The March-ers 2019 - #9 Meet the Babies

[Angelmiracle]

Thread 9 wow 🤗

All being well a lot more birth announcements this thread 👣🍼🤰🏿🤰🤰🏾🤰🏼

Check-in mamas ✔

@BadBadBeans sorry for the result you got, you sound very positive. Does the surgery remove all risks of future problems?

@PartridgeJoan congratulations!

@Harley8888 Good luck, hope things are progressing well!

@Harley8888 what a shock! Good luck, hope all is going well!

@SquirtlesMumAgain hope you are feeling better soon

@Angelmiracle hope you are feeling less anxious today after venting to your DH and that your next appointment can alleviate your worries.

@BadBadBeans sorry you didn't get the news you were hoping for. You seem to be coping really well and I hope that having a plan in place will help. I agree it's good to have a definite answer on the nipple issue and hope all goes ok

@PartridgeJoan congratulations on the birth of your baby girl!

@AssumeItWasSomethingClever I'm with you on how you're feeling. It's so overwhelming. DP came in yesterday to me sat crying in front of the tumble dryer. No idea why I was there but I was feeling quite panicky but also so uncomfortable that I just had to get it out.

@Hermagsjesty good luck at your appt. No experience of it but I think it might mean going up to the hospital a bit earlier than you would normally so they can make sure you get the antibiotics

It feels very surreal that baby will be here this month.

Also, is it just me or is anyone getting a return of the nausea? I know a few said they were getting some early symptoms back. Its not that I feel I'm going to be sick, just that certain things make me feel really nauseous. I bought some beef strips for a stir fry yesterday but now that I've got it the thought of it makes me feel really queasy. Beef mince I could eat so it's not the beef. Also feel like I have a really odd taste in my mouth too and feel a bit ugh after eating. Suppose I'm not explaining it well at all but just feel weird! And now the tap water seems to taste chemically when it didn't before. DP says it tastes fine!

@melissa112 I’m with you on the random nausea and weird tastes. I made a squash last night and it tasted like feet to me!!

Feeling odd about it being the month my baby will arrive! Happy Birth Month (most of us! Although some might go in April!)

@partridgejoan congratulations

@hermagsjesty @angelmiracle
@squirtlesmumagain lots of us going through uncertain or tough times, hope everyone feels looked after. X

Back from the midwife and feeling quite reassured. Basically, Strep B can sometimes be quite dangerous to babies but only when it’s untreated - prevention is better than cure type thing. So, if I’m on an antibiotic drip throughout labour there is only a very, very slim chance he’ll get poorly from it (only 1 in 6,000 the midwife said). Being on the drip means I probably can’t have the birthing pool I was hoping for but I don’t think that’s the end of the world in the grand scheme of things. Just want him safely here now! Sending love and positive thoughts to you all.

@Angelmiracle it feels so close but also so far away!

@BadBadBeans sorry you didn't get the news you want but you're right, at least now you know where you stand.

@PartridgeJoan congratulations! Look after yourself through the baby blues - it's all so overwhelming isn't it? I think it's quite normal for them to not want to be on their own - they've been inside you for 9 months so they're used to that closeness.

Happy due month everyone!

@PartridgeJoan congratulations on your new arrival! Sorry you're experiencing baby blues, try and look after yourself! We are all here if you need a vent xx

@melissa112 yes! Sickness, heartburn and funny tastes back with a vengeance my tap water tastes like soap to me 🤷🏻‍♀️

@AssumeItWasSomethingClever hope you're okay! It is all super scary, especially now that it's March and birth announcements are being made! Not that they're not lovely to hear but it does make it all seem that bit more real! Said to DP today 'how am I going to be a babies mum when I feel like a big baby myself'

@BadBadBeans sorry about your news but you seem to be handling it really well and you're right, at least you know now and can make a plan!

@Hermagsjesty I also have strep B and found out fairly early on. Around 24 weeks or so. Glad you found out and are feeling a bit more reassured! I think I'm just going to call the hospital when I think I'm in labour, tell them about the strep B and see what they advise from there. It's just about getting enough antibiotics into your system before you give birth xx

Feeling overwhelmed and emotional today. What with poorly dog and the fact that baby is due THIS MONTH!

That being said HAPPY DUE MONTH EVERYONE 🥳 xx

Those with group B strep, I have read so much about it but no idea how people found out. Was it just from your normal midwife urine sample?

I went to triage with a lot of abnormal looking/smelling discharge (sorry TMI) and they did a swab for any infections. Group B strep came back positive.

