Jan 2020 - Thread 5!!

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Wow how are we on thread 5 already?!

@AstroKate yup, they're Peacocks ones, but I am 5 ft 4.5 so no idea how they'll be on a taller body

@BowiesJumper we told our 3 older kids on saturday after 12 week scan on friday. Boys great granny also passed away on saturday and mil informed me that all of hubbys family had been told in the days prior without my knowledge so we had to tell them pretty much was afraid of someone else saying it to them, it meant i also had to text and ring all my friends and family members as i wanted them to hear it from me and not someone else

@MEGGANONION that's really naughty of them, why do people think it's their news to share??

DS 4 knows because he has z tendency to run into me and I needed him to be careful. He spends a lot of time at docs and hospital so didn't want to tell him I'd hurt my tummy etc. If anything happen to them, we'll deal with it and find a way to tell him

We told my ds (3) for similar reasons to others - he’s so boisterous and constantly charges at my stomach area! We told him after I’d had my early scan at 10 weeks, I feel the chances of anything going wrong after that being ok are low enough, but we’d just have to manage if it did. I can still just about pick DS up but won’t be able to for much longer I imagine!

We’ve only told our parents. Brothers and sisters will be told after our 16 week scan and friends after 20 weeks. My boss knows but everyone else at work will know after the summer holidays.
I told ds to be careful of the baby in my tummy. He’s a bit clueless though as when I ask him where the baby is he points to my leg 🤷🏻‍♀️

Can anyone offer some advice?
I’m having some pains up the sides of my stomach, I think it’s just stretching pains but it’s all very new to me..

it doesn’t last long and isn’t agony but I was wondering if it’s worth calling the midwife or seeing if it changes?

Ds3 is 2.5yo and he is constantly jumping on me, i just have to get up and walk away. I actually find ds1 who is 9yo has been the worse for swinging on me and trying to jump on me, ive had to tell him so many times he cant do it anymore.
@SleepingStandingUp i was so annoyed more so because we decided not to male it public woth granny being in hospital and so unwell, we knew she wasnt going to make it was just a matter of time, i was so uncomfortable at the funeral with all the family congratulating me 😬😬 and of course there is always one who isnt happy to hear the news in my case its dh sister in law, she sat with a big sour face on her the whole day and sat away from everyone else, we dont really get on anyway but if looks could kill 😂😂

@Soph43 how far along are you? And where is the pains like above your hips or does it start lower toward pelvis and work its way out and up?

@megganonion 14 weeks..
it’s like above hips round where your stomach would start to ‘pop’ out if you know what I mean?
I don’t wanna call too quick incase they tell me it’s something stupid like wind 😂 xx

Loving the bump pictures! Mine is getting there but still tiny, I'm a slim frame anyway.

@Soph43 could it be round ligament pain? Have a google of that and hopefully it matches what you're feeling

@DaisyMay25 just as you said that I’d phoned my mum who had a midwife in her office (she works at the drs) and she said the same, unless it’s agony and doubled over etc not too worry.. but I worry about everything 🙈 thanks xx

Awkward question but is anyone else having difficulty with sex? We tried last night for the first time in ages (I've been irrationally worried about miscarriage plus just felt a bit first tri shit). Anyway, we tried doing it but it hurt my hips and everything down there just felt extra sensitive (possibly from lack of use!!)

Has anyone else experienced this or got any tips? I don't want to resign myself to no sex for the next six months but it just didn't feel good at all. I guess we'll just have to spend the time figuring out what works and what doesn't but any tips would be great!

Featuring my DD I'm 13+3 today or 2? X

@Soph43 I'm glad they think it's nothing to worry about. It's so hard not to stress about every twinge though isn't it?

@Kinsters DH is nagging me for sex (we haven't since Feb) but I'm terrified to even try. I think when we eventually do it might have to be a spooning position one. Perhaps try different positions? The easiest for you to control pain wise would be you on top so you have control. I think it might just be a trial and error process though. There's no way I would even try missionary.

I’ve been so moody today. Shouted at my DS (which I very rarely do) had a melt down about the amount of flies coming in the windows (we love on a farm) and then burst into tears that I’d lost my rag for no real reason.
Made some chocolate muffins to cheer myself up

@Kinsters we’ve attempted it a few times but I am just not enjoying it at all - every touch down there just seems to irritate me rather than be enjoyable! Luckily DH is taking it quite well ... I’m hoping when I get to the second trimester things will improve.

Kinsters we tried at 9 weeks and it was a big fat no, just felt really bloody weird. Tried again Tuesday and there are no complaints from me! I think Hubby had resigned himself to no sex for the whole pregnancy which he was very understanding about and okay with but I was taken by an urge and just kind of went for it. I think slow and steady is the way to go and...ahem.. wait until you’re really in the mood if you catch my drift.

@mynameisMrG I do the same some days it's the hormones I don't have the patience atm to do muffins though your winning there

My sex drive is through the roof at the moment I've found it feels more cushiony down there weird x

@anitagreen glad it’s not just me. The muffins were so worth it

Sounds like it might just be my DH that's being a bit of a dick then and trying to guilt me into it!

My sil is pregnant and due around the same time as me, feel bad as we had to tell the family because my mil kept telling everyone so probably stole their thunder :-(

If she's on here, sorry!

@Kinsters I felt like that in first trimester but since 14 weeks but libido had ramped up.
Thing is if your scared you'll be tense and it'll hurt. If you're not in the mood and trying to humour him you'll be tense and dry and it'll hurt. Thry just need to put more effort into the none penetrative stuff, or wait for second trimester horniness

@mrscatmad31 why would you have stolen their thunder? Your both pregnant, you both need to tell family, and surely your shared family will be happy for you both x