Due June 2020: Thread 5

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[Missgemini]

Thanks a lot ladies. I just feel so bad even bringing it up now. I overheard her telling my husband that she didn't know if she would be paid and she can't even go and visit her family in Spain.
I know her plan was to go view some places. That's not happening now, obviously. Her closest friend is also pregnant and refusing to see absolutely everyone, so she cannot move in with her either.
I feel that she is hinting that she will be staying longer than planned, probably rent free. I may have to just get used to this new reality until this mess is over.
Is anyone having their nursery in their master's bedroom? Is this feasible?

[Missgemini]

I will woman up and have the chat!

[Busylizzie85]

@Missgemini I'm sure you can make anything work in the short term! Just make her aware that if she stays then as soon as this mess is over or getting better 🤞🏼 she needs to move on to allow you to be a family if your doing her this rather big favour she needs to respect the terms x

[APD1981]

For all of you who are now working from home and social distancing, are you still going out anywhere at all? Local shop? For a walk?

I've been for a few little walks and totally avoided anyone (fairly rural and quiet here) but I am wondering if I'm able to nip to a shop or not? What are you all doing?

[Busylizzie85]

@APD1981 I have nipped to the shop, feel like if I never go out I'll go bonkers! I have made sure to keep my distance from people and carry hand gel!

[Gigitree]

@APD1981 I personally am avoiding going anywhere public at all. So no shops for me, but as it’s ‘social distancing’ rather than ‘self isolation’ if you need to then I’m sure popping to the shops is fine, just try to go as little as possible and perhaps try and avoid peak/busy times. Then of course remember all the hygiene stuff.

I haven’t been going on walks purely because my PGP/SPD is acting up, but I have been pottering in the garden for fresh air. I do plan to go with hubby on a few dog walks when I’m not in as much pain, but will try and go at the quietest times where possible.

I think it’s just about being sensible and as risk adverse as possible.

[chocolate26]

I have been walking my dogs daily, I can walk without seeing hardly anyone. I have also popped to the pharmacy today to get my omeprazole. My DH is still working in London so he could be bringing germs home everyday so I feel me completely self isolating is pointless. I always carry hand gel and wash my hands as soon as I get home.

[APD1981]

Thanks for the replies. Ideally I want to avoid going anywhere but that might send me round the twist so I may wander down to our little post office and deli shops if I feel I need to get out. Just wondered what others were doing x

[chocolate26]

@APD1981 I will be avoiding big supermarkets and sending DH to get anything we need! If for some reason I'm desperate and he's at work I will go to a small shop. I will still be going to any important doctors or hospital appointments unless they can be done over the phone! I wouldn't want to put myself or baby at risk by missing appointments.

Absolutely no luxury trips out to shopping centres, restaurants, gyms or any big gatherings.

Is anyone still having close family round or going to their houses? I'm talking parents/siblings/grandparents or any family member who you would usually see a lot of.

[APD1981]

Yes, that's what I was thinking. We can get basic groceries in our little shops round the corner so I might venture there and be really careful if I need to.

I've also been wondering about families. It's not only mother's day but my mum's birthday next week too and it'll be the first one for her without my dad. She's over 70 so is having to do the same as me. I was hoping that the weather might be nice enough to go and sit at a distance from her in her garden! That's all I can think of to do. I hate the thought of her being alone on her birthday. I haven't even been able to get her a card yet (which was partly the local shops question!) x

[SearchingTheSkies]

I'm also wondering about Mother's Day. Perhaps sitting at a distance in the garden is the best plan or going for a walk somewhere rural? I'm not sure what to do really!!

[MissisBee]

I'm avoiding shops and things but have been going out for walks. Fortunate to live near the sea and some nice open parks. We've been avoiding seeing our parents mostly, but I did visit mine last night, as my uncle died on Tuesday. Due to existing family circumstances, and now coronavirus, none of us are going to be able to get to his funeral.
On a more trivial note, I'd been planning to get my hair cut soon (it's in dire need). I think I probably won't - anyone have any good tips for doing it yourself??!!

[NakeliP]

Attempted to have my glucose tolerance test this morning at the hospital. They were surprised my appointment hadn't been cancelled. Unfortunately I felt really ill, hot and dizzy and then threw up about an hour into it, so they couldn't finish the test. Feel like my morning was a waste after risking being so close to sick/coughing people at s hospital where someone died of CV yesterday and then feeling rough most of the afternoon. Now have to go back on Monday but thankfully it's to discuss home glucose monitoring instead of the oral test. Anyone else have a similar experience with not keeping down their glucose drink? And what happened next?

[Fudgewhizz]

@Missgemini you’ll be absolutely fine without a nursery. Baby will be in your room for the first six months anyway - I only used the nursery for changing DD in but I could just as easily have used the bathroom.

Really fed up today - in the house all day on my own is starting to take its toll. DD off school from Monday and I’m honestly dreading it - she is really an easy, good natured child and I love her to bits but I also need to work from home and I’m feeling so physically bad with SPD / breathlessness (definitely bump-related as it’s only in certain positions!), aches and pains, total lack of motivation... Also every time the baby loves it makes me feel sick :( I need DH here but I don’t know if he’s going to be due to the lack of info from government about what’s happening in schools (eg who is a key worker?).

