June 2019 - Part 6!

[Kescilly]

Welcome to the middle of the second trimester, ladies! Apologies if anyone has been left off the list!

Kescilly, 1st baby, due May 29th

rollerskaterdata, 2nd baby, due 30th May

Sassehmonsta, 2nd baby, due 31st May

Torsz, 1st baby, due 31st May

PeachPotato, DC2, due 2nd June

Fee1234, 1st baby, due 3rd June

Stellarfox, 1st baby, due 4th June

Fiona1619, DC2, due 4th June

Ksjourney, DC2, due 5th June

Mummytomollyandbean, due 6th June

MadeInCornwallx3, DC 3, due 7th June

SK17, DC1, due 7th June

ExcitedMama, DC2, due 8th June

Fabuluce, DC2, due 9th June

Silversister, DC1, due 9th June

Chocomalt, DC2, due 9th June

annihall, DC1, due 10th June

lstef, DC1+2!, due 10th June

Bimbabo, 1st baby, due 11th June

Diamondbutterfy, DC3, due 11th June

Heebyjeeby99, DC1, due 11th June

CrazyCowLady, DC1, due 11th June

KoalasAteMyHomework, DC2, due 12th June

Toasterstrudle, DC2, due 13th June

Napssavelives, dc3, due 14th June

Kimbishop86, dc2, due 14th June

Toomanyflatwhites, dc2, due 14th June

Blondcat, dc1, due 14th June

emily1511, 1st baby, DD 16th June

hexagon01, DC2, due 16th June

R4ch4el12, 1st baby, due 17th June

HoneyPea, 1st baby, due 18th June

2countries1bump, 1st baby (girl), due 19th June

Spargle, 1st baby, due 19th June

Curlypasta, dc3, due 20th June

Holly257, DC3, due 21st June

WeeBean, 1st baby, due 21st June

Bigonesmallone3, DC3, due 22nd June

Pigriver, DC2, due 22nd June

mindthechaos, DC3, due 24th June

Socktastic, DC2, due 24th June

Reastie, DC2, due 24th June

thedocisin, DC2, due 24th June

MauisLeftNipple, DC4, due 24th June

LauralovesLuke, DC1, due 25th June

Coastergirl, 2nd baby, due 26th June.

JBCG 1st baby, due 28th June

@Kescilly Palmed off as expected...it's too early to be worried about no movement. The anterior placenta could stop if for another 3 weeks....

I guess that should help but it doesn't. Glad I ordered the doppler now.

@Kescilly I don't know what the stats are but I think the potential for long lasting damage from birth is pretty low in terms of percentages...obviously it does happen but please try not to worry about these things when the odds are absolutely in favour of you having a healthy mum and healthy baby at the end of the day.
@Heebyjeeby99 sorry you didn't get the reassurance you were hoping for, I have an anterior placenta this time too and can't believe how little I can feel compared to last time! I was told not to worry before 24 weeks (and maybe that advice changes when it's anterior as I only just found that out). Easier said than done I know!

I am finding it hard to believe that I'm now 20 weeks and halfway through this pregnancy 😳 I think I'm almost as much in denial (maybe more??) than I was with DD! I do suddenly feel very pregnant though with lots of aches and pains and major mood swings, I need to try and learn my limits as I keep overdoing it at the weekend and now I can hardly walk again.

@Heebyjeeby99 I don't have a bump. I'm on number 2! Due 13th June. My friend didn't get a bump until 28 weeks with her first! Depends on where baby is lying too, if it's position is back to back against your spine then there's not as pronounced a bump. Baby is still small enough to be turning and spinning lots which is why sometimes you might see it and sometimes not. I'm starting to get a bit of a bump at night after a big dinner - think the bloating pushes it all to the front! Try not to stress

Is it bad that my birth plan is "you're the professionals, you tell me what you think I need to get this done as safely and easily as possible?"

