June 2019 - Part 6!

[Kescilly]

Welcome to the middle of the second trimester, ladies! Apologies if anyone has been left off the list!

Kescilly, 1st baby, due May 29th

rollerskaterdata, 2nd baby, due 30th May

Sassehmonsta, 2nd baby, due 31st May

Torsz, 1st baby, due 31st May

PeachPotato, DC2, due 2nd June

Fee1234, 1st baby, due 3rd June

Stellarfox, 1st baby, due 4th June

Fiona1619, DC2, due 4th June

Ksjourney, DC2, due 5th June

Mummytomollyandbean, due 6th June

MadeInCornwallx3, DC 3, due 7th June

SK17, DC1, due 7th June

ExcitedMama, DC2, due 8th June

Fabuluce, DC2, due 9th June

Silversister, DC1, due 9th June

Chocomalt, DC2, due 9th June

annihall, DC1, due 10th June

lstef, DC1+2!, due 10th June

Bimbabo, 1st baby, due 11th June

Diamondbutterfy, DC3, due 11th June

Heebyjeeby99, DC1, due 11th June

CrazyCowLady, DC1, due 11th June

KoalasAteMyHomework, DC2, due 12th June

Toasterstrudle, DC2, due 13th June

Napssavelives, dc3, due 14th June

Kimbishop86, dc2, due 14th June

Toomanyflatwhites, dc2, due 14th June

Blondcat, dc1, due 14th June

emily1511, 1st baby, DD 16th June

hexagon01, DC2, due 16th June

R4ch4el12, 1st baby, due 17th June

HoneyPea, 1st baby, due 18th June

2countries1bump, 1st baby (girl), due 19th June

Spargle, 1st baby, due 19th June

Curlypasta, dc3, due 20th June

Holly257, DC3, due 21st June

WeeBean, 1st baby, due 21st June

Bigonesmallone3, DC3, due 22nd June

Pigriver, DC2, due 22nd June

mindthechaos, DC3, due 24th June

Socktastic, DC2, due 24th June

Reastie, DC2, due 24th June

thedocisin, DC2, due 24th June

MauisLeftNipple, DC4, due 24th June

LauralovesLuke, DC1, due 25th June

Coastergirl, 2nd baby, due 26th June.

JBCG 1st baby, due 28th June

Naps sorry to hear you are having such a tough time. Can your doctor refer you for some free counselling? Are you able to arrange to split childcare with their dad to ease pressure off from yourself? Could he take the children for a few days over half term instead so you can have some time to yourself? He’s still got to pull his weight even if you’re not together and he should care about your mental health particularly if you are the primary caregiver to your children!

How’s everyone feeling generally? My back is so painful at the moment! I’m trying to work from home a bit more and avoid driving as that seems to make it worse. I’ve started pregnancy yoga now so hoping that will help!

I have to echo what @stellarfox is saying - he’s not absented himself from being a parent; sadly just a husband. I’m sure your head hurts enough but do NOT let him desert his responsibilities; even individuals with depression manage family life, and working together will work to both of your advantages, even if your heart is breaking.

Therapy will allow you to manage this life admin side whilst trying to manage your broken heart and pregnancy week by week. My trust has a MH backup team + referral to CBT (if needed). Please grab onto every single thing they offer, and ask for all the help as sometimes there’s several ways and not one midwife necessary knows them all.

In other news; my MH has turned a corner (even if my referral has been lost in the system FFS). I’m gonna try and get back to running a bit again as it is good for me. if I time it right it means I won’t be dead for an entire day. Also forgot I’ve put myself down for a 10K in April. Am actually going to train for it but with half a mind that I may not turn up on the day and that I need to respect my body.

I just need to get out of the headspace the house sale falling through again has put me in. AVANTI.