I know I sound really pathetic, I’m just fed up today!

[AnonyHB]

Hi everyone,

I’ve been limiting my social contact - working from home but going to shops to get the bits I need but keeping away from people etc. Not seen any friends or family other than my husband for the last week. We went cinema on Saturday night before the new advice but had the row to ourselves and no one was in front or behind. Also ate out that night but that was last time as new advice came in on Monday. I did go for a swim at about 7am today as I knew there would be hardly anyone there (basically had pool to myself) but will probably suspend my gym membership from now on as I can’t use any gym equipment (and haven’t for 2 weeks) and although I think swimming is probably ok as long as not busy, it’s probably not worth the (potential) risk. Obviously have been obsessively cleaning myself, surfaces, our bedding and towels etc. It’s hard to strike the balance between social distancing vs the mental and physical health benefits of still doing some thing we enjoy.

Hope you’re all getting on OK. I’m in bed already as feeling very run down today - have a headache and feel generally tired, think the anxiety of all of this coupled with pregnancy insomnia and aches and pains are catching up on me! Xx

[Pegase]

Welsh list of key workers. England released tomorrow

Key workers include:
• National Health Service
• Armed forces
• Teachers and childcare staff
• Care home workers
• Social workers
• Police officers, community support, civilian staff
• Prison officer or other probation staff
• Firefighters
• Local authority planners
• Environmental health officers
• Highway Agency traffic officers
• Supermarket delivery drivers

[AndddddHerewegoagain]

Thanks for that list @Pegase

Im a private carer so not sure if the rules apply to me DH is emergency services.

However i spoke to the nursery today and they're going to give me 2 weeks grace to allow the family to find a new carer and not leave a 90 year old housebound vulnerable adult alone ( i have 2 jobs If someone recognises me from previous threads) which is really good of them as they weren't obliged. Then I'll take 2 weeks annual leave and then maternity around 35 weeks which is the best i can do i think.

Also have a growth scan next week and an gtt so will be abandoning the person I'm meant to be handing over to 🙈

[UKtoSK]

@APD1981At the start my husband wouldn’t even let me go to our local shop and would just have me give him a list of what to buy and I wouldn’t even step foot in any bigger shops. I was just going for walks in the park. But the past couple of weeks I’ve been going to the shop with him and walked around the local high street. The difference here though is that absolutely everybody is wearing a mask so it feels a lot safer because you know that if someone has it they are less likely to spread it. I’d just avoid crowded places and like others said carry hand gel and then wash your hands and change your clothes when you get home. Definitely go for walks outside if you can though! Mental health is important too.

[sarahlounich]

I've been working from home since Tuesday, I'm relying on colleagues to keep me busy so I can see me having a lot of time to potter round the house and nest! I went out to the supermarket yesterday early and been for a walk this afternoon, i definitely can't stay in the house for the next 11 weeks!

We're booked to go to a spa hotel just outside Chester next week and we're still going- walks outside and time in our room with books/films. Depending on how busy the restaurant looks we'll get room service and we'll see whether the spa treatments are still taking place. Along with taking antibac wipes, hand sanitizer and washing my hands. I've got a feeling they might enforce isolation in the coming weeks if people don't start listening so going to take this opportunity whilst being cautious.

@Missgemini sounds a bit of a tricky situation but if you have the conversation you'll both know what each other is thinking about the current situation. Also just realised we're due date buddies 🙂

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[sarahlounich]

Opps that should read 29+2.... I definitely don't want to add weeks on 😂

[Pears913]

New to the thread but thanks so much for the tip about the Positive Birth Company course! Nice to have something to be doing now all the other courses and activities are off.

[Missgemini]

@NakeliP sorry to hear the test went badly. It's quite gruelling doing the proper test. I only had to do the shortened version. Hopefully, they'll contact you to do it again. They can't just leave it there surely... although with the virus, who knows.

@sarahlounich thank you! Due date buddies!!! :)

[AmyMaria2]

Seen some things about maternity wards and deliveries, apparently we will only be allowed 1 birthing partner and that person has to leave 10 mins or so after baby's born and not return until they come back to take you and baby home? Also a strict no visitors rule the whole time you and baby are inpatients, what happens if you have to stay in for a week or so, or if baby's in nicu? Very scary thoughts, was really hoping to have OH and my mum as birthing partners 😞 anyone know if this is going to be in place for sure?

Brighter note, had a 4D scan today but baby had his foot across his face!! Got a few good pics 😍 x

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[Busylizzie85]

Lovely picture @AmyMaria2 it's funny how they manage to get the feet up by there face like how is that comfortable!

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[Pegase]

Since Monday I am wfh and not going out to shops. DH is wfh also and DD not in school anymore since Tues. Sent DH to Aldi on Weds AM and he had to queue for a v long time! Plenty of fresh food though. Left house yesterday to go to the park with DD and DH for her to burn some energy a good 50m away from anyone else!

The worry is that as number of infections go up, you have no idea who you are coming into contact with who is asymptomatic but could transmit the virus to you. In the US they have a large number of under 65s hospitalised.

Will be hard being an incubator for final trimester.