Due May 2020 (thread 6)

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6th thread already 😬😬😬 not long now

@Reds2007, I can’t get that link to load, must be too many people trying to look at the same time!

Just got a reply from NCT - they are replacing in person courses with virtual ones - yay! Excerpt from the email: "You will no doubt have seen that the Prime Minster has advised against all non-essential contact and travel for expectant mums. This means that all NCT sessions, workshops and groups run in person need to be paused with immediate effect and will be replaced by virtual courses."

My manager has told me that it's up to us whether we go in or not despite government advice. They haven't yet set up the facility for us to work from home so if we don't go in then we will be unpaid!
Im self certifying myself off with stress for a week as this has just topped me over the edge and I need to think of myself and the baby!
I've got a telephone app with the doctor on Friday to see if they can sign me off following. I feel really annoyed by my works comments about it's up to us whether we go in or not.... we that's obvious but they should be supporting us staying at home as per advice!

I’m super lucky that my job has told the entire office to work from home for the foreseeable future now so I don’t know if I’ll be back before mat leave starts now. I rang the midwife earlier to check that my appointments are still on and they said ‘yes at the moment’. There’s an NHS class on Thursday that apparently is still going ahead which I didn’t expect, not sure whether to go or not. I’ve also had to cancel my baby shower as well which was necessary but a shame.

I feel like I was so chilled out about everything and now I’ve got this anxiety and general stress about everything! Especially things I know I shouldn’t worry about like that my hairdresser will be struggling, down to whether I’ll be asked to have my csection earlier than planned. Might do a bit of meditation tonight!

I feel the same @Rebecca612, I just feel like all of a sudden there's not long to go and everything seems so unclear!

On a more positive note though I've just started packing our hospital bags and it's made me feel excited! I just need to get a few more bits and then that's one more thing ticked off the list :)

Let's just think of our gorgeous summer babies that will be here so soon and we've waited so long for! I know it's easy to say that, but at least we have them to look forward too ❤️

Well my lovely hospital has made the wonderful decision that I am fine to work. It’s an absolute joke. So now I’ve got to decide if I want to risk it or if I go off sick. Just can’t believe I’ve been put in this position x

i've got the flu. fever vomiting headache in waves so i'm off sick. my husband is looking after my daughter but anything happens to him we literally have no one 😓

@Emmacb82 thats so annoying. What will you do?

@facevalue get well soon and hydrate. Did you get the flu jab?

Those saying that their work or hospital is advising it's 'up to them' or that they are fine to work....

THIS IS INSANE! The government has advised pregnant women to isolate for up to 12 weeks.

Under no circumstances should you have to work. That's going against protocol. Yes it's guidance and recommended for now but it will likely be enforced in the next few days!

I am shocked that places are treating you this way?! Your health and the risk of spreading should be their priority! Their are government guidelines available on what it all means from time of work financial aspects etc so please look it up and look after yourselves. Don't let anyone make you feel like you have to be anywhere as you do not. Do what is right for you and your health xxx

My work have said if I self isolate then I don’t get paid (apart from ssp) so it’s business as usual 😩

It's putting us all in such a difficult position isn't it.
Thank goodness we're nearing the end now so this isn't an issue which will dominate our pay during our pregnancies!
I've been so worried about work and the baby, I've been feeling super stressed and vulnerable. I'm not in until sat but I'm gonna self certify myself off for a week and then see if the doctor will sign me off for longer. If anyone else is feeling the same as me and gets sick pay then that may be an idea for you to do too?

We are already in full country lockdown where I am. Have been since the weekend.
They seem to be taking it far more seriously than in the UK.

My consultant called, my appointments for scans in the first weeks of April (one at 36, one 38 weeks) will be moved earlier to 7am with him, as main surgery opens at 8am. So I have an hour with minimal people in the practice.
If I feel ill in any way, or want an additional check-up Either he will do a personal home visit, or I have been sent several numbers for other local who will also do a home visit 24/7.

I have been given hospital grade 1-litre hand sanitizer in case I have to touch anything out ie in supermarket.
In hospital we will only be allowed 1 person with us as birth partner and visitor afterwards (same person).

I am already on Maternity as 8 weeks before due date is latest you are allowed to work. Luckily we ordered baby stuff early last month as good deal on, and have gone down reusable nappy/wipe route so Im not panicing too much about any lack of supplies.

@caspianberg wow your country sounds so organised unlike the U.K. - where are you?
We can’t even get hold of hand sanitizer!

Visitors and birthing partners restricted at my hospital, only allowed 1 nominated birthing partner and my daughter isn't allowed to visit me when I go in 😔

Also catching up on the thread, I'm so sorry that so many of you are being put into impossible situations with work. We shouldnt have to choose between money and ours and babies health its so so wrong

@Caspianberg you said you were in Austria if I remember correctly? I am so jealous of you right now! My 31 week appointment is next Monday and I am dreading the long wait in the crowded waiting room 🙁

I’ve had to make the difficult decision to go off sick today. I will get paid but it won’t be anywhere like my normal pay. But I refuse to risk my baby’s life. I feel terribly guilty and it’s not the way I wanted to do things, but the stakes are too high now.
@Caspianberg your country sounds amazing!

@woollycat @Emmacb82 @CharlieB93 - Yes Austria. I'm really impressed so far with how they are handling it. There seems lots of emergency protocols in place, and they have a good health system in general so I'm not too worried.

I am sharing the same concerns as you all folks! Now working from home until I finish on 24/04 but antenatal classes (understandably) have now been cancelled.. heaven help me

I’ve seen my midwife this morning and she seems very calm about the whole thing. She said don’t stop seeing friends just be sensible about how you see them. She encouraged meeting up and going on walks as fresh air is important and just to stay 2m apart from each other! So I feel much happier to be honest. I’m going to start to see people but only outside and at a safe distance, obviously this will change if we go on full lock down.

@mrsf1204 sounds nice to have a comforting chat with anyone. i'm so anxious about the idea of loosing my parents and in laws... not sure how it feels to be told u have terminal cancer.. i imagine the hopelessness and helplessness must be a huge factor😪 end of life care must be hard now

I'm finding it quite difficult knowing that its unlikely any family will be able to visit us when baby is small. Due end April/beginning May, and family have flights booked to come out end of May onwards throughout the summer.

I assume also even those with family close by won't be able to introduce baby to family for weeks/months depending on the situation due to risk of spreading anything.

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Hi everyone, how're you all feeling?
There's so much unknown at the moment isn't there, in top of the already unknown of having a baby! I'm very concerned about my ex and how we will deal with the new baby and our son in the midst of all these lock downs etc... but he seems to be being more mature and kind in communication recently so I just hope we can support each other as parents (not as a couple) and make the most of the situation because it's hard enough as it is! But my concern is that the boys will be exposed to two families who are exposed to extended family and it seems like a big risk to me!!

Sending love and positivity to everyone in this weird time ❤️