Dec19/Jan20 IVF Graduates

[BambiOnIce80]

Graduate thread for all the amazing ladies who have endured infertility and are hopefully now starting a new chapter🤞

@Littlelot @Viletta @candycornlover @FlapJackered @Wimbledon1

I got my BFP on Tuesday the 28th and am feeling pretty symptom free today (so obviously panicking that it's all going wrong! 😣). 7 week scan due to be Tuesday the 18th and it feels like a long way away with symptoms going awol! 😥 POAS this morning and it looks spot on for where I should be, so trying to take some comfort from that 🤞🤞🤞

@Littlelot glad that your sister took the news well! Must be a relief to tell her. My midwife's appointment is on Friday. Let me know how yours go so I can be prepared. Wonder if they are going to do any blood or urine tests. Will they do a pregnancy test there to confirm too?

Hey @Viletta, no pregnancy test, blood or urine, they take you on your word that you are pregnant 😊 they'll just ask loads of questions, possibly weigh you, and ask for your last LMP to book in a 12 week scan

@DobbieFreeElf hah, looking forward to it:) thank you!

Hey all, I have been a bit quiet recently, as I am desperately trying (and failing most of the time!) to not focus on being pregnant till the scan- which is now only 2 weeks away but it may as well be a year!!! However, I have just woken up feeling as sick as a dog!! And now I remember whenever I am sick, I have a little dizzy/black spots kinda phase. Been sitting over the toilet for 20 minutes.......how on earth am I going to cope at work all day!!?? And I work with mainly women, who the minute someone feels sick make the pregnant diagnosis- I am dreading it!!! Any advice? X

@rainbow178 no advice I am afraid, but I am in the same boat!
@BambiOnIce80 same as you too!
I was so unwell yesterday🤮 I spent the whole day moving from sofa to bed, hot flushes, headache, nausea. I have woken up feeling slightly better but still have no idea how I am going to get through a day of work. And there I was feeling quite smug that my symptoms weren't that bad! 🤦‍♀️
I am hoping it is an on/off thing, or I am just ill and it isn't connected to the pregnancy as how am I going to function like this for the next month!

@Viletta I was given a sample pot when I picked up my pregnancy pack, so I assume they expect me to bring a urine sample? Obviously don't trust us in my neck of the woods! 😂

@Wimbledon1 well done on getting through the wine tasting! I have got a similar situation next weekend, they all think we are doing ivf in March so I have told them I am on a pre-ivf diet and won't be drinking which they all seem to have bought. I feel bad lying to them, but hopefully they will understand. 😬

@FlapJackered it's kinda reassuring to know you are in the same boat! I was also thinking my symptoms were ok and then WHAM! I'm hoping it wears off and doesn't last all bloody day!?

Thanks @dobbiefreeelf

Yeah i remember this waiting well from last time it got this far. Well i had hope until this morning as things had slowed down. But not this morning i have to just get my head ready for tomorrow. So happy to read all the symptoms showing up now lol i was waiting for those xxxx

@MrsLouB I am sorry to hear that. We will all be thinking of you and keeping everything crossed for tomorrow. What time is your scan? X

Thanks @FlapJackered its not till 1pm but i am trying to get it moved to earlier x

OMG @Minster2012 I absolutely love ducks!🦆😍 Does it make me a bit crazy that one of the things I'm most looking forward to about potentially having a bambino is that I'll have a legitimate reason to go feed them?! 🤪 At the moment I just look a bit strange feeding the ducks on my own - I definitely get sideways glances from the people with kids trying to figure out where my kid is or if they need to ring 111 on me 🤦‍♀️

Excellent strategy with the half truth @Wimbledon1 👍 It's funny how un-fun it is when you have to interact with drunk people when you're sober, isn't it?! I have to keep reminding myself that I'm usually one of those drunk people! 😳

Lovely to hear from you @Littlelot 😊 Really glad that your sister took the news as well as she could ❤️ Texting was a really good idea 👍 And good luck with your booking appointment this week (and you too @Viletta 😘) 🍀 I guess they'll do your booking bloods (blood group, full blood count, trisomy screen if your accepting it and heamoglobinopathy screening) and tell you about your delivery options - that's what they say they'll do at ours, anyway 💉 🧪🔬👍

Sorry to hear you're not feeling so positive this morning @MrsLouB 💐 What time is your scan tomorrow?x

And sorry you're both feeling rough too @rainbow178 @FlapJackered! I was mostly feeling alright yesterday, but this morning - OMFG!! 🤢🤢🤢 I've grabbed myself a Starbucks chai tea latte on my way to the train (that I absolutely do not feel like drinking!), but the sugary-ness seems to have settled my stomach for now 😪 I know that we're really short staffed at work today as well, so I'm going to be up and down like a yo-yo... just going to have to hope for the best and snack as much as I can to stave off the roughness! Hope you both manage to get through the day with minimal roughness too!🤞🍀

@rainbow178 hope you feel better during the day. I didn't have sickness, but heard ginger tea or lily helps. You can say you are feverish at work and just overall feel dizzy. Take time off if needed.

