Dec19/Jan20 IVF Graduates

[BambiOnIce80]

Graduate thread for all the amazing ladies who have endured infertility and are hopefully now starting a new chapter🤞

@Littlelot @Viletta @candycornlover @FlapJackered @Wimbledon1

I got my BFP on Tuesday the 28th and am feeling pretty symptom free today (so obviously panicking that it's all going wrong! 😣). 7 week scan due to be Tuesday the 18th and it feels like a long way away with symptoms going awol! 😥 POAS this morning and it looks spot on for where I should be, so trying to take some comfort from that 🤞🤞🤞

Crikey @DobbieFreeElf, it sounds like you've really been through the ringer! 😟 So glad to hear that all was well with the scan - what a relief! 😪

@DobbieFreeElf glad to hear the scan went well! The baby seems to be well protected at this stage. Hopefully the hematoma will disappear on the next scan. What a story! Keep yourself safe!

Glad all okay at your scan @DobbieFreeElf that sounds so stressful.

🌈🥰yay @DobbieFreeElf Pah The hematoma is nothing compared to an active toddler you have it covered! 😁

Good morning ladies ☀ Just found this if anyone is still concerned about Covid19 and pregnancy - sounding positive so far 🤞

www.rcog.org.uk/en/guidelines-research-services/guidelines/coronavirus-pregnancy/

Oh great thanks @BambiOnIce80 I will take a look over lunch!! I was getting increasingly concerned because the fifth death last night was at my local hospital, the one that did my treatment (although thankfully not the one I've chosen to use for maternity services!) And then after doing reading I'd found links that suggested the research to date has only been on nine 3rd trimester women in China, so I am starting to get a bit 🤯🤯
Would be so much easier if we were all a few weeks further on and could tell our employers wouldn't it.

@DobbieFreeElf - blimey, that's pretty scary!! I'm glad all was well in the end but I bet that was a long weekend. Out of interest, can I ask if you were on your phone? I'm dreadful for using mine while walking, including on stairs, and I know I should stop now for exactly this reason really. Congratulations on a successful scan in the end though!

@Minster2012 what a mean things for your mum to say. Definitely not a joke?!

How are you getting on my exact-dates buddy @FlapJackered ?

Thanks @BambiOnIce80 will read that, though now going to my second hospital in 2 days in two different counties I’m not exactly hiding away!

@wimbledon1 definitely not a joke in afraid, she’s a very negative person since I was first diagnosed, very much “you should be happy you’ve got your life back & be VERY happy with the one miracle child you have” as opposed to mine & my doctors view that medical advances took my terminal diagnosis to now all clear & there’s no reason why I shouldn’t live my life the way I always would have done. & DH & I would always have tried for more than one child, 2 prob (he’s eldest of 4) so why shouldn’t we do that if there’s no medical reason not to now?

Thanks everyone 😊

@Wimbledon1 No, it was far more stupid than that! We were helping some friends who were moving out of their 4th floor flat and I had just taken apart their mamaroo (if you haven’t heard of these, google it and add it to your baby list!) someone had taken all the parts out of the room but not the charger and I thought, I’m going to take that and make sure it goes with all the other bits because otherwise it will get lost! So I went to the elevator but it was being unpacked on the ground floor so I thought, I’ll just walk downstairs. I was musing to myself that it was a bit ridiculous to be walking down 4 floors with just a charger and there were big puddles on each landing between the floors. I was then thinking to myself “they should really try and do something about the water pooling here, maybe they should drill a hole, but then would it be annoying if the water dripped on your head” and with my feet wet from walking through the puddle I slipped and down I went! My friends were quite insistent that I had probably broken my elbow (which still fricking hurts) and after I nearly passed out having tried to get up called ambulance (which was going to take 90mins) I was feeling ok after 15 minutes so we cancelled it.

I’m going to suggest everyone takes extra precautions not to fall down any stairs as it’s not fun!

In other news, I self referred and my midwife just called me and said “I was thinking about you the other day” she was the same midwife when I had DS in 2016 and saw us in 2017 before my first miscarriage. (She’s also obviously psychic!) She’s booking me another scan in 2 weeks to check the hematoma, on my clinic’s recommendation, and also booking my 12 weeks scan now. Might just start believing it’s all real sometime soon!

