September 2019 #7

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I get nervous when it's so close to post 999..:

@kyles101 DH would do a terrible job on purpose to get out of doing it again. And going bare legged is definitely not an option unless I want to be mistaken for a gorilla! I just need to sort out a wax but it's finding time that's the problem.

I'm not counting kicks (is that still the recommendation?) but I know his patterns fairly well.

Hello everyone! Been absent for pretty much this entire thread but keen to jump back in. Sorry to hear some of you are having a rough time. I’ve been embracing the irrational hormones, last Saturday spent 2 hours crying because DH (correctly) pointed out that a piano doesn’t fit in our tiny front room .

I’m a bit worried that I’m gaining weight too fast, at 24+4 I’ve gained about 7kg and it’s not all bump - I’ve always been a slim size 10 but now my hips/bum are enormous . MW appt on Thursday though so hopefully she’ll tell me straight if I’m too big.

I’m not actually counting kicks, but I do get edgy if I’ve not felt her for a bit. Luckily she objects to me resting my arms on bump and tends to respond with a decent kick .

Dc2 was almost four when dc3 was born, we had no regression re toilet training, he had been dry about 6m

Dc3 was 3 and a half when dc4 was born, had been dry a year and a half so no regression there either!

Dc4 seems much much much younger than both of them. He is very much still the baby! But he will be 3 a few weeks after baby is due. Think i will get the potty out, leave it around, see if hes interested but keep him in nappies.

With the ages dc2 and 3 were when they gained a baby sibling there was not really any jealousy from either of them. Dc2 was not interested and dc3 wanted to help. But i dont think dc4 will know what has hit him!

Waves at @Fortheloveofscience ! You do need to put on more than just bump though- you need to have bigger reserves when you are supporting two people in one body! And you definitely need reserves for sitting breastfeeding after. I put on 20kg with DC1, and he drank it all off again by the time he was 9 months (I started feeling really faint and realised that all my reserves had gone and I needed to eat more...)
@IVEgottheDECAF I have exactly the same age difference this time as last, but I bet DC2 takes it differently to DC1 anyway...

Catching up on all the posts. Sorry to hear some of you aren’t feeling great physically/emotionally. I’m still struggling with bum cramp/sciatic pain every time I lay down and get up again - today I’ve almost been in tears as it’s lasted all day despite not lying down at all, walking and doing stuff round the house has been a real struggle. Not sure I can handle another 15 weeks until of this!!Currently sat on birthing ball which gives relief but dreading getting up again as I’ll get stabbing pin in left side of bum/glutes again.

On the upside had a nice weekend - we went to see Muse on Saturday and had a lovely day together. Alone/adult days out so rare these days!

Re potty training - DD is almost 27 months and I think she’s almost ready to try. Got first few weekends in July earmarked - terrified for a huge regression come mid sept but I don’t want to hold her back either. Still has a dummy at nap/bed and is her main comforter when ill - DH is desperate to get rid of it but I think we should wait until Christmas time really

Ok so having just spoken to DH about dummy plans he’s lost his rag and we’re now doing it cold turkey this weekend apparently (he’s volunteered to sit up with DD during the night if she won’t sleep - yeah we’ll see how long that lasts )

How did last night go @BridgetJonesDaiquiri ?

I'm waiting for my 28 week scan this morning. My hospital trust have had a change of systems etc so I got a text on Sunday informing me of this scan! Really helpful when you work and have to arrange childcare. I usually try and arrange appointments for my day off but I've had to email my boss about this one, I didn't have much choice. Not helped because I have a consultant appointment tomorrow which can take the best part of 3 hours with travel (city centre traffic) parking, running late etc.

BridgetJonesDaiquiri I was at Muse on Saturday as well - had an amazing time but completely killed me off for Sunday! And DH was uber-protective and kept on telling groups of —dickheads— lads smoking to move, was a little worried he was going to end up in trouble.

Strikethrough fail!

I can’t decide wether to worry or not. Tiggers always been quite a strong kicker but for the last few days he’s been quieter. I can still feel movements and hitting the magic ten in an hour but they are smaller movements and quieter. 28 weeks in a few days.

Anyone else getting this or should I get checked.

Trying to catch up with the reading as well. Good luck with the cold turkey dummy withdrawal Brigite :)

Karigan give your MW or triage a call - MWs here tell us to call in any changes to movement

One poorly DS here with very little sleep, 2 very wriggly babies kicking me all over the place and girl twin has very kindly wedges herself up in my ribs. So I'm very uncomfortable today! Guessing neither have turned around. I've no idea how there is enough room in there for both of them!!

karigan i agree you should at least speak to someone

boodles sorry to hear your ds is poorly!

