Due in December 07- we're almost halfway there!! NEW THREAD

[Caz10]

Hope this works....! Here's hoping July is the month for

• proper bumps not fat looking tummies
• feeling them move!

The cottage competition that was on the home page.

JARM has won it!

buzzy, I posted that link on Zoe Williams' article further down this thread, or maybe on the older thread - it's very very interesting reading isn't it? I know she's not a scientist - she's a pregnant journalist - but much of what she said i found very sensible, esp the stuff relating to listeria.

i'm having my waxing done today in preparation for an afternoon's pampering with my mum tomorrow! We're having luxury facials, manicures and pedicures, and mum's having a full body massage. There's a pool and all the usual whatnot there too so i'm going to make the most of my afternoon

Oh wow PB, sounds fab.

Enjoy

skidaddle you're right - my guilt was mainly based in worry about what others would say to me if they saw me slurping a cocktail from a straw with a pregnant bump in front of me, rather than anxiety about what one and half margaritas would do to my baby. in my last pregnancy i did drink red wine occasionally (usually one glass once or twice a week) and after a while i became cagey about who i told this to after being jumped on a couple of times (by women).

Have got to jump in the shower - dh thinks i'm getting ready and will shout if he knows i'm on here

Have a nice time peanut.
Has anyone out there started feeling really sensitive to little things?
I don't know why, this morning I feel like crying, because my DD didn't kiss me when I left for work, she was too busy watching Nick Jr...

yes, motherofZ, I find myself tearing up at the least provocation- anyone see 'house' last week? They did an operation on a 21 week old foetus whilst it was in the womb and this tiny little hand came out and grabbed house's finger!

I had my 20 week scan yesertday and already the baby is like me. A little fat but short (and most importantly a small head - phew!).

Then we went to see Spamalot - it was brilliant! So funny! My poor dad was left in charge! WE also went to the Haywood to see the Antony Gormley exhibition - it was really good so speaking someone who is very ignorant about aert, espeically modern art.

Morning ladies,

I dot think about what I would miss if I just didnt log on for one day this is completely addictive.

Just checking in dont have much to say at the moment, expect that i am emotional too. Got really angry with people pushing me to get on the bus yesterday nearly smacked someone over the head and said cant you see i am preg... also one guy stood right next to me smoking a fag so i pushed my belly out really far and kept coughing and giving him dirty looks - i am quite nasty when it comes to be pregnant, have such a short fuse.

cazzybabs - congrats on the scan, by the time i get mine everyone will have moved on.

Oops sorry peanut butter must have missed that. It was the talk about Mt Whippy that triggered me to remember it.

Got my scan appointment today - Wed 1 Aug so have to wait 2 whole weeks more! I know that's comparatively early (I will be 19+5) but still seems a lifetime.

Left letters for 2 bosses at work today as I scuttled out the door. Had them sitting on my desk the whole day taunting me and I'm sure I caught people looking a my tunny! Anyway got a text from 1 of them later to say congrats. Am quite relieved now its kind of out in the open. Will tell other team members tomorrow.

Almost fainted today at a presentation. Would have been mighty embarassing - approx 50 people present. Room got so stuffy in the end had to get up and push my way out from the middle of a row to leave before I keeled over. Fainted once in a video shop which was overheater - that WAS embarrassing!

lol at mix mama - we're the complete opposites - I want just want to have a good cry and you're a walking timebomb

totally agree this mumsnet is so addictive - supposed to be number crunching instead.....

hope you're ok now buzzy

Hi
I had my 20 week scan yesterday too and everything was fine. Big relief. Hope everyone ok can't write more as have tantruming toddler on lap....

Oh and I have to say I have been happily having the odd small glass of wine once every 10 days or so and not ashamed to admit it. I absolutely agree with what you say about the current mentality that thousands of women are being shamed into not drinking in some sort of attempt to stop the one or two who go too far. I think its appalling the way pregnant women are all treated as ignoramouses who can't read or go onto the internet for themselves. One of the downsides about "coming out" about my pregnancy will be that I will either have to stop having that small glass in public (and I don't tend to drink on my own at any time) or face the disapproving looks.
I feel the same way about BF - the current approach seems to be to try and shame women into BF rather than providing loads of information and support and letting them make their own choices.
I'm seriously thinking of lobbying politicians here because I feel badly let down by the system-wide mentality that treats pregnant women like second class citizens.
Sorry rant over!!