Good morning Ladies, hope you've had a nice weekend!

@rainbow178 good to hear from you, apparently ginger and/or mint can help with the nausea, but I haven't tried as I am still to experience it. Did you manage to "forget" about being in this limbo? Would love to know how, if it's possible, I have been trying as well, but have been failing miserably. :( We hit the 6weeks mark in 2days time and it's still only half way there omg...

@Wimbledon1 thank you for the link, not sure whether it was that or not, as it did seem like the leftover parts of the gel as it was more "manufactured" if that makes sense. Happened once more and that was it. As it was only yellow it didn't worry me too much, but was odd for sure.

@MrsLouB I really hope you'll receive good news tomorrow, will be refreshing the screen for sure!

@Chooklass is your scan on Wednesday? Mine is next Thursday (9days to go, but who's counting? :) )

@FlapJackered I remember you wanting to feel crappier and I kind of feel the same now, so I guess it is coming for us all!

@Bambionice80 delivery options mean different hospitals or C-section vs natural? Hope today won't be too bad for you at work.

Yes, Wednesday for me @Lily999! I can’t wait but am also dreading it 🙈. I had a mad dream last night that I got my scan and baby was fine but they said ‘oh my god it’s HUGE! We have to take it out now!’. Then I was on the bus home with a massive baby! Wtf.

I’ve only had mild nausea so far, but my appetite is all over the place. I’m off chicken now (phew! 🐔) and on to cheese and apples, but that will prob change by lunch. One minute I can’t face eating at all, the next I need all the food NOW!! 🧟‍♀️

@Lily999 ha, it has not been going well!!! I feel like I am going to go mad having to wait another 2 weeks!!!! Hubby is being really good and every time I say something getting ahead of myself, he's like, "we're not confirmed yet"- this conversation happens roughly 20 times a day!? I had half term last week and back in work today so hoping time goes a bit quicker now! When's your scan again? Mines the 10th.

Sickness is much better now thanks ladies, it passed after about half an hour- if that's as bad as it gets, I can cope- hope it wasn't just a little teaser of what is to come though!!

Wow @Chooklass that's some dream! :) Sorry made me giggle. So jealous you have your scan in 2days! Keeping my fingers crossed it's all good news. I am having the same, being so full I can't even think about eating, the next moment absolutely starving. Am I imagining having too much saliva though? :D Weird.

@rainbow178 mine is the 5th of March, we will be 7+1, meaning on your scan date we'll be 7+6? I honestly thought these waiting periods were over with the 2WW (Silly Lily..) Now I feel like I am pregnant, but can't tell anyone as it's not confirmed so... am I really? Yes, my Hubby is the same, however I did catch him looking at Isofix cars eats haha, so he lost his "keeping cool" privileges this weekend :)

Yes I think those dates sound right. I know about the waiting!! I feel like I've been 'waiting' for something since the beginning of December!!

Hope everyone else is well

Exactly! I am just hoping this will be over after the scan.... can you please please tell us this excruciating wait will be over after the 7week scan @Wimbledon1, @Viletta, @Littlelot, @FlapJackered and @BambiOnIce80? Sorry if I missed someone, hope I didn't. :/

In my case it has got better for the moment @Lily999 😘 Seeing that little flicker of a heartbeat (teamed with frequently feeling rough as f🤬k! 🤢) has helped the impending sense of doom leave me alone for a bit 👍 I know it'll kick back in when I'm getting close to finding out about my trisomy risk after the 12 week scan, but I'm going to try and enjoy the next 4 weeks for as long as I can 😊 The delivery options I think are just going through where you think you want to deliver 🤔 Home (hell no! 🤯), a nearby-ish District General (no thanks again 😕) or the close by local University Hospital with all the most whizzy and cutting edge kit for if anything goes wrong (yes please! 😪). Each to their own, of course!😉

That's one hell of a dream @Chooklass! 😄 I'm finding it harder to remember my dreams at the moment, which is weird because I've always clearly remembered what I've dreamt about 🤷‍♀️ I'm very glad to hear that your chooks are safe again! 🐔 😁 I've been forcing myself to eat something small, even when I'm not feeling up for it because it seems to be helping me stay at a just about functional level - long may it continue to work! 🙏

Ha, well in my case @Lily999 because I had a distinctly average experience through the NHS at the scan last week, my bestie gave me the details or somewhere she has a private early scan, so I've booked another one at nine weeks, so 6th March. So I just gave myself another TWW 😂

Did go to the GP this morning and she was lovely to be fair. So I think I got unlucky with the NHS last week. And they did get me pregnant first time, so I really shouldn't complain!

