Due March 2008 - meeting up for pies and cakes

[derah]

A nice new little thread for Skidoodle and anyone else who needs it.....

Oh WMMC - not you too!? How absolutely heartbreaking! Please keep on stopping by, I'd really miss you otherwise. I'm glad your DH is being so supportive, and I wish you only happiness in the future. Huge, huge, huge hugs.

oh gosh, was just catching up with the threads, am so sorry winemakes and flossief such a harsh reminder of how cruel nature is, I hope you are feeling much better soon xx

On another note, thanks for the posts when I started to bleed last week, so far everything has still stopped and seems ok. We didnt go back to the GP instead we booked in for a private scan to check things out on sat. They found little bean kicking around, heartbeat etc etc, measured 10+2 on sat. The scanner lady also found a huge fibroid tumour just above my uterus, she thought if the bleed wasnt down to b'ding then it would be down to the fibroid. Saw the midwife today and asked if it would cause any problems her answer was that it shouldnt, but you never know.....so that was helpful...NOT!! One worry after another xx If anyone else has any adivce/knowledge on fibroids and pregnancy it would be gratefully recieved! Hope everyone else is feeling ok x

papaya, there are old mumsnet threads on fibroids that are interesting. a bit difficult to take it all in, but very informative? here (I like the scottish midwife story!) and here as well with good links out

wmmc you had better come back love. you will be so sorely missed. i've just had a quiet sit over my keyboard, trying to figure out what i can say more than i'm devastated for you and your pregnancy and your man. that's all i can say. i feel a lot more than that for you, and all the other women who have lost their march babies. speak to you soon i hope.

Oh you're all making me cry again
{{{hugs}}} to those who've lost their little 'uns and bollocks to male tw@ts who think only of themselves.

WMMC...Not you too...So sorry and a big hug.

Thanks to all for your sympathy and advice. Am still smarting, but feel strangely better after having a wine glass of grape juice, a champagne flute of ginger ale, and a pretty mix of juices with an umbrella in it. Pretending to drink was entertaining. Have decided not to rule out future babies with castration. Am trying to be level-headed and do the "right thing"...we are going to go to counselling. I have, however, been sneaky enough to jot down this girl's phone number and look up where she lives just in case, and yes, derah i will call you if things get nasty! Have my scan on the 11th, am hoping that seeing bean will be enough to make him sorry and realise what he's done. Good night all. xx

im with fitnforty 100% i just couldnt think of anything to say, im no good in situations like this im so sorry for all of the people who have lost their little ones

oh no, this is really sad, to you both I send the biggest hugs in the world and just hope you get all the love you need. Can't possibly imagine but much much love.
As for a thoughtless man situation, feel strangely unable to get head round that either - but really hope that counselling does help.
To you all, sending love and support.
To everyone else, positive happy vibes.
PS - i can't sleep....

Another new day, let's hope it's a happier one.

I'm still so tired I can barely function. I've thought that maybe I'm low on iron so I took some of the tonic that I got for dd when she was a bit anaemic. It's supposed to be good for preggie ladies too so maybe it will help.

Turtle, e-mail me at derah at snoof dot net and I'll give you my phone number if you want to meet up and chat (or if you need me to damage anyone for you!)

I was so sorry to hear your sad news wmmc I think merryberry said it really well and I don't know what else to say. Love and hugs to you and your man. I'll miss you. I hope you come back soon.

My DD is finally home today after gallivanting around the country with various family members. Apart from one hour (between handover from Dad to GPs) I haven't seen her for nearly 3 weeks. The mornings and spontaneous naps I've been enjoying have been great but can't wait for her noisy cheeky self to come barrelling in. So tonight it's her favourite, macaroni cheese with breadcrumbs (very important, the breadcrumbs) and chocolate mousse. May fit some veg in there, if not we'll have extra tomorrow!
I hope today brings happiness to all. Right must get myself out of the flat. Work beckons.....

to try to see me through today after a sleepless night I'm having hot chocolate with an extremely chocolately mini bite from M&S, and I wonder why I've got such a big bump.
Hope today brings happier news. Everything crossed for everyone.

you're a better woman than me, imjin, if you can just have the one extremely chocolatey mini bite. I'm also particularly partial to the cornflake cakes they do! You can see, I haven't got off my bum to go to work yet!

Derah..we have no room either but i am stoppingmyself thinking of that until we know. Bought a pregnancy mag y'day and worried i might be jinxing things! What am i like?!

Yardette...thank you! date for scan not come thru but wil be at 13 weeks. MW was going to try and pull it forward but this works out well with DS1 starting school (next week) and DS2s speech therapy starting the week after.