MotherofZ - did they estimate weight. My baby weighs 337g.

Shit - I meant claraq (sorry) - or anyone else who has had their 20 week scan.

BTW I have found ym shoe - after 3 days of looking for them damn thing.

yes I'm fine now MotherofZ - as soon as I got out I sat down and put leg between legs and was right as rain in a couple of mins. Bit scary tho at the time! Actually was a women's networking function at work so I'm sure I would've got plenty of sympathy

Defo agree buzzybee everywhere i went I was made to feel so guilty that I wasnt breastfeeding. when i started weaning someone actually had the audacity to ask me if i was insisting on preparing all his food rather than jar food because i was guilty for not BF and wanted to make up for it. I was mortified.

cazzy - toddler now off lap - no, she didn't say anything about weight. Didn't say very much at all really, just that everything was fine, no problems etc. I assume she would have said if it was a particularly large or small baby? Is 337g average? My placenta is at the front which is meant to cushion the kicks; however as I obviously have a very lively baby (he/she kicked and squirmed and bicyled and somersaulted throughout the scan) I am feeling it all the time!
Btw I assume you like us didn't find out sex? I was soooo tempted but am glad we didn't as like the suprise....

No - we didn't find out the sex. Not going to be too surprised if it is another girlie though! Mine was quite active - clearly doesn;t like being squashed! It started out lying on its back so she could check its heart, but the final thing she wanted to do was check the soft markers for Downs syndromw (the back of the neck) and it would not move from its back. We had to go for a walk and a trip to the cafe and after 40 minutes it had moved.

mixedmama at that comment - i completely agree with you and buzzybee even though I did manage to bf. It is hard enough struggling with bf-ing and taking the decision to bottle feed without everyone around you making you feel guilty for it. Of course it is good to encourage women to bf but I think there is too much pressure on women who try but then don't continue. At the end of the day your baby will be fine with formula and there are a lot more important things than what kind of milk your baby gets for 6 months (e.g. that s/he is loved and made to feel secure etc).

Cazzy & Claraq - lovely to hear your scans went well today. DP called me from Japan, dont know if anyone heard about earthquake there but he said even in tokyo was pretty frightening. They had an aftershock too and then 2 more quakes in the night.

Had haircut from graduation tomorrow and bought more clothes really want a pair of maternity jeans but they are all too darn long. Might order some from DP.

I always think that as long as you give bf a go, you should never feel guilty if it doesn't work out. My SIL had real problems bf'ing, she just wasn't producing enough milk. But she kept perservering and was up half the night trying to feed until the baby was losing so much weight she had to give in and give her some formula. I think she feels and I feel that if there hadn't been this guilt around not breastfeeding she would have done this a lot sooner and everyone (her, the baby, my brother) would have been a lot happier.

I have been in an earthquake before and it is sooo scary - did anyone see Victoria beckhams doc last night -w why i watched it i will never know... she was laughing at the concept of earthquakes - found myself hoping she has to experience it in LA and that is just nasty.

Yeah sometimes it just does make people happier to give up BF and that should be respected. I actually went to a breastfeeding group and was told off so badly by the advisor for mixed feeding that i went home cried and gave up the same day. She used to walk up to people feeding their babies at the clinic and just say why arent you breastfeeding.

motherofz
completely understand about feeling emotional about things, had a few posts in pregnancy when feeling very low late at night, sat here bawling my eyes out thinking noone loves me.

also doesnt help that dd1 has her graduation from infant school(as she starts juniors in september), and its dd2 5th birthday today cant believe she is 5 alredy shes my baby, (well for now) its gone so quick, and my life has changed so much in the last 5 yrs. oh god will start bawling again now