June 2019 - Part 7!

[Kescilly]

Hi ladies! Picking names, packing hospital bags - third trimester here we come!

I thought I'd start out with the stats this time and I'll post the updated name list in a bit. I've just included the data that I have, since a lot of people are missing bits (or quite possibly I've missed their posts). We come from all over, so I'll put that bit in another post later as well.

Our average age at estimated due date is 33! That should help some of us who are feeling older.

And that's not just because we're all second-timers! In fact, most of us are having our first baby this year.

Baby #1 - 31
Baby #2 - 26
Baby #3 - 9
Baby #4 - 1
Babies 1&2 together! - 1

Fifteen of us are expecting lovely little boys, nineteen of us are expecting darling little girls, and at least sixteen of us are waiting to be surprised!

The average due date is June 13th, and the most popular due date is June 24th. We don't have anyone expecting on the 15th, 23rd, 27th, or 30th as far as I can tell.

And if you happen to have a baby on my birthday (June 16th), your baby will be born on Father's Day this year!

Thank you everyone for the support. Everyone has their own pregnancy journey but to know others are nearing the edge is really helpful.

Hi Kescilly we have been living upstairs while they've destroyed and are rebuilding the ground floor. It has been hard for whole family but these things are worth it in the end. Still sounds like you have a decent amount to do in the 4 weeks or so left I wish you lots of luck :) I can also sympathise with the flooring waiting for painters - but my carpet is down and has been trashed so I need to get a carpet cleaning company in to hopefully rescue it.... fingers crossed

Oh toomanyflatwhites that does sounds awful. Come into the misery fold for company. I'm definitely feeling better hearing others stories.

Toomanyflatwhites and livingonapear You need a medal to be selling a property now. I'm assuming you are living there? It truly is hard work I'd recommend batch bookings or open days to minimise disruption and be clear about no drop in viewings - good luck though it is exciting to release the equity for a new project. The world doesn't stop just because our new bundle of joy will soon be entering the world.

Yes I have the antacids Istef but hitting max dose at the moment. I'm hoping baby will drop this week or next and I can get back to eating normally again and not sleeping sitting up. Reminds me of the first half of my pregnancy when I couldn't drink water for sickness and now I can't drink water as it comes back up as acid... need to get back into my head that there is not long to go and I can do this!!! Though right now I'm happy wallowing with my misery partners in comfort.
Oh having decking for the summer will be amazing and having the outside space you can go to if things get a bit overwhelming will be peaceful. I found that you can feel a bit cooped up in the early days and getting a routine with twins is going to be a life skill. I agree with you thought DH is definitely nesting and putting his power tools to good use.

Ahhh swiftfox I hope all is well with your friend. I absolutely can not have this baby early in a building site! I can't even pack a mat bag for dust ... takes deep breaths in out in out..

Hey restie I hope things are better for you now though I can see the nausea is stubbornly staying around. We've shared some misery together over this pregnancy. Sorry to hear you also have the reflux it is so rubbish. You've been an absolute superstar to now though getting through the challenges and keeping going. I'm hoping in two months all this will be a distant memory for cracked nipples and sleep deprivation lol

I have my name down with the NCL they rent newborn reusable nappies for first 6 weeks for 15 pounds - I can then see if I get in with them or not. May not be available in every area but it's a nice way to try out the idea without the expensive upfront costs.

So many of us with building work etc - it's crazy! Our kitchen is finally nearly finished - enough so that we've been able to fill the cupboards etc and move into a room where the bed is more than a foot off the floor 😁 really struggled to get everything clean from dust though - we've borrowed an industrial carpet cleaner and have had to clean pretty much every item in the house... I hadn't appreciated how much we'd done until I checked my step counter the other day and had done 17000 steps in a day when I hadn't even left the house!!
Still a fair way to go (just getting quotes from plasterers and carpenters as we have to our firedoors and egress windows in every room) but it's nice to have some sense of normality...
Good luck all!!

Have to have*

Oh Torsz your house sounds like mine in about 2 weeks! Nice to visualise it. Though with PGP 1000 steps is a struggle let alone 17000!! Eek!
I actually can't wait to get a bucket and sponge and just start wiping all the dust away as it is everywhere!

@swiftfox how come you have an induction booked already if you don’t mind me asking. I thought it was something they usually booked after your due date if it’s for being over due. I know all hospitals have different policies. I’m due on the 7th so think around the same time as you and I wonder if my midwife is going to bring it up when I see her.

While we are on the subject of induction - a friend of mine just recommended this book: www.amazon.co.uk/Inducing-Labour-making-informed-decisions/dp/1999806433/ref=cm_cr_arp_d_product_top?tag=mumsnetforu03-21&ie=UTF8. It also has great reviews on Amazon - I just ordered a copy.

Good luck with the hospital @Kescilly! Hope they let you talk to the consultant again..

@Ksjourney it will all be worth it in the end! I can't tell you how satisfying it is to wipe away a years worth of dust, knowing it will never get that bad again 😂🥰x

I'm starting to get a bit anxious at the thought of all the people who will want to come and visit once baby is here - I know I'm going to feel out of my depth as it is, and then having to worry about visitors/guests on top of that is going to be quite stressful! My OH's mum has said she already has a bag packed for when they come and see the baby, though thankfully they will stay at a hotel rather than with us anyway, as that's their preference.

