Ringing in the New Year & 2nd trimester - July 2019!

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New home and new thread to start 2019.

@AIDE2424 @cravingmilkshake @HchyScott @ReginaPhalange89 - will tag more when I go back to remember.

Bring on the fake Prosecco and bed by 10pm tonight!

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Yes I'm AB+ so I think that makes me a universal receiver? I may well have had yours! Funnily enough I looked into this and they wont actually let you receive it from a blood relative - there's more chance your own blood won't recognise it as foreign and it'll attack you (potentially fatal apparently) - well that's my v non-medical description of the reason! My sister was relieved when I told her that - think she thought I was angling for some blood!! 😂

Ps not to worry anyone - that's not a usual thing - my womb ruptured so lost just over 6 pints - otherwise I font think that's common in normal circumstances.

Kentishgal 😂 your poor sister! How very interesting, learnt something new today. I hope you don't need another this time around!

Yes, just to reassure too, I've had an op that was several hours in the past and didn't need blood even though lost quite a bit. It sort of just regenerates. It's a very rare thing for births/planned ops to need a top up.

Fingers crossed but they've said there's a much higher chance it'll happen again so I'm going to be practical and prepared for every eventuality - last time I buried my head in the sand and it was all a shock - my husband says I'm a pessimist but I think that if I expect the worst then I'll be pleasantly surprised by anything else!! That's the theory...

I'm with you Kentishgal, it's sensible to take a risk-based approach. What a big extra thing to have on your mind. Hopefully the c section might help. I'm also having a planned one for a pre-existing thing, though consultants differ on how much of a medial need there is I'd rather not find out I need one at the last minute.

Completely and if there is any risk to you or baby then it really is better to be safe than sorry. My friend was saying the other day that she feels cheated out of having had a vaginal birth, and I totally get that but, for me, the most important thing is me and baby are both safe and healthy - and that helps to surpress any disappointment! Plus I've heard a planned section can be really good and calm!

I'm the same as you, I can live with the potential for disappointment if that means better outcomes, however marginal. It's just not worth it the other way around, not to me anyway. I might think differently once I've been through it, but that's what I think now on the information I have.

@Giraffe888, I never show until very late on. I am slim always had lower end of normal BMI, but I think I have a fairly long torso or something. I didn’t tell anyone including parents with my last pregnancy either until I was 29 weeks and then I went into labour just over a week later, so was a shock to say the least. She’s the only person I’m dreading telling, not because she’s nasty or anything but just because I know she worries about me and I have very high risks in pregnancy, she also suffered the same complications as me but Hers wasn’t a good outcome. So I just don’t know how to tell her 😔

Morning all!
Scan is tomorrow, finally ! Last night I dreamt that they told me my HCG levels were abnormally high so I was possibly having twins, but they wouldn't scan me because I was too far on for a dating scan and would have to just wait til 20 weeks 😂😂 so relieved to have woken up . I'm starting to feel nervous for it now . Feel really pregnant this morning though, feel like my belly is proper sticking out . Might just be the clothes I'm wearing lol

I have my dating scan today (13 wks 1 day) very excited- although the scan machine is broken and it has been pushed back from 10:15 until 12:30 ☹️

@cravingmilkshake good luck !
What a pain, I was thinking to myself this morning imagine I've waited all this time and they phone me tomorrow to cancel it lol

Dropped out of this thread for a while but have still been following. Not had too much to contribute lately just ticking along.

@beckanne90 I’m similar, my dad is my manager! Is it a family business you work for? I’ve not told any of my family either and not showing much, sickness limited to first thing in the morning so no one has a clue. I have quite a long torso too so maybe that’s why? I feel like babba just gets stretched out rather than popping forward! (I’m 5’10).

Then again I’m only 12+4. Scan tomorrow and I know after that point DH is going to be nagging me like crazy to tell people, but I just don’t want to he’s been nagging the past two days saying I’ll have no excuse not to tell anyone after Friday blah blah blah. Urgh. Guess I’ll just have to get it over and done with, i just find these sorts of things so awkward. No siblings or cousins have had kids yet so I’ll be the first. I just don’t want the attention! Can’t I just tell them after it’s born? 😆 “Oh btw guys here’s your grandchild”

Good luck for the scan @cravingmilkshake

I can't believe those of you who haven't told your parents yet although I completely understand why! Told mine a week after we found out so 5 weeks and now into my 10th week of daily texts to ask how I'm feeling! Lovely for the concern but also gets a bit annoying after a while!

@reeny19- no it’s not a family business, there’s about 7 different branches scattered over Yorkshire, my mum manages the branch I work for, I was going to transfer to my local branch thinking “maybe she won’t find out” but I think that’s going to happen. My sister works for my local branch, my uncle is the manager for the business side of it over about 3 of the branches so yeah it will come out 😂 it was so easy to tell her with my first 2 chirldren despite only being 17 and 20. Now I’m 28 and petrified. I’m only 5’6, just I think my legs are on the short side so I’m all torso 😂. My midwife said last pregnancy she struggled to feel what part was what of baby because my stomach muscles were strong so maybe that.

Good luck @cravingmilkshake

Hi all,

Congrats to all that have had scans. And good luck to those last few still waiting!