@heeby that's a bit rubbish but at least they weren't worried

@Heyha that sounds like a pretty sensible birth plan to me! I think the reason I felt so bad after my first birth was that I was hoping for, and I suppose expecting, a particular type of birth, which I absolutely did not get, for medical reasons. When I think about it objectively, it was fine. It is what it is, and I know it’s a cliche but there’s a reason lots of us do it again. Because it’s so worth it!

@Heebyjeeby99 If it makes you feel better, I don't have a bump and I just look like I've had a big meal at the most. I'm also still in all my normal clothes and can quite happily get my jeans done up. I was a size 8/10 before I got pregnant, and didn't carry weight on my middle at all, so I'm not sure where the baby's hiding...

Also, I can only feel him moving about at night. Regularly go the whole day without feeling anything that could be clearly be identified as baby movements.

Thanks @toomanyflatwhites, I’m trying to keep that in mind.

Sorry they palmed you off @Heebyjeeby99. I hope you feel some movement soon!

I know I’ve been a bit gloomy, so here’s something happier I was thinking about today. One of my best friends from college is actually my SIL now, that’s how she met my brother. They already have a little girl and now we are going to, less than two years apart. When we first met we’d never have imagined we’d have two little girls that were going to be cousins!

@stellarfox I've been having back and hip pain for weeks now. I do a LOT of walking with DS and find its worse then. Kescilly has basically already posted the advice I was going to - try sleeping with a pillow between your legs. Not sure if you have a desk/office job but if so try taking a movement break every now and then. With DS my work did a risk assessment when I was pregnant and made sure I had a stool formy feet etc so if you are sat down a lot make sure its with good posture and your chair is the right height etc.
@Heyha thats kind of what my birth plan ended up being in the end last time haha! Whilst I think having a really fixated view on how you want it to go can be quite detrimental to your mental health if things don't go to plan, I also think you need some rough idea. Not a plan as such, but worth knowing the pros and cons of various drugs/interventions. My local birth centre will only give gas and air if you ask for it for example (they did recommend a warm bath when I was there though which was nice). I totally forgot to ask last time round which was a mistake haha!
I think my birth "plan" this time will be eat more and get my husband to remind me to move and keep active. No TENS machine this time (works for some, I think it stressed me out last time), but have warm baths (which I didn't do for ages last time as I am not a "bath" person) and use the gym ball with breathintlg techniques etc. Labour at the birth centre if they let me, pref with just gas and air. No pethidine this time for me (didn't get on with it personally and was never in my original plan last time but needs must sometimes). Epidural if necessary (people will have very different views on whether its ever necessary but for me last time I honestly think it was) and C Section as last resort if needed for the baby/risk to our lives (again, no issue with people having sections. I just have a massive phobia of hospitals and a few previous issues so this isn't a great option for me). Avoid forceps/suction unless its only used like last time to guide baby a bit at the end. Oh and during labour to stand up for myself more and watch some films to distract myself!

I’m having a girl!!! I can’t quite believe it, I was sure it was another boy! All healthy at the scan. I’m on cloud nine! Another stat for you @Kescilly

@hexagon01 congrats on your girl!

Been a bit of a silent observer here recently, but I've enjoyed reading about everyone's previous birth experiences.

Struggling a bit with sleeping these days, keep getting hip and ligament pain. I actually found my pregnancy pillow was starting to annoy me and now I sleep with an old dressing gown scrunched up between my legs!

Started getting bits of baby's room ready.. by that I mean we've put a shelf up, and ordered a blackout roller blind. No idea how I'm going to decorate it yet.

@hexagon01 congrats!! What a relief to have a healthy scan.

I’m not ignoring people who have sent additional stats, I just haven’t updated the list in the past day or two. Still under the weather here and frustrated with the fact that no medicine is safe!

@fee1234 use whatever works! Sorry that you’re struggling with pain though. You’ve already made more progress on the room than we have. It’s currently still my sewing room!

May I ask where you got your roller blind from? I don’t have any blinds in that room and was thinking of ordering one as long as it’s child safe.

Yes @koalas I know what you mean- I've had gas and air for a sports injury before and didn't really like it but not ruling it out completely. I'll need to ask about painkillers as I react to codeine so will have to avoid anything in that family but that in turn might affect whether I'm on the birthing unit or the ward (the unit looks lovely though!). Not against epidural if recommended but developing a bit of a phobia of forceps/ventouse from too much reading on here!

