Still blooming and getting bigger

[littleoldme]

Decided we were getting to full. Hope this works.

revelyell and Loopy - you are angels ! Thanks for the info - am printing off stuff right now ! :O (You never know, maybe I'm doing my Mum a disservice and she'll be fine, but never hurts to go prepared !!)

I'm toying with the idea of a homebirth but my DH is v anti it. He has 2 kids from previous marriage and must know more than I do about childbirth.

Will probably use midwife led unit with pools. Also a bit worried about my Dh's attitude to BF. His 1st wife did it for 3 weeks only and then used bottles. He seems to think I should do the same. "bf is very tiring and difficult"

Actually I am making myself now with DH. I don't give f**k what 1st wife did - this is my baby and I'll do it my way.

Think I'm a bit hormonal and stroppy tonight - sorry

Just wanted to say a quick hello. I haven't posted for ages but have been keeping up with everything. Really pleased to hear evryone is well - if a little achey.

Welcome to all you new people and to your bumps.

Loopy - you go girl!!!!

Choudru - MW says Yoga should be fine as long as it is an antenatal class and I don't do squatting. I haven't been yet though c'os I keep getting roped in to doing market research groups which are always on a Thurs. Last week I went and tested new flavours of Walkers crisps and tomorrow I'm off to discuss washing powder. The thrills. Can't complain at thrity five quid for an hour and half though. Hope the glitter was fun.

So with Loopy on this one ! Go for it, silky ! Perhaps his anti stance simply comes from pure concern for you - just worried about safety, (like I suspect my M+D might be) or maybe there were severe complications with the births of one or both of his first two and they needed hospital treatment ? Maybe all these HB links loopy has will help 'coz maybe it's a bit of pride too, that he doesn't know as much about HB as he'd like to and won't admit it ? I dunno - only guessing ! Anyway, as loopy says, every woman's different, plus every baby's different, every labour and birth's different and we're all grown-ups now (v much so !), so I reckon we can give it a go, with the right support, if we're low risk.
As for breastfeeding, am approaching that like labour and birth - want to give it a really good go and will only change if really have to...but will be prepared for that too....despite the fact everyone I talk to with children tells me 2 things - 'epidural' and 'bottle-feed'.
Fine - am happy to hear advice, but will still do it my way !
Loopy - am v appreciative of the positive info - thanks.

Hi to alL the newbies. Lovely to have you with us. (soooo sorry I didn't say before- I am not normally so rude)

silkcushion - my DH's ex had 2 sections & bottle fed both so he was v nervous that I even contemplated HB with DS (as it happened I didn't feel confident to push for it as had gestational diabetes & high BP that I'd not had before). DH was overwhelmed witnessing a normal birth (I'd never seen him cry before) and agreed that BF was sooo much less hassle than bottles (we co-slept too & DH had DS on his chest to get him to sleep a lot!) Though he was as much use as a fart in a wet suit at the birth (I was planning to use hypnobirthing/homeopathy....see comment re overwhelmedness!)I think he's overcome his fear somewhat & is much more supportive about HB with this one. Fear and lack of control is a biggie for blokes - they like a uniform &/or "professionals" (I use the phrase loosesly!!!) give him plenty of facts & figures (Loopy's stuff is brill) but at the end of the day it is your choice. After all, it will be primarily your experience, not his!!

RGPargy - we have more in common than you first thought ...quote "a pie-eating gym-avoiding lazy couch potato laptop addict!" lol You'll be getting your norks out in public without thinking to BF next (wanna buy a yurt??!)

Loopymumsy - Your links are fab - thanks - you're giving power to our elbows, so to speak! (and FWIW you are so not full on!!- forthright and supportive, yes. Full on, no ) 'twas me that bought the P&T BTW - it's loooooooooooooovely though the down side is that DS now faces away & won't go to sleep on his afternoon walk

Best get back to DH - have ignored him virtually all night. have a good one all x

loopymumsy - FWIW if you weren't pg I'd ask you to be my doula - I think you'd make a great one. I am so struggling to find one at the mo.

I'm near Chippenham - bit far for you me thinks

Hows everyone doing?? I have managed to win a cot on eBayas my cot is missing some bolts, so won that for £35! The mattress cost me £70 though!!

DH went mad the other day while shopping up 'orth (visiting his sister) and brought lots of blue things!! He feels so proud that we will have 2 matching sets (2 boys and 2 girls) bless...

eek- I need to find the metal bits for my cot as well- no idea where to start looking- argh

Thats why I decided to just buy one from ebay, couldn't be bothered lol!!

A couple of little bits needed replacing on my cot when I sold it. The cot was from Mothercare I went in and they got the new bits in and posted them to me for about £4.
I just need to buy another one now!

Blimey yesterday was busy. It is great to hear everyone feeling so enthusiastic.

Does anyone have have a good source of info on SPD; imparticular how it might affect labour. I forgeot ask the MW yesterday. I was going to do a web search but they tend to be a little scary!

Hi everyone!

