Dec19/Jan20 IVF Graduates

[BambiOnIce80]

Graduate thread for all the amazing ladies who have endured infertility and are hopefully now starting a new chapter🤞

@Littlelot @Viletta @candycornlover @FlapJackered @Wimbledon1

I got my BFP on Tuesday the 28th and am feeling pretty symptom free today (so obviously panicking that it's all going wrong! 😣). 7 week scan due to be Tuesday the 18th and it feels like a long way away with symptoms going awol! 😥 POAS this morning and it looks spot on for where I should be, so trying to take some comfort from that 🤞🤞🤞

Hi @Viletta and everyone - yes I did. So much better than my first experience. She found it quickly and showed me the start of the little hands and feet, and I got to hear the heartbeat! That was so cool. 170 something per minute which she tells me is normal - though she gave me a written report I don't remotely understand 😂 Also dated by size bang on 9 weeks which is just right so all happy 😊
She showed me the placenta starting to attach, but only starting to and it did take a while to locate. So if you are less than a week ahead of me it might be worth holding on a bit longer to drop the progesterone?

@DobbieFreeElf I am also having another day of no symptoms at all, so I hope this reassures you that they aren't essential. Just a few more days to wait!

@Lily999 that is the cutest thing ever with your nieces/nephews, well done!! Hope everyone cries, bet they do! Enjoy telling them.

How is everyone else doing? X

@Wimbledon1 aww so pleased for you! I'm 9w6d and have dropped progesterone and estrogen by half for the last 4 days .. I think I'll keep taking half till the end of week 10. Will double check with the clinic too! Xx

Oh no ours stop the progesterone after the scan which is 8 weeks now I’m worried 😬

@Minster2012 are you FET or fresh?

@Viletta ours was FET

@Wimbledon1 glad you had a good scan and heard the heartbeat- that's so exciting!!
I think I am meant to be on progesterone until week 12 (currently week 7) and worrying about stopping it-think I will do it gradually like you but will ask the clinic when I go for my scan on Tuesday- can't come quick enough! It totally doesn't feel real at the moment, I really hope they can confirm all is ok!

Are you still doing well with no symptoms? I am struggling with sickness, Monday/Tuesday wee horrendous for me, wed/thurs/fri- just about tolerable and touch wood I'm feeling fine today. I did last Saturday too, I think it's because I've had more sleep and am not panicking about teaching 5 lessons a day while feeling like I am about to puke!!

Hope everyone's got a nice weekend planned .

@Lily999 how did you cute t-shirts go down!?

@Minster2012 have you stopped already?

@Minster2012 seems that advise varies from 8 to 12 weeks, I'll let you know what my clinic says. I heard a weird opinion that if you stop late placenta might become lazy.. not sure if this is true

@Viletta our clinic says stop once we’ve had the viability scan which is on 18th March when I will be 8+3 I think, our clinic say that there’s no need past that point & it must have been ok last time I suppose as it was FET with same clinic last time 🤷‍♀️But just not transferred to me

@Minster2012 sounds reassuring:) thank you!

@Viletta yes should all be ok, just need to get to the scan for me first and hopefully still pregnant! No idea I really don’t feel pregnant 🙈🤦🏼‍♀️Should be a good thing but my head wrestled with it. I’m trying to tell myself it’s good, but there is worry & today I’ve been running around playing tag with my friends 4 y old, picking my toddler up as he constantly threw himself on the floor trying to run & follow us, throw him down slides & carrying him around & wrestling him as he tantrummed for nearly an hour in tiredness 🤦🏼‍♀️Oh & dog walking whilst pushing him too as DH in London watching the rugby this weekend.

Being with my friend & her 2 kids brought home the awful realisation of how difficult it would be without DH with 2, as she’s just finalised her divorce 😥you need to be an octopus

Hi all 👋! Been a bit quiet on thread recently - just working or sleeping really so not much to report.

Just checking in to moan about my itchy flaky scalp 😫. I get flare-ups of scalp dermatitis now and then, very rarely for years though. It’s the worst ever though! All my skin is generally more sensitive, so must be pregnancy related? Anyway, dug out the T Gel which is my normal fail-safe remedy, only to read ‘not safe in pregnancy/ bf’ on bottle 😥. Have spent hours online looking for pregnancy safe shampoos, even some of the ‘natural/ organic’ ones are maybe not safe because of essential oils!! Most things just because there has been no research/ testing, rather than being actually harmful - it’s a minefield! I’m sure the levels of any chemical absorbed through scalp during shampooing must be very low? Got my midwife appt a week tomorrow so with ask her then.

Oh wow hadn’t even thought of shampoos! On the basis I’ve not gone through my makeup & only just recently bought new shampoos That I still use very rarely I will not worry too much

However @chooklass almond oil is meant to be really good for flaky scalps i believe

I’ve got a special appointment with a new team I’ve been referred to on Tuesday afternoon by my “normal” endocrine team, I’m now going under an antenatal endocrine team as sickness for me can be very bad, usually meaning a hospital stay and IV fluids so we are hoping to get advice on how to manage any sickness & what I need to do to manage my steroid deficiency throughout my pregnancy as it’s the body not producing it’s natural stress hormone. Also a bit of advice on corona virus too. I’m hoping they take a blood sample which might just confirm I’m still actually pregnant! 😂🤣

@Chooklass I wouldn't worry too much about essential oils but maybe try finding something without partners and other chemically stuff?