Flossie, I am so so sorry to hear your news. In a way i think mmc is harder to cope with than a normal mc. You have some difficult desiciions to make in the next few days/weeks. Please lean on people close to you (as well as on here). Glad you have been offered options, just do what you fel you will handle the best. Thinking of you Flossie xxxx

Winemakesmummyclever....I am so sorry for you too I can only repeat what i have said to Flossie, please lean on people close to you. Look after yourself and you are welcome back whenever you like (and feel able). Take care of your self WMMC xxx

Turtle....How are you today? I have no words to describe your DH at the moment just this -.

glamorajan, fear not, had there been more I would have scoffed them but that was yesterday! I only left myself one for today, blow!
Have now told almost all our friends which is lovely, they have all been thrilled particularly as many of them knew there might be a problem with us having children so much surprise. Best friends not surprised as they saw my boobs exiting the car on their own some 10 minutes before me...please tell me they don't go on expanding at this rate - they will be sleeping in their own bed pretty soon!
Derah, I know what you mean about the tiredness - mine has hit me again so much so that I ditched the bike today and drove in, despite having to pay the congestion charge. This can't go on but I just haven't the energy - I was up from 5am so not surprising I'm tired but really it's like a wave that hits you I think.

Thanks for your lovely messages of support. They have really helped.

Flossie - I've started a new mc thread (I'm not usually that forward, but the old one was full ) if you feel up to joining me at some point.

Take care of yourselves ladies. Even better, get your other halves to take care of you, the housework, kids etc whilst you put your feet up and eat (virtual) pies and cakes .

Imijin - I've been driving all week, and last week too instead of taking my bike to work. I keep telling myself it's cos of the weather and DD would get cold, but really it's cos I'm just too darned tired! In my defence, it is 9 miles each way!! Against my defence, I'm not getting any exercise at all. And this from a former fitness nut triathlete!!

Derah, I think you're quite right, 9 miles is def a little extreme. I used to have that time of commute but now it's just 2 miles and a joy! However, even when I am on my bike it's not enough to cover exercise whereas before it meant i didn't have to go to the gym. I've only been once this week which is hopeless. Next week I'm determined to do better other wise i'll become a slob, and all from me, also a fitness lover (and one time triathlete!)

Somemthing horrible just happened to me on the way to work. On the bus, sitting diagonal to me was an extremely drunk man so I did what anyone would do and avoided eye contact. Got off the bus and waited to cross the road at the pelican crossing and this man came up past me and spat in my face! I felt so shocked and upset. He was with an older woman who I think was his mother who tried to apologise for him and I started saying what he'd done, some people saw and just stood there amazed. I just burst into tears, I felt so sick that this man's saliva was on my face and my hair. I managed to get to work, still sobbing, scrubbed my face and was fortified with twix biscuits and hot chocolate but it was ages before it was not the only thing in my mind. I'm just so glad my DD was not with me. DP said he'd wished he'd been there but somehow I don't think this bloody ar**hole would have done it had a 6 ft broad shouldered man been with me.

MoM- how am I? Numb. Trying to stay positive, have booking in appt tomorrow morning and he has decided to come with me. Hoping I can talk midwife into hearing the heartbeat so maybe it will feel a bit more real to him.
Does anyone know what happens at booking appt? Sure we've covered this here, but barely remember what day it is at the mo, nevermind this stuff! lol.
Hope everyone is having a good day.

Oh Glam, how horrible! Yuk yuk yuk yuk yuk! Have more Twix at once! I can't imagine something so yukky. It's put me right off my lunch! YUK!!!!!

that is quite the nastiest thing in the world, arghghghghhghg, humans can be quite horrible. Stay strong, drink more hot chocolate and be grateful for small mercies, like Mumsnet to save the day, ohhhh and chocolate!
take care and stay safe.
Turtle, can't help as still haven't met MW but good luck and hope HE behaves himself....ummmm. throw him out of the room if he doesn't make all the right noises.

Hi Turtle
At my booking in app they gave me an A4 book to complete various sections and the midwife added a few bits to it and said I have to bring said book to all my appointments.

The MW measures your blood pressure and takes your blood for various exams (STD, blood panel etc) they also give you a plastic folder with tons of reading material (which is on my bed side table patiently waiting, but somehow a few chapters of Time Traveller's Wife always seem more appealing at bedtime).

The MW will ask you lot's of questions about your health history and what kind of birth you want as well.

I didn't have a scan this time, but a few weeks later.

WMMC - im so sorry to hear your bad news, xx

glam - that is so disgusting, poor you x

brazillian - i looovve that book its so sad, will have to dig it out and read it again.

hi to everyone else, i hope everyones feeling well x

Glam- was it the 25? I hate certain bus routes in East London. You poor thing.

Turtle- The MW told me at my booking-in that they don't routinely listen for the heartbeat until 16 weeks, so they may not for you. But it would be worth asking. I'm glad he's decided to go with you.

Hope today brings better news than yesterday. Thinking of you all.

e14mum, it was the 25. They got on at Whitechapel and we got off at Mile End. (Where the evil event happened) I just had to do the same journey in reverse and I was a little scared. And I've never felt scared before. I've come home to wash my hair and change my clothes, even though I had a pretty good wash at work. Now where's the dettol? Only joking but I don't think I'll feel clean till I'm pink and scrubbed.

the 16 week thing for using a sonicaid is something i've never heard of! I have a personal doppler machine (delivered this morning!) and i found the heartbeat within a few seconds and i'm supposedly only 9w4d, i think maybe i'm a little further on than i think!