July 2019 Part 4 - Still in the 1st Trimester

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New thread y'all

This is going to be our good luck thread

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I found out what 'birth reflections' is, finally! MW said it's the clinic known internally as 'fear of birth'. Charming. So Snailor got it pretty much right! I'm a bit frutrated with that, because I don't have a fear in the sense of a fear of flying or a fear of dogs. I have a very rational reason for asking about a c-section because of a lifelong condition. I'm worried about damage a vaginal birth might do to my already slightly fragile insides and know women sometimes get planned c-section in my situation, so wanted to discuss. I don't have a fixed view either way at this stage. Now I'm worried I might be stuck with someone who knows nothing about my condition and will just end up telling me to woman up or whatever. I guess I'll wait and see.

MW also said blood test all good and my other referrals on their way, so feels like progress. GP surgery finally called me back about my smear in May- had lost results now found, but they won't tell me and have to speak to a nurse on Monday. Does that mean bad news or routine? Suppose it varies by area.

Vitamins- currently taking Pregnacare because it's the only one we have in the local Sainsbury's and I've been too tired/sick to give it any more thought than that.

Has Laburna been around lately? I miss her!

Hope everyone is feeling ok. I'm home alone, eating doughnuts on the sofa instead of dinner

Doughnuts sound amazing. This is the time of day I can usually eat well without feeling nauseous.

Currently devouring crumpets with marmite on.

Thought I'd treat the cats at the same time and give them a tin of sardines to share. They are SO pleased and chuffed with themselves now 🙄

Sounds lovely! Very pleased for your cats, too, but was ever so slightly 🤢 on reading sardines 😂😂😂.

@hayleyfx just wanted to hand hold as I was where you are right now back in Sept.
Scan didn't show much, hcg high and they didn't rule out ectopic. 48 bloods did double and they were happy with that. If they do, please ask for another scan in a week or so as a follow up. Our follow up was just the sac seen which they were happy with but I wasn't. That pregnancy ended in a mmc but they've said that wasn't linked to anything that happened before and just one of those things.
I have everything crossed for you x

Yes, the smell was a bit much when I opened the tin!

Just reading your thoughts on getting an ELCS... I suppose it varies by area, but anecdotally I know about half a dozen people (mainly through mum groups) who had ELCS for their first simply because they wanted to. They felt strongly about it and presented their case well (in terms of talking to the consultant and knowing the pros and cons), but they didn't have any medical or 'tangible' reasons beyond wanting it. And they all got them. Some had to be very persuasive, but they weren't talked out of it.

If you have a medical reason/concern for it, I'd be very surprised if you came up against much opposition for an ELCS. Fingers crossed, at least x

Have had a down day today, spent most of the afternoon sobbing waiting for DH to get home.
It’s this food aversion thing, I’m such a foodie and dreading every meal and feeling nauseous all the time just got me down so much today. Then I felt guilty, knowing how much some of you ladies have been through and how lucky I am which made me cry more. Finally pulled myself together and attempted to eat dinner which resulted in me leaving most of it and feeling sick. So sat in my grump reading my book and it suddenly occurred to me I could eat abit of ice cream. Thank god for my DH who came home to see me sobbing and was desperate for some way to fix the situation, just returned from Tesco armed with Ben and Jerry’s peanut buttercup and I’ve actually enjoyed every mouthful! I mean most of the tub is left but I’ve enjoyed eating. Christ, I hope this goes back to normal at 12weeks, 3 weeks to go!!

@stargazedrifter My experience in general is that it's always a nurse or GP who has to give you an update, regardless of being good news or not...

@Hayley crossing everything I have for you. It's still early so hope you get some good results on Sunday.

Is everyone here having an early scan? I wasn't planning to (unless something happens) but my scan is on 24th Dec and if it doesn't go well it will really affect Christmas (we are hosting both on 24th and 25th and my family is flying in for it).. May sound really weird and I don't have a reason to worry but I guess you just overthink these things. I can postpone it but kinda don't want to as I'll be almost 13 weeks, and the week before my husband is away so can't do it then..

But then again I could easily have l one before and things can still happen... Argh my brain

@HchyScott Im a massive foodie too so know how you are feeling. I've just stopped trying to plan it and just eaten what I fancy which basically is apples, pretzels, crackers, biscuits and Philadelphia cheese.

I just had a meal out (dim sum) and that was a waste!