Wasnt online last night coz i had to work til 8pm and didn't get home til about 9.45, then had my tea and then gave my teenage DS a bloody long lecture about his laziness and piss taking around the house.

Before i gave him the lecture, i discovered that as it was sunny, he'd left the back door open and then GONE UPSTAIRS TO SLEEP ON HIS BED!!!!! While he was a sleep, some neighbourhood cat came in and was seriously fighting with one of my cats, so much so that it woke him up! I'm soooooo at him for leaving the back door open while he was asleep!! It's not that we live in a dodgy area or anything, but the back gate is waist high and just bolted so all you have to do is undo the bolt and waltz right in and nick all our stuff - all my DJ stuff could have gone in the blink of an eye!!

Anyway, so now my poor cat has got an injured leg, there was blood on the landing floor and the amount of cat fur in the conservatory looked like there was enough to coat another cat!! Outrageous!! My poor cats should feel secure in their new home, which is why we got a magnetic cat flap so that they can come in and know that no one can follow them and now they are back to hiding under the bed and only coming out for meals. All because my lazy DS left the back door open. GGRR!!!

Sorry for the rant everyone, i'm still fuming about it!!!

[Takes a deep breath]

Aaaaanyway, back to bubbah stuff. Since yesterday at about 6.30pm, i have felt nothing but lots of little kicks and movements and i have to say i'm over the moon! It just makes it even more real, despite having three scans with pics lol.

Purplepants - glad to know i'm not the only pie-eating gym-avoiding lazy couch potato laptop addict on here!!

Morning all,

Loopy - Brilliant home birth stuff. I am planning a HB although I have yet to decide about a pool (there isn't that much space in the spare bathroom/bedroom, and I don't want to be in the master bed/bath (cream carpets / following associations - all sorts) and I will have access to a shower and a large bath in the spare (any thoughts from those who have tried it?).

DH was initially very reluctant this is our first but he is in his mid 40s and everyone he knows had theirs in hospital (mostly a few years ago!) and he was a bit worried initially about how he would cope. Luckily both my sister and the wife of a work colleague of his are midwives with lots of community experience so all I had to do was casually drop into conversation over dinner that I was thinking about planning to be at home and the big guns were wheeled straight out. My mother also had 2 of us (out of 4) at home and he is gradually becoming more confident about it. The argument that really won him over though was that if he felt he needed some fresh air or whatever at home he would not be leaving me alone - there would be a proper supportive health professional (or two) there to look after me, which there likely wouldn't be in hospital. That really made him feel better!

Well done FCH - sounds like he is coming round. I so want to give birth at home. I just know that it will be a much better experience than being in a hospital!

Hi everyone and welcome to all the newbies!

Blimey - don't seem to be able to get on here as often as I'd like and it's taken me aeons to catch up on all the latest goss.

Glad your water is back Sily - what a nightmare you've been through.

So glad I'm not alone on the SPD front, Pinklady and Littleold me - it is flipping painful at the mo and am a bit peeved about my MW's attitide. Went for a check up with her on Monday and mentioned that this time it was quite a bit worse and she barely acknowledged what I'd just said. Then I repeated it at the end of the appt and said 'so, if this pain gets worse should I contact you or...?' and she just told me that there isn't really much you can do except take paracetamol and rest. Well, that is a blimming joke because loads of you on here have seen or been referred to physios. She didn't mention this once although she did mumble something about seeing a GP if it gets really bad. I suppose I can ask to be referred through them but am miffed that my own MW isn't really taking much of an interest.

Oh for a decent midwife! Don't get me wrong, she's nice enough just a bit wishy-washy for me and doesn't do small talk at all! I want my old midwife back...blub!

Anyway, apart from that, all is fine adn am eating for England! Haven't got anything new for the baby yet either, in fact, I am finding that I'm spending more on DD! Think I am feeling a bit guilty that she will have to contend with being number 2 for a while once the baby arrives...

Well, looking forward to catching up on the next installments.

Whoops - that should be Silky not sily!

RG - not surprised you are angry - poor cats. Hope he understood that he ought to have a bit more respect for your property also. I'm for you!

Thanx FCH. I do wonder sometimes if i'm being overly anal! I've just had a go at him again because i've just rang him and it's gone midday. He is supposed to have gone to a job agency today to sign up for work with them. Only fruit packing, but it's something to tide him over til he can get the necessary work cards for building sites etc. However, he hadn't been down there yet because he told me there's no way he was going to get up at "like 9.30" because (and this made me spit feathers) "it's too early"

I promptly told him that my DP gets up at 5am and i have to get up at 6.45am so 9.30 is an effin' lay in!!!! I told him he was being really lazy and he said he wasn't!!! AAAGGGHHH!!!! I had to slam the phone down on him in the end because i'm at work and i cant shout too much lol.

I can feel my blood pressure soaring as we speak and i seriously feel like crying my eyes out in despair!!!

I'm so sorry to rant everyone. I'm not normally this grumpy, honest!