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Christmas babies part 3!

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Comps83 · 06/12/2019 11:07

Ok. So just realised our thread had been moved and closed so I hope you all find your way back to this one!

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jpaws · 09/12/2019 18:02

I feel like I'm going to go over. Due date this Wednesday 11th and just don't feel like he's ready to say hello to the world yet. I'll only be induced at 40+12 which brings me to the 23rd and I really hope he comes before then. Luckily i have most of christmas presents sorted etc.

starflake · 09/12/2019 18:02

Congratulations @Mamabear12 any pics!!! Wow that was a very fast labour! Lucky you X

starflake · 09/12/2019 18:05

@Jowd92 at least you know now your going in this week! Ekkkk!!!

bespokepaininthearse · 09/12/2019 18:15

Congratulations @Mamabear12 I'm so jealous 😂 not due till 28th and ideally need it to
Come early but I am pretty sure I will end up going way over 😖

Jowd92 · 09/12/2019 18:34

@starflake yes I'm excited and nervous at the same time gives me chance to sort things out for my other kids and now I know I have to get everything done and ready this week alot to do lol

starflake · 09/12/2019 19:27

@Jowd92 at least the week will go quickly, that's definitely a good thing.

TTc2019BabyNo1 · 09/12/2019 20:44

Very confused these threads have moved!
Congratulations @Mamabear12!!

I’ll be 38 weeks on Wednesday and feeling very fed up and under informed. I won’t have midwife appointments at 40 weeks or 41 weeks as they are on Wednesdays and my Gp will be closed (Christmas Day and New Year’s Day) so I ended up calling the midwife team and asking what on earth I should be doing, and can I have a sweep before my due date (Christmas Day), was told no!! Why??
Surely it’s my pregnancy and if I am allowed to refuse a sweep surely I can request one a few days early? Rather than having to wait until January??
I’m probably just getting irate as I’m tired and in pain constantly but really don’t want to go past due date!!

How is everyone else feeling?

Comps83 · 09/12/2019 20:55

@TTc2019BabyNo1 we are exactly the same . Midwife is only at my surgery on Wednesdays and I’ll be 38 weeks this Wednesday. And feeling very unprepared and Ill informed. you might have already read that I had a home visit without any warning and that I haven’t even heard mention on a birth plan yet
I’m not asking for any intervention yet though as I’m coping quite well and just want to see what happens . Don’t think he has any intentions of coming out imminently though. I’m still hoping for an Xmas day baby

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TTc2019BabyNo1 · 09/12/2019 21:02

@Comps83
Yes we are the same! I saw you had a visit, no one has mentioned a visit to me, perhaps they don’t do them where I live?
My midwife has been terrible to be honest, I’ve had to ask everything, she doesn’t tell me things and for a first timer I want to know what’s happening! And it’s had to ask questions I don’t know I need to ask lol!
Glad you’re feeling okay generally! I have such bad pelvic pain now i can barely walk some days and I’m usually really active so it’s really hard for me.
I really want to be on time or early so really wanted a sweep before Christmas Day but looks like I’m going to be well over. I have no idea if she’s engaged or anything, people say my bump is high! Typical!!
Is yours engaged, do you feel Christmas Day will be it? 🤞

Comps83 · 09/12/2019 21:08

No I don’t think he’s engaged yet.
I know what you mean about not knowing what questions to ask. People keeps asking me, when is this happening? what’s happening with that? had your birth plan? And I’m like huh?
I have a feeling he will be late
I don’t even know what to do about getting to the hospital if dh isn’t here. Or when to go to hospital. I get more sense from Dr Google than any official info I’ve had

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TTc2019BabyNo1 · 09/12/2019 21:14

Oh no! Is your DH away?
They haven’t helped me with a birth plan at all either, in fact I don’t think my midwife has mentioned it but I have done one. What I found really helpful is the Positive Birth Company - I bought the online pack and it was fab and I learnt a lot! Would highly recommend!

Comps83 · 09/12/2019 21:17

Just Incase he’s at work really .

