October 2020

[Greeniac]

Anyone else out there due in October?

I did a test this morning and I'm due on the 5th.

[SomethingAboutYou]

@4bears2cats Yes!

I was late joining and I'll be the same again as I just can't bring myself to believe and join a group with actual people I'm just a little bit weird!

[4bears2cats]

Weird people are the best!
I know what you mean - it’s all quite anonymous on here, and seeing each other on fb makes it very real! I’m hoping to join the October 2020 fb group but I’m a bit nervous with it being such early days.

[Effram]

@newmum2020 how was your scan?

Congrats @4bears2cats and @SomethingAboutYou! I'm on a fb group for autumn 2018 babies too from mumsnet with my first!

[4bears2cats]

Thanks! Groups are great aren’t they - something about being with others who have same age babies just makes it easier to share challenges and give support or solidarity!

Are you in the fb group for October 2020 yet @Effram? Or are you hanging out on here for the time being x

[Effram]

@4bears2cats I am, I have made the leap!

I find it v reassuring when you think hmm, is this normal? and go on to find everyone else asking exactly the same!

[4bears2cats]

Haha @Effram I know what you mean.

I’m trying to get on the group but not getting any response from @WestyNottingham or @charlottees89 wondering if you’re all having too much fun on there already!!

[Tryingforanother2020]

@4bears2cats I'm on the group, pm me your email and I'll ask one of the mods to invite you. Check your junk too just incase? X

[Wintergal]

It's needs to be the email linked to your Facebook and you have to have your setting set on Facebook to allow for people to search for you using your email.

[4bears2cats]

Thanks @Tryingforanother2020 and @Wintergal

@charlottees89 has invited me.

Chat to you there soon!

[YukoandHiro]

First morning of dry heaving over the porcelain throne today. Hurrah. And least something is happening.

[EssentialHummus]

Hi all, can I join? Due 31 October with DC2. One DD already, 2.5 years old. So far just feeling veeeery tired, combined with waking up alert as anything at 4am each day .

[SomethingAboutYou]

Hi @EssentialHummus welcome to the waking at 4am club! Although I have started falling back to sleep (yay!) But then I reeeeaaaalllyyy can't wake up when my alarm goes off and DH is useless in the morning and DS happily sleeps til 8.30 on a weekday (7.30 on weekends ) so we've been late going to work!

Hope the dry heaving stuck to its 'morning' sickness rule @YukoandHiro and you're feeling ok for most of the day.

[YukoandHiro]

I think this pregnancy is going to be worse than my last - been very sick all night Ann's no sleep. Going to take today off work and try to get some rest. This sucks. Counting down the days to the end of the first trimester

[Effram]

@EssentialHummus and @SomethingAboutYou I can now join your 4am club. I've been fine with sleep but today woke 4.30 needing a wee then couldn't get back to sleep until he woke at half 6 :( got a really busy day too urgh.

[EssentialHummus]

Gah, effram! Terrible. I think at least part of my sleeplessness is that I have to take a higher dose of thyroid medication than normal at this stage of pregnancy, which can lead to feeling jittery/over-alert.

[Effram]

@essentialhummus oh no that sounds rough! I just did that thing of thinking oh no I must sleep I'll be tired, alternated with expecting the baby to wake any minute etc until the alarm went off! I actually feel ok now. I'm having a decaf coffee and pretending it's real

[SomethingAboutYou]

Sorry to hear the vomiting is extreme yukoandhiro

A new low for me tonight, been awake since 2am and just can't get back to sleep. I've just went through every minute of DSs birth and whole pregnancy - my brain just won't switch off! How annoying!

Anyone had a debrief of your previous births? Did you find it useful?

[Effram]

@SomethingAboutYou I had a debrief after mine and found it incredibly useful. It was about 5 months later and afterwards I could actually think about it without crying! It wasn't as awful as some I know but he was a month early and our midwife was awful and it affected feeding etc. The debrief showed me I wasn't being dramatic and mistakes were made and so I feel more confident for next time. Def recommend.

[SomethingAboutYou]

@Effram sorry to hear it was a difficult experience but great that the debrief helped. Mine didn't feel traumatic at the time despite it being a bit of an ordeal, but it is obviously causing some anxiety if it keeps popping up so early on in this pregnancy. I think it will be useful to have it to help inform my birth choice this time round. I just hope I haven't left it too late.

Is it just me or is time standing still right now...come on 12 week scans!!

[YukoandHiro]

This is interesting - I'm going to ask for a debrief during this pregnancy as I definitely have some questions over my first birth. One midwife in particular told me I "wasn't coping" and that really unsettled me at a crucial stage of my labour. I think I'll be much more able to advocate for myself this time

[MamaNaz20]

Ladies it's really comforting to hear there are quite a few second time mums and that some of you had less than a positive experience last time around
I certainly feel less lonely now

With my DS the birth was traumatic; not the actual birth but he was not well at all (now a happy healthy boy )
I sort of felt I could have been more decisive last time around too now ...

Something I want to share with you- which is difficult to say - I am thinking of asking for an elective C-section this time because last time I ended up with an emergency C-section after giving birth naturally didn't work;

The whole experience last time put me off Wanting a second child for quite a while (despite my age) so I ended up waiting until recently (my son is 5) to enable me to forget and feel better ...

[SomethingAboutYou]

@MamaNaz20 thanks for sharing, you are definitely not alone. I am thinking of going for an elective c section this time after ending up with an emergency c section first time round too. Don't feel bad about this choice, it isn't an easy route to take

[MamaNaz20]

@SomethingAboutYou oh that's reassuring to hear I am not alone thinking line that this early.
My son's life was threatened last time around by the hospital insisting maybe it can be done naturally - and I didn't find Csection uncomfortable to be honest- I can't really compare this as I haven't experienced giving natural birth , but my Csection was straight forward - if they did it earlier my son would have been much better at birth

But to be honest I keep feeling I should perhaps reconsider, I keep feeling bad about C section ...

[ellenpartridge]

I'm due around the end of October and keen to join the group. Have PMed.

[Helly88]

Hi everyone - New on here but been lurking a bit recently.
Due around 20th October and it's my 1st baby so feeling quite nervous!
Not quite ready to join a FB page yet but really want to interact with others going through the same at this time!
Helly!