Due in December 07- we're almost halfway there!! NEW THREAD

[Caz10]

Hope this works....! Here's hoping July is the month for

• proper bumps not fat looking tummies
• feeling them move!

Oh yikes it is so complicated isn't it? We are north of the border too beanstermummy and apparently DH's surname (which LO will prob take, I didn't change mine) is actually Irish, any of the Scottishy names I like sound a bit overkill with his surname. However the other ones I like, more traditional "englishy" ones don't match it! Groan! Combine that with the fatc that I am a teacher and can think of an unlikeable child for just about every name under the sun....Bump may well just be christened Bump!!

fact - I shouldn't really say I'm a teacher and make a spelling mistake in the same sentence!!

DH refuses to have any names that are not english! Shame really, as i am english but was brought up in scotland and i really like some scottish names.

ive been thinking about names since the moment i found out but me and dp cannot agree on anything, and i also get the blunt and boring straight no.

but these are my ideas and if he cant come up with anything it will just have to be my choice, its already been made very clear that lo will have my surname as me and dc all reverted back to maiden in name(dd1 already had my name officially) he wasnt too impressed but its not like he has made the effort to get divorced never mind marrying me, (me and dd1 seperated when pregnant so only seemed right that she had my name)me and dd2 dad were married so she had his name along withme and him and changing dds just by usuage, but since ive been divorced i changed it all back to my maiden name,and want all my children to have same name, so my lo wont be having any other, what do you think ? do you think its ing my unfair on dp? he keeps moaning about it but i aint changing my mind unless he gets divorced i might think about it (but that aint going to happen)

anyway my list loks like this

Amelie- dp no
Amelia- dp no
Emilie- dp no
Rhianna- dp possible

Hayden(not sure on spelling)-dp no
aidan-dp possible
curtis-dp no
kye-dp says ok but im not keen

I like what someone wrote this morning about partners/fathers agreeing to the mother's name request as she has done all the hard labour work.
My baby's father doens't like my favourite names, but i'm sure i will stick to them, and will make sure he sees all the bloody and disgussting stuff that comes out.
I've got a boy's and girls name ready and love them.
I woke up feeling stressed and in strange mood. So had to give myself a talking to. Think a spot of loneliness has hit me, which has been hard to swallow as i never get lonely as i am quite a solitary person.
Has anyone been watching Time of Your Life on Monday nights? I think the ending where she does a voiceover talking about Love sort of stuck in my head.
I've sort of forgotten about romantic love, been long time i was in love with anyone and i think i haven't thought about it for ages.
Anyway, a really nice guy who i have liked for a little while, but only met as i'd just conceived, sent me a congratulatory email about being preg and was so brilliant about it and understanding that i am hoping to get a date next year. At same time tho would be equally happy for him if he met someone nice.

sorry, i meant the bloody and disgusting goo that i assume will come out of my ladybits, as well as the baby!

I will make sure he stays up my end tho, don't want any men apart from medical people seeing my bits!

Oh I am hoping i don't poo myself too! Ewwwww Hopefully not all women do that. I can't imagine anything worse, i am self conscious much of the time so that sounds a nightmare...

I remember being in labour with DD and I had this huge pressure on my bowels and for about 3 hrs all I kept screaming was 'I'm going to poo myslef'. DH was convinced the whole maternity ward heard!!!
(I didn't by the way!!!)

DH let me pick DD name - he was with me the whole way thought and after seeing me go through all that hard work - I could have the honour!! (Actually we had three girls name that we liked so i just picked one of them).

by the way dodgy stomach gone thank goodness, saw m/w this morning as I was getting worked up about it and recommended I stick to light food and flat ginger beer to clear my system out.

By the way heard the heartbeat today, so amazing!!!!!!

motherofZ - fantastic that you heard heartbeat. I have antenatal next week and hoping ot hear lo then.

aww motherofz so sweet wish i could hear my lo's hb

i just grassed my exH to benift fraud hotline, feels great hope he gets lots of grief.

after all that worrying lo not stopped jumping around all morning, its lovely to feel it and know everything is alright

grassed your ex to benefit fraud????
lol - sounds crazy!!!!

Suey - how about a compromise on something English/Scottish like Fiona? Or an English spelling of a Scottish name?