They don't test for it as routine (which I think is awful) but you can pay like £35 and get it done privately. Best to do it after 36 weeks as it can come and go throughout a woman's life but once diagnosed they will treat you as if you definitely have it just to be sure. I would recommend the private testing if you can xx

Saw my consultant this morning after second growth scan due to high BMI (not sure I understand why I needed a second since baby was a good size at the first and apparently it was just to check that they didn't miss a small baby). Came away with an induction date of 25th, 3 days after due date. She said there was no need to induce early - fair enough but didn't realise I'd get an induction so soon after if not medically needed?

I asked if I could help speed up labour coming on and she just said "Expressing?" And gave me a leaflet. I asked if it's safe to do from now (37 weeks today) and she said nothing, the midwife with me asked "to bring on labour?" Even though that was what I'd just said and finally the trainee midwife that was with us said she'd wait until 38 weeks instead. I'm sure I'd been told 37 by my midwife but no one had anything else to say after that so I just had to accept it.

I feel like I wanted to ask for every way possible to bring on labour but no one wanted to say more than "expressing", I wanted to ask more about induction but was given an overload of timescales by the consultant in about 10 seconds and given a leaflet to read.

I know it's my fault for not asking more but I felt that all 3 of them didn't really listen to my answers about anything (I told them I was suffering with SPD and was told "not long left"; I was asked if baby moving ok twice in 2 minutes so clearly didn't listen to my answer) and I was sent on my way to read about it all instead. Came away quite stressed and upset, not reassured or ready for this baby. Probably hormones so just indulge me!!

Also the midwife that was there was a real mumbler and didn't make a lot of sense. On the way in from the waiting room to the consultant she asked if I had a busy day ahead.
"No, not especially"
"Oh so you have time......." (Long pause) "for this?"
"Um, yes?" (I'm here, aren't I?)
"Oh right" (watches me in silence as we walk down the corridor). "Here we are." (Waves a hand towards a doorway and walks past it. I look in to find someone vacuuming. Look back at her and she's now stopped by the next room so follow on only to find she then carries on to another room entirely.)
"Someone's vacuuming in there"

I know. I saw. But since the consultant was in the last room, it wasn't like I was going to be going into that one instead right? I feel like I came away from our trip down the corridor completely perplexed.

Oh dear @Jenfur sorry it wasn't reassuring. Have to say my Surrey consultant was a bit like that.... Flaky to say the least. Here the treatment has been nothing but fantastic.

If you have a community midwife can you give her a call to book in to talk to her about your concerns. Great news that baby is a good size (I think 2 growth scans is normal to check they are still growing anyway in most places) but hopefully she might be able to talk through the other bits and pieces for you?

Thanks @SquirtlesMumAgain I'm seeing my usual midwife on Tuesday anyway so will ask her any questions I have. I guess it just felt like a pain to have to go to the hospital (especially since DH had to take time off work to look after DS) for what felt like nothing to be achieved. I'll read my leaflets and just be glad I don't have to see the consultant again.

@jenfur sounds crap! Just to say we were told in our breastfeeding class we could start expressing from 36 but I won’t start until next week and i’m 38 weeks now. Other tips include-sex, curry, pineapple, raspberry leaf tea, clary sage oil, bouncing on birth ball, being as relaxed and as active as possible. No real proof or research on any of them though really. X

Glad I'm not the only one having a wobble.
I had a major nesting spree today and have literally cleaned the house top to bottom. My mum came round with fish and chips for lunch, took one look at my crazed cleaning lady face and offered to help bless her.
DH and my dad are building up the cot tomorrow so fingers crossed after this weekend we'll be all ready!
I have slightly overdone it though. My hip is agony. ☹️

I do love all the conflicting advice, especially the relax and be active.... Basically so many things to try but no-one is going to put any poor pregnant lady through the hope and disappointment of scientifically testing it. Can you imagine how harsh finding out you were in the control group would be!

@Hermagsjesty I had that in my first pregnancy (though swab was negative this time). I'm having the antibiotics anyway just to be on the safe side as things can change and I'm a known carrier. @SquirtlesMumAgain I was tested last time so they repeated the test this time. I think it's routine in my LHB.

@melissa112 nausea has returned for me too. Mind you I've been prescribed amoxicillin for a uti so that could be causing it too.

@squirtlesmumagain I actually want to see someone try now! Haha. I suppose they mean go for a ‘nice walk’ rather than cleaning your oven I actually started cleaning mine at 11pm last night after seeing a tip to use a dishwasher tablet. It didn’t work, might say more about it over than the tip . . .