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ThrilledToTiddlyBits · 09/12/2019 21:27

Sorry to gatecrash, but this thread appeared on the "active" tab and I had to have a little snoop! My youngest was born Christmas morning 2012, at home as planned, while his big brother stayed asleep upstairs. I just have the best, most special memories of his birth, it really was magical.

I was horrified at the thought of him having a Christmas birthday, but we always celebrate it a week earlier on his due date so he gets his own special day.

So just popping in to say hi, and congratulations on all your upcoming babies ❤️

RLI1105 · 09/12/2019 22:50

Congratulations @Mamabear12 !!!
I remember being on a 2 week wait thread thread with you in April and now look! 😁 I'm delighted for you!

starflake · 10/12/2019 15:41

My midwife just rang, my GD test last week came back elevated. She said to prepare that I might have my induction date moved forward. I'm in Thursday for sweep & to see my doctor, she said to be prepared that I could be brought in Thursday night or Friday for induction!!

Comps83 · 10/12/2019 15:53

Eeeek good luck . I’m dreading them saying something like this to me but I know I’m in the monitory wanting to hang on as long as possible

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Comps83 · 10/12/2019 15:55

Minority *

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Mamabear12 · 10/12/2019 17:16

Thanks all. I’m still at the hospital. They are monitoring me for high blood pressure. On medication and all seems fine so trying to get outta here!! Just want to go home!! Hate hospitals. But glad she is out.

TTc2019BabyNo1 · 10/12/2019 17:41

Hope you get out soon @Mamabear12!

@starflake good luck for Thursday!

I had some reflexology today, not sure if these things work but trying everything now to get this baby to arrive on time 😂!

Skb90 · 10/12/2019 23:14

Hi all, congratulations to all that have had their babies already:) I'm due on the 27th December but have a feeling baby will be late, may even be born near my birthday 9th January. Have had to change hospital as our renovations have not finished so currently get to stay with my family which has been nice. Has anyone considered or had a water birth? Would really like to know if this helped

Comps83 · 11/12/2019 11:59

I’ve been offered a sweep next Wednesday Shock
It was a different midwife today and I told her how I didn’t feel prepared at all. Turns out I hadn’t even been given the labour pack I was meant to have at 34 wks
We went through birth plan and she said the health visitor last week shouldn’t have just turned up and I shouldn’t have let her in

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TTc2019BabyNo1 · 11/12/2019 15:17

@Comps83 that’s great you’ve got some answers!! Good to have a better midwife! I have not had a labour pack? What is that??
I am very jealous you have a sweep booked for next Wednesday! Did they offer it? I was told on the phone the won’t offer before 40 weeks :(!
Do you feel a little more settled now?

Comps83 · 11/12/2019 15:20

Yeah I feel better
Though I have to make the decision about the sweep. I’m not sure I want it or any intervention before the due date if there’s no problems
I haven’t opened the pack but think it contains a book on labour and a few freebies and bits of information

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jpaws · 11/12/2019 15:46

Hi, I've had a sweep today at 40 weeks and it really wasnt too bad. I told mw I was a bit nervous about it and she understand - it's more embarrassing than painful. Felt like having a smear really. Found out I was 2cm dilated so hoping it works. I've another booked in for next week and induction on 21st if i need it.
I've not been given a labour pack either.

Comps83 · 11/12/2019 17:11

@jpaws have you noticed any progression yet? You’ll have to keep us updated.
I’m just not sure I want one early
Found this and #2 and #5 are my worries

5 Facts You Need To Know About A Membrane Sweep
If you’re tempted to have a membrane sweep to kickstart labour, or because you’re facing induction, here are 5 facts to know:

#1: A Membrane Sweep Is A Form Of Intervention
One of the upsides to membrane sweeps is it doesn’t involve any medication.

You may even hear it being referred to as a ‘natural induction’ method.

Unfortunately that simply isn’t true.

Any procedure that attempts to kickstart labour before it begins on its own is doing so by artificial means.

We know a little about the complex process of labour initiation and science has shown it involves a baby’s readiness for the outside world.

You can read more about this in What Causes Labour To Start?.