Hi lovely ladies! We have been away for a long weekend sorry I was offline to take a proper break, got back last night :)
So had the scan on Thursday and announced the family on Friday after work, asked the 3 kids to come with me, put the T-shirts on them and then they ran out to the living room where the adults were sitting. The whole scene was unreal, I kept looking at my sister's face as she went from oh, how nice, you got them matching tops? to OMG, are you saying what I think you are saying? Then started crying and just kept hugging us saying how happy they are. It was very emotional and I am sure we will always remember this day :)

Went away the next morning and had the best weekend ever enjoying our happiness and the end of hiding it from our loves ones. My MIL is apparently setting up a savings account to the kid as we speak, told her it might be slightly getting ahead of herself, but she says it's non-negotiable.

@rainbow178 good luck for today, waiting for your news!

@DobbieFreeElf congrats! @Wimbledon1 glad to hear everything is ok, we are also considering to book a private scan for around week 10 just to see all is in order and to break up the 7-12 week period.

@Lily999 glad you had a lovely break ! And so glad you enjoyed telling your family 😀

All good news here with the scan!!!! Saw little baby on the screen and all looks good!! So happy!! FInally feels a bit real!!

It's great to hear your scan went well @rainbow178

I've got my 6wk scan tomorrow and got to admit I'm a bit apprehensive, I am symptomless right now so actually wishing for some sickness to kick in this week...

🙋🏻‍♀️ Still completely symptomless, as in nothing, not a twinge or a sniff or a slightly off moment! Hope your scan goes well!

I am still alive thanks @Wimbledon1 ...just! 🤢 😂
Been feeling pretty rough, but then suddenly picked up this evening and feeling much better, Long may it last! How are you feeling?
That is worrying about your local hospital. I have to say I am starting to feel a bit nervous about it all too. It just seems to be spreading so fast and with everything shutting down in Italy I can't help thinking the uk is going to be going the same way.

@DobbieFreeElf oh my gosh! poor you that sounds really scary. Great news your scan was good though and that they are going to keep extra tabs on you!

@Lily999 that made me smile! Such a lovely way of telling your family and sounds like they are so happy for you ❤️

Congratulations @rainbow178 on your scan! It's such a relief to see it there in the right place isn't it.

@Minster2012 I am sorry your Mum isn't being very supportive, hopefully when you tell her she will realise and change her tune.
Try not to worry/focus too much on her words and focus on the lovely little bean you are growing. X

I had my booking in appointment yesterday and didn't realise I had to make a decision on my hospital? It seems really early so I just made a very quick decision and hope I have made the right one 😬. It was a lot to take in though! Now waiting to receive my 12 week scan appointment letter, just keeping everything crossed it's not at the 14 week limit.

Congrats on the scan @rainbow178!! 🥳

Thanks for the corona info @BambiOnIce80 - I’d been looking out for that being updated 🤓. I’m getting increasingly worried about it. I know the experts are all saying pregnant women aren’t at increased risk and it can’t be passed to baby, but I though any illness with a fever can be dangerous in first trimester? I don’t think there is much evidence yet and must be so tricky for the experts to advise on a virus they are still learning about - good luck to them and I hope they are getting the resources they need. My hands are like sandpaper from obsessive washing!

We’ve just had all travel outside uk banned at work, with a threat of uk travel restrictions too. And I see the health secretary has tested positive? Definitely feels like it’s getting more real now.

Must be upsetting for your OH @BambiOnIce80? Hope his family are all safe and well xx

Good luck for today @CupcakeEater!

@rainbow178 congrats on the scan, glad to hear everything is ok :)

Thanks @FlapJackered, there were a good few tears of joy, if possible I think my sister has been looking forward to this announcement even more than we did :) Good to know about the hospital, I didn't know I need to make a decision so soon, my first midwife appointment in on Tuesday.

Also I am considering going for a private scan around week 10 before the NHS one and apparently it's not great to have too many scans, do you know anything about that? I am terrified of a missed ab and would like to know the baby is developing, time between the 7th and the 12th week scans seem long (even worse if it's the 14th week...), but obviously I won't do it if it's not great for the wee one.

@Chooklass they are not allowing you to travel abroad? Didn't think employers can do that. We have been sent a travel log and we need to report every trip we take, and if someone travels to a listed country such as Singapore, China, Italy etc. they need to do a compulsory self isolation.

Yes, @BambiOnIce80 hope your DP's family are all ok. xxx

It’s just work related travel which they’ve banned @Lily999. Though we also had to list all non-work travel so they can plan potential impact if people have to self-isolate. Just been told to prepare to home-work for foreseeable! Delighted, as I won’t have to hide my belly any more!!