I am hoping it is going to be therapeutic Torsz and kick off my nesting mania 😂

When I had my daughter Imtakingabath I scheduled something at my mums house for a certain time till a certain time so I could go and then leave. I also wore my daughter in a carrier so every one didn't pass her around lol.

@LivingOnAPear I don't mind you asking at all - I just turned 40, so because I'm so old, induction is often recommended as going over 40 weeks means an increased risk of stillbirth. It's still not a huge risk, so although we have a date in the diary, I'm trying to weigh the risks of induction against being overdue. Most women over 40 are induced on their due date unless they go into labour naturally. I'm going to start doing home remedies from week 38 onwards to coax him out!

I can't believe how many of you are doing such drastic home developments at this stage! I'm knackered just by being at work! Very impressive - we were going to redo our kitchen in March/April and I'm glad we didn't. I don't think I could have handled it. We got our old sash windows replaced, and that was stressful enough.

@Ksjourney that's a good idea - I think someone else also suggested we go visit (nearby) people rather than having them come to us. Some people will be travelling a bit further though, so will need to stay over at ours, and I can't really ask them to go elsewhere haha!

Imtakingabath I'm pretty sure our visitors booked a hotel but we had a 2 bed at the time so we had no room. I can't remember anyone bothering me with the logistics of their accommodation plans to be honest. Maybe my DH sorted all that and kindly kept me out of it?
I didn't visit people I just arranged for everyone to visit my mums at the same time so we got it out of the way. Then close relatives and friends booked themselves in and came to our place but that was a nice distraction and most did something helpful while they visited :)

@imtakingabath I feel the same! We've decided not to tell people when I'm in labour, and when we let them know we will tell them when we are ready for visitors. I've spoke to a couple of new mums recently who said their biggest regret was not saying no to visitors!

I want to hopefully establish breastfeeding and do not want an audience. Will try to be quite firm with limiting visitors

Had our 36 week midwife appointment today and have been referred for an urgent scan due to lack of growth and potential breach 😣 plus they think I have a urine infection...not the most successful day!!

Breech.*

@imtakingabath We are telling no one that I'm in labour - I'm probably being induced a week early, so that gives us the element of surprise too.

I live overseas, so I know when my parents are visiting, and I'm hoping we can deter DH's family from visiting the hospital. At least if we're at home they can be helpful/I can get away from them.

I'm perfectly fine with being a massive bitch about it if I have to be.

@swiftfox I am in the same boat as you - will be 41 in July and our trust have an induction policy between 39 and 40 weeks for anyone 40+. Have got my appointment with the consultant on Thursday to discuss it - or as he so charmingly put it in our first brief interaction "to plan the induction". I have spoken to both midwives I've seen since then about the best plan and also about his appallingly brusque approach (he has form for this, apparently) and both of them made it clear to me that I do have a choice, so am going to meet him this week clear in my mind about that!

@swiftfox and @toomanyflatwhites
I’m 40 too. I was told at my booking in appt that it’s the hospital policy to offer induction on due date once you turn 40 but nothing has been said since then and I haven’t been referred to a consultant I’ve just seen my midwife. It depends on where you are as I have friends that went overdue at 40 and were just treated as normal. I was overdue with my daughter by 16 days so not expecting to have this one early but I could be surprised. Am not planning on being induced before 41 weeks unless there’s an issue other than my age.

However I am keen to encourage the baby to arrive earlier this time. Last time I had acupuncture once overdue and I remember her saying I should have come in from 36 weeks so thinking of trying that. I pretty much did all the old wives tales stuff too. Not sure what else to try this time.

Oh no @Torsz! Sorry you had a difficult day . I think that tape measuring stuff is such a bunch of crap I don’t even know why they do it. Plus side is you get to have another scan and see the baby and likely get lots of extra reassurance :).

@livingonapear try pumping milk from your due date. I was pumping when my waters broke...could be a coincidence but worth a shot.

I had my 32 week growth scan yesterday. Placenta has moved so no longer covering the cervix and the consultant approved my request for ELCS after I went to birth matters. They’ll give me a date at my 36 week appointment. Baby is an estimated 4lb 15oz which seems fairly weighty!

Another one having work done on their house. Painting still only half done but we do now have a lovely new fitted utility room. Still doors and floors to fit and living room to finish!
17 working days til mat leave!

@Bizawit that's true, thank you! We haven't had a scan since 21 weeks so it will be nice to see her - we weren't expecting to see her again until the birth!

@Torsz sorry to hear you've had a tough day! At least they have got you in for a scan quickly. When they say lack of growth is that based on measuring your bump? I know it's the only way to monitor really but I'm not sure how accurate really it is, so try not to worry too much at the moment. Hopefully baby turns into head down soon too. Hope all goes well at the scan!

Can't believe it's May. With several of us reaching 37 weeks/full term in the next few weeks it's strange to think a few of us will probably have babies this month!!

@KoalasAteMyHomework yes it's based on bump size, but it's all a bit odd as my midwife was away for 4 weeks so I've had 2 appointments with other people, so she didn't know whether it had just not changed since last time or if they measured me differently and it's just been slow growth since she went...hopefully it's just a 'better safe than sorry' check, but I'd really like to get it over with!!

@Torsz that's a bit annoying. But yes definitely better to be safe and have it checked.
I think our midwives say 1cm or 2cm either side of your weeks is ok ie I'm 34 weeks so should have a bump of 34cm, but a couple of cm either side of that is ok.

That's not me recommending people measure themselves btw! I imagine it takes training to know exactly where you start a bump measurement from and how far to measure to etc.