I'm still worrying about movement. It is so infrequent. Either she is really lazy or I just am complete insensitive!
No pattern at all yet, 25+5 so I never know what to measure against. Some days I may literally only have 3 or 4 definite kicks and then the odd flutter.
She is marginally more active at night, but still doesn't seem very wriggly.
Is everyone else having really regular movement?

@Karigan195 I'd definitely get it checked out as you are noticing a change.

Megan you may seem like your getting less than some of us as its your first baby. Your stomach muscles are probably much better than mine!

I think what matters is that the movement you do feel is normal for you.

He had a good old roll around around 12 so I think I’m going to monitor and then call when I finish work. (I tend to browse mumsnet whilst waiting for documents to download on our crappy internet system).

Megan I think I’d mention it. I’m 24+5 with baby 1 and anterior placenta and have had a pattern for at least a week - I think the guidance says you should have a pattern by 24 weeks? I’m sure it’s fine, but if you’re worrying I think that’s reason to check.

@Megan2018 I think I'd mention it too, although I find if I'm busy I forget and so don't necessarily notice, although it's getting less easy to not notice now, but I think I'm a couple of weeks ahead of you. To reassure you in first time too and remember being concerned at around the same - 24ish weeks I think - that I couldn't identify a pattern.

Megan, if you are worried then it's worth mentioning. Everyone's experience is very different (my friend was exactly the same as you and baby was fine) but you shouldn't need to worry unnecessarily.

Had a growth scan this morning, baby is between the 25th and 50th percentile for weight and abdominal circumference so looks like my body is dealing with the GD well. Consultant seemed happy but I've to go in every 2 weeks now, with a scan every 4 weeks. Midwife wants me to see a physio about the pain I'm getting in my hips as she thinks I've got too long to go.

Oh and baby is breech so what I thought were kicks are actually punches! Breech isn't an issue due to ELCS but the consultant warned me that if I go into spontaneous labour I've to get to hospital ASAP.

Oh, and really weird coincidence - my hospital is around 100 miles from where I grew up and went to school. There was a girl from my class at school (tiny rural school!) waiting to see the same consultant.

Saw GP this morning about sciatic pain as could barely move - she’s referred me for urgent physio as only 25+1 and she saw how much pain I was in just walking into her office and trying to lie down on the bed to show her my (limited) range of movement. Have first appointment on Friday at lunch - counting down the hours

I asked my MW about it at my last appointment (2 weeks ago) and she said not to worry about patterns or regularity before 28 weeks for a first pregnancy.

I have movement every day - but there is just no pattern to it and certainly don't have 10 distinct movements in 2 hrs or anything like.

Lots of jumbly flutters low down that you have to pay attention to to really notice. Then some days I get very obvious movements you can see on the outside - like little muscle twitches. But they are entirely random.

At last 2 scans baby was breech and facing in - so if she's still like like I expect that's why. But for example she does not react at all yet to cold drinks or lying on my side. Maybe that is still to come?

I have a growth scan in 9 days time so will mention it again then - I'll be 27 weeks exactly.
I next see MW in 13 days when I'll be almost 28 weeks so if no pattern by then she may be more interested!

Have you tried a cold sugary drink? I was quite worried a couple of weekends ago and cold orange juice did the trick. I do honestly think you'll be fine and it's a combination of first, a little early and yes probably facing inwards. Have you tried laying on your back for a while when you first go to bed? Again, that was a fairly reliable way for me to guarantee movement- obviously turn onto your side when you want to go to sleep but was nice feeling the movements for a little bit before bed. When I saw mine last week at 25+5 she really emphasised just how seriously our trust takes reduced movements, and we should go in for any suspicions - even though the trust literally up the road would have told me to monitor and sugary drink like I did the other weekend.

I feel really crap today

Spd has flared up. Didnt sleep well so tired. House is messy so grumpy. Cba doing anything about it. Dc4 has also decided he isnt having a nap today and i keep eating crap

@kyles101
Drank a 600ml bottle of orange Tango at lunchtime and absolutely diddly!
Although I have felt the odd flutter just now whilst on the phone.

The other week I had a few glasses glass of ice cold fake prosecco and that did prompt a big reaction, so perhaps I'll have to start bringing 0.5% fizz to work....

I am going to download an app to count movement episodes in case there is a pattern I'm not aware of. If I get up in the night to go to the loo I do pretty much always feel her then - so she might be active all night when I am sleeping and asleep most of the day! I also usually feel one or two definite kicks on the commute to work as we usually have a chat and I tell her all about the other w**r drivers. Her first words may not be pretty

I will definitely call MW if I feel no movement at all in a day - I would just like there to be a pattern for now so it gives me something to check against.The randomness is making me wobble but MW really didn't seem bothered yet.