I had my dating scan this morning at 12+3. Everything was great! They’ve moved my due date forward by a day so now due 28th July

The NT measurement was 1.5mm too which I’m relieved about. Hopefully my blood work confirms everything is low risk- DH is 41 and I’ll be 35 when having this baby so I know there’s a chance we could be higher risk.

Last pregnancy I went on mat leave at 35 weeks and was so glad for the time to myself to relax, get organised and enjoy the nice weather. I’d stringly recommend it! My best friend went on mat leave at 38 weeks and gave birth the next day..... not ideal!

@capybaras I wish I could be as open with my parents about it as you are! I would love to be normal and excited about telling them things like this etc. But there’s some sort of emotional block that gets in the way and I just want to hide. I’m 29 so it’s not like they’re going to be annoyed - they’ll prob think “about bloody time”. But still, it’s just awkward and weird.

@beckanne90 wow impressed with how your stomach muscles are so strong despite having had two children before! When do you think you’ll tell your mum? Is your partner nagging you to get on with it same as mine? It’s a family business here, no one’s had mat leave in the 30 or so years the company’s been going, so I think it’ll be a case of winging it and maybe I can get a decent deal - although I expect I’ll get paid the statutory minimum. My mum went into labour with me whilst at work at this very same company 29 years ago.... did the wages, answered a few calls then left to go to the hospital. Mad. One thing I’m certain of is that I’m NOT doing that!
My height is mainly in my torso too. Does anyone know if height has got anything to do with the size of the bump? I’m curious!

@reeny19, I’ve had 5 babies 😂 this one is my 6th. I did keep my 3rd a secret until 20 weeks and my 4th until 24 weeks. But I excelled with DD who was my 5th until 29 weeks. I didn’t actually tell her then though, I had told my aunt a couple of weeks before and she accidentally mentioned it 😂. Yes longer torso is said to be a factor of smaller bumps.

Congratulations @rosebud 😁

Oh and sorry I missed your question @reeny19. No dp has been ok he asked if we was allowed to tell people about 10 week and I said not yet. He’s been fine since, although does keep making remarks about July 2019 on social media.

@beckanne90 wow you must have stomach muscles of steel! 6th baby wow 29 weeks is impressive, and no one noticed? Haha don’t give me ideas I would love to wait that long before telling anyone but I think DH is going to bully me into doing otherwise. 😢 is there any reason why you waited so long to tell people? Did they mind that you waited so long to tell them?
I don’t want to tell because I don’t want the attention, it’s awkward and I kind of feel like it’s none of their business if you get what I mean? (I’m weird, I know that’s not normal! I wish I was like most people on here and desperate to tell!)

It’s nice that he isn’t putting you under pressure to tell anyone. DH doesn’t have social media fortunately so don’t have to worry about him outing us. we’ve also made the decision that nothing about this baby is going online, no pictures no nothing until it’s old enough to decide for itself, so even if he did I’d be safe

@reeny19 I used to do gymnastics for many years, core training was a big part of the classes there. So I do wonder if that has played a part these years later. They are definitely not as strong this time; I had an EMCS with DD so that cut through the lower muscles, always felt abit weaker there since. Mainly because I was scared to, like this time. The risks being a big factor, I don’t want to worry her, but I know she also didn’t want me to have anymore. I had a really bad time with my last baby and it was mum that was there when she was born and went through everything as I told dp to stay home with the kids (thought I’d be sent back home that night) but infact had my daughter instead. No, no one guessed at all; I just looked like I had put a little bit of weight on, went from wearing size 6 to wearing 8/10. Mainly goes to my bum and legs when I’m pregnant. I could tell my stomach was bigger when it was bare mind you. I’ll try to find a picture 😂. Oh other people’s judgements bother me too, I get so many comments at the moment for having 5...I should be used to it.

Aww that’s a lovely idea, I wish mine wasn’t on social media he has my mum one there and what he posts seems so obvious to me but that’s probably because I know what he means.

@beckanne90 must be the gymnastics!
your mum probably won’t notice anything - but it would annoy me him dropping hints. Mine kept saying “oh you’ve been eating a lot lately” and “you need to keep your strength up atm” in front of my mum and nan the other day but they didn’t twig. I was sooo annoyed with him though, he was doing it on purpose because “I should have told them by now” apparently.

And nothing wrong with 6 kids! I don’t think so at least. As long as you can provide for all of them. I don’t think I even want to go for a second child (but DH will probably say otherwise)...

Hi all,

Had my dating scan today- measured three days ahead and pushed my due date to the 21st July!

Any guesses on sex welcome.

I had 5 vials of blood taken too ☹️ but I'm back at work now and feeling happy! Hope the rest of yours went well for those who were having theirs today.

@reeny19 I couldn’t find a picture of my bump with my daughter just before I told people as the bump piks are on my other memory card in my other phone. But this is with my fourth, this was 33 weeks, he was born exactly a week later at 34 week weighing 5lb15oz so obviously was quite abit smaller when I had my daughter. It’s easy disguised with clothes haha. And nooo you tell them when your good and ready to tell them, some people can’t wait and others are more reluctant. Yes, I work and dp has a good job, we are also lucky that our rent is fairly cheap however we do definitely need to move in the next couple of years, space is becoming less 😂.

@cravingmilkshake congratulations, I’m saying girl. My scan picture was terrible as baby was upside down so can’t guess anything from mine at all ha.