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September 2019 Babies - Thread #3

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stroan · 13/02/2019 09:51

Hi,

It looks like we filled up the last thread before anyone had a chance to start a new one, so here we go! Hope everyone finds their way over.

@twittlebee could you possibly link to the Google Doc again?

@karigan195 so glad you were seen again and got a bonus scan. Lovely to get a bit of reassurance too, hope the next 7 days go quickly for you.

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DustyDoorframes · 24/02/2019 17:24

I actually really don't know if we even would act on the results, argh! This is why we decided against even testing before, it's such a can of worms. Urgh.

happydays00 · 24/02/2019 17:54

Oh @TwittleBee I really hope you're wrong as well. I'm sure it will be an anxious wait for you this week.

I was very anxious about telling my Mum, I don't really know why, she was very surprised (they all assumed we'd have at least a 3-4year gap between) but very happy.

My best friend knows but not telling anyone else until scan results are back. Another week to go, sigh.

happydays00 · 24/02/2019 17:56

@DustyDoorframes I feel the same about testing and still 50/50 whether to even have the combined test.

Whisky2014 · 24/02/2019 19:06

Twitter, could you pay for a private scan just to settle your mind?fingers crossed all ok

Whisky2014 · 24/02/2019 19:07

Silly phone. I mean twittle

Megan2018 · 24/02/2019 19:08

We are very clear about termination with T13 or T18, less clear with T21 but we probably would as I don’t think we’d cope. I have a good friend with a severely disabled child so have seen first hand how hard it is, and selfishly know it is not something we want to do if we have a choice (obviously not everything is detected and the birth can cause issues in itself).
Something like Turners syndrome we wouldn't terminate for and NIPT can show this but it’s really hard to know what your lines are until it happens I guess.

DustyDoorframes · 24/02/2019 19:39

Yes, it's so hard! And even with T21, the screening can't tell you how that particular person will be affected- some people have brilliant, relatively uncomplicated lives with T21, others have tougher times, and you can't tell beforehand. It's such a minefield. But I think at this point it would be good to be a bit prepared and talk about it with the kids, if it were to happen to us, so the knowledge feels more useful than it did the last two times when we refused the screening completely.

boodles101 · 24/02/2019 19:46

I've felt a bit anxious this weekend. Not sure why. Maybe it's just cos I feel like the scan is still forever away and I just want to know all is fine so that I can relax a bit. But I've managed to talk myself round and it's just 2 weeks to go.
In other news I just started crying watching dancing on ice. Then immediately giggled at how silly that it. Gotta love the hormones!

ZigZaggyZoo · 24/02/2019 20:33

Munchy I'm so sorry for your loss. Take care of yourself.

Nightdream and Twittlebee sending you positive thoughts. It's awful when you get a scare. Hope everything is good for you both.

excitednerves · 25/02/2019 05:47

@Twittle I would call the GP on Monday and see if you can go to the EPU. Don’t wait until your scan if you’re worried. My midwife has said if I have any bleeding to call the GP or A&E right away

I hope everything is OK. Sending hugs

excitednerves · 25/02/2019 05:55

@boodles101 I felt like that too before my scan. It’s so worrying! My husband also got annoyed with me telling him all the things I was worried about so I bottled it all up too!

Someone on here told me that if there’s no pain or bleeding then you just have to assume everything is going ok. (For me it did - all that time wasted worrying!) 12 week scan was great and baby is absolutely fine and growing as expected.

Maybe try to break down the next 2 weeks with mini goals - things to focus on at work, what you’re planning at the weekend, seeing friends etc so it makes it feel shorter?

I’m also crying at everything!

boodles101 · 25/02/2019 06:56

excitednerves thankyou yes I'm trying to remain positive, I just fell like im still holding myself back from being excited. I'd really like to be excited and start bonding etc but just waiting til the good news to do that.
My mum gets married on Friday and then the big family dinner on Saturday so that's definitely something to look forward to!

Karigan195 · 25/02/2019 07:56

I hope you’re better today Twittlebee. Try to remember that cervix position is a notoriously unreliable indicator or anything.

Nhs scan today. Every time I go for any test or scan I’m sure I’m going to get there to learn I miscarried. Does this worry ever stop!

TwittleBee · 25/02/2019 08:46

This morning I am in agony with cramping - it isnt the ligament pain but that classic pre-AF cramping. Also had some more spotting and some discharge that resembled a mucus plug too. I shall be calling EPU on lunch break but not holding out hope for them seeing me. Their attitude there is very much "if you are MCing there isnt anything we can do to stop it, we can only confirm anyway" (thats the line I am always given whenever I have needed a scan or check up there)

Good luck for the scan today karigan - i dont think the worry will ever stop!

Fortheloveofscience · 25/02/2019 08:48

Twittle I’m sorry that must be horribly worrying. My midwife told me at booking to go to A&E in the first instance with cramps or bleeding. Can you call in sick?

BBell2 · 25/02/2019 08:50

@twittlebee give them hell to be seen! That is ridiculously insensitive, you have all this worry and they could help relieve the stress of not knowing. Some big warm thoughts for today.

BBell2 · 25/02/2019 08:56

I called in sick for the third time in ten years at this employer. The first I had a broken wrist/hand, the second I was PG last time and today diorreah has wiped me and I still felt naughty calling in!

Whisky2014 · 25/02/2019 08:59

@twittlebee i have everything crossed for you.

Whisky2014 · 25/02/2019 09:01

@bbell2 oh dear feel better soon. I have also had to call in sick as i feel so terrible. The fever over the weekend wiped me out and i have a bad cough, sore ears etc there's no way I could go sit at a desk and work. But it's only my 4th week there so I feel really bad and worried as im still on probation

IVEgottheDECAF · 25/02/2019 09:05

Pregnancy related illness can't be counted against you so i would say you had awful sickness not a cough cold etc

KnobJockey · 25/02/2019 09:26

Twittlebee I have everything crossed for you that it's all okay

Megan2018 · 25/02/2019 09:40

@TwittleBee
Sorry to hear this, insist on being seen-there is nothing they can do but you can insist on a scan to see if there is a heartbeat surely. Can your midwife or GP refer you? My GP said any issues and to contact them if it is within surgery hours and they will make EPU referral. Try that maybe?

Whisky2014 · 25/02/2019 09:40

Oh too late decaf damn :(

Megan2018 · 25/02/2019 09:42

@Whisky2014
Hope you feel better soon. Try not to worry about work, you can’t change it-if they want to be difficult about you being sick then there’s nothing you can do. I know it is tricky in a new role as it is easy for them to terminate employment without reason, but you can’t work when you are ill. Take care of yourself.

Megan2018 · 25/02/2019 09:44

I’m feeling really well today which is a bit of a worry! Am 11 or 11+1 depending on which date to use. I wasn’t sick at all this morning and feel remarkably chipper. Just anxious, so very anxious.
I am hoping it’s the sign of placenta taking over and nothing sinister.

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