Have no idea on names - top boy's name for us last time was Samuel, never really sure if I liked it or not, glad she was a girl as that was a definite name. I don't like Samuel now anyway! I like Sam, not Samuel, I know I could just use the short form as the official name but not sure. I quite fancy a "posh" name - not silly-posh like Peregrine or Tarquin, but something like Oscar. DH just raised his eyebrows... If it's a boy, we have to come up with 3 first names, as then if he plays cricket/rugby for England 3 initials sounds better (apparently)! Have used my favourite pretty girls' names so any conversation now is going along the lines of Blodwen (no offence meant to anyone Welsh but it's a lumpy-sounding name!) or similar daft names such as "if Gwyneth had Apple we'll have Banana!" Hmm, I baptise this child Banana Custard Trifle...

why should they get away with it, claiming hes sick/ill, nowt wrong with him, he running a business from his address and she claiming she lives on her own,

the stupid job centre fault they shouldnt send me all her paper work saying she claiming as a single parent, idiots

not that im bitter or anything

Well done Mad4girls!

but why should they get to live the life of riley they got money coming out their ears they live as a couple he gets sick pay she get single parent alowance she gets extra coz she claims ds2 had adhd (which is crap he just spolit) she has had another kid with him(my exH) along with her 2 sons (with her husband my dp)

her mum died so shes got her sister now too (which isnt really her sister actuly her niece her sister had her at 14 but was bought up as her mums IYKWIM) so she gets gurdian alowance chid benefit child tax for her as well as her own kids, they pay her rent and concil tax, shes saying she living alone when she lives with my ex who not only claiming incapacity etc hes running his own online business, so there rolling in it

while dp struggles to pay his rent etc from his crap job (bout £700 A MONTH) hence the reason i live in house across the road coz we cant afford to live together!!

phew sorrry bout that rant over just really annoys me they can afford to run 2 cars and drive here there and anywhere and we can barely afford a day out at the zoo never mind a car

good plan, housemum.
Anyone else NOT finding out the sex?

Hee hee neuro, 'fraid to tell you I think almost everyone poos during labour - only those that happen to have an enpty bowel don't - that's what my mw told me anyway. Think I did (not sure) but I can promise you I didn't give a sh*t at the time (ha ha), nor even really noticed...dp must have seen too (never quite plucked up the courage to ask!)

Oh I know, names names names.... like many of you, got girl's name sorted, boys no idea.. keep going on and off them. Really wanted an Irish name as dp is Irish but none of them are quite right...

Glad you're feeling better motherofz

jarm - congrats on 20wk scan

Nbg - LOVE the name Esme - but don't worry I won't nick it

beanstermum - at eyelid

suey2 - no think we are going to find out the sex so we can tell dd

BTW can you do the suck your tummy in exercises in any position, e.g. sitting at your desk, lying on your back? (Sorry if you've already said..)

No we're not going to find out the sex, didn't last time even though had 20 week scan in the US where apparently everyone does so had to keep reminding them not to tell us.

Want a suprise on the day - will be something more to look forward to and perhaps help mask the terror?

lol skidaddle

Have decided if thats the one I want I'm not going to budge on it and dh will have to stick it in his pipe and smoke it.

Yes skidaddle, you can suck it in in any position.
My pal at work deliberately didn't eat a big meal because she was terrified about pooing- soon regretted it though, as she went ketotic and had to get out of the v comfy birthing pool! A good thing to remember methinks!

Thanks guys.

Yeah, we have chosen Emma for a girl and James for a boy, so we shall see!

Am hoping for a boy, but I love the name Emma, so will be happy either way!

Mad4girls - I think you totally did the right thing. We have a real problem in this country with the benefits system and 'some' people being out get whatever they can rather than thinking 'i care about the country's future' or 'this is immoral'. Especially as single parents (mums and dads) get such a hard time. I know someone who claims housing benefit and income support but who's bf lives with her! And she moans about her life, yet has spent her entire life on benefits doing cash in hand work. She moans that life is so unfair, that's she's stressed a lot. I mean, wtf! IF i should find myself in a really terribly financial situation, and believe me i am far from well off, i would at least attempt to do the 16 hour a week thing as i would feel i was contributing.
But, there's no point getting stressed about it as if you want to make change or the world a better place, i think you just have to do the right thing yourself.
Sorry, i could rant and rant and rant about benefits and fraud and how lazy a lot of peoeple have become.
Also, i really think that if you live on benefits you should just go on breeding. If you don't have a job, then why should everyone else pay for 6 kids?
If you've never worked, i think something like a 2 child policy should come into effect.
I'll stop now. I quite understand the difference between people that really need benefits and the ones that don't.
Oh god i hope i don't poo myself on the day.

Hi, I've just changed my name. I was BornToBeAPrincess. Don't really get chance to post much, dd2 has just started cruising (is that the right word) round the furniture and dd1s been a little madam. Had to get my essay in for my OU course so been dead busy.
And I've just booked my wedding for the 31st of August so got all that to arrange now.
And I'm still off work with my broken coccyx.

Anyway, I've got my 20 week scan on Monday. I tell everyone I don't mind what it is but secretly I'd LOVE a boy Its been moving round loads and I have a noticeable bump now.
If its a girl we both like Hannah and Lauren is nice too. We have an Ellie and a Sophie so didn't really want another ending in 'ie' or 'y'. Boys, we can't agree, think Harvey is the front runner.

Mad4girls, I think what you've done is fantastic. People shouldn't cheat the system, theres no excuse.

Skidaddle you're absolutely right, the baby's head squashes the bowel so anything in it gets expelled.