July 2019 - early days part 2

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Just because I think we’re getting close to filling the first one. Pull up a pew, bring your decaf tea and all of the carbs!

TheCraicDealer I had similar with DH when I put my three progressively darker tests in front of him!

Don't leave it too late to self-refer, maybe not as late as second missed period? I only say that because my lovely friend did and because of admin time taken down the chain her 12w scan ended up being at 14-15w and the midwives got very grumpy with her because apparently the checks they need to do at that stage are best when done no later than 14w. I'm afraid I've now forgotten all the details. So, if the GP takes a couple of days to process your self-referral before sending to the midwife place, midwife place then takes a couple of weeks to write with an appointment (ours say 5 working days) and then maybe you can't make the date and need to change it/they have a backlog... it might end up slipping, iyswim? But I'm a big worrier and maybe out of central London the timings are better too.

One last tip - Googling "mumsnet [name of midwife unit/hospital]" is quite helpful, though beware old threads, places and policies change.

Hi all.
I went to the doctor today and she did a scan! I thought I was exactly 6 weeks today, but it appears I am not quite as far along as I thought. More like 5+5 or 5+6 so only 1 or 2 days but still.
There was a gestational sac, a yolk and also a fetal pole but no heart beat yet. I left feeling really worried that maybe I am not developing as I should and it's too small but she didn't seem too worried.
I came home and googled (obviously) and don't feel as worried anymore. My sac was 1.3cm which is bang on 5.5/5.6 weeks so that's ok and heartbeat is usually a few more days yet.
So I am going back in another week to have another check. As I have said - it's partly because of previous miscarriage and partly because I have medical insurance where I live so it's all a bit different. There are pros and cons to more help and more scans though - more opportunities to worry!
But I have a nice picture of my uterus and sac and small fetal pole.....

AND my nausea has properly kicked in today. So she said as long as I feel rubbish I am OK!

@Twistering it was great thanks! I really really didn't want to go this morning but enjoyed it when I got there. Definitely get the feeling PT is going a bit easier on me than usual 😂 but it was nice to just get moving!

With talk of hospitals are those of you who have older DCs going to same hospital this time round? Think I will have to but it's causing me a bit of anxiety.

Wow, I've had a busy few days and this thread has exploded! I've just spent the last half hour catching up with everything.

@twittlebee hope you're feeling better today. The spreadsheet is great.
@Frazzlerock good luck today

I've woken up with a gippy belly and slight nausea. The only food I fancied was dorritos - so that's what I had 🙈 I lost a lot of weight in my first pregnancy, I think this one is going to be the opposite!

@thecraicdealer I wouldn't leave it as long at a second missed period myself. They will want you booked in between 6-10 weeks depending on your MW preference. They have to book you in for your dating scan before 13+6, if you leave it later they can't do the health checks for downs/Edwards etc, they would have to do a different test which is less accurate and can't screen for as much. You might be lucky and they get you all in before that, but I don't think I'd want to chance it.

I've apparently taken up napping in the afternoon as a hobby. I didn't think I was massively tired, but I've fallen asleep on the sofa everyday for the last week!

How did it go @frazzlerock?

I’m finally out. Baby is smaller than my dates by 4 days so I’m actually only 6+4 not 7 weeks. Too early to see a heartbeat 😢 but healthy yolk sac and foetal pole. He recommended I get scanned again in two weeks to see heartbeat.
I’m disappointed as thought I was actually a few days further along (based on ovulation) not less days.
But I guess you just can’t rely on ovulation/last period dates. As long as it’s looking healthy now then that’s good enough for me.
I’m going to try and get a scan at hospital (rather than private) as they did offer a scan at 8 weeks anyway.
Trying to take positives away from today xx

I mean 6+3

I know it must be disappointing not to have seen the heartbeat, bit that's awesome news.

I wouldn't worry too much about the age changing, I don't know anyone who has the right date based on their LMP or Ovulation days. DS was due 15th according to my LMP date, but they put him at the 11th 🤷🏻‍♀️

Really glad it's all looking good 💜

@Frazzlerock try not to be to hard in yourself I had the same thing and weeped for 3 days and made myself kinda crazy getting tested and retested but I got used to the idea that I just had to wait till next Thursday....

Adding to that I've thrown up twice in the last hour completely new symptom for me didn't have nausea or dizziness.. Its awful bit on the other side its a good symptom to show I'm still pregnant

Hi Ladies, I have been lurking for a few days, but I didn’t want to join just yet as I am not sure how my pregnancy is progressing and a scan I had yesterday certainly didn’t reassure me.
Anyway... my scan yesterday was at 6+3. My baby was measuring smaller than my dates at 3.7mm and the gestational sac was 13.3mm which I think puts it at just under 6 weeks. But I know when I ovulated, so my dates can’t be out. We did see a flutter which the sonographer thought might be the start of a heart beat, but we couldn’t see a proper heart beat. I want to be positive but it’s so hard after that and I have hardly left google since the scan.