I Need a rant I’m afraid. I’m currently at my parents with toddler DS & they’ve just said something really annoying /hurtful on the whole another baby front, they don’t know about the pregnancy but knew we did more embryo creation & I said if we got the oks from my various teams we would try with me carrying a child “in the future” all hypothetical previously to them but we have been planning for 2 years.

For added context They look after DS once a week & My brother & his girlfriend currently due end of April their first but live 3 hours away so they will want to visit them more too. Anyway mum “we don’t want anymore babies thanks, ones enough thank you, you’re not having anymore” in a conversation to which I just said “that’s not your decision to make” and continued talking about the bedspread.

So guess who won’t be happy when we tell them. It’s made me so miserable, I’ve booked a private scan for Tuesday to know either way whether it’s still real & maybe make me happier but feel pretty shit right now.

@Minster2012 I'm sure this was said in a moment and they of course would be happy about your news.

Hopefully @Viletta but i doubt it as it’s not the first time she’s said “it would be selfish” of us to try & have another child that was when we did the second embryo creation, quite what she meant I didn’t find out as I shut that conversation down & pointed out as a mother of 2 children herself I’ll just stop her there, we weren’t doing the embryos with a view to never trying if we were given the go ahead & is all very hypothetical (at that stage). That was 3 years ago. When I stopped my treatment last may I had a conversation with my dad where I reiterated we would try if we were told there was no medical reason not to. There isn’t. It’s just their worry for me, I’m scared too, I’m pretty faulty but I have great teams, & they will now think our timing is selfish re my brother & not realise we started the process may last year.

Oh @Minster2012, your mum really did say the worst possible thing at the worse possible time, didn't she?! 😟 I'm sure that the reality is that she'll be delighted when you make your announcement, despite her comment (which, as you say, really isn't her decision to make!). I know easier said than done, but try not to focus on what she's said and look after yourself and get through your upcoming appointments 💐

Good to hear from you @Chooklass 😊 Sorry to hear about your scalp issue though 😔 I'm sure the midwife will keep you right with something you can use - there's no way they'll let you suffer. The skin on my face (mainly my chin and up to my lower lip) has been ridiculously dry and flakey since one week after ET and it's a problem that I've never had before, so I'm sure it's got to be something to do with hormones 🙄 Using serum under my moisturiser helped to start with, but I caught sight of myself in the mirror yesterday and I look a bit like I've got leprosy from the mouth down! 😕 I've pinched DP's neutrogena 'gentle' face wash instead of my daily exfoliating scrub and it looks a little bit better today - long may it continue! 🤞

Not much to update at my end - just over 2 weeks left until the 12 week bloods and 12+3 scan (and the trisomy risk screen which is still majorly worrying me 😔). On the brightside, no nausea at all since last Sunday 👌 Just tiredness, but I'm managing OK with having early nights in the week and indulging in power naps at the weekend 😴 Only interesting new thing I've noticed is very occasional little 'pitter-patter' kind of feeling on my lower left hand side... could this be the first signs of il bambino moving about or is it all in my head?! 🤪 I'm only 9+5!

@Minster2012 they'll have to accept that this is happening and I am sure they will be happy with the announcement. It's always a worry to figure out new routine, but they will love the new baby I'm sure. It's a shame of course that this comment came out in such a wrong time. When are you planning to tell them?

Thank you @BambiOnIce80 & @Viletta, I was hoping to wait until after 12 week scan but it might fall after Easter so maybe before 🤷‍♀️I was going to see how long we could leave it as we see both parents very regularly

Good luck with the scan today @DobbieFreeElf! 🤞🏻💫

Good luck for later @DobbieFreeElf 🤞🏻🍀it’s a beautiful sunny day here and I’m sure the sun is shining on you and bean xxx

A very eventful few days for me.

On Friday I managed to slip and fall down a metal staircase. Bashed myself up a bit and was instantly very faint and feeling sick.

On Saturday at 4am I woke for a wee and had some brown bleeding. This coupled with my gut feeling of impending doom left me in a right state. I went to a&e and because the EPU is closed at the weekend and it wasn’t a life threatening situation they wouldn’t scan me. All of the local private clinics were either full or closed so I had to wait out the weekend.

Fast forward to today and we have had the scan and everything is fine! We heard the heartbeat (130bpm) the pregnancy sack and baby are measuring exactly as the should be. The bean was playing hide and seek so I have a rather rubbish photo but I have been assured that it is there and it is doing ok!

I have been told that I have a small hematoma in my uterus and when I fell either the impact or the shack may have caused a small amount of blood to escape. They have recommended booking a follow up scan in 2 weeks to check that it’s all still progressing ok. And sticking on progesterone until 12 weeks (boo and yuk!) 😊

What a story @DobbieFreeElf !! Happy you and the baby are doing good, but that must have been a real scare!