I like the idea of thinking about non-medical stuff as part of the plan, I think me and DP need to talk about that as well. All getting a bit real now isn't it!

Oh and congrats @hexagon 🙂

Congrats on the scan! @fee1234 - in my last pregnancy my midwife advised me to sleep on top of a duvet as a sort of extra thick mattress topper, can't recommend enough. I slept on top of a doubled over duvet and had one on top too!

@Kescilly I ordered the blind from Shades blinds, they came out and measured and showed me samples. They are also including the child friendly cords, apparently they automatically snap if weight is dropped in them (if baby or toddler was to get strangled in it). It's quite a long window and was £40 in the sale, which includes fitting. They are quite good to haggle with if you say you are on a budget which is what we did!

@hexagon01 congrats on your scan!

Last night I had a terrible burning sensation in my throat at bedtime, ate too much for dinner then had a satsuma afterwards and it just wrecked me! Spent half the night awake and now seem to have a cold that's come from nowhere, and today because of tiredness and serious pain when I walk, I've been at home doing bugger all resting instead of using my annual leave for a nice day out with DP and his parents as planned - and have sneezed twice and pee came out. Gahhh! I'm only 20 weeks FFS, feel like I'm suddenly falling apart!!!

@toomanyflatwhites I've had to invest in some tena lady for the first time in my life!

@toomanyflatwhites the throat thing sounds like a heartburn consequence. I think that I’m getting it quite a lot, but it’s mostly very mild so I rarely notice it. But when I eat something spicy/acidic, it is apparent that it has been happening!

In these circumstances, I take a Gaviscon double action tablet or two. They taste quite nice, and the double action bit seems to help to keep everything more comfortable

@fee1234 have left the sofa to venture out for a coffee and will be buying some while I'm out!!

And @Spargle Yep I think so too, I had indigestion a lot in the first trimester but was horrified to discover I had no tablets in the house last night, will be putting that right today too!!
I don't remember any of this stuff happening so early on with DD (and the peeing - not at all!) so am feeling a bit indignant...but mostly just feeling tired...!

Wowzers, this baby is tap dancing to the max today - even though my bump has gone flat again.

It’s like my tummy muscles are desperately hanging on, not ready to wave the white flag yet but baby is having other ideas.

Congrats on the scan and having a girl @hexagon01
My scan is end of next week when I'll be 22w+1. Also got the cardiac scan then. Not finding out the sex but looking forward to having the scan now.
I have been so preoccupied with all the appts for DS that I have barely thought about the pregnancy other than keeping up with this thread! I have so much to sort out!

Re heartburn I was literally drinking gaviscon by the bottle by the end of pg with dd.

Think I’m finally succumbing to dds nasty virus, have been coughing and spluttering and have that tickle in my throat. Not looking forward to the lack of drugs!

Kescilly I’ve got rollerblinds from Homebase and John Lewis before, both have been fine with no probs. I’m pretty certain if they’re not the right size most of them you can cut to size. I’ve also had fabric samples from blinds 2 go website which seem good and have lots of fabric options but never needed out buying one (we still need to buy one for the kitchen!).

Thank you for all your lovely well-wishes.

I am not looking forward to the heartburn again, my god. I was also caning bottles of gaviacon by the end. I remember the relief of not being pregnant anymore (no heartburn, no PGP, sleeping on my back) so very vividly.

It's a boy!

Honestly shocked as I genuinely thought I was having a girl this time round. This is a completely different pregnancy!!! This boy is going to be trouble - I can just tell already!

Kinda lamenting the little girl who will never be though with all her pretty dresses.

Congrats @socktastic and @hexagon01!

I had my consultant appt and they are happy to plan for an ELCS and if I go into spontaneous labour before the ELCS then I'll have a VBAC. PHEW! will book the CS at my next consultant appt at 32 weeks. Very pleased with this and no argument had. Hurrah!