Still Blooming waiting for November babies

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Here we are ladies- I'll dash off and link to the new thread from the old one

not at all - i just feel that i need mine there. i know everyone's different but i just keep thinking about what i would do if he was about to do this. i'd do whatever he needed - i would make sure i supported him and would try to comfort him and give him confidence. i'm just finding it very difficult t o accept he dpesn't see the point in doing that for me - or doesn't think he can do that much or live up to it or something.

ara- to coin a corny phrase- men are different to women.

He may be very scared but can't admit it to you. I know that my dh felt useless when i was in labour- nothing he could do and he felt like crap that he couldn't do something to stop my pain. Then when things started to go wrong he felt even worse.
Your dh could be scared of the unknown.

silk- not awful at all of you. I know my dh was there last time but I didn't take much notice of him to be honest.

I have also said that this time- if needs must and he needs to be with my dd at home then so be it- I'm not that bothered if he misses it. If he misses it to go on ajolly then I would be annoyed but my dd's needs come first

DH was only there for the last 15 minutes of my labour with DD2, not his fault, the MW refused to examine me to see if I was in labour and when someone finally did, I was already 8cms, by the time DH got called and rushed in, I was nearly ready to push. I think he was slightly miffed because he wanted to be there for me more.

Hello everyone. I'm another late crasher - sorry!
I'm due on the 19th November with first baby (don't know if it's a boy or girl but am taking bets) and I have been reading this thread for the first time today - it's amazing to hear all the stories from everyone, and so many things I recognise!

Mumsnet is ace.

Hi elb welcome

Just spent 3 hours sorting out the DDs bedroom, it amazes me how much crap they can keep!! I must get it all sorted before DS2 comes, or it will drive me potty!! Still not finished it, but DH made me come and rest.

Hello ELB - welcome

Am feeling smug at the moment as I woke up with some energy for once and have been for a decent swim.

Anyone else's bump just suddenly become huge? This baby seems to be having growth spurts. And I've got loads of stretchmarks below my belly button. Have rubbed Neals Yard remedy in everyday for months and it's had no effect whatsoever!

Is it silly of me to book a day at a spa with a friend when I finish work? I will be 37ish weeks. I can't use half the facilities ie steam room and sauna but I really fancy a last ditch chance at being pampered and chilled out before bambino time.

Hi all and welcome Elb - you are due the day before me!

Silkcushion - I suddenly feel humungous! And I keep seeing lovely petite pregnant women everywhere! Climbed three flights of stairs in Gap today and I was absolutely knackered. I'm sure people must think I'm ready to drop.

SGK - glad you still here. Out of curiousity, how does it feel when the baby is head-down? Is is obvious? Think my LO is still free-falling cos I get kicked from all angles.

Ara - hope you can come to a solution with your DP soon, worst feeling ever when you assume something and then it becomes apparent that they don't agree. Is he influenced by friends/family members who haven't been involved in the birth?

We have finally decided on a name! Phew. But, like you Choudru, we are keeping it a surprise as 2 previous favourites were ridiculed by the MIL and I can't be arsed to go back to the drawing board again .

Hope everyone else feeling ok?

P.S. Silkcushion - even if you just lie around and read a magazine it will be bliss - do it!

silkcushion- check that you can use the sauna- i don't think you can

I only get movements above my bellybutton, no movements below. Also it sometimes feels like he is twisting on my cervix, which is like electric shocks up my fango He has been head down since 24 weeks.

Am at diabetes clinic tomorrow morning, hope they don;t have a go at me for not starting the insulin, as have had some high readings.

my belly is rock hard a lot of the time. It hurts. Anyone else?

yes, especially when he is moving..

My belly is very hard, too, but not all the time. My 92 year old grandmother said that it was too hard, the baby doesn't have room to move! She was predicting that the baby would come a month early, which I think is just wishful thinking on her part (she's leaving in mid-October for a winter in Florida, so she probably won't get to see the new baby right away). I myself am predicting the LO is going to arrive "late." I now have a plan for if I go "overdue" which is defined here as after 41 weeks!! I don't think there's been any change in biology, and it should still be 42 weeks in my opinion. Anyhow, I'm not getting shot up with artificial hormones unless there's a very good reason for it. I plan to give her the full 42 weeks, then I'll consider induction.

Hi all and welcome ELB hope you have all had a good weekend. Well son went home this afternoon, we had a great weekend lots of pigging out, dvd's and laughing, hes a real tonic. Had my letter from consultant for c-section at 38 weeks and spoke to midwife yesturday. She said it was very unusual for an arranged c-section to be done under GA and that it was actually down to the anethetist to decide on the consultation the day before, so I am not sure what to expect now. She said it may well be because of the Anklynosing Spondylitis in back as the needle could cause nerve damage or the hydronephosis in my right kidney but she has know them to go ahead with a spinal block, just depends on consultation. To be really honest Im terrified of needles and the thought of that one in my back makes me feel sick, so gonna be really scared on day but only plus is that ill be awake to see LO. Hope I can keep calm enough for it to go in or do you think they would let me have some gas and air or something to calm me down before? Also the date has come back where my DH is on ship which only gives me about 5 days with him before he returns to sea for help with recovery, plus its the half term the following week and I have his twin 9yr old boys. If I could have the c-section a week early at 37 weeks I could have DH home for nearly two weeks after surgery and alot my help and support. Do you think I should tell the consultant this and do you know if 37 weeks is too early for LO to be born? I am still in constant pain and having c-section on medical grounds but am scared he may think I am trying to push for a week earlier to suit myself? Sorry lots of questions to you all, but please do give me your wise words you have been brill up to now. Last words - My belly is really huge and hard too.

Hi welcome ELB from another newbie!

Hi Kayla - I have no idea about C-section planning but if you're in constant pain you ought to talk to the consultant about that and see what she/he says about dates.

Aiki, I'm convinced I'll be late too - I think most first babies are statistically. I hate the idea of induction because I'd really like to give birth in the water if possible and it isn't allowed in our hospital if you're induced. Oh and being pregnant for ages after the due date will probably wind me up too - as you can see from the time I'm posting, I'm not managing the sleeping thing very well and too many months of this BEFORE lo arrives won't do me any good at all!

Hope the rest of you are doing okay!

I was just going to say - ChocolateHobnob - what are you doing up at this time?

Then I saw that you're not sleeping well. The old pg insomnia, eh. Fun fun fun. The Emmy's are on so I'm watching lots of Americans in big frocks pretending to be sincere.

back from clinic, don't have to start insulin they are very happy with my readings

Have to go back in 2 weeks just for a checkup though.

Am nearly at the stage when I had DD2 now (already gone past when I had Dd1) so if I can get to the weekend (which I think I will) I will be sooooo happy

AAAGGGHHHH!!!! I did a long post and then clicked on post message and it said "PAGE CANNOT BE DISPLAYED" and everything was LOST!!!!!

Well anyway, i cant be bothered to type it all out again but basically, i offered sympathies to those with probs, congrats to those with good news and then waffled on about our relaxing weekend in Cambridge, where DP had a full body massage and I had a pedicure.

Hmmph!!!

Sparkly - that's great news. Horray for not having to shoot up insulin!

Is anyone else finding themselves completely obsessed with pregnancy/birthing and having no interest in reading normal books? I am afraid I am getting very boring, very quickly.

also baby has un-engaged

Fantastic news Sparkly!