If you’re simply tired of being pregnant, you’re not alone. Most women get to the final weeks of pregnancy and have had enough. Patience is tricky but waiting gives your baby the best start to life.

When continuing on with pregnancy puts mothers and babies at risk, induction is a life saving intervention. This means the option of a non-medical induction method may put you at ease with being induced.

#2: A Membrane Sweep Can Lead To Further Interventions
When you’re 38 weeks pregnant and feeling every one of those weeks, a membrane sweep is tempting. Perhaps your care provider is already talking induction in your future.

You might feel completely over being pregnant. Or you’re worried your partner might not make it to the hospital in time.

But if a membrane sweep doesn’t bring on labour and your care provider doesn’t support waiting for spontaneous labour, you’re more likely to have a medical induction.

If your body and baby weren’t ready for labour, you may end up with more interventions, such as forceps or vacuum assisted birth, or even a c-section.

Your baby may also experience problems due to being born early, especially breathing problems, or being admitted to the NICU.

If an induction is necessary for medical reasons, a membrane sweep can seem like a gentler option than medical methods of induction.

If you’re in this situation, your care provider can assess your cervix and determine how likely a membrane sweep will help things along.

You can read more in Bishop’s Score During Pregnancy – What Is It and How Is It Used?

You can also prepare for further medical intervention and have a plan for how to make those decisions.

#3: A Membrane Sweep Can Be Painful
One of the first questions pregnant women ask is “Is a membrane sweep painful?”.

If your situation recommends a membrane sweep, it can help to know what to expect.

During pregnancy, the cervix is closed and angled slightly back toward your tailbone (called posterior).

When your body begins to prepare for labour, the cervix will soften and possibly even open slightly (around 1-2 finger widths).

The position of the cervix can change and shift more forward.

However, the timing of cervix changes in preparation for labour can differ between women and even different pregnancies.

Some women have these changes happen in the weeks leading up to labour, others won’t until labour is noticeably beginning.

A membrane sweep is more easily performed when your cervix is ‘favourable’.

The cervix is soft, has shifted forward and is slightly open.

If the cervix is still posterior, it will be difficult for your care provider to reach, which can make the sweep uncomfortable or even painful.

If the cervix is soft but closed, your care provider can stretch or massage the cervix to stimulate it to begin to dilate.

Stretching the cervix can feel very uncomfortable, and some women describe a sharp, shooting sort of pain.

After the membrane sweep, you may experience cramping and spotting or bleeding.

#4: You Have The Right To Decide To Have A Membrane Sweep
In a perfect world, no woman would ever have a medical procedure performed without her consent during pregnancy or birth.

Your care provider may have a policy of routine membrane sweeps in the last weeks of pregnancy.

While this may be an option for women facing medical induction, it’s still a procedure which needs your informed consent first.

Your care provider must discuss the risks and benefits of a membrane sweep with you.

This means you can make an informed choice whether to have the sweep or not.

Unfortunately, many women experience membranes sweeps during prenatal appointments without consent. After the procedure they are told or suspect it happened.

This is very distressing and upsetting, especially for women in vulnerable situations such as domestic violence or sexual abuse survivors.

It’s important to inform your care provider you don’t want a membrane sweep (or other procedures) without your consent.

You also have the right to refuse a vaginal exam if you don’t want one.

#5: Membrane Sweep Can Cause A Rupture Of The Amniotic Sac
There’s an increased risk, although small, of your membranes rupturing prematurely after a membrane sweep.

This means the amniotic sac surrounding your baby breaks and fluid can leak out.

There’s an increased risk of infection if this happens and labour doesn’t begin within a certain timeframe.

Your care provider may want to move to more medical methods of induction and it’s wise to be ready for this possibility before choosing to have a membrane sweep.

If induction is necessary for medical reasons, a membrane sweep isn’t usually performed on its own – other methods are usually used.

However, a sweep is an option if your cervix is very favourable, in the hope of avoiding further interventions.

It’s your decision to have a membrane sweep after full consideration of the risks and benefits for your personal situation, regardless of your care provider’s preference.

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