Due June 2020: Thread 4

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We will need a new one soon I kind of spammed the thread today so taking the liberty of creating a new one x

@LillianFullStop thanks! All done now wasn't too bad and time went quickly as I was working on my laptop.
Just got to wait for the results now, if I don't hear within 48 hours that's supposedly good news.

good luck today! @APD1981

glad all went well @Smiffette

is anyone else feeling really tired? i usually clean the flat when DD naps but i’ve started to nap with her.

I've just found out a school local to mine has closed as a parent has tested positive for Coronavirus 😭 I really wish I had the option to work from home! Desperately hoping my school decide to close too so I can become a hermit!

Oh no @APD1981! It really is hitting too close for comfort now.

Stay safe and healthy everyone!

@lillianfullstop I know. And I just realised my nextdoor neighbour teaches there. I just got home for my MW appt and saw her car so she's obviously been sent home. Argh!

All fine with midwife. BP slightly higher than last time but not a concern. Glucose test was normal, urine normal. Bump measured normal growth and baby is head down. Found heartbeat easily and she said it's a 'happy baby' 😊

@APD1981 glad your midwife appointment went well! It's really nice when they say "happy baby" isn't it 😊

Coronavirus is now in my town where I live! Getting worried about going out and about but trying to carry on as normal but it's scary.

How's everyone's husbands/partners coping with you being pregnant? Do they help you out with things and ask how you are feeling often?

@chocolate26 Husband is good, he is just very excited to meet her! He is being really helpful though and doing lots which is nice but also I'm usually so hands on!

Hoping my glucose test comes back normal 🤞🏻

@chocolate26 yes, it was lovely hearing her say that.

My hubby is very attentive. Doesn't like me doing things around the house and I have to persuade him that I'm OK! Asks me how I am and how bump is a lot too. He's generally a very caring person anyway so this isn't unusual for him. He's always been someone who'd do anything for me so he's happy step up and do more if I need him to. How's yours?

Fingers crossed for you @smiffette. I was relieved not to receive the phone call if they discover it is positive!

@APD1981 did you wait for your next MW appointment to follow up results or did you ring after a couple of days?

@smiffette I was told I'd get a phone call the same day after 4pm if positive. But then the HCA did say that because it was a Friday, if they're busy it could be Monday. No phone call came so I assumed all was well. I just asked my MW today about my results though bec, even though they didn't say I had GD, I wanted to check I wasn't borderline or anything. She said if there'd been any concerns they'd have called me.

@APD1981 ok that's good to know. I'm not due to see my MW for 2 more weeks, so I thought I may ring for results Friday if not heard so I can also see whether I was completely in the clear or whether they were near the GD cut off

@APD1981 your husband sounds lovely, glad he's taking care of you and bump! Mine is a great man and was attentive in my first trimester whilst I was throwing up constantly but as the weeks have gone by he seems to be less attentive and I'm starting to feel a bit alone in all this. I've started to become quite emotional and feel like I need extra love and support. We had a row last night because he wants to have a whole new kitchen fitted within the next month or two but I said I don't feel comfortable having it done whilst heavily pregnant and needing to cook and eat a lot to stop myself feeling sick (if we have people in fitting a kitchen I won't be able to do that) I'm also at home everyday and not feeling my best I would rather wait a year and then have it done. He wouldn't back down about it though which lead me to tears which he laughed at and told me "it's not all about me" I don't know if I'm just being extra sensitive at the moment 🤷‍♀️

@chocolate26 he has his faults (don't we all!) but generally, he's a really nice person.

To be honest, I don't think you're being oversensitive. Your hubby needs to realise that, actually, being pregnant does make it all about you. You both chose to have a baby but you're the one who has to carry it and go through all the physical and mental changes that come with that. Therefore, your DH needs to respect and realise that and to help you out.

I mentioned what you said to my hubby and he agreed with me (so it's not just us hormonal mummas giving opinions here). He thought the kitchen refit plan was not a good one, too.

Maybe try and speak to your DH again and see if you can get him to see some context and understand.

@APD1981 glad your midwife went well! Mine was yesterday and it's so lovely to hear the heartbeat finally!

Does anyone else draw a massive mind blank when you're in with them though? I always think I'll have loads of questions then end up not asking anything at all! Feel like such a newbie to this I don't even know what it is I don't know!! 😬😬

@chocolate26 I wouldn't be happy if DH started on about a kitchen refit! Specially if it would be you home all day with them doing it! Def not unreasonable to raise that with him again! You need to be comfortable at home and able to eat when you need to!!

@BabyBird20 I write any questions in notes section in my phone ready for my apps just a little tip x

@APD1981 i’m glad your scan went well! x

@chocolate26 i don’t think YABU at all x

i’m starting to feel really guilty about the fact that it won’t be just me and DD soon

Does everyone get thw glucose test? My 24 wk apt was with my GP and it wasn't mentioned. Having had a mad sugar enriched diet since 12 weeks I think i should have it done.

@chocolate26 I feel your pain but if you want some reasurrance, we've just had the entire house renovated and the kitchen was the quickest and most seemless part. Although we were living in My brother in laws flat dor thr duration. However, we're back in the house now and today there were 4 work men in and out doing different jobs. And surprisingly they were lovely and really considerate when they saw the bump. It should only take a week. But if you are stressing about it maybe push back a little and let him figure out that this isn't the right time.
My DH is great. He isn't over the top and Im defo into this more than him but Im getting all the movement and enjoyment and he just hears about it
I do feel sorry for them that they don't get to experience this wonderful gift. Probably wont be saying that in the delivery suite.

Anyone planned their birth yet?

Hello. Haven't checked in for a few days. Feeling permanently tired now. I have my glucose test in a couple of weeks.
@RPPs you only get it if you have risk factors for diabetes. In some countries they test everyone, and I think if the NHS were better resourced, we would do the same here. My diet has been dreadful, so slightly worried about it this time!
DH has been great too, doing lots more around the house. He's busy clearing out the dining room (which we haven't used as a dining room for about 3 years!), so that he can move stuff from what will be baby's bedroom. At this stage with DS, we had the nursery all finished. No rush really though, as baby will probably be in with us for a year anyway. But want to have room for the changing table and cupboard space for clothes etc.
24+6

I’m sorry to see that covid-19 is spreading back home now and very close to where some of you live! If it makes any of you feel better, I read an article recently about how pregnant women so far don’t seem to have any more severe symptoms or complications from it compared to regular healthy people, so that’s reassuring. I’m more worried about my parents in Spain where it’s also spreading now since they’re much older and my dad is diabetic.

@RPPS yes I've been thinking about birth plan and made a few notes of my own. Not sure at which point it is that you go through it with MW

26+2

@smifette @rpps That's one question I did remember to ask the midwife! Apparently they don't go through your birth plan with you until 36 weeks which seems ages away! She did say that the nhs or nct antenatal classes can help with it. Though in my area you can't book those until 28 weeks either!

@BabyBird20 oh really! That seems ages away!

My NCT classes start next week on Thursday then finish mid April! I'm in a late May-early June group and I think they plan it so you finish about 4-6 weeks before due date. I had to get moved from the first group as it would have finished 3 weeks before I was due!

I'm sure you could ask for a template of a birth plan so you could fill it in or something before!? I wouldn't know what all the options were and I would want time to think them through.