Still Blooming waiting for November babies

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Here we are ladies- I'll dash off and link to the new thread from the old one

My DP said something about putting the birth video on youtube. I think he got the message that I would NOT be pleased with that! I think he wants to be at the birth, though, and I think I want to have him there. I'm sure he'll be better to lean on than my slightly uptight mother.

It's raining here this morning.

A funny momet from me.

10cm dilated, baby's heart crashing, too far down he birth canal for a cs so they decide to do a ventouse with episiotomy.

Anyway dh has disappeared and is sat on a chair right opposit the foot of the bed- poor bugger was trying to get out of the way of the doctors and midwife while they sorted me out BUT I shouted at him that there was no way he was staying there- I know it doesn't sound funny but it wa at the time

Hello All

Iris - thanks for the BF advice. Loads of stuff there I knew nothing about. Perhaps I'm a bit naive . I'm a scorpio btw and hope fully so should my LO be. She's due on the 7th and my DSD's birthday is the 8th (she's begged me not to deliver on the same day!) My family is full of scorpios.

Ara - my DH has said yes to being at the birth (was at his previous children's). BUT since making him watch loads of birthing programmes on Sky he now seems to be less enthusiastic. I have no idea whether I'll be a screamer, a crier or a grin and bear it kind of girl. Pretty sure I'll give him a hard time though. He doesn't want to cut the cord - he's quite squeamish.

Can I check how many weeks pg I am? I'm due on 7th Nov and thought I was 32 weeks but others due at the same time are saying 33 weeks. Am I wrong?

hi silkcushion,
I am due the 6th of November and I also thought I was 32 weeks, 33 weeks next Wednesday. I guess we could say we are on the 33th week?
Ara, my Dh was present at the birth of my first one and he also managed to cut the cord (he is a fireman, I can't expect him to be too squeamish...). I assumed he would be there this time as well, I haven't even asked . I am not going to push him if he decides not too.

I make you 32+3.

(But I am wrong about EVERYTHING lately, so maybe ...)

I am due on the 8th nov and I think I am 32+2

I'm due on the 8th as well the doctor put me at 32+5 last Thursday so I guess I'm 33 today.

Dh will be with me I hope- he was with dd and tbh I didn't scream or swear or anything. I cried a lot during early labour but as soon as I had the 'epidoodle' I was fine.

I didn't curse him or anything but he ddn't want to cut the cord last time and I haven't asked this time but I should imagine the answer will be no- not bothered really as it's not really that relevant to me.

Providing we don't have any hiccups with childcare he'll be there but if there's a childcare problem then I'll be on my own- not bothered in a way although I will be BUT looking after dd is more important to me than having him with me IYSWIM

I'm due on the 2nd and I reckon I am 33+1 which kind of fits in with Sparkly.

Been spending some time going through baby names. Were almost decided on one but then my sis made a negative comment which totally put me off.

Have decided that now I will keep it to myself until baby arrives. People are a bit more free about commenting before baby is born but once you tell them 'we have named the baby xxxxx', they aren't going to say they could never stand that name are they?

Have drawn up a shortlist of 4 girl's names anyway which is more than I thought we'd find.

In all the hassle with the blood ad the birth I have forgotten naes- argh- shall have to have a think soon

Tonysmum - you never mentioned your DH was a fireman...

Yum yum.

Lol choudru

looks like none of us actually know how far we actually are then lol!!!

I know I am due on a thursday, so always go as thursday as my weeks

thanks for all the advice - i am feeling v down about this - i stupidly thought that he would want to be with me throughout and i feel like i will need that support from someone, and not sure who now. Every time i have tried to discuss birth plan he just gets annoyed and last night wanted to know why i couldn't just go to hosp like other women and just have the baby (i am really not confident about doing it that way and would prefer to try do it at home as the hospital sends me up to 90 - i'm worried this will make things difficult for me as i know i can't relax properly in that environment). i am 30 weeks today and he doesn't have a clue what i want or why and i am actually getting frightened because we haven't discussed it. As soon as i try i get a monologue about the stress of his new job/our new house/ having me an dthe baby to look after. I know these are all important and i have these worries too but i am feeling like my wellbeing is at the bottom of a large heap for him at what is going to be a massive event - for me anyway. I can't just let other people decide what's best for me - I've done lots of reading so i'm mentally prepared for all the different things that might happen, so i don't end up panicking and feeling out of control, but this just doesn't seem to matter -in his world i think i should just be getting on with it. i do live with him - we've lived together for a few years, and this just feels like a bit of a bombshell and like my support is not there. I don't care whether he wants to avoid the gory stuff but i need the moral support and reassurance and can't believe he thinks that is too much to ask. Long, sorry.

Boohoo, typed a long message and it disappeared! Anyway Ara, wanted to say big hugs to you. I suspect your DP is just overwhelmed and isn't coping well - distancing himself from the whole thing as a coping strategy. Have you been to antenatal classes together? They might help him to realize the important role he's got to play. I hope he will realize it; he's got time yet, if you're 30 weeks. If he doesn't though you will have to seek support from someone else - you don't have to do it alone. Hugs, though.

I'm due 31 Oct and am 33+4.

We had a 6 hour NCT class today - it exhausted me and I ended up overemotional and hormonal crying on the way home. Pregnancy does funny things to the emotions, doesn't it? The class was useful and we met some lovely people, but I just felt drained at the end of it.

Ready to relax with the X factor tonight!

Hope you're all doing relatively okay - good Sparky, you're still with us!

ara- just realised - I got you confused with someone else sorry- that's why I said it's harder for him- massive apologies

Ara, I agree with what Chocolatehobnob said about antenatal classes - may make it all a bit more real to him how you need his support.Before we started a-n classes my dh didn't seem that interested in talking about hte birth, I was reading loads of books about pg,birth etc and was a bit worried that he wasn't showing much interest. To my suprise he has been really interested and involved in teh classes. Also, it has given him the chance to meet other dads-to-be which I think has helped (very few of our friends have kids yet).

fingers crossed...when do classes normally start? we haven't even met our midwife yet.

I started mine at 28 wks (one class a week for 6 wks). Had to book it at about 18 wks though to get on the free ones. Not sure how it works in the UK, sorry.

I started mine at 28 wks (one class a week for 6 wks). Had to book it at about 18 wks though to get on the free ones. Not sure how it works in the UK, sorry.

mm we haven't booked anything at all - i might ring up on monday about it.
i'm really worried about things happening to my body and not having a say in anything - i don't think i would be so upset if he had done the smallest amount of reading up/discussing and had developed an informed opinion about good birthing strategies. it's not the effing dark ages and i don't intend to just do what is most convenient for everyone else - it's my body and i want my wishes to be at least listened to.

chocolatehobnob - are the nct classes good? don't know if my dp could cope with a 6hr session.

Yes still with you all!! Baby has had lots of hiccups today, which is a strange feeling. No contractions for a few days now, so am relaxing again

that's great sparkly have fingers crossed for you

Ara

My Dh hasn't read any books (thinks I'm obsessive in finding out information etc). He has no informed opinions on birth and delivery. I think men just don't get it. They don't understand what a big deal it is for us. So far I think it's the most important thing in my life I've done. I have no idea how to do it or how I'll respond and he doesn't understand how that makes me feel.

Maybe this is something really only other women can understand, people who've been through it. I wouldn't tell DH this but I don't think I'd mind if he wasn't there. I almost want to focus inwardly and find the courage/strength (whatever it is I'll need) to get through it. If he's there then I'll be distracted!

Does that seem awful of me?