@Frazzlerock - sending you a hug.

I'm just really worried that being smaller than my dates suggest means something bad is going to happen. I guess I just expected to see a strong little heartbeat and get that peace of mind, but I'm still completely in the dark. I'm trying to remember that right now I'm still very much pregnant. I just wish I could know that our baby is safe 😓
I'm trying not to cry but I can't do it. I built this up way too much, looking at 7 week scans on google and following the preg apps thinking baby has little legs and a fully formed umbilical chord etc which was helping me get closer to 12 weeks (not that that is an 'out of danger' zone but, you know). I feel like we've taken a huge step back. Though in reality it is only 4 days, but so much happens in four days and MC risk is so much more reduced and now my probability is higher again.

Anyone got any of those grips? Or a slap?

Aww @frazzlerock you poor thing. Try and focus on the positive about your little bean having a healthy yolk sac and feotal pole!!

As you say it's only a few days out and even if you used an app and opks when TTC you can never truly know when you ovulated.

Remember the positive you are pregnant today and there are millions of woman who would kill to be pregnant today! Your little baby is stronger than you know and will be growing away as it should!!

Just try and relax and focus on your next scan. It will be here before you know it and then you will see and hear that wee heartbeat and see babys wee arms and legs!! You got this mummy!!!! Xx

I know it's tough and you feel like you've gone backwards, but you've got a little bean in there that's doing really well. 4 days out is nothing in the grandscheme of things. It doesn't mean you have a problem, it just means you implanted a bit later than you thought. It's all very normal, and while that isn't massively reassuring in terms of where you wanted to be, it is by no means a bad place to be.

I know you can't stop worrying, it's natural to, but you are currently very pregnant, that little bean is doing really well!

@Rose68 welcome! Sorry you're having a stressful time of it right now

@frazzlerock - exactly the same thing as me today and I left feeling awful. I feel much better now, so I hope you do too. x

@Rose68 welcome to the thread.
It sounds like we are in the same boat right now. I thought I knew when I ovulated but it's not an exact science so I'm 4 days out according to the scan. My gestational sac measures 15.9mm and baby or 'foetal pole' measures 3.6mm when I thought he/she was the size of a blueberry

@edidxb I've just had a good cry. I'm trying to pull myself together now. Such a worrying time. MC takes so much joy from us, I miss the naivety of my DC's pregnancies, before I'd had a MC. I happily sailed through those from the day we got our BFP.

Thank you @Laburna and @Onestep2 for your lovely reassuring words 💜

@frazzlerock hopefully you get a good night sleep tonight and feel better tomorrow.

I'm already in my Pjs. Is that bad? I've done all housework and just waiting on home made lasagne crisping up in the oven for dinner!!

DH and SD bought some new Xbox game so i have been kicked out asked nicely if they can have a games night 😂

So it's a duvet and trash tv night for me alone the bedroom. 😂 (obv am more than welcome to play with them but I couldn't think of anything worse if I'm honest)

@Frazzlerock I can totally understand why you feel the way you do. Especially after a MC I guess it's opened my eyes to what could happen Thursday for me too Hun! Crying helps. Let it out and then try and pick yourself back up.
Remember ' you are pregnant❤️'

@frazzlerock and @edidxb I spent all day yesterday crying. I have to wait 2 weeks for another scan to see if the pregnancy has progressed. My symptoms for this pregnancy haven’t been as strong as I would have liked, but today I have felt nauseous all day, my boobs are sore off and on and I’m waking up early, very thirsty.
What does all this mean?

@Frazzlerock please don’t be too alarmed about the size, I’m sure everything will be fine. I’ve had a few problems with dating and early scans. I’ve had early ones with everyone of my babies and each one of them have always measured behind by at least 5 days in the early weeks which was alarming. But they are so small that even the slightest discrepancy can make days difference, the usual case was that by the time my 12 week scan come around the dates had caught back up to what they should have been. The only exception was my daughter who remained 4 days behind which I don’t think was possible as it would have meant I found out 5 days post conception which is a tad early.

In my last pregnancy I had an early scan at 6 weeks 2 days after a massive bleed, and baby was there but measuring 5 days behind. I was absolutely certain of my ovulation day so I was so worried that it meant something was going wrong, but at my 12 week scan he was actually measuring a couple of days ahead and is a very cheeky 2 year old now. I remember how horrible those weeks were though and I don’t think I’ll relax into this pregnancy until I get past that point.