he just never did. Have you tried sex therapy or anything? Does he open up about it?

@facevalue I think so many couples go through exactly the same thing, especially once children arrive but it's just not spoken about that much. In my case, it's my sex drive that has taken a complete hammering since falling pregnant with my first. My partner goes through periods of being very understanding and then is frustrated which is totally understandable, especially with being rejected sexually often. Sex and intimacy is such a delicate subject I think it's hard to have constructive conversations about it, would you/he consider seeing a therapist together once you are ready/after baby is born? If everything else in the relationship is fundamentally good apart from intimacy it might be worth a shot, and then if things don't improve you can go from there?

For me I know our intimacy/ sex life will improve again after this baby is born and is sleeping independently, and I have lost weight as I feel physically uncomfortable and unattractive. And it would help if we shared a bedroom 😂 he currently sleeps separately as I ended up co sleeping with my first till he was 19 months (he is now 20 months!) as he was such a shit sleeper... Hoping with the next baby that doesn't happen for as long..

Also a completely self indulgent moan (sorry) but I'm 40+6 today WHY HAS THIS BABY NOT COME OUT YET arghhhhhhhh!

@Lulu1

Hopefully not too long to wait now 🤞🤞

We ordered a curry last night to see if there was anything in the old wines rail regarding spicy food. Picked something that said spicy 🌶 and it was mild as anything 🙈 doh! So nothing happening.

Sorry should say Lu1u

My app doesn't bring up names right for some reason

@Bumpingalong84 Nope, still a little achy there but no other changes

@Bumpingalong84 @Lu1u thanks for sharing - it means a lot x it's a taboo subject indeed 😷 so so tough .. i didn't sleep much - so sent him a warning text that i'll be tired and grumpy and to just avoid confrontations today- his parents are coming to stay with us from today until i come back from hospital with baby 🤞🏼... it will be weird to see them and touch other humans 😂 i might just bear hug them for no obvious reason to feel a human touch 🤪 i miss my parents

@MarshmallowsOnToast my husband would kill for a takeaway ! but i'm having a C section so definitely don't want this baby getting any ideas now - unless it's for my pleasure 😂😂😂

Hi everyone,
I’ve lost so much mucas plug for the last week and still nothing has happened, frustrating although due date tomorrow so I’ve still got about a week before they will start booking me in for an induction...
I have thought about getting a curry but too scared of it all coming out in the pool or something 🤢😂
We tried sex yesterday morning although it wasn’t very sexy and doesn’t seem to have done anything. Just a waiting game! X

So I've had very mild cramps today and swollen feet but nothing else. I had totally not prepared myself to go over at all. Because my first was born on his due date and I went into labour 3 days and he weighed 9lbs4oz I just never thought I would go past my due date so I'm just feeling really down! I did so much cleaning yesterday I have nothing else to clean and the weather is miserable today 🙈 I also now only have 1 pair of pjs that fit me in my current state and I'm obviously not buying anymore... I cannot wait to throw them in the bin as soon as the baby is here and never see them ever again 😂

@Lu1u I did not realise you were so over due!!! I bet you are going crazy!!!!

Been having light period pain type cramps & a tiny bit of mucous today.

Maybe the curry did something after all.

Will see 🙈

38+3 here so not as hopeful yet as some of you 🙂 I have no symptoms, feeling pretty good overall. Quite excited about birth - I kind of love the fact that we don't know when it'll be so we just take every day as it comes and try to enjoy this quiet time together.

Any planned C sections coming up for anyone next week? I am hoping for more birth announcements next week as we get further into May! ❤️

@Bumpingalong84 did you sleep better last night bumping?

@MarshmallowsOnToast thankyou, jealous of your curry! I just ate a huge amount of pineapple but now I want one, maybe tomorrow night but my spice tolerance is terrible!

@facevalue hope it's all going ok with the in laws today! That's nice you will have their support once baby is here and also jealous of the social interaction haha.

@Helensss so frustrating once you have had your MP and then nothing happens. Impressed you managed to have sex though, maybe try again (pre curry 😁)

Ahhh @november90 it's so hard trying not to compare between the first and then subsequent pregnancies. My first was born well into week 41 narrowly missing induction so I was convinced this one would come sooner as a second baby blah blah - it's horrible waiting and feeling like you can't do anything! Atleast your home is sparkling though, I still royally CBA to do anything but the necessary each day 😳

Anyone else getting the feeling when some people are messaging you asking how you are they are really asking if you are in labour or had the baby? Literally cannot stand 3ish more weeks of that alone! As if I will forget to tell you when I have had a baby!!