Paulhollywood I’m so glad to hear about your mh being improved. I have mh nurse apt this week. I’ve had to cancel twice as I’ve been too unwell to go (pg related issues) really hoping I can make it this week. I’m just about keeping myself together but went to gp last week and she wanted to sign me off until maternity leave starts . It would tbh be a good thing (apart from the money situ) I think. Btw are you still having your morning poo nausea or has it gone? I’m still struggling with this intermittently quite badly.

Nap I have been thinking of you, I’m sorry things are somrubbish, agree about asking mw to refer for help and taking everything you can. Thinks are dark now but they will get better in the future. I know it doesn’t feel like there’s any light but you are stronger than you think. Take it a day, hour, or even minute at a time.

Sorry I haven’t been able to keep up that well on here. I’m managing with the fb group but two groups is too much multitasking! Made myself some washable breast pads this morning and hoping they work (I saw some instructions then kind of made it up) but now feeling really sick again and having to lie down . I am counting down every single day until I am no longer pg!

Not much of a pick-me-up for those of you having a crap time but I've just been and got my Emma's Diary stuff as I was in town. I won't post what was in them (#spoilers) but I will say if you are passing a Boots or Argos they are worth picking up but I wouldn't make a special trip out!

@heyha I got mine a few weeks ago and completely agree not worth a special trip. I got the bounty pack from tesco as boots and asda both were out of stock and that was massively disappointing too I was expecting some free nappies from all the pictures of the 20 week bumper pack but none in mine really disappointing...

Naps I'm so sorry you're going through this and can just echo what everyone else said. He's still got responsibilities as a father and in my opinion also towards you, as you're pregnant with his baby - you deserve his support and should try to make that clear to him. It's important he's there for all his kids, they should be his priority, to me it sounds like he's putting himself first what's very sad and wrong!

Does anyone have any tips on how to ease tooth pain, any home remedies? One of my wisdom teeth is infected and I've been in agony all weekend, finding it hard to eat anything and don't sleep properly because of so much pain.
I've been to the dentist today who didn't do anything but prescribing amoxicillin. I am highly allergic to paracetamol (what's been annoying me the whole pregnancy already) so can't take any painkillers.
I've tried rinsing with salt water but that hasn't helped even though I've done it for the last 3 days regularly...

@annihall I had a friend who swore by clove oil for toothache but I'm not 100% it's ok for pregnancy (be worth looking into it though as he hailed it as a miracle cure).

I've never had any mention of bounty, maybe a local thing, but I'll try getting the lack via the app next time I'm in a suitable shop!

@Heyha thanks i will definitely look into that!

Annihall I had recurring infections where my wisdom teeth were poking through and the abs will help within a day or so. Trying to think of what else helped but I think I got through with nurofen, which obv isn’t helpful to you. If it gets really bad maybe ring gp see if they recommend a different pain killer for a short period of time to help you untilnthe abs help.

@Reastie yeah thank you I think I will have to see my gp if it's not better by tomorrow.
I googled and apparently clove oil shouldn't be used when you're pregnant, really hoping those antibiotics will kick in soon. Even looked up baby's teething gel but all says 'not recommended during pregnancy'

Annihall we can’t even use teething gel?! I remember when pg last time I used a special coal tar shampoo for psoriasis and it said on the label something about caution so I rung them up and asked if pg women could use it. I got passed to about 5 different people who all made me feel like I was crazy to ring up to find out if a shampoo was ok in pg (it was a medicated type of one...) and came back that it was fine! Would having ice cubes help numb it a bit? Lots of ice cream maybe .

I’ve gone to bed as feeling really sick —still— . Honestly, June can’t come soon enough.

I feel for you @reastie I still have pockets of nausea...had no tea tonight as I felt so full of food that I feel hasn’t moved since 7pm yesterday evening and that’s made me feel sick. But I feel that mine is a smaller version of yours; a recommended sign off from the GP is pretty unilateral.

What IS helping me though is I’ve pumped up my gym ball and I feel like things are moving along a bit and things feel a lot “looser” down there now.