It's bad news today. There was a very very small empty sac and nothing else. I've had a beta HCG as they're not sure why I've not had a bleed yet. They couldn't see anything ectopic but there's a small chance it's somewhere obscure so best to cover all bases. Hopefully my body's just taking a while to catch up. No frosties left over so it's back to the drawing board. I'll take myself off of this thread now but wishing you all happy and healthy pregnancies x

Oh no @CupcakeEater so sorry to hear that, I have been thinking about you, was really hoping this magical thread will never run out of power.
Needless to say take some time to yourself and feel free to rant/be sad/grieve, whatever feels right.

@CupcakeEater so sorry for your bad news. Take care of yourself, hope everything works next time. It looks like it's down to embryo quality which always so unpredictable.

My clinic confirmed I should reduce meds by half next week (w11) for 7 days and then stop. I actually have been on reduced doze for a week already since last week we initially they said w10 (meaning from conception dah)... I think I'll just keep on the reduced doze.. annoyed they couldn't be more specific. On the other hand so tiered of the meds I'm wondering if I could actually stop earlier.

My baby brain is now fully on, I struggle remembering my colleagues' names! Really forgetful, have you noticed anything similar?

So sorry @CupcakeEater xx

@Viletta I’ve got the last of my progesterone, 200my Utrogestan 3x a day until the end of week 10, 2x a day until the end of week 11 and 1 a day until the end of week 12. My clinic told me to go and ask my gp for it and they did my prescription so I only had to pay £9 😊

@Lily999 My midwife said they don’t like to scan more than once in every 2 weeks because I need another one because of the hematoma I have.

I’ve stupidly been googling about this subchorionic hematoma and worried myself, although the midwife, doctor and sonographer didn’t seem too concerned, unless they were all lying to me to not worry me more!

Oh no, what mixed news to logon too. So sorry @CupcakeEater to hear this, what a horrible shock. As someone else said, I thought there was some magic in this thread getting everyone through their 7 week scan. 😢 Take care of yourself.

But congratulations @rainbow178, so glad all is well and you loved seeing your little bean for the first time! Do you now have a due date?

@Lily999 - odd that there is anything around not scanning too often because it was an abdominal ultrasound I had last week at 9 weeks so not at all invasive. But even if the rule is fortnightly, if you have one half way between now and the 12 week that should be fine? I did feel much better for it - although my first scan experience was exceptionally rubbish I think! Also I still love your story about telling your family. I've realised I was so unimaginative!!

@FlapJackered sorry to hear you've been feeling so rough. I've had symptoms on and off including some nausea but really quite infrequently...sorry!! Any chance of you being told to stay at home and self isolate soon?! Glad things were better yesterday anyway.

Lady on the train one bank of seats down from me is having a coughing fit. Just told everyone not to worry because she's just got a dry throat. But 🤯🤯

@DobbieFreeElf that's a relief! Thank you. I'm on 2x2 utrogestan (was 4x4). Can't wait to stop it. I'm sure doctors would outline possible risks if you had any. Google is evil and would show gloom stories rather than normal as no one would write it.

Evening

I’ve too been keeping quiet & hoping the thread can keep my dreams alive 🤞🏻as had my private abdominal scan yesterday (after mean mum comment) in advance of my antenatal endocrine appointment yesterday, & the private scanner couldn’t see anything but she said it could be as I have lots of internal scar tissue. Outside hospital my head in a spin I judged another car when parking, burst into tears, the guy wouldn’t even give me his details, no damage to them really popped my bumper a bit.

Long story short after 1.5hrs at endocrine (another county hospital to my IVF but where my oncology stuff is based) they got me an EPU appointment for today. So 3 hours later I drove the long 1.5 hours back home in limbo.

Today at EPU scan hoping to show 7+3 showed small gestation sac, no yolk/fetal pole or heartbeat but also an ovarian cyst & cant rule out ectopic but certainly not 7+3 they would say very early which shouldn’t be for IVF

Took beta HCG so will get result tomorrow morning hopefully & likely repeat Friday (cue scramble to get DS into nursery Friday) to see if growing or more likely scenario of stopped growing & the stabbing pains I occasionally felt but put down to cramping was apparently not right & the meds likely holding back a miscarriage

Oh and I need to actually talk to my ACTUAL clinic 🤦🏼‍♀️
Do the tiniest sliver of hope but not much I’m afraid

@Minster2012 oh I'm so sorry you had such a terrible couple of days. Hope DH is taking good care of you and you of him. Maybe it's a late implanter.. if not, do you have a plan for the next attempt?