@Littlelot nice to see you. And I do remember your dilemma over your sister but it sounds like you managed it very well. It may still be hard for her to hear (and why she's gone a bit quieter) but that doesn't mean she's not thrilled for you, and you're right that she's best to hear it from you.

Interesting to see everyone's symptoms ramping up now! How is your day going @FlapJackered, are you feeling any better yet? I'm still mostly ok although I recognise the description @Chooklass of flipping from "ugh, no couldn't eat" to "oh my god I'm so hungry I feel sick" at a moment's notice.

As others have said, we'll all be thinking of you tomorrow @MrsLouB xx

Oh also meant to ask, how many people have told family, and how did you find that? After the scan we told both sets of parents this weekend and both were delighted, so now I have something of a heavy sense of dread about the emotional involvement of various other people on my ability to carry this! It's definitely made me feel more nervous rather than more excited 😣

@Wimbledon1 I’ve only told two close friends so far. Will have to tell work after my scan on Weds as there are parts of my job I can’t do while pregnant and I’m running out of excuses. Will probably leave everyone else until after 12wk scan. My Mum is very superstitious about such things and she wouldn’t want to know before then!

I wore trousers to work which I haven’t worn since before xmas - big mistake. Fortunately my top is long enough to cover my waistband, which I’ve expanded using a hair bobble! 👈 Top tip for you all! Was ok getting to work but sitting at desk not fine!

Anyone got proper snow? Just sleety yuk in Edinburgh 🌨. More forecast later though.

@Lily999 having early scan definitely calmed me down, having said that, I wasn't much nervous about it anyway. I think it's a combination of knowing that right now everything is in place and develops as it should and that each day the risk of miscarriage goes right down.

@Wimbledon1 I told everyone who knew about IVF: both sets of parents, SIL and close friends. I find some of them are more nervous than I am but it did help me as I can talk to them about it and all I can think of is babies. I haven't allowed myself to think about pregnancy and children till I got my bfp, so I am enjoying every moment of it now, thinking about names, baby room, delivery options, etc. I know that there are still risks but I have given in dreaming about this baby now. Can't help myself. Bottom line people that do know are the ones I would share bad news with if anything happened. I feel that everything is going well at the moment though, touching wood! I know what you mean that you think you made them nervous by sharing the news and they now also have to think about 12w scan. However I am sure they are happy to know and routing for you. Sometimes our parents are more nervous than we are about things but calming them down helps calming yourself down too. Hope this makes sense.

Thank you girls, that's so good to hear as I am soo ready for a break. I am also trying to enjoy it as much as I can and doing my best, but I still have that feeling that once I see it is in the right place and can actually hear a professional telling me I am in fact having a growing embryo there I am still in limbo. Not long to go now though! I can say "next Thursday" is a great feeling :)
@Chooklass I am sticking to flexible knitted skirts at the moment with baggy tops, so glad it's winter time! Speaking of: meant to ask are we still this bloated due to the progesterone supplements? Or are women who got pregnant naturally the same and bloated at 5-6weeks?

I am on progesterone but don't feel bloated. I've got a belly though and wonder where it will go when the baby bump starts growing.

Hey ladies! Proper snow ❄️here in Yorkshire! And (touches wood) still feeling good, I’m currently about 4.5 weeks, or so my clinic day as they say that when you do ET that’s 2 weeks, but I’ve used an online IVF calculator & that puts it at a bit further along. I Selby referred today and said about 5 weeks so hopefully get scan week of the Easter bank holiday & get better idea then (& maybe tell ppl that weekend as my parents the week after)

At my self referral thing earlier we don’t find out 12 week scan date until the booking in appointment which isn’t til 19th March 😫day after our clinic scan.

I’ve only told one friend via message who I met on mumsnet when we did this last time! DH & I have told no one & wont til after 12 weeks unless we get found out through sickness or not drinking! I’m basking in my MIL saying yesterday how much weight I’ve lost since nov (just over a stone what I wanted to lose) so I can put a bit on & hide under baggy jumpers & avoid her maybe??!!

Are you guys feeling dreadful at about 10/11 weeks?? That’s when we are thinking of going to center parcs 🤔trying good work out of bad idea or not