I’ve had a good cry after DH got stressed and angry (not at me but I still don’t like it). We made up and I’ve waddled around Ikea with him. Going to have a nap now!

*about my oven

UGH I NEED A VENT!

Basically, my close friend is getting married mid May and I'm a bridesmaid alongside our other close friend.

We are organising hen activities for her and have agreed an afternoon tea at a posh hotel on 4th May which I will take baby to as I am planning on BF. The other bridesmaid is pushing me to commit to a day out on 27th April in our nearest city (45 minutes away) despite the fact I've said I can't commit to that as don't know how I'll be feeling/recovered etc( my EDD is late March so could be overdue into April). I've said this 3 times before and she's still now messaging me asking me.. again I've said 'I can't commit to that' and she's still pushing it.

How to I politely tell her that I don't know how I'll feel after pushing a baby out of my vagina/having one cut out of my tummy 3/4 weeks previous??

I am trying to make plans for my friend who is getting married, we are having the afternoon tea and a pamper and takeaway evening the following weekend at my house!

Sorry to be negative on the thread but really need a moan. Don't feel like I'm being unreasonable and feel like her pushing this when I'm so bloody pregnant is plain rude!

Sorry that so many have the return of nausea or other symptoms. I wonder why that is? Do hormones increase around now? As well as snoring like a prize pig I also now drool every time i go to sleep. Woke up from a nap just now really confused about my wet face

@CaseofEllen sorry to hear your dog still isn't well, is she eating any better? Just seen your other post, you're not being unreasonable at all, especially as you have agreed to the other events. As you say, baby could be only a few weeks old by that point. If you're breastfeeding too you'll need to work round that. Sorry I have no advice other than to say that you'll let them know nearer to the time but to make the plans anyway?

@Jenfur that sounds so frustrating. Sorry you didn't get the answers to your questions. I hope your appt on Tuesday will give you more information. I hadn't heard about expressing as a way to bring in labour but I'll have a look. I'm glad the scans looked ok though

@AssumeItWasSomethingClever oh bless you, you sound like you're pretty much ready after your spree! Fish and chips is a nice treat after all that. Hmm could definitely eat some chippy chips!

@Gronk27 oh dear, that's a shame about the oven!! Not a good time of day for it not to work! Your description of waddling round IKEA made me laugh. The last time I went there I had to sit down a surprising number of times, it's so big! Had to self medicate with a can of coke and an amazing Daim bar chocolate thing at the cafe.

Wonder what counts as a long walk? These days I class walking round the supermarket as an achievement!

@CaseofEllen maybe you should be blunt with her. IME it's the only way to get through to some people. You don't have to be rude and could make a joke out of it if you're worried about it. But I definitely think if you say pretty much what you just did on this post she'd get the message and drop it!

Sorry she isn't listening @caseofEllen! Obviously doesn't know, or remember, how horrible it feels being in limbo!
Is there something she needs you to commit to? Can't they go without you if you aren't up to it (not that it's nice missing out, but trust me if you want to rest you won't care!)

@Gronk27 thank you for the chuckle about the oven. Our oven is horrific but been a few bigger things to think about at the moment - think I'll get someone in to do it once baby is here and a bit bigger!

My mum has just been to see me in hospital and brought more supplies which is nice. Just good to have some company for a bit.

I am so torn about being discharged and going home vs staying and being able to keep the nebuliser up and therefore staying on the mend. My poor body is needing to rest for definite either way and not sure DS would be particularly on board with that having not had mummy around for 2 days now!

@melissa112 I'm with you on the snoring front. I never snore but DH has moaned every morning that I've kept him up with my "wind in a drainpipe snoring ". I also got up in the middle of the night to wee but ended up letting out a massive elephant fart mid flow which also apparently woke him up. Poor bloke, I don't think we'll be having a second baby after this pregnancy 😂

@melissa112 @AssumeItWasSomethingClever @SquirtlesMumAgain thanks! Nice to know I'm not being totally unreasonable.. I did say that I can't commit so just book the meal, which is part of an all day thing, for the rest and I will see nearer the time. Her reply 'Can't you just come to the meal at least?' So I had to use the 'not sure how I'll feel after pushing a baby out my fanny' line 😳

@melissa112 she is eating a diet of chicken and plain scrambled egg. Vet said to do this for a week and she seems a bit perkier although she was sick again this morning. Think it was a one off though as hasn't happened since and has actually been outside for a play in the garden this evening so I'm hoping things are getting back to normal for her 🤞🏼 xx