@annihall I would investigate what clove does that would make it not recommended. I’ve been reading up about essential oils a lot of late and I don’t recall clove being on the “bad” list at all.

Had my 22 week appointment today. Was lovely hearing baby's heartbeat. Been refered to physio for sciatic and hip pain. Got my matb1 form but forgot the baby box form! Idiot! Had a nice long list of things to moan/complain about.

Names question - has anyone found a name growing on them? Dh has suggested a name he seems to really like and although I don't love it, I do like it. The only thing is Ds has a wee friend with that name too so the uniqueness kind of goes. Just wondering if I can grow to love it.

Naps, I'm sure there may be a free counselling service. I know nhs Grampian had one so don't see why other trusts wouldn't. When I went I was given very professional service and all they asked for was a donation. They even added if I couldn't donate then that was fine too.

@annihall - I had a terrible toothache last time I was pregnant and in desperation tried “oil pulling”. It’s basically gargling with oil (coconut or olive) for as long as you can bear (recommended is 15 minites?). Worth a google and I think it did help but maybe the anutibiotics just started working. I feel for you though, it’s total misery!!

You could also get some anbesol liquid over the counter and ask the pharmacist about use in pregnancy. It’s the best for teething babies and very helpful for tooth pain of all sorts!

@PaulHollywoodsSexGut it's not on the bad list but read on various websites it's not recommended in your mouth as it can 'pass through the placenta' to the baby...

@PeachPotato sounds interesting - will give that a go after another sleepless night!
And will probably also swing by Tesco's and ask the pharmacist what I could possibly take. Thank you

Re: names - working in education means that there are many names which have permanently ruined!! Anyone else a teacher or similar who's found this?! In particular, I have a list of 'naughty boy' names that I could never use!!

Laura yes, I’m the same with names being ruined because of teaching!

PaulHollywood I have my gym ball out and in action already as I used it pre preg to workout. I think I’m so heavy some of the air has escaped though and dh needs to pump it up!

Yes definitely the same on the names front! My boys' names list is tiny but I've only ruled out a few girls' names on the basis of bad associations. When you factor in family names and previous pet and horse names there isn't a great deal of room to manoeuvre 😂

We're almost sure about a name but I have some reservations because of pronunciation differences between English and DP's first language. The way he would say it and the way I would say it have a completely different sound, so it's hard to know what t do!!
I need to get my ball out too though I'm not entirely sure I knew what to do with it last time!!

@toomanyflatwhites we knew we’d have cultural/pronunciation issues as well. There were so many names I liked until my husband would pronounce them! We’ve settled on a name that we both love though. Let’s hope she does too!

I had my 25 week appointment today, I’m 26 weeks tomorrow. It wasn’t a bad appointment, it just always feels so rushed. She didn’t listen to the heartbeat again. I sometimes feel like I’m going through this pregnancy mostly on my own.

It wasn’t a bad appointment, it just always feels so rushed. She didn’t listen to the heartbeat again

Is this a midwife appointment because @kescilly (as far as I am aware) the 24w appointment they ARE meant to use the Doppler.

If I were you I’d call and share your experiences so far and request an appointment with your midwife team - again - to hear the baby’s heart beat.

I don’t think what you are asking is unreasonable at all.

@PaulHollywoodsSexGut yes it was my midwife appointment. I wasn’t sure if that was standard across all trusts (it seems so few things are).

We did hear the heartbeat when we went into the hospital last week for no movements. So it’s not a sentimental thing, I was just surprised as some people seem to have the midwife use a Doppler much sooner.

She did give me a number to self-refer to physio though (I’m having hip pain), so I’m hoping to give them a call once I stop coughing so much.

Thanks for the reminder about a gym ball! I borrowed one last time so might have to buy my own this time.

I keep hearing the name that was previously my favourite around which is putting me off a bit. We had settled on a different girl name for if my son was a girl but I had gone off it a bit, but it’s still my boyfriend’s favourite and it’s re-growing on me. Luckily I like lots of girls names.