@blueeyedviking me too, at the moment I’m managing bread and grapes and the occasional wrap. Oh and gingerbread if I go out anywhere, that’s a life saver! I know it could be so much worse in the grand scheme of things but this week nausea, acne and food aversions are so much worse, must be the peak in hormones, I can’t wait to be over that hill.
Such a shame for you, hope you feel better soon too, especially this time of year! Our works Xmas do at a posh restaurant on Sunday night and I’m dreading it, I don’t want to look ungrateful!

Oh yes. I don't go anywhere without gingerbread at the moment! Oh olives also works for me. I'm lucky as just have nausea mostly, really feel for those who are really sick and can't keep anything down.

But yes the combo of it all Does wear you down.

Aww Hchy I completely sympathise there. My DH is out for dinner with friends and I couldn't face it because of similar - just doughnuts and decaf tea for me. I did try some soup but didn't end well. Well done your DH though. That's lovely.

Roo thanks so much for the ELCS thoughts, really appreciate it. First birth and a bit clueless, I'll get myself all prepared.

blueeyedviking thanks about the smear, that's reassuring. On scans, GP offered an early one this time because of previous losses. Last Christmas I was also pregnant, first time ever, but it didn't work out. We had booked private scan for Christmas Eve, 10w, lovely surprise, how exciting etc. Only baby had stopped growing at 5w and we were told definitely bad news but to get re-scanned by NHS after Christmas and discuss 'options'. We didn't have any time to process this and Christmas with other people who didn't know was miserable - we didn't want to upset family and others, ended up never telling them. Slightly dreading this Christmas as a result (12w scan will be 28/12). As you say, it won't change the outcome, but I'd get an early scan a week before just to help with frame of mind over Christmas, if it had to be bad news. But that's all a very personal choice and down to resilience a bit (which we didn't have).

@TwittleBee & BettySwall0cks I'm so sorry to hear your news. There's nothing I can say that will make things better for you so please just take care of yourselves 💕💕

Last night in dream world, Kevin the Carrot accused me of abducting him, he was a mouthy little fecker...
Please tell me that I'm not the only person having vivid dreams, sometimes I even wake myself up laughing. In the last month I think I've had sex with half my neighbours, a few more celebrity hook-ups and arguments with Kate & Meghan but Camilla was on my side so I won that one.

😂😂😂

I have had a few strange dreams but the most interesting appearance has been from Boris Johnson as my new hairdresser... 😱 The rest is all family/work.

@Stargazy the real question is did Boris do a better job with your hair than he does with his own? 😂😂😂

I woke up in a panic before he could do anything, so to be continued! I read somewhere that hair of his is expensively cut like that on purpose. Honestly. 🙄

I've heard that too & apparently he's unknowingly been caught on camera messing up his hair before going to meet the press.

How curious. It's definitely a look!

Still here @stargazydrifter! Have had a teething + poorly DS along with a week of some serious (all day) morning sickness, so have been a bit mental 😩

Starting to feel much better, which I'm hoping is a good sign, as I'm 10 weeks tomorrow! Eeek!

So much stress for everyone still, and such sadness :( it's so hard at this time in pregnancy, there will always be a percentage of people who end up with bad news, and I know from experience how horrible, sad and terrifying it is. I hope that everyone who has been dealing with this has had lots of support and comfort from loved ones lately.

@stargazedrifter thanks for sharing your story. I'm going to speak to my husband about it this weekend 👍

What is it with everyone dreaming about Boris Johnson?? He seems to feature quite regularly 😆

Regarding food that is passably acceptable when debilitated by sickness, I'm finding cornflakes are my best bet right now. Eating them while they're still crunchy, before they get too soggy.

I semi wish I was off food, I am eating loads and none of it terribly good (including whole bag of peanut m&ms last night). Normally wouldn’t dream of doing that and coupled with can’t face exercise worried am going to pile it on!! Get the 12 weeks out of the way maybe and then be better??!

Definitely, @Twistering. Just do what you can to get through this. We can deal with weight gain/loss later. Today I'm just trying to do more than curl up in the foetal position and sob quietly to myself 🙃

Ow feeling very sick this morning (8+3), must be the peak. Need to do some work to catch up, hard to see that happening.

Great to see you Laburna! Glad things are looking up, you must have the patience of a saint.

More creepy dreams, waking up in a sweat and panic. How can something relatively unimportant